Dec Mums - Christmas is coming...the Dec ladies have got all fat...time to have our babies...the novelty's worn flat

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Here's a new link for us all - think it needed doing asap as running out of space!!

Beans sorry there's no action yet, though - as you say - it's maybe for the best if the hospital is that busy. I'm wondering how I'll get on with booked c-section as there's supposedly a December baby boom here with 500 babies due. That does not bode well for a private room afterwards (let alone getting in on time)! March was obviously a very, very boring month in Leeds!

Thanks abbey - I'm off to goggle for the evening now. Exhausted! Speak to all tomorrow.

xx

Abby It was quiet in Scarborough too. I was the only person on the entire maternity ward. You'd think that would mean that the staff would have been ok.

Thanks emm, zoe and abby Thanks for your concern, I'm alright, just might have a bit of a bruise tomorrow. I suppose people mightn't have seen my bump hiding under my huge black coat but you'd think someone might have come over, pregnant lady or not.

beans poor you, what a long wait. Glad it wasn't your waters though so you won't have to be induced.

zoe I can see why you are keen to go out but do be careful. Some of the roads here haven't been gritted and it makes driving really scary in the daylight never mind at night.

veggie Hope the towel trick helps. You need to swaddle it up nice and tight - good practice for when veggiebaby comes.

abby LOL at the lack of things to do in Leeds in March! Maybe it was just very cold and people had to indulge in shared bodily warmth!

kayz I meant to say before, I'm glad you managed to get your DH to agree to the homebirth you want.

Thanks Jolly.

I can't believe no one helped you. Everyone moans about the state of this country and that no one has any manners. Then something like this happens where people can help out someone else and no one bothers.

December and January are meant to be the busiest months as people aim for Xmas or New Years babies.

A few of my friends avoided March and April as they didn't want to have a baby near Xmas.

Am also shocked no-one helped you Jollybear, I've fallen in public a fair few times (none attributable to drink, just clumsiness) and it's awful when no-one at least offers to help. Much worse when you're pg and have the initial shock of 'OMG I've fallen over!'. I'd have helped, but it would prob have meant a big comic skating about on the ice and us both falling on our bums

Kayz: good for you on insisting on the HB. At least you don't have to worry about places being closed (sounds hideous). Am getting quite envious of all you HBers now.

Congratulations to Mibbes and baby Evan (lovely name), hope you're resting and recovering

Verso: am very impressed by the 3 hour sleeps. Can I order a baby like that please? Sounds like DD2 is getting the hang of feeding as well (but ouch at the skin removal).

Lovely to meet Cat and PD for lunch today, thankfully DS co-operated and was asleep through most of lunch then happily pottering about. Having met a few of you now I can say we're a pretty nice bunch of people .

Now we're actually IN Dec I wanted to say thank you to everyone for all the support, info and laughs you've been providing over the past months . I'm sure most of us are feeling better prepared as a result (tho some of us have longer to go than others )

Am loling at ZJ bumping to the hospital in a tractor and Kayz's matter of fact 'if this baby arrives today he'll have no socks'

I've decided he might have to wear some scratch mitts on his feet if they'll fit.

evening!
am feeling a little grumpy with something I need to get off my chest...this should be an "am I being unreasonable" post...
I took dd1 to drama/story class this evening. We joined last term so have been going for a few months - it's in a village near us. Anyway, all the mums there know each other and all their kids know each other - except me and my dd because we're not from 'the village'. Anyway, the mums all sit on benches round the edge of the hall while the kids have their class and no-one ever speaks to me. Tonight I was first there - a few mums came in and all sat along the bench but didn't talk to me, then another mum came and ASKED ME TO MOVE so she could sit next to her pal! SO I sat on the end and then another mum came, sat the other side of me and then proceeded to lean forwards across me to talk to the other mums for the whole time! AIBU to expect them to show a little more social skill than the kids? I mean I'm from a different village but I don't have leprosy!!! Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!
Sorry.
Rant over.
Beans glad you're ok - pity you had to wait around so long.
My belly really hurts tonight and we've no chocolate in the house to make it better! Disaster!

am being a guinea pig for some more medical students again tomorrow...hopefully manage without fainting this week! I appear to be unable to lie on my back for more than a few minutes these days...!

