Due May 2009 - It's all in front of us now!!!!

[divedaisy]

And on we go!!

No we don't, my scan is on 22nd December. I'll be 20 wks 5 days. Will find out, and probably just keep it to ourselves like we did with DD. I was exactly 18 weeks yday, according to what "they" told me weeks ago, and I've been keeping count, made me when midwife at the hosp said I was 18 weeks and 2 days.

Hi everyone haven't been on in a few days but I've been lurking and reading. I'm feeling really good this week DD is sleeping really well after a few weeks of teething so I'm enjoying it while I can. Our loft was started on Tuesday so 2 months and she will be out of our room and into her own. I can't wait!!!

I'm 18 weeks tomorrow!!!

I know. It's illogical cos it really doesn't matter but when I had my amnio on Tues my notes said I was 16+2, but according to the due date (that they gave me last time) I would have been 16+3 and when they scanned me after the amnio and measured the baby it was measuring 16+6. They didn't mention my due date though.
Guess will wait until my anomaly scan (on New Years Eve!) and ask then WHEN IS IT ACTUALLY DUE? I'd quite like to know as my last one was actually born on her due date.

Different topic but does anyone have a Volvo XC90? We are probably about to get one (DH has just realised that we are having another child - I think the penny just dropped on Tuesday at the scan!!!!) My dad has one and moans about it, but then he's really picky about everything. Anyone have an opinion? I prefer it to the other 7 seat options around - plus it looks quite safe. Am concerned about being a bit 'beige' though?!! If you know what I mean!

Wondering what to eat next. Gingerbread latte in hand.
Love these festive thingies

frazzledoldbag my anomaly scan is on New Years Eve too! Where do you live? I am so looking forward to finding out the sex. HB seems to range from 140-155, so seems to straddle both sexes, hope it is one or the other and not a mixture!!!

My cooker has been delivered and DH is at the shop. He told me not to be moving it (to fit it) on my own, so its out in the hall. I should be going back to the shop now, but now can I????......... I CAN SEE MY BABY BUMP MOVING!!!!!!!!! I cannot take my eyes off it!! My DS will be so pleased to see this tonight!!! The quieter I am the more it moves!!!.. It is actually higher up than I thought my uterus would be! It's moving on the left side above the level of my belly button (when slouching on the sofa!)

apologies in advance for this long post, but I'm so down with potty training. you're all making me jealous with your DCs into pants.

dd1 is very high maintenance. on sleep, she's great - slept through from about 9 weeks from 8pm (goes late so she can see dh back from work) to 7am. With potty training, she's defn not there. She seemed ready earlier this year but i musthave missed the boat as I was going through PND and looking for a job, trip to the US so didn't follow through.

now at nearly 3 she refuses. Unless she's tucked in bed and wants to stall sleeping, she'll ask. she did a poo in the potty last week and we exclaimed over her etc. but won't do again, though we encourage her. she seems to ask for the potty after she's filled the nappy.

now, i'm very frustrated and hard on her as i'm blaming her so drop nasty comments about her smelly nappies and isn'tshe too big, etc. i'm so jealous of Jael and there's another girl i know who asked her mum for pants just before turning two. i keep saying to dd1 how clever her friend is that she was out of nappies by two.

i just feel discouraged that my dd1 is three in a few weeks and still in nappies. what a bad mum i am and what an un-clever child i have. before you protest that, i know that's horrible and not right to say but deep down i do feel that way sometimes. it's so hard not to compare, isn't it?

i know it's not dd1s fault and don't want her to feel insecure so must do everything to control my comments - she's only 3 and needs my help. i guess, i'll just take away the nappies and get on with it, maybe tomorrow.

HtheH - am in Scotland - whereabouts are you? Am not convinced by the heartbeat thing as I fail to see any logic in it. However it will be interesting to see what sexes we all get and whether they 'fit' these rules about heartbeats. We shall see!
momino good luck with the potty training. Don't get too hung up on it - she'll do it when she's ready I guess. They all do eventually and it's not a competition

By the way according to the 'rules' my baby should definitely be another girl.
I think it's a boy, but think will find out in a couple of wks when full amnio result comes back. Will report back then (but in a cloak and dagger fashion in case anyone in RL is snooping!) I may namechange temporarily.

Right ladies after reading your posts you have persuaded/inspired me/motivated me to do the Controlled Crying. I can't leave him sobbing himself to sleep so sounds like a way forward. I have attempted it in the past but half heartedly i suppose. Oh god, I'm dreading it.
The thing that annoys me most was that he was in a fab routine and a fantastic sleeper right from 7 weeks old until I went back to work when he was 1. Then my mum looked after him (still does) and basically didn't follow his routine (I used the CLB routine which I found to be fantastic) but my mum is not for routines and lets him do whatever/sleep whenever he wants. I have the contented toddler upstairs somewhere, maybe I should refresh.
Thank you for your advice.

ooh, just noticed the santa hats on the faces, how exciting.

