March 2009: Pelvic pain, sciatica, and getting kicked in the ribs: Are we prize fighters or just entering the third trimester?

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Here's our new thread ladies.

only 2 weeks to hold on twocute - I am sure that you will - if you've not had any other symptoms then I bet you will still be waiting until your due date and you will get the homebirth that you want (my fingers and toes are crossed for you)

I know what you mean about being mentally ready - I don't think I ever was with dd - but at least this time round I know when it's all happening so I have no excuse not to be prepared!

laumiere - how can you tell if your little monkey is anterior or posterior? Just curious because dd was op which cause all the problems first time round and mw's and docs say they didn't until very late on!

It's funny but knowing that the head is down kind of freaks me a wee bit as the wriggles at teh bottom must be luittle hand scrabbluing about! I have no idea why that freaks me because I don't mind the thought of little feet kicking !

have yout felt hands prodding down towards your cervix, Meep? that is mad!

I have felt little hand prodding around down there. The other day at work I was standing there and I felt a little wriggling in my "anal region". I jumped and said, "Knock it off down there". Everyone looked at me like I was crazy.

Its all beginning to happen here isn't it ! Hoep you manage to hold out twocutes (when did you have your others ?).

Makes me start thinking I might get organised. Am 33 weeks but had dd at 37 weeks -albeit enforced due to her issues which currnetly aren't present but really ought to be ready just in case.

Had a hectic weekend - dd's 4th birthday yesterday, party for 30 in a hall. Stood up for far too long so hardly slept due to leg/hip aching nad couldn't walk properly this morning. Taken her to another party this afternoon so need to collapse now. Been suffering definite braxton hicks this weekend too.

Meep I get feelings down low despite the baby being head down but it is bent over sort of double so its head down and feet are over the head. DD was like this too presumably because I am so short so am not sure if mine are feet or hands moving.....

congratulations flannelcat on the arrival of your little flannelkitten - hope all is going well for you!

twocute about your show - fingers crossed that you'll hold on for another 2 weeks.

Thanks Girls

Im sure i will hang on, DD1 was born at 41 weeks and DD2 at 39+5.

I havent lost any more, i dont feel like i am going to go into labour and ive had no other signs, other that the contraction other night but i think that was caused by not drinking enough. With the girls i nested for England LOL and there is none of that going on .

Its certainly kicked my arse into gear though, i am going to buy all the toiletries ect for my bag in the morning and pack it!!!

hi all.

hope all goes ok for you 2cute.

does anyone happen to know why i have this bruised and occasionally burning pain down below? baby is head down but i kind of got used to that feeling. this came on this morning and feels more outside then in IYSWIM. sorry if TMI.

Hello ladies

Still lurking around, but can normally only find time to read, not post!

Many congrats flannelcat on the birth of your little baby. Soooo exciting! Brings it home to me how close this is all getting...

I'm still woefully disorganised, and essentially useless because of my spd. Can't cook, can't iron, can't wash up, can't do any diy to prepare for the baby. Sounded like bliss to begin with but now it's just really annoying.

Babyinbelly, i have that feeling too - asked midwife and she said that the baby is having a trial run at pressing on my cervix, and that is what is causing the burning feeling. Last time i remember it happening about 38 weeks or so, but i'm only 32 weeks and it's already going on. All a bit painful but quite normal supposedly!!

I want camembert so badly... My best friend is going to buy me a vast selection of smelly waitrose cheeses to celebrate the birth of the baby. We have it planned already!!

xxx

Meep - I'm very short (under 5ft 2) and DS2 is very tall (DH is 6 ft 2) so it's pretty easy.

I can feel the bump where his little feet are and a firm curve which is his back. When there's a dip behind my belly button he's either left or right (or posterior if I get hands forward).

Just wanted to say massive congratulations to Flannelcat!! Amazing news, and the first of many, so exciting.

A bit scary how quickly and unexpectedly pre eclampsia can occur Well done for getting yourself to the dr so quickly - did you have swelling too? I worry so much that I might get it and just not realise.

