Fab Feb Thread: 22 on show........33 to go.......!!!!

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Ooo I feel all important now.

Swampster Happy Birthday!!!!!!!! Hope you have a great day. x
littlesez Hope all those remedies work......
How does your dh feel about oral sex, because the stuff in the semen is apparently more effective if taken orally

TMI Alert. I'm definately on the mend, we managed to have sex last night (day 11) and it was fine. Slightly sore but not as bad as last time! Was so nice to be with dp and not pregnant, Was so nice to feel that close to him again and not having to navigate around bump (it's just saggy flab now )

Happy birthday Swampy!!

Littlesez, have you got an induction booked in? You know you don't have to be induced when they say or even at all. I told my midwife the other day that if I go over I will have a sweep but no induction til at least 14 days over. I know what you mean - I don't want to force it either.

My midwife kept saying it's up to you and it's your choice but in the next breath 'they'll get you in for induction at term +10' I just said 'no, I'll have a sweep at +10' I'm going to try and avoid 'proper' induction although will probably succumb to daily monitoring at +10 and drugs at +14 (am convinced he's going to hang in there as long as he can!!)

LBB how brave are you....... I have not had sex since we found out I was pg.. DP just has a block on it dont know why and he will not be moved either, all the time I have a baby in there he will not have sex with me.........

There have been times in this pg where I wanted to jump his bones but do respect his thoughts.......

lardy are you being serious? Not since you found out you were pregnant?
Not long to go now then, it's just finding the time!

Me too lardy. DH just can't get his head round it. And I don't want to worry you but it took him 7 months after dd was born to 'get back in the saddle' as it were.

It's very frustrating but as you say, I've respected his issues thoughts, as I hope he would if it were the other way round.

I agree with Lardy LBB, you are brave; I couldnt contemplate it at 11 days post birth!
Good luck with labour kicking off hopefully.

Chilled - really wont be long now. Hope you get to relax when DS is at nursery.

LittleSez - I agree with Pinkspottywellies; you absolutely do not have to be induced unless for medical reasons. You can agree to daily monitoring if need be when you go over (to check the placenta is still functioning well) or sweeps at +7 onwards - dont let anyone bully you into an induction if you dont want one and there is no medical need for one. That said, there are lots of positive induction stories out there (just look at LBB's story and how much better she feels after this birth)so if you do get to the stage of needing one, it can stil be a lovely positive birth - you just need a midwife on side who will help you get the birth you want.

To clarify, the good luck was or you Lardy

On my own with 2 children all day as DH gone to work. All ready to go then DS needed feeding. Typing one handed. house is a tip. it's taken me 2 hrs and we're still not ready to leave. tell me it gets easier!

Morning everyone,

Fist night at home with Poppy was quite managable.

She had a feed at about 10pm, given by Dad. then had another at 1am and then slept until 5.30am when I gave her another.
She sleeps well, but I am paranoid all night wondering what every little noise is! Also keep worrying about her temperature & the sheets I put over her, I guess it will take time to get used to everything.

Ok so Thursday after I posted on here about my BH, they started to ease off about dinner time, thought nothing more of it.

Went to bed at around 10pm, woke up just past midnight with an 'upset' tummy. Up & down about 3 times, before I started to get period type pains in my lower back. They Started to come in regular patterns, so I timed them at 9mins apart. Eventually woke DP about 2 hours later & told him I think this was it. We were up from then onwards as I was getting too uncomfortable to sleep, hada hotwater bottle, paracetomol etc. At 5am I called the hospital, told them the situation, that I was managing, but things were heating up.
They told me to stay home until I felt I needed pain relief.
The contractions started to ease up, so I went back to bed and had a cupa tea. At around 7am,contractions came back stronger, 5mins apart, had a shower, called hospital & was told It was probably still too early, but if I wanted to be checked come in, but would probably be sent home again.

Got to hospital for 9.30am, was hooked up to monitor straight away ( as baby had IUGR ) so they said!!
Then examined & I was 5cm. Was admitted to labour ward at 10.15am. Coped ok until about 1pm then the Contractions started hotting up, so asked for G&A.
Then about 2pm it all kicked off!! I cant remember much, but I went from being uncomfortable to being in agony. There was a moment where I had a breather, so asked DP to get the midwife & I asked for an epidural as I didnt want to leave it to late.
After that point I dont remember much more - apparently it took an hour to administer the epidural & I was so drugged up.
When it finally kicked in, I was having a drink & chatting with everyone, it was great!
She examined me at 4pm, I was fully dilated, still couldnt feel contractions, but she wanted me to start pushing. WAs weird not knowing what to push for & when, but the midwife was great.
I was pushing for about 45mins & poppy would not budge. Registra came in & said she would try for another 15mins & if still no joy, would help baby out.
I eventually had to deliver her by forceps, so had a tiny cut too.
her poor head looked all battered, but marks have gone now & she is like a little peach!

