Due Dec 08 - Christmas inductions ... The Holly and The I.V.

[kayzisexpecting]

Here I have done it!!!!!

Just need more babies now!!!!!

Good luck today chutney, maybe you'll have your baby already! Bless your DD1, what a little darling doing your hair for you!

Trace honey do be gentle with yourself,
it's hard enough at this stage of PG without
having to deal with changing meds etc. Hope your appointment goes well today [hugs]

I might be jumping the queue a bit - woke up at 3.30 to go to the loo and had a bit of a splosh and a slightly red gloopy wipe with a few streaks in it. Have been having period pain type episodes (trying not to call them contractions in case they're not!) that last about 45 seconds every five minutes or so since about 5. Time to give the doula a call I think and see what she reckons. Baby can't come yet, the house is a tip! We were planning on having at least another week to tidy up...

Thanks everyone for your support. Slept reasonably but had some tummy pains and this morning am feeling sick and walking like an old lady. I feel like if I stand up straight my bump will break. Off to see CPN very shortly...hope I don't end up sobbing but that doesn't seem likely seeing as I'm already at it. Could fill a reservoir with my bodily emissions at the moment...pee, discharge, snot, tears, more tears.
When my friend told me about mumsnet I was a bit loathe to look, and wondered what the point was, but I'm soooooooo glad I joined. It's odd that you guys say the most wonderful, helpful, supportive, kind, hilarious things and I've never even met you! Thank you so much (can you tell I'm having another emotional day?!) It's so reassuring to know that others are going through similar stuff, whether it's leaky boobs, smelly bits, pesky dcs or whatever...
so thanks. xxx

jj that's exciting... hope it's IT! (and that you can rope in some house tidiers!)

Morning,

Seems like a lot of us were up last night. I was having BH's that were getting more painful and regular. I was getting a bit excited, but they stopped about 4 and nothing this morning.

JJ Very exciting!!! This could be it!!!! Get someone else to tidy up.

Trace I am walking like an old lady too. I hope you cheer up as the day goes by.

jj Noooooo! You're my other due date buddy! First Lal and now you ... I need another week to tidy up as well. Or preferably a month. Let us know what the doula says.

trace hope you feel a bit better today & that your appointment goes well.

chutney hope it's going well. hurry up & text!

Chutney Good luck today. Looking forward to hearing the news.

Good luck jj . Sounds promising to me!

Morning!!! Wow, lots of nighttime activities!!!! Good luck to all of you with 'happenings'!
Trace Don't worry..you are doing fine. It is so hard at the moment and you are probably a bit scared about tumbling into PND again. I've just bellowed at DS from the other end of the house as he has a totally excessive Spiderman fixation at the moment and is also going through the 'whys'. After the 10th time of answering why spiderman has a face?!?!?!?!?!? with more and more imaginative answsers, I shouted 'cos he has'!!! Arrrghhh. DS then came to find me and said 'mummy, you my best friend'. Oh the guilt!

On the waters issue, mine went with a little splosh to start with the first time. Each contraction then squished a bit more out but it was clear.

I had a really annoying tickly cough last night which culminated in going into the bathroom to have a real good cough which developed into being sick which resulted in a wee leak. I gave up then and went in the front room! Oooh it's so undignified!

I've started on the rasberry leaf tea now...ooh feels like the home stretch!

Chutney good luck today. So exciting.

Trace hope your appointment goes well.

JJ Ooooooooooh agree sounds promising enlist some helpers for the tidy up.

Veggie and Beans thankfully my odd discomfort and sickness went away yesterday afternoon so feeling like me again.

Have a good day all.

It's my first real day of ML and I have planned lots for this week (mostly cleaning) but will be so fab to do it bit by bit rather than trying to do all the cleaning washing etc over the weekend.

Time to have a shower and at least feel a bit more human - doula advised me to lie on the sofa and try and get as much rest as possible in case the whole thing takes ages to get fully started - sounds like a good plan to me!

Your doula sounds like a v sensible woman JJ.

