MrsY Sorry that you and John are not sleeping well at the moment. Get through the next 4 months and you'll know that you can conquer the world
IMO, the thing the men don't realise is that our lives changed overnoght when we had a baby and theirs didn't, that simple. I remember telling dp that. The fact I'd had a baby and the fact he'd had a baby were 2 completely different things. He still gets up and goes to work, spends time with other grown-ups, then comes home and leaves work where it is, he can tell the boys at work that the missus is at home with the new baby and everything is going great, while we're at home sometimes not washed until 10mins before he's due through the door, after spending a day with a screaming baby that you're constantly feeding or winding, maybe all on your own with no adult company for days on end, worrying about baby feeding/weight gain/being too hot/too cold/bored/tired so on and so on, whilst still finding the time to do the washing, ironing, shopping, cooking, bottles and some sort of order in the house, and I don't think they understand. My dp gets 9 hours sleep a time, easily, I might get 5 if I'm lucky and he thinks he's hard done by because he has to either bath ds1 or feed ds2 at 7pm. Men. I told dp the only way he'd fully understand my lifew how it is now is if I died.
dinky Thanks. Dp is so difficult because he will only say what he thinks I want to hear! But that's my fault, he doesn't have it easy living with me the poor sod, I am a nightmare, but pleased he has stuck with it, he must love me to put up with my unreasonable behaviour, hich is not always down to hormones!
PT Exactly what I think, if he wasn't hungry, he wouldn't take it and he does, and like you've all said, better to know you can get a bit done while you're out knowing that they're not hungry. This is why I hate mw and hv, they always leave me doubting myself. I thought this time I might have a bit more self confidence having already been here, done this....
MrsY Also agree with PT about the crying, it does them good to air their lungs out a bit every now and then. Luke had a good 5 mins earlier while I did the washing up.
I'll also add that with ds1, because he was always crying it made it very difficult to do anything, from washing up to going to the toilet so if he cried and I was in the middle of something (washing up, hoovering stairs, whatever) as long as I knew he was safe and not in danger then he had to wait a few minutes, the way I saw it was that if I picked him up everytime he cried, the minute he started, I'd have to pick him up the minute he cried iyswim. Slightly different this time, if I'm in another room and Luke cries, I have to normally come in and drag ds1's finger out of his eye!
PT reading your post there, it really does sound like we are the same person! I was the same with ds1 (it sounds) as you were with your dd, and I'm being more attentive to Luke, again must be because I know there won't be any more.
I finally bought that bouncy chair for baby last week, but he hates being in it. He's fine in his moses basket or on the floor so it's not that he just wants to be held, he doesn't seem to bothered either way, being held or not tbh, but does not like the chair, I don't want to put him directly on the floor as that's where s1's feet are......(kicking not dirt) and I really hate him being in basket all the time. Is it possible for a 4 week old to be bored or am I being silly? I'm giving him 10 min sessions in chair hoping he'll get used to it.....
I keep forgetting that I changed my name so I log on and scroll up to my last post to catch up, but I can't find my last post because lbb isn't here anymore and I miss her! I might change back.
Oh yes, Happy birthday Nkweto
I sent congrats to spotty on her fb wall.
I've prob missed people out haven't I? All eager to talk about myself!
Catch you after dinner. x