Due Dec 08 -- Getting Ready for final push (in every sense!)

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Here's a new thread for us all lovely Dec Mums!

Kayz hope your friend is OK hopefully baby just resting now.
Veggie yeah i've got the consultant doing the C/S who apparently won't have anyone junior / newbies with them (fingers crossed emoticon!) I'm down as staff and first up excluding any emergencies, but will reiterate the needlephobic situation at my appointment the day before for sure.

On the size thing - I was told by one person today that I "can't possibly be that far along" and then 5 minutes later someone else said "geez you must be just about to pop" - nice......

veggie - I took dd swimming last year and a woman said "ooooo isn't she tall!" without even asking her age! It cracked me up - actually she was short for her age! People are strange...

trace-i took DS into work one day on a day off as we were going to lunch and my workmates hadn't seen DS for a while he was about 18months old, he was a bit overwhelmed because a lot of the community nurses where in the office and he was a bit quiet, the neonatal discharge nurse asked me if i was concerned that he is ok as he seemed a bit slow. the poor little bugger was just a bit shy.

KMP my bump is getting so big that i don't know if it's just me but the rest of me is starting to look slimmer. I'm hoping that this baby is starting to eat up some of my fat.

I find it hilarious (when I'm in the right frame of mind!) how people have such strong opinions on everything - whether it concerns them or not! We chose to find out the sex of this baby and someone at work had a go at me, saying that we had spoiled the surprise for everyone and that it was selfish!!! They said it was like opening your presents before Christmas!

Thanks for all the info on c-sections. I'm veering between relief at not having to go through what I did last time and then fear at the fact it's major surgery and quite scary. I am reassured by the tales on here of reasonably limited pain and quick recoveries. I know nothing is guