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Due April 2009 - Episode 10 - Fanjo Warriors demand Padded Purple rooms......Great Expectations!

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KittyCatIsGettingFat · 02/02/2009 12:29

New thread for us all! How many days this time?? {grin}

Anyone for a homemade choc-chip cookie?

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LuLuBai · 04/02/2009 10:23

OH BB - so sorry. Life has a hideous way of throwing everything at you at once. But in a strange way the new life of your baby will be reassuring. Births and deaths within a family often seem to happen around the same time and while it is awful, celebrating the birth helps to recover from the death. And everyone finds themselves shiafting up the family ladder into a new position.

conkertree · 04/02/2009 10:24

sorry bb posts crossed - thats horrible news. so sorry to hear it. have missed quite a lot of posts so not sure of the situation - is your dh out there just now with his Dad?

frostyfrekkles · 04/02/2009 10:24

hey bb ((((((((((((bb))))))))))). gosh i'm so sorry. nothing more intense than birth and death and your dh has both s close together. maybe one will help him with the other. I'd say just keep being you, your love, your bump and your eventual little one will one help him xx

LuLuBai · 04/02/2009 10:25

shifting sorry

BabyBolat · 04/02/2009 10:26

Frekkles, it is pulling them in / up from your bum to your fanjo area - you are supposed to do do quick ones then slow ones (hold for 6 seconds) 5 times a day I think (says the one that has done none!!!)

As for birth it is wise to do it wherever you feel most comfortable! I am going to start getting ready for hospital soon as with 7 weeks to go need to make sure I am ready!

NuttyTaff · 04/02/2009 10:27

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BabyBolat · 04/02/2009 10:31

Thanks all - we have known it was going to happen for a while but there has always been hope etc, the dr basically said this morning that he could carry on but it would just make him more tired and he isn't in the best state now (has very little control of his bowels and movement etc but then some days he is as good as new!)

It sounds awful but in a way I think you are all right - I am kind of glad that DH will have something to look forward too if it does happen soon, not that he will just get over it but you know what I mean!

No he is not out there, I asked if he wanted to go but he said no, think if his dad starts to deteriorate he will go out for a couple of weeks - I am well past flying date now so can't be with him which I hate! Although you never know he might last until after LO is here and we can all go out!

oooh Nutty your LO is already a handful and not even here yet! - you will have fun. Seriously though, how will you and Boffin ever have a VB delivery? surely that will cause much more damage than cs?

frostyfrekkles · 04/02/2009 10:52

i have put a sign on my laptop to remind me to do them while i'm online, so you can all relax with the mental image that whenever you're talking to me here i am squeezing for all i'm worth.

bb, i saw my ex for lunch yesterday (was ok btw. very sad still but bearable) and he was telling me about his mum's cancer and the fact that his sister's are both pregnant and that is helping them both cope with the whole experience (which ofcourse was also a barb to me, that the fact that i'm pregnant by someone other than him is making it harder for him).

Just keep doing what you're doing, you and the bump will be the hope for your dh. And hopefully come may you'll all be over there to see your father in law together and things will be sad but will kinda make sense in a bigger sense.

PuzzleRocks · 04/02/2009 10:53

Good morning everybody, catch up time again.

Boffin - When I was younger our house sounded like the Waltons. I'm one of five siblings.

Springy - Love the image of you having a snowball fight.
1988!! DH was starting his A levels in 1988.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY SWALISWAN, HOPE YOU HAVE A FAB DAY. XX

Boffin - Talking of people leaving things lying around..
When I was 19 my boyfriend at the time became friendly with a co worker and we started to spend a lot of time with him and his girlfriend. When they went on holiday they asked us to house sit to look after the cats and plants and since we were both living at home we took the opportunity for some slone time. To our horror, when we let ourselves in on the first day, they had left really graphic nude snaps of themselves all over the bedroom. We knew they were swingers but really didn't discuss it with them. We figured this was their way of fishing for interest. We stayed for the cats and on the last day posted their keys back through the letter box and never saw them agan. I don't think I could have ever looked either of them in the face.

gingersarah · 04/02/2009 10:54

BabyBolat, sorry to hear about your father in law. Good thoughts to you and your husband.

PuzzleRocks · 04/02/2009 11:00

Nutty - your wedding photos are gorgeous. Your bump looked lovely. And the trim is very Austin Powers babelicious.
My cousin got married when his fiance was 8 months pregnant and they had a movie themed reception. She went as Uma Thurman as The Bride in Kill Bill, very cool. She (obviously) wore her wedding dress with a bloody great samurai sword strapped to her back and fake blood.

Lulu - at hair dye in the birthing pool.

