Due september thread 5

[mummyhill]

Thanks I thought it would be really difficult to start a new one and silly me it couldn't be simpler.

I am luckier this time round with dd i never saw the same midwife twice this time i have seen the same person at the gp's surgery every time.

I am so glad i am not the only one who feels grumpy my problem is that i don't argue or talk about it i just disapear and cry i seem to be doing nothing but today.

Hiya all
I havent been about that much recently, dont get on here as often as i used to!!!
I had my booking appointment and scan etc, all is well. Bit nervous about the problems i had previous and if this preg will be like it, eg: high blood pressure, forceps etc, but the midwife is being really helpful.
Im now due on the 30th september, so ive had to relive weeks 12 to 14 again lol

V. interesting about the tea, Mummyhill. I just find it so amusing that things were done so differently in the past. As an extreme example, my older brother was born at home. Mother and midwife both smoked pretty much throughout the labour, apart from midwife suggesting that they stub out for the pushing stage. When the doctor arrived, he said he could hardly see the baby for the smoke Absolutely incredible!
Andif - I wouldn't say I'm desperate for a boy. Am rather partial to the idea of another girl, but obviously will take whatever's on offer! I just feel so different this time that must be a very hairy boy as already have a bald dd...
DH is one of 4 boys (one sadly died aged 12) and his older brothers have 3 girls and 3 boys respectively. They don't seem to go in for mixed babies. I won't be finding out though, as I loved the moment of truth.
Anyone else hitting the gaviscon? Seem to be getting really bad heartburn if eat anything in the evening.

My Grandmother now 87 was told to smoke during preganacy to prevent morning sickness, she said it made her feel worse so she only did it the once. My other Gran also 87 has been trying to force feed me liver, she knows that it is something i dislike and i actually had to hand her a my bounty book turned to the correct page on diet etc before she would belive that we aren't supposed to eat it, thought i was just making it up to get out of eating something that is "good for you". Gaviscon being swigged by the bottle full again!!!! It's either that or suffering with a reflux problem which results in the lining of my throat being burnt, most unpleasant. Is anyone else still being sick? It is driving me mad. I am so irritable as well at the moment what on earth is wrong with me i am ussually really calm and patient and all i seem to be doing at the moment is either shouting at people or crying, don't remeber being this bad when pg with dd.

I suffered dreadful heartburn with both ds1 and ds2, but not until much further on - it used to reduce me to tears! Not bad so far this time as long as I don't eat too late. Read something that said try not to drink anything half an hour either side of eating, so that might help?

Thanks andiff i will have to try that.

Hi everyone,
I had a letter from a health visitor this week. I was a bit surprised - I thought they didn't get involved until after you HAD the baby! If I make an appointment, what will they do / tell me?

Kiwifruit - thanks for the info on ST Marys. I think next time hubby is off, I wil try to get to one of the tours and have a look around. To be honest, I'm not convinced you need THAT much room / equipment for an active birth (something which I would like for myself as well), or maybe I am just from the "make-do" school of thought!!

I've no idea, LadyL. Didn't get any contact from mine till after DD was born. Interesting!

Agree you don't need that much space/stuff for active birth, unless you want to use a pool of course. Something soft on the floor is good (like a yoga mat or similar), as is a birthing ball; I may also go for a birth stool this time. But you can bring these in yourself if you need to - Argos has gym balls for only £8.99 , which was certainly the cheapest available last time round (not long ago!), and they're exactly the same as the £30 jobs a la Active Birth Centre. (I recommend investing in one early - I use mine to sit on at my desk and it's great for various aches and pains, especially lower back.) The main thing is not to be hampered by monitors and drips! (My consultant assured me I'd still be able to take up whatever position I chose - what a joke.)

hi all.......i picked up a load of baby stuff off a friend today, she is moving in two weeks so has packed up quite a bit of stuff!!! a moses basket, a baby bath and two bin bags full of clothes. i've been through them and taken out all the neutral stuff to wash, then packed the other stuff away again (mostly boys stuff) until baby arrives. although dp is now faltering and says he would like to find out the sex at the next scan.....which means now i'm faltering too!!!

have been and bought wallpaper and paint for the nursery today......its all starting to feel very real!!!

hope everyone is having a good weekend!!

Just got in from work, feeling pretty tierd but seem to be having trouble sleeping at the moment is anyone else suffering from this?

Hello all - catching up on everyones news. Will try out your suggestion andif for heartburn if I get it this time (probably!) On thursday I decided not to stress any more & just enjoy - I was just getting on with this new feeling of calm when I couldn't breath properly. Couldn't sleep during the night & went to A&E the next morning. It turned out to be an asthma attack - totally unexpected. Have to take medication to stop it from coming back - will see my gp on monday about this. Gosh what a thing to happen. Just to add to the list of medical traumas.Don't know why it started - the docs think it could be the start of asthma which I hope isn't the case. Does any one else have asthma & take ventolin?

Mummyhill - I am having problems sleeping as well. I feel like I'm exhausted, get to bed and can;t sleep! Then when I AM asleep, I keep waking up for toilet trips and am also having pain in the back of my hips, which keeps waking me up. Is anyone else having hip pain? are there any tricks to relieving it?