Hedgewitch, am glad you got your finances sorted out, that's great news, I can imagine you must be so relieved!

haha, ellieorollie am SO desperate for camembert too! Am going to ask dp to bring some to hospital

Hope everyone is ok - I am getting kicked so much at the moment. It's strange how often just thinking about her makes her kick when she has been quiet for a while. Spooky.

Fearless I am getting Cosatto you2, looks good and folds easily, I am getting this as I am mostly in the car though tbh so won't use too much, am rubbish at links but if you google it you will see it!

twocute Hope every thing still ok. I have thought I have had this twice in the last week, not like normal discharge iykwim more like the show I had with ds just not as much, have also been feeling damp quite a lot but just put this down to the fact its no4 and My bladder is prob leaky sorry if TMI everyone! Seeing midwife today so will see what she says

flannelcat Big congrats hope you are both doing well and getting stronger
L xx xx

Good morning everyone!! Yes it's 5:30 here. I woke up at 3 and have been unable to go back to sleep since.

Last night was my baby shower. It was so sweet. My sil planned and did everything and it was lovely. Tea, coffee, hot chocolate. Lot's of finger foods, flan, the sweetest cake on the planet, and I won a Lennox vase during a game of bingo!

I didn't ask for any gifts as I have everything I need, but everyone got me the sweetest little girly outfits. The boys played well in a play area she made. Overall it was a lovely time.

I just want to get through today. Tomorrow I have my 34 weeks (eek!) check with the midwife and am having an ultrasound to check the growth, so I will get a chance to see this baby again. God 34 weeks, it's really gone by so fast.

Hey flannelcat and flannelkitten congratulations - I hope kitten comes on in leaps and bounds and I'm sure she'll be home before you know it. I had pre-eclampsia with DD1 so I know how scary and overwhelming it can be. Have everything crossed for you both.

I have brought my maternity leave a week closer so I'm finishing on FRIDAY woooohoooo! I'll be 35 weeks so I'm quite please I got that far... but there's so much to do at home. My boss actually suggested I get myself signed off for a week, so officially I'm still leaving at 36 weeks. I've never gone to the doctors to get myself signed off before - can the midwife do it?

Personal question - are you ladies still..ermmm....... you know..... having sex?! V uncomfy now so not really bothered anymore - is this normal?!

Hi all

Huge thanks for all the lovely messages, sorry for the late followup but the hospital's v basic web service decided not to let me access this thread anymore.

Anwyway, they finally let me come home last night after my blood tests came back normal, although I am still on loads of meds to lower my bp - hopefully only for a few more weeks though.

We named our dd Bettie Violet and she was 3lbs at birth, which apparently isn't too bad for 31 weeks. She has finally started putting on weight in the last few days and is only having EBM (expressed breast milk) which I luckily produce in over-abundance. I have no idea how long it will be until she can come home so will just have to make loads of trips to the hospital which is luckily only 10 mins away.

Has been quite a roller coaster but in the end the main thing is that we are both ok.

Millie26 I did have some swelling in hands and feet and face but just thought it was part of pregnancy. More odd was the really painful crampy braxton hicks and a general feeling that things weren't right for a while + really awful headache - definitely a completely different feeling to my first pregnancy. The real 'Oh sh*t' moment though was when the right side of my body went numb for 10 minutes. At its worst, my bp went up to 204/110.

Laumiere thanks for offer, will email you separately with some questions.

Sorry for long post but still trying to sort it all out in my mind too. xx

How exciting Hedgewitch - keep us posted !

Flannelcat - glad everything is going ok. Take care of yourself and wishing Bettie putting on weight vibes and that she's home as soon as possible.

Good to hear things are progressing well Flannelcat! Keep us posted when you can.

AuntySpan God no! No sex here. I was off it for months and then when I got intersted in it again, DH went off the idea as he too felt there was a third person in the room, which I have always felt through all three pregnancies, so no nooky for us. Frustrating tho as I think we could both do with it!!!

I am missing soft cheeses, guilt-free peanut butter (have had about two PB sandwiches during PGY) and a DRINK! Oh how I could do with a drink! A nice glass of red wine or a bottle of Miller....Mmmmmm.

I know I can have the odd one, and I did have one or two over the festive period, but I just have totally presumed I'm an alcohol-free zone so haven't really had any. But that's a good thing I guess!