So all in all, was quite a smooth delivery - I feel ok now, a little sore obviously.
Very in love with baby Poppy

Sorry for long post - Hope all Mums, bumps & babies are all well today xx
Still not caught up - I will do!

Littlesez Yes, just like Dinky said, I feel so much better after this delivery than the last. This one was induced and the last was spontaneous. I do think that has more to do with the care from the hospital staff mind you, and the induction wasn't that bad and the whole thing went alot quicker than the one that was left to happen on it's own.
You don't have to do anything you don't want to, I know a number of people who have refused sweeps and inductions, and it does not sound silly the idea of forcing them out if they're not ready. That's exactly how I felt about my induction but after weighing that up against all the other factors, (someone to look after ds, not recognising waters breaking or early stages of labour etc) induction was the best option for me and my piece of mind.
MS That's exactly what's happening here, keep thinking we'll go out and do what we normally would, we get up at 7/8 and still all in pj's at midday!! I'm too hoping it gets easier, think the secret may be in getting up before the dc's? or at least showering at night so don't have to do it morning?
KT After a few trauma stories, am glad all went well and smoothly for you. x

Morning.....
I'm slobbing around in joggy bottoms today at home and have no intention of going anywhere - it's my "me and dd" day as DS is at nursery today and tomorrow. I've managed a couple of loads of washing, couple of feeds and that's about it. Am off for a nap in a moment as I've just managed to put DD down and I'm hoping she'll have a nice long sleep so that I can too. Had another night of her waking, feeding, dropping off to sleep, DS waking, screaming, me telling him to go to sleep, dropping off, DD waking again...that was 1.30 - 4.30am. Hideous. Did drop off eventually after that...It's funny because DS was fine after DD came home for the first couple of weeks and now he's just started waking about 3am seemingly every other night....

I can't seem to get out the house very quickly now with both DD and DS either- When I'd just had DS (it was summer admittedly) I was always up, out pushing buggy around. Now it seems like such an effort to get up, get us all dressed, get everyone in a buggy and remember all the clobber you need only to find that as soon as we're all ready, DS has done a poo/ DD starts screaming because she's hungry. When you're already tired, staying at home and doing nothing seems much the best option. I've told friends and family that I have no intention of going very far in the next 6 - 8 weeks. They are free to visit if they want !

Another one here who's not had sex since conception. DH doesn't do pregnancy sex (I would happily have got on with it (and regularly)) and right now I can't think of anything further from my mind !!....You are a brave woman lbb and when did you find the time !!

Glad you're home safe and well with Poppy KT - enjoy her !

LBB I am serious I have felt a bit like the virgin mary over the last 9 months.

Spotty he was the same when I was pg with dd and was trying it on shortly after the birth but I told him that it was illegal before the 6 week check

Period type cramps have gone but I now have a huge preasure in my pelvis.... it is agony I feel like I am going to break... I think the baby is just pushing down but my pelvis is so bad!!!!

me too lardy - I feel a bit like a dried up old spinster. I might have to entice the postman in

I have a postlady not a man and I am not that fed up yet I did say to dp that if baby is not here by 40+10 then he has no choice after all he put it there in the first place... I thought he was going to faint!!!!

KT - xposted with you; glad all went well and you and Poppy are settling in nicely at home.

QK, so sorry to hear you had such a shocking experiance having alex my heart goes out to you and your dh having to go through all of that. thank god he's ok and i hope you can come to terms with it all eventually... my first was fairly terrifying and i remember for months afterwards if i saw anything about birth on tv i'd break down in tears, it does get better though honestly and one day it will be a distant memory.

lbb.... ouch still having trouble walking without wincing never mind allowing dp anywhere near that area!

i'm alone in the house with 3 children for the first time and none of them are crying

aaron is feeding like mad since last night, he's only pausing to sleep for half an hour here and there and is latched on the rest of the time... not so bad the last few hours now, maybe he's entered some sort of milk induced coma but i think he was actually latched on for the entirity of last night! my boobs have gone from looking like pamela anderson's to deflated and sad.

