Due in December 05

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OK, it's way too early to test yet, and I'm probably tempting fate here, but I've got classic morning sickness, the dates are just about right, and I'm pretty sure I'm pregnant. And I've always wanted to start one of these due in threads .

And if the blue line winks at me in 10 days time, then I'll come clean and post under my real nickname.

Any one else?

Mum is fab, i've got 3 older brothers so am youngest and only girl so although parents have grandchildren from the boys they say they can't help but feel even more excited this time round. Not favouritism you understand, just that it's their little girl who's having the baby! Most people know about the pg as dh was unable to keep it secret but i think we'll appreciate the support if anything happened rather than people wondering (and guessing wrong) what the matter is.

Mum is fab, i've got 3 older brothers so am youngest and only girl so although parents have grandchildren from the boys they say they can't help but feel even more excited this time round. Not favouritism you understand, just that it's their little girl who's having the baby! Most people know about the pg as dh was unable to keep it secret but i think we'll appreciate the support if anything happened rather than people wondering (and guessing wrong) what the matter is.

sorry about double post!

it was my mums birthday last week and i w as so tempted to put it in her card. Trouble is my dd would have been around and she is the one person I am adament should not be told.

I think I'm going to ask dh if we can just tell people - It's too exhausting keeping it a secret - I have to watch what I'm saying the whole time.

Quietly - I had a small bleed the night before last - so got a scan done asap (I'm just over 6 weeks) and saw two sacs and heart beats!

No idea what the bleed was about, but have been told that multiples & spotting are quite common?

Terrified I will start bleeding again - every time I go for a pee, I'm expecting bad news.

Nemo/scully - I'm not telling anyone yet either - don't want to tempt fate.

Does this mean i belong to both threads then (Nov and Dec?)
I'm on the Dec stats...whooppeeee!
Feeling like absolute crap anyone else?
yawn..puke...burp..f... sorry for vulgarity

evening all, hope you are all feeling OK.

I am really feeling nervous about this pregancy, with dd its was pure excitment I was so niave and just went along with everything, with ds it was great too, but now I just keep worrying all the time. What makes me so special to be lucky 3 times in a row, what if something goes wrong ? I am convinced I can't be lucky again.

i know of many people who have m/c, so far more common than I once thought, I am really frightened, each time I go to the loo I half expect to find something.

I think part of it is, I'm feeling a bit rotten and I didn't have any symptons with the other two.

oh just ignore me, sorry for being negative, I just want to get to the scan, then I think I may relax.

morning all
golds think the worrying is normal hun im another who is checking for blood every loo trip.

I had 2 early mcs at 5 and 6 wks and also a missed mc in dec so am going to ask gp for early scan at around 7 wks [hopefully will make it that long. Its weird cos this is now my 5th pregnancy but i only have one son....hopefully will have 2 kids by dec

I probably wont feel better until I have babe in arms.
Soryr all bit of a miserable post but im so scared and cant actually see this pregnancy turning out any different to my majority....
Stomach cramps are getting me down as is the nausea etc as i think its more anxiety than ms

((hugs)) nemo, I'm another one who keeps rushing to the bathroom to check for 'bad news' it is of course over zealous pg cm..but i do worry so. nemo this will be my sixth pg and I have three children, so I'm sorry you to have gone thro so many losses. Keeep your chin up and be positive, this is the ONE for us both!
I'm terrified and yet longing for first scan....the times i have climbed on that ultra sound bed and had bad news and 'empty' scans has put me off them so much, but I just keep thinking of dd2,(conceived after m/c) whos heart i saw beating at 6wks and how happy that scan made me.
have low down stretchy cramps on and off which make me nervous but i do know they are perfectly normal.... we shall be grey haired by dec then ladies!

Dramaqueen - i saw the heartbeat at almost 5.5 weeks, i have my next one on Monday which is nearing 8 weeks. Do you think it's promising (good sign) when the heartbeat is detected that early?
I have all the same worries too, but too sick to care at the moment, feel like i'm dying..

cha cha apparently when u have seen a heartbeat there is less than 3% chance of something going wrong

chacha - always a good sign when they can see the heartbeat.

do they only do early scans if you have suffered a m/c before ?

I can't stop feeling nervous about it, I feel all panicky, I don't know why. I just sailed through the last 2, but this time I think every twinge, every ache every feeling is something not quite right.

Feel free to tell me to shut up and stop worrying. I suppose if I think more positively and just get on with it, I probably won't be so tuned in to every feeling

golds i dont about the early scans as such. I had one with ds due to bleeding. However it wasnt offered despite having had 2 mcs before having him. This time I am requesting one as i had a missed miscarriage in dec so i thought i was 15wks but baby had died between 8-9 weeks. So personally i couldnt go through that again thinking everything is fine and its not.
Dont worry about panicking on here cos thats what we are all here for. I can understand about every twinge etc..

Hi all- I feel kinda the same- although I don?t have any personal experience of m/c, so it?s not nearly as bad for me. Not so much about twinges etc but on/ off symptoms- yesterday was feeling rubbish and today full of energy- even forgot I was pregnant over lunch just now, had a bit of ?damp? feeling (sorry to be graphic!) and the first thing that popped into my head was ?oh bother I?ve got my period?, was about to ask if anyone had any tampax when I suddenly remembered and went rushing to the loo. Nothing to worry about there, but realised I hadn?t felt sick, tired twingy etc all day- so now worrying about that.