I had been thinking, Oh but then there's the breastfeeding etc etc, but I read very recently that actually 'they' reckon that the best way to get a drink whilst breastfeeding is to feed and then have a drink as by the next time you feed, it will have passed through your system.(Obviously on what stage of breastfeeding you are at, ie - probably not early stages!) So that gives me hope, that for the first time I can have a celebratory glass of bubbily - which I didn't do with the other two.

Anyway, God I'm waffling. I'm orf! Later ladies!

Flannelcat am really glad you're able to go home now - Bettie is a gorgeous name! Bless her, have you got any pictures you can put up? Can you cuddle her or is she in special care?

Auntyspan - am really glad you asked, I want to know what everyone says
I actually cant have sex anymore. I am totally freaked our by the fact that she is a little person in there and I get genuinely embarrassed.

Last weekend I thought I'd better show some effort as we went on our babymoon, but as soon as I got naked she started kicking and I couldnt get her little face out of my head, which totally ruined the atmos.

DP is SO ridiculously understanding, he kind of thinks its a bit weird too

Plus, havent seen my bikini line for nearly three months - eugh.

I really really wanted sex at the weekend, got all revved up and then oddly got really nervous and couldn't do it!! Don't know what is wrong with me. Think DP was a little lot frustrated after that though!

I think maybe it is the third person in the room thing. She's just so obviously there being a very wriggly baby.

oooo flannelcat we have violet for a middle name too - great minds think alike! Glad to hear you're home and on the mend, I'm sure Bettie will be with you soon.

Glad to hear I'm not the only one that's feeling like sex is the LAST thing on the list . I know what you mean about the bikini line millie - I'm having mine "tidied" before my c-section so when eventually I DO see it again I don't pass out from the horror!

Hedgewitch fingers crossed for your SIL - going to be a busy time for your family!

Best wishes to Bettie and hope she comes along well and is home soon.

Hedgewitch glad the finances finally got sorted - and hope they make the whole new baby thing much easier. And hope your SIL is doing OK and that there is a nice new arrival in your family shortly.

2cute hope you hang in there for another couple of weeks and get that home birth.

Sex? what is that? It had all being going relatively normally till about Xmas but now the bump is so obviously a bump it just seems to weird. And of course I don't really feel very sexy at present, which doesn't help matters any.

I am desperate for crunchy-nut-cornflakes - I'll be like the people on the adverts eating them straight out the box. I have still had a couple of bowls during the pregnancy anyway, so I will be feeling really guilty if the baby has a nut allergy!

Uh, I haven't had sex since conception. Dh says that I use him for sperm, then drop him when I get what I want. It honestly suits us fine since we work opposite schedules, and have two small children. I mean who has the time and the energy?

Argh, i have to vent about work...

My doctor and midwives have been telling me for weeks to get signed off of work, as SPD and teaching 4 year olds really doesn't mix. But i can't deal with the guilt of knowing how much hassle I will cause everyone so i'm still here, and planning to work for another 3 weeks, till half term.

Initially my boss was all nicey nicey, telling me that she'd make sure I'd get lots of non-contact time, and that they'd try to take my needs into account etc. Now, however, the tide has turned.

I have to organise all my Mat leave handover meetings and co-ordinator activities to take place outside of working hours, and apparently it's my own fault because I scared off the supply teacher! Not only that but I had to work a 12 hour + day last monday, this monday, next tuesday and the following monday. In fact, tonight's meeting could go on till about 10pm potentially. On very hard plastic chairs. And not a word of appreciation or thanks. Not even a "How are you feeling today?". For Pete's sake. I don't think they're keeping up their side of the bargain...

I'm really starting to wonder why I'm bothering. God only knows what they would do if I got signed off for the next 3 weeks, but i'm sorely tempted to do it, just to make a point really...

Sorry to whinge, far more important things going on I know, but I just had to get it off my chest, and it's too small a school for me to moan to a colleague!

Flannelcat - I love the name, she sounds gorgeous. Make sure you manage to get rest and food also. Bettie needs her mummy to be strong and healthy!

BTW - I can't believe that some of you are thinking about sex! Madness... I can barely remember how to do it!