Bonus day off today - school closed for snow!! Stuffed my face with a mince pie and custard. oops.

Momino You shouldn't feel like your a bad Mom at all. All children are different and they all have their own stages for doing things. For example, our DD didn't sit up till way over 6 months, and we though, oh no something s wrong with our child etc but all children are different. If she is almost three, even though she may protest at first, start trying with her. Little things like just after she's had a drink of juice, say "shall we go and see if we can do a wee wee on your potty". Make it fun for her, I'm sure you know already. Loads of praise, and we also found that using kandoo wipes"froggy wipes" as DD used to call them, helped loads and their handwash as well. DD saw those thing's as her special toilet thing's.

Where are you Agooboo? We have no snow whatsoever, apparently it was meant to start last night and keep going today, but all we had last night and all through the night was tons of rain!

Jael X

momino - agree with jael. Have you tried bribery at all? Works for me!
(chocolate or sweetie if she does it in the potty. also stickers and star charts can work wonders - DD2 will currently do anything for a peppa pig sticker!)

By the way does anyone else love 'The Bingy Bong Song' from Peppa Pig. Think its Madame Gazelle that sings it. DD loves it and I've got it stuck in my head today!

I am in London do don't think we will bump into each other in the hospital!!! We are convinced it is a boy, but would really love a girl, I come from a family of girls so don't know how I would cope with another boy in the house!! Either way I will be thrilled though, has taken 2 years to get to this point so I am happy with anything as long as hangs on in in there...
I am around 16/17 weeks now and convinced I can feel the little one. BUt as a first timer is this too soon for me? It feels like a little fluttering wriggle, almost ticklish inside. Is this me imagining things?

Momino - when my ds was 3 he still was in pull up pants. Personally I wouldn't worry too much about it. Get her into pull ups, and then maybe next summer you can try her in real big girl pants. Continue to praise her when she gets it right, and try to ignore when she doesn't. One day she'll surprise you! Does she get a lot of contact with kids her own age - cos if she sees them doing it she may want to copy them!

oh agooboo we've got snow too! But school isn't shut (thank god).
Good luck with the CC. Let us know how you get on.x

Momino - DD wasn't interested at all, then at 2.6 or so, she saw a short program on tv on potty training aimed at parents. There, there were lots of kids on toilet and on potty, all smiling etc. She said "DD pee pee there" (pointing at toilet) and I took nappies off. She was clean in daytime in three days and clean at night in about a week.

In your situation, I would go cold turkey - no more nappies in the day. Expect to stay at home for a couple of days. Take to toilet/potty every 10 minutes. Put a large bag of M&Ms or other small chocolate/sweets next to toilet/potty and give her one whenever she does anything there. When there are accidents show her you are not happy but don't punish her.

Good luck!

Oh and I have a tip on potty training - even though I am not a mummy yet I used to be a teacher and have done quite a lot of studying into child psychology e.t.c. If you put food colouring in the loo/potty it will change colour when you pee on it. Some children find this really fun and it gets them excited to find out what colour it will turn. Some food colourings are better than others and different colours are more effective than others, you may have to test a few! NO harm in giving it a go!

agooboo I totally know where you are coming from with mums not having as strict rules as we would. My ds lived with my mum for all of his first year of school (Mon -Fri) as I wasn't able to drive, and she would lie down with him in his bed and the pair of them would fall asleep. So he got used to going to sleep with company. It has taken me a good few months to try to break this habbit. DH keeps blaming my mum for sll the trouble it has caused, but I guess she is 65 and did it the easiest way she could. How can I blame her when she did so much by looking after him! Anyway, we used a reward chart which has worked, but occassionally he still trys his luck!!!

Thanks all for your encouragement. I have tried stickers, bribery with smarties/buttons. I also try to encourage and make it fun - got a new book to read especially on the potty. she sat on the potty for 20 min but nothing happened. put the nappy on after that and a prompt wee. sigh.

at nursery, i've asked if she could have a 'potty buddy' but don't think that's worked either.

guess i'll just do cold turkey like Cote says. am going to try tomorrow as i'm fed up.

on a more objective subject. it's snowing up in York and has stuck to the roof-tops. everything looks very christmassy .

momino don't worry about the potty training. they are all different. my sister's little boy is 3 and a half and has regular 'accidents'. don't beat yourself up about it. you could go either way - pants or nappies again and maybe she will get fed up of the nappies and ask for pants. although they say don't go back to nappies once you start pants - i think? i can't remember seems ages since did DS1. maybe if you just don't speak about pants/weeing/nappies almost ignore it she might miss the attention it brings and just start to do it for you or maybe that's wishful thinking?!

divedaisy wow wow wow!!! you can see it moving! very !