IKWYM about the toilet trips LadyL! Re. the hip pain, have you tried sleeping on your side with a pillow between your knees (if both knees bent), or with a pillow under your bent knee (if only top knee bent)? Supposed to help align you better. I've been getting bad lower back pain again this time and have had a bit of hip pain in the past - so am working on my posture etc. My community midwife had some good advice - maybe you could ask yours??

milward - sorry to hear about your trip to A&E. Hope it doesn't develop into asthma - last thing you need

moschops - at your nursery decorating - how exciting! DD (nearly 15 months) hasn't even got her own room yet, never mind the little one! (She slept in our room till recently, and now camps out in a travel cot in the front room.) We'll be renting when the baby's born, so neither will get a nursery till after that - DD will probably be about 2 before she gets her own (permanent) room!

Franch - yeah I have adopted the sleeping positions with a pillow that you mention, although I am still getting the pain. I guess it's just a case of grinning and bearing it! Feel like I'm hobbling about like a pensioner tho!!

Ugh - well I do sympathise LadyL - yes it does make you feel a bit old doesn't it - you should hear the grunting and groaning noises I make when I stand up from bending over - oh dear

Thinking of investing in a wedge along with the pillow between the knees to try and maintain posture and releive back pain, i am shattered but as soon as i get to bed my brain goes into overdrive about nothing in particular then when i eventually drop off i either wake with a full bladder, to hear dd screaming about a wet bed or i am having really weird dreams about all kinds of rubbish. Is any body else like this at the moment or is it just me?

Hi There - hope you're all well - am feeling a little depressed sitting at my desk staring at the sunshine - roll on maternity leave!

I went and had a look at Elizabeth Garrett Anderson at UCH on Sunday, and have decided to try and transfer there. Rang my GP to ask him to write the letter, and he didn't sound convinced, but has said he will write. Was really impressed with the midwives I came in contact with (very friendly and informative), and like the idea that the rooms on the post natal ward are only doubles, rather than 5 - 6.

This looking at hospitals is rather depressing, I have to say. At the risk of being contentious, I am quite shocked at the state of the hospitals . They just shut down the hospital in Auckland that I would have gone to, because it was too run down, but it was a palace compared to the 2 I've seen here. I know that the care you receive is a lot more important than what the place 'looks like' but... Ah well, guess I'm only going to be there for a short period of time (hopefully!!) - it's not like I'm going on a 2 week holiday .

OK, rave over. Anyone feeling any movement yet? I sometimes think I do, but then think I must be imagining it (am only 16 weeks with no.1, so probably imagining it).

I've been sleeping really badly too - seems like my mind just doesn't switch off, and it's going a hundred miles an hour (and my bladder gets me up at least twice a night )

Sleeping not so well due to asthma - have to take inhaler in the night. We're changing our mattress, duvets etc in case of dust mite allergy. Will be tested for this. Haven't felt any movements yet I think. I have a strange craving for chocolate icecream - in my mind all day - the type to have between two wafer biscuits. Must get some....

I'm getting kicked already by the baby - especially if I sit forward for a while! I'm 19 weeks and this is my third. Feel some movement when I lie down as well, not enough for dh to feel it yet, but very definatley there.

That's super Zubb - it is lovely to feel your baby move. Looking forward to this soon.

only started last week, before that I felt 'flutters' every now and again but nothing definate. With ds1 I felt him right on cue at 20 weeks, and with ds2 it was about the same as this one - 18/19 weeks. Both of them were ferocious kickers and punchers.

Had to laugh about your grunting and groaning Franch - you should hear me when I try and get up off the floor(where I usually watch telly)!!

Milward - I am really craving sorbet - think its to do with the coldness!

Milward - have you tried sleeping vaguley upright with a v pillow behind you, i find it helps if i am having trouble with my asthma, it seems much more difficult to breathe when lying down. I take becotide morning and night and ventolin as required which isn't very often thank goodness however, i did find that i had to use it more often as i got bigger with dd and my lungs were getting more squished!!!! I was worried that the inhaled steroids would harm the baby but my Gp explained to me in great detail how the inhaled steroids would not harm the baby and that it was better for me to continue with my inhalers to keep air passages working well to ensure enough oxygen was getting round the system!! Mine is mainly allergy related, gets worse durring the hayfever season, usually i can take antihistamines and this helps to control it as well however they don't recomend taking these durring pregnancy as they are not sure what effect they have on bean so i will be suffering again this year like i did with dd 4 years ago!!

hi all,
i have been sleeping badly too - im getting 5 hours at best a night - i don't know why, i think i am worrying about the birth already, as i have had some mad dreams about it.

i have started to feel the baby move too - i am feeling it everyday now, i am so relieved to know its still there as my belly does not seem to be growing that much, i still havent told my collegues and i am 17 weeks today.

i also think the baby can hear already as was playing music on my laptop and laptop was on belly and could feel loadsa kicks and tumbles inside.

Boompi -i have been craving ice lollys, i did with my 2 previous pregnancys too lol

Has everyone got big bumps yet? this is my third and i semm to have a much bigger bump now than i did with my other 2! i feel a right fatty already! hehehe xx