Trace: they are probably all in-bred and have horrendous secret diseases . It's not too much to expect people to be polite at least.

have discovered the cat has a cut in the middles of his paw, it's very inflamed and sore, so i'm going to get DH to hold him down while i pour some antiseptic on it.

I know what you mean about peoples niceness and manners going out the window. I taught DS to say excuse me when he had to pass in between people talking on the street or if he needed to get past someone, but of course even though he says it quite loudly they just ignore him. yet they all complain about 'the youth of today'.

My sister and i are both december babies, mum told me it was because Dad always got holidays over Easter, so i guess they only got down to it during the holidays.

what are they doing with you? (the medical students not the inbred loons)

am a bit suprised at people planning Xmas and NY babies, everyone I've talked to is shocked and supportive at the idea of having a baby over the holidays!

they are 2nd years who are learning to take an obstetric history and examine a pregnant lady. Basically they ask you lots of questions, learn about antenatal care and then have a go at feeling the bump. There were 4 of them last week (plus the GP) but only 1 of them got to feel my bump before I passed out, so the rest didn't get a chance! whoops!

Trace That is awful, it won't hurt for them to make conversation with you. I agree with Effie they might have the lurgy!!!

I spoke too soon . Feeds this afternoon/evening have gone pear-shaped and I'm even more sore than ever. Phoned the breastfeeding network but they weren't much practical use.

poison where did you get help with BF in the end? I could really do with some practical help here - the pain is unbelievable when she latches on badly .

Even got myself thinking "sod it I'm going to bottle feed" which then makes me all emotional and weepy... HELP!

Verso - have you tried posting an urgent thread in the BF topic and asking for TikTok? She usually has great advice.

Have you got lanisohl? It really helped me.

I also found the Kellymom.com site was brilliant for BF info.

this page is all about problems in teh early days with tips on latch and dealing with the pain.

Thats great advice from Arti TikTok always has great advice and has helped me feel more positive that I'll be able to BF this time.

this page has a detailed description of a good latch.

I really hope things settle soon .

Trace- re:the inbreeds, it's not like they don't have a conversation starter, i mean how hard is it to politely ask, when are you due?

oh dear one of the bands on the birthpool has gone down a bit. though DH thinks he may not have done the pump up hole properly (it probably has a name ut don't know what it is)

I will stop all these little posts in a moment but here are the national BF numbers if you want to try and talk to someone tonight (LLL are meant to be particularly good):

National Breastfeeding Helpline 0844 20 909 20

Association of Breastfeeding Mothers helpline 08444 122 949

Breastfeeding Network Supporterline: 0844 412 4664

Breastfeeding Network Drugline: 0844 412 4665

La Leche League Telephone Helpline: 0845 120 2918

National Childbirth Trust Breastfeeding line: 0870 444 8708

wow Arti that is great, i have heard that these lines are really helpful (and one day soon i'll be on the end of the BfN supporterline hopefully) and heard good things about the LLL too.

Verso - one bit of advice from my midwife was not to think "this feed isn't going well maybe I'll ask for help if the next one doesn't go well" but ask straight away as if you do it wrong a few times it becomes more difficult and painful each time IYSWIM.

Verso - have sent you an email with details of a private lactation consultant who can do home visits, if you think that might help. Best of luck - really hope it gets better.

Trace how rude! Mind you, people are like that at my DD's ballet class. A lot of the mums know each other and never speak to me. And I always think having a massive bump is normally quite a good conversational opener for most people. Sod them. Hope you are a good guinea pig tomorrow!

Jolly hope you are feeling better after your fall. So cross about noone helping you.