BabyBolat · 04/02/2009 11:02

OH Puzzle LOL - we once shared a house with a boy who one morning left a vibrator in the bathroom - (Note he didn't have a girlfriend or anyone stay at the time!)

PuzzleRocks · 04/02/2009 11:07

Frekkles - Those last two links didn't work for me. The first one is lovely though, very elegant.

Pelvic floor - um, never. I must start.

BB/Lulu - I have an appointment booked already for a few days before my due date. I had such horrible roots in my first post labour photos. Not this time!
And it's not vain at all, by god we need something to make us feel a bit perkier in those first few weeks. It's good for the spirit.

PuzzleRocks · 04/02/2009 11:08

Conker - what a funny image of DH and DS.

PuzzleRocks · 04/02/2009 11:12

Oh god BB I have just read your post. I'm so sorry for waffling on, I should have read from the top first.
How is DH? Cancer is so cruel. DH lost his mother when he was 19. I don't think knowing for a long time makes it necessarily easier when that terrible day comes but he does say that it what some small comfort that she was no longer suffering. How are you? It must be very hard on you being strong for DH.

BabyBolat · 04/02/2009 11:13

I think I am going to book 2 weeks before this LO as I never like my hair when it is first done - takes a while to grow into it!

BabyBolat · 04/02/2009 11:17

This is going to sound really nasty puzzle and I almost hate myself for saying it but I am almost relieved that at least we have an answer now - even though it is bad news!! It has been back and forth for the past few months and it has been so draining on DH (will he wont he etc etc) that even though this is the worst news possible, at least he knows and we are not waiting for another scan result or another course of treatment... I hope he lasts another couple of weeks as DH's brother finishes his military service in 15 days (he is also DH's very best friend) and then DH can go out there and they can help each other through it.

Don't worry, really normal conversation is helping a bit to be honest as there is nothing I can do or say to make it easier for him!

BabyBolat · 04/02/2009 11:18

Nutty any joy with the doctor today? be nice if they could drug you up in time for your big day....

PuzzleRocks · 04/02/2009 11:29

Doesn't sound nasty, I think it's a very normal reaction when a family has been in limbo for such a long time.

Right, shall resume normal conversation forthwith.

PuzzleRocks · 04/02/2009 11:34

Frekkles - a few drops of bio-oil in the bath goes a long way too.

BB - What sort of girth did the boy's vibrator have?

SpringySunshine · 04/02/2009 11:37

Happy birthday, Swaliswan!

Nutty, is it really wrong that I laughed a tiny bit at your DH falling onto cat food & ripping his trousers? I mean I know it must've really hurt & I do feel sorry for him, but...

Your wedding photos are gorgeous! & actually, you don't at all look pregnant unless you're really looking! How did you manage that?!

frekkles, I wonder if they ever realised who was to blame for the cock ring? Naughty girl. Also, nice work on the dresses, thank you xx

LuLu, am laughing at the idea of serious preening during labour - & then the colour running in the pool. I wish I'd seen the MW's face

Nutty, I'm like a scarecrow too, don't worry All this talk of wedding glamour is so foreign to me - I just don't make any effort at the moment I know that's awful (poor DP!), but I need to conserve my energy for MNing, etc

Pelvic floor exercises - I keep forgetting & very rarely do them. Again, poor DP

Oh, BB I'm so sorry about your FIL. I know it's awful, but the thing with things like cancer is that it's almost better for everyone else when it is over - at least they can properly grieve then, instead of waiting on tenterhooks, twitching at every phonecall. That doesn't make it any better right now, obviously. Poor DH

Puzzle, nice invitation to the swinger fun there! They must have been so disappointed

LuLuBai · 04/02/2009 11:39

at the swinger pics!

And loving the image of Conkertree's DS as a handbag.

I haven't got reins for DD but I do think they are probably a good plan. Not quite sure how I'm going to deal with two.

Planning to mostly 'wear' the baby in a sling so that I have hands free to manage DD but keep remembering that the BabyBjorn gave me really bad backache if worn for more than 20 mins so that won't really do.

Been reading rave reviews of the Kari Me slings and people do say they are hugely comfortable but everyone says they are hot which is not great if we have a warm spring and summer.

Sorry to divert attention from the sextoys chat, but anyone else looked into slings?

SpringySunshine · 04/02/2009 11:40

BB, did you mention the vibrator to him, or keep a discreet silence? I'm sure I can guess

Puzzle, the links didn't work for me either, but I got them sussed:

One
Two
[[http://www.tiffanyrose.com/new-img/products/ELG-zoom.jpg Three]

SpringySunshine · 04/02/2009 11:41

Grr. Three!

LuLuBai · 04/02/2009 11:43

Oh Springy I LOVE dress number 2. I want one!

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