One question for you all: are you having any thoughts about your borth partner? DH is mine and though I'm 100% confident that he will stnad up for me when needed I'm getting a bit hacked out with his continual negativity over the hospital, my first birth and so on. I know he found DS1's birth disturbing (it was fast, he had the cord round his neck and there was a bit of a panic at the end though all was OK), but he seems to be assuming that the hospital will mess up, that none of the MWs know what they are doing, that I'll be better off in the main delivery suite with doctors (when I'd prefer to be in the MW-led unit if possible), that I am mistaken in thinking that keeping upright will help things move along and so on... I'm sounding really negative here but it is niggling me. Thing is, he's perfectly entitled to his own opinions over the birht of his child, but I'm going to be the one doing it! Any ideas how to discuss this tactfully, given that tact is not my strong point?

Congratulations lal & tyv!

I'm still here, haven't been feeling very well which is why I haven't been posting. Last couple of days I've started having lots of twinges and have had a couple of mild contractions so hopefully won't be much longer now!

I'll try to catch up later, but hope everyone's ok

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jj rest sounds like a good idea. When I was in the earlier stages labour last time I became fixated on getting the perfect playlist on my MP3 player for my lovely perfect birth experience. This involved setting up a new laptop, transferring all my music onto it, installing software & then finally selecting the music, with many many glitches on the way. I was up till 2am when I'd been planning to go to bed at about 9pm and bitterly regretted it afterwards - I feel like I've never caught up on the sleep I missed that night (and I'm not even joking!). Needless to say, I didn't once use my MP3 player during the birth.

Effie difficult one, don't really know what to suggest. Have you written out your birth plan yet? If it were me I would just complete the birth plan myself, present it as a fait accompli and go through it with him point by point, making sure he understands each point whether he's in agreement or not. But then tact is not my strong point either...

rosmerta sorry to hear you've not been feeling well - sounds like you're on the home stretch though. Maybe we'll get a baby arriving on the due date!

Effie - I second what Cat says. Let him know firmly but fairly, that this is what you want. And that you're sure things will be fine. Reassure him, but stick to your guns.

Things with DH have been a lot better for me since I had my show on Friday night. I think he's suddenly realised that this IS going to happen and that I'm the one who has to go through it! But sure there'll be arguments aplenty afterwards. But must remember how much I love him and respect him!

Oooh, Chutney - hope all has gone well and you've had a little nipper. Very excited for you.

JJ - sounds imminent - wooo! I got up this morning and went for a pee and just before it came, a little squirt of stuff came out from my middle bottom (not front or back bottoms, if you know what i mean!). I wonder if that was anything, or if it was wishful thinking on my part! Nothing else happened. BUT I did shave my legs just in case! Hee hee!

Morning all, it is December!!!! Scary!

congratulations to lal and tyv, excellent news!!

Me and jj were meant to be going out for lunch today! Blimey, that is a dramatic way to get out of it!! I told the other girl who was coming out with us that jj seems to be having her baby and the conversation went
"When it her baby due?"
Me: "I think the 8th or something"
Her: "Bitch"
Hahahahahahaha! I think she may be a wee bit overdue and jealous. (By the way she was only joking and would probably kill me if she knew i put it in here, but will never know! I thought it was funny)
Anyway good luck jj if you are reading. If you want me to come round and help you tidy up then I am more than willing!

DH has blown up our birth pool, and it has a puncture!! Oh no!

In other news, my MIL is gone! So I can slouch around today, nice. Think I am going to go and do my yoga DVD.

effie I can understand why that would worry re your DH's opinions on birthing stuff. I think you need to brief him on what you want, at least it sounds like he will be forceful though which is a good thing? Do you not need to decide in advance where you will start off if all things are going ok? I.e. that you will be admitted to the MLU and only move to the other part if something is going wrong?

Actually writing my birth plan would be a good idea, you're right . I was planning on it being my first job on ML but it will see if I can get it done earlier and use it as a talking point.

LOL at the MP3 compilation PD, I had all sorts of elaborate plans for labour as well, turned out to be a) get to hospital b) give birth . Which is partly why I've been delaying the plan. I do need to put stuff in about ABs and so on this time though.