QK poor you and your DH, but so glad that little Alex is fine. I agree with other comments about getting a chance to talk through your experience. I wish I had done this after DS was born as I felt as if everyone else I knew had had a really positive birth experience and thinking about mine just made me sad. However I now know so many other mums that went through a traumatic time and it really is good to share your thoughts about it as you are certainly not alone.

LBB - it was many, many months before DH got anywhere near me!

Thanks ladies for your advise, you know that tone you get off the midwife "you don't have to have anything you don't want but..." and then they tell you stuff about placenta stops working as effectively and I feel like am i putting her at risk then. Part of me wants to refuse and some of me thinks I don't have the strength to fight my corner.

lbb on the sex I thought it would be weeks before you (I mean one not you personally!) could have sex after baby, don't know why. Oh I am pretty sure hubby would be up for oral sex, he is a man! Yes he has been funny about it ever since I had a little bump about 5 months only managed it a couple of times since Thanks for induction advise, I dont know how i have built it up in my head so much getting a bit worried now I am officially overdue(1 day!)I will go in search of positive induction stories to help i think, thanks.

dinky They didn't give me an alternate option of monitoring, I will ask her on sunday, thankyou xx

swampy HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

pinkspottywellies i have a sweep on sunday and she said induction at 12 days over so thats 27th but my origional date was 3rd March from LMP but then they changed to 15th feb from scan???? I can't help thinking what if they were closer first off and then I wouldn't technically be overdue.

lardy yep another one here who is deprived of sex! and think he will take his time after too

KT thanks for sharing your story, poppy is lovely CONGRATS again xxx

Oh and happy birthday Swampster!

it's all very quiet on here at the moment...anybody would think half of us had popped already and were a bit busy!!
DS is just home from nursery and is being very cute! Lazy Town just finished and he said, "Bye, see you later." He's painting on his aquadraw mats and stops very now and agin to watch a bit of beebies and such his thumb!
swampster-Happy Birthday.

Evening (nearly) all.
I only allowed an attempt at sex because doc managed to insert a speculum(sp?) to do an internal exam on me on friday and I got through that without much discomfort...

Luke had his check with the cmw today, she said he is a lovely colour, not to worry about the left-over bit of cord, it looks fine and will come away when ready but keep it dry and clean blah blah
He now weighs 8lbs 4oz (7lbs 13 at birth), so am happy with that.
She hasn't discharged me because she said uterus is still quite high, 6cm below umbilicus (whatever that means, is that really high?), so have to go back on Monday when she would expect it to be back to normal size.

Glad everyone's ok, and all babies are doing well, such a relief to hear everyone is dealing with and getting over their difficult deliveries

Hello, I can't keep up with this thread any more!
Lbb , that is impressive- day 11
KT sounds like you are getting settled nice and quickly, Poppy is a lovely name - I have a niece Poppy
So we have decided to name our LO Harriet, will be interesting to see what it gets shortened to eventually!
My birth story is really not very interesting, I woke at 1.30 am Sunday with tummy pains which I tried to sleep through until 2.15 when one made me sit up in bed. We phoned the maternity ward straight away and a MW was sent straight away due to my previous fast labour history. MW arrived at 3.15 ish, I started pushing at 4.30, and baby was born on our bed just before 5 - the 2nd MW was stood outside knocking on the door! Annoyingly I had to go to hospital to be stitched, but we were back after 2 hours. DS slept through everything!
Last night Harriet fed for the whole night, I'm hoping my milk arrives soon!

Congratulations to everyone with their new bundles and pleased to hear they are all behaving (sort of).
QK, that sounds an absolute shocker but so glad you are all safe and well.

Lardy - that's harsh, although I have to say I think my husband has kept his eyes tightly shut and thought of Eva Longuria for the last 6 months

Am trying to talk myself into labour. Have had crampy pains for the past few days but think it might be trapped wind. Was convinced my waters had broken but, in retrospect, had just wet myself a little bit when I got up to suddenly .

Feel so uncomfortable the baby could fall out any minute!

JenT That sounds like a great birth (apart from the stitching obviously). Harriet is a lovely name too. It's a main character in one of my most favourite films and the more I say Harriet the more I like it.
It's so nice to see we've all picked such nice names that don't seem to be overly common atm.
Fruitsticks Hope it happens soon! I hate that feeling, the bottom of my bump started to feel like it wasn't strong enough to hold anything in there!

Look! I just added an s into my nickname.

I don't like it anymore.............

Also, having a moment, am def getting Luke registered this week, but told dp earlier that I'm not sure about his name either. I like it, I'm just not loving it.
Sure it'll grow on me like Jacob did, I hated that name for months!