Is that what happens if something is wrong- do the symptoms lessen or is do they just come and go anyway? Sorry I know this must be a hard thing to think about if you?ve been thought a m/s ? don?t mean to upset anybody

Kit x

I?ve managed to wangle an early scan- Tues next wk- as phoned up to speak to my new gp (who seems much nicer) & he suggested it, due to PCOS. Apparently this can have an affect on the pregnancy (but I?ve been told by docs for the past few yrs that I?d have trouble getting preg even if I was trying- which I wasn?t!) and also the fact the my periods have been so light/ irregular (even on the pill) that the due date my last (nasty) gp gave me may be totally off!! All fun and games- not really convinced that any off them know what their doing!

kit it depends on pregnancy all mine have been completely different...with ds i didnt even know i was pg just bleeding a lot so gp suggested scan to see what was what and there was ds. With missd mc i had the worst symptoms ever i felt sooooooooo ill. Right up until i had surgical procedure my body felt pg and even for few days after. It is completely different for everyone

Well those stats are most promising! Less than 3% chance - am feeling better already
I had an early scan as i have a private obstetrician. He has been with me for 2 years and performed both my laparoscopies. As I was diagnosed with early stages of ENDO and then an ovarian cyst he is probably just keeping a close eye. I can't complain though..am glad for it.
Thank you for all your replies, i am not feeling so bad now and DH is cooking some chips, only thing i felt like..sure hope i can keep it down this time. Here's hoping ;)

Dramaqueen couldnt resist popping in and saying, congrats !!!!! well done you!! I will keep my fingers crossed for you, i wont be ttc in the immediate future, hope you get the best xmas pressie ever!!

It's gone really quiet on this site all of a sudden, what's that all about?! Guessing lots of you drop in to the site during work and are too busy in the evenings! Not having kids yet i do the opposite! Dh is asleep on the sofa having spent a taxing day partaking in liquid refreshment (think he believes he now has to drink my share as well - it's a hard life!! )Did another test today to make sure as it's driving me mad having to wait for first scan, etc. Feel like been pg forever yet have only known 12 days - how did you established mums do it?!!!

boowidger and others who are feeling nervous about if your pregnant or not.... or will the baby stay. I respect that we all having past experiences happy and sad that shape our reality with regards to being pregnant. I have had sad/grief times with unborn babies but... I want to offer my perspective / experience of pregnancy 1st and 2nd time around from a positive perspective.

I have not done a pregnancy test. I can feel that I am pregnant. It was the same with dd1. Just knew and felt it. Everybody has a different relationship with their body and how it feels. But for me it feels sometimes abit bubbly... I feel a density there. I do give this area attention. What I mean by attention is I connect with my baby / womb on a sensory level and this for me seems to heighten the senses and inner knowledge that I am with child.

With dd1 before we just conceiving I used to rub my belly and say in my mind or outloud... I am a mother... I am ALREADY a mother. And make the space warm and ready... a wee nest for the coming child. A kind of meditation (everyone has a different way which is most comfortable for them).

Yesterday while trying to find something n the house I came upon notes from my first pregnancy. I described feelings of well being, contentment, happiness. I am this way again. I do feel tired and grumpy/irritated sometimes (but that is in the minority) and have been having a siesta with dd during the day. And am starting to sleep better at nights after a period of being very wakeful and wandering around the house abit.

Anyway what I am trying to say with the feelings of wellbeing etc is that I while I too always check when in the loo! lol I think that is instinct too! I am going with the flow. I believe the more content and less worries you have about the pregnancy... well the baby feels this and is more happy and content to stay and 8 months or so... be in our arms

Golds - if you are worried, ask for an early scan, your GP can refer you to the Early Pregnancy Unit at the hospital.

Well my worries became more last night - yesterday afternoon I still kept getting the cramps, last night we went to a barn dance, I didn't dance, just sat there watching and still the cramps were there. I popped to the loo and there was blood and when I wiped myself (sorry if TMI) we dropped kids off at my mums and dh took me to A&E.

There I had to indure a awful internal, the doctors said that if you are miscarrying the neck of the womb opens, mine is still shut, so potentially everything will be OK, if the pain or belleding gets worse I have to go back immediately, they have booked me for a scan at 10am tomorrow. Thankfully the bleeding has stopped, but I feel totally drained.

Has anyone else experienced this and everything been OK. I am terrified if I go tommorrow and theirs no hope.

Also how early on can they detect a heartbeat ? could I go tomorrow and they see something and still have to wait a few more weeks ?

I was always undecided whether I wanted another child or not, but now its here I want it to stay.

Sorry for being miserable, haven't been through this before and just wanted some reassurance/advice. Thanks

golds hun i had bleeding wiht my ds who is now a bouncy 18mth old. I had a period type bleed then more bleeding 2 weeks later so didnt even realise i was pg. GP did test which came back pos then like u i thought well bean isnt going to survive anyway. However when i went for check like u was told if cervix closed then it could be due to infection..it was just that i had a uti and was given antibiotics then a scan where ds was happily beating away. Good luck hun and take it easy, i know its hard but try not to get too stressed out

Hi Golds

In my first pregnancy, I had some bleeding at 6 weeks. I had an early scan (using the internal probe type thing - can't remember the technical term ???). They could see the sac in the right place, no heartbeat could be found because it was too early. A scan a week later at 7+, showed a heartbeat and my daughter is now a healthy 2 and a half year old!

I also had period type cramps consistently for the first month at least, and most of my friends have also experianced this.

There are never any guarentees, but from what you have said I would think and hope that everything will be fine.

I have just found out that I am pg again, and due on 18th Dec. But this time, I have been having a brown discharge / blood for 12 days now. (even since before my period was due!!). I have an early scan on Fri, but for some reason I have convinced myself that this pg is eptopic! I fully understand that stress of having to wait for appointments to confirm that everything is OK, its an absolute nightmare!

Its a pity they could not just do some type of test at 4 weeks, which confirmed that everything was be OK, and you were guaranteed a healthy baby!!!