Beans: glad your DH is being more supportive

Oh and the MLU is down the corridor from the main delivery suite, so transferring is usually not a problem . I'm not sure if I could get in the MLU anyway, I asked if it would be OK due to the GBS thing and the mw said the decision would be made at the time.

Actually Effie thinking about it, have you checked whether the ABs will mean that you aren't allowed into the Mothers Suite (MLU)? Can't remember if they are going to be administered IV during labour or not.

My birth plan said waterbirth, which wasn't possible in the end because of meconium in the sac, but I wasn't given the option of going into the Mothers Suite as they said they had to hook me up to monitors. They also put me on a drip, and I've never been able to establish why that was. I have asked why I was not allowed an active birth on several occasions and have been told by one midwife that there was no reason I couldn't have been mobile and another that they do not have the kind of monitors & drips that allow you to have a mobile birth at Homerton. I don't know what the truth is but it might be worth giving them a ring to check it out if you haven't already - if they say that you should still be able to have an active birth then you should probably note down the time and date of the conversation and the name of whoever you spoke to on your birth plan so you are armed with it on the day. Sorry to be negative about the Homerton again, but I did get the impression that it is more convenient for them to have you in the delivery room on your back unless you are in a good position to argue otherwise.

oh x-posted there...

Am back from my CPN appointment...she was very lovely and yes I did weep throughout! She feels it's highly likely to be linked to stopping my pills and is talking to the consultant today about what she wants to do - was due to start citalopram 2 days post delivery but they might change that to now instead. She's ringing me later with the verdict! Does anyone else have a kind of 'loss' feeling about their dc1? I've worried so much about how she will deal with the new arrival and it's only just struck me to think about how I will deal with it! Am scared that the new one will somehow spoil what I have with Lucy and that our relationship as it is will be gone forever. Probably why I'm feeling so bad about my lack of tolerance with her at the mo, because I feel like this could be our 'last chance' to be enjoying things together and I don't want to ruin it. Does this sound like nonsense?
Effie - I have concerns about dh too...last time was all very much emergency and there were times when I think DH made things worse by taking a dislike to certain scbu nurses etc, which just made me feel like I had to defend them and justify the care we were getting, and I'm a bit worried he'll be the same again. Think it's their protective instinct but they don't realise it adds a pressure - not sure what the best way to approach it is!

Morning everyone!

There have been so many posts since Friday, we nearly need a new thread .

Congrats to lal and YV

abby Glad things went well at the hospital. I'm really excited we have the same section date, our bubbas will share a birthday.

chutney Good luck for today!

trace Sorry to hear you are feeling so down. It must be really hard having to change your medication at such a difficult time when emotions are all over the place .

mibbes Hope the check up goes OK today. How every exciting. It sounds like things might be getting going for you. It must be the tea!

I haven't received my secret stork either. Now I've posted this, it will probably arrive today!

First day of maternity leave today, so many things to do but so far I've got up late and been on MN . Yesterday I was planning to clean the inside of the windows today. I might just have a nice sit down instead! No point overdoing it

trace glad your appointment went well. Re new DCs - do you have brothers & sisters yourself? There are 5 of us in our family and I can very vaguely remember my youngest brother being born. Don't remember any feelings of jealousy and have never felt any resentment towards my siblings at having to share my mum - I love the fact that there are loads of us!

Can't remember how old Lucy is but very soon she won't remember a time when it was just the two of you, and you'll probably struggle to imagine it yourself. Yes your relationship is bound to change - it would change over time whether you had another baby or not - but that doesn't mean it will change for the worse.

PD: the mw told me that they administer the IVS through a canula then disconnect the drip so you can move about. I didn't get my waterbirth last time either (meconium as well) but I wasn;t moved from the MLU, they just got a doctor in to do an episiotomy (and he was v good). I did end up on my back being monitored though, I think you're right in that they prefer you like that!

Good point re: siblings, I love having a big sister and shudder to think what it would have been like as an only child - who could I moan about my mum to?

Hope mibbes is OK, I think she was going in to be monitored this morning. D'you reckon Chutney has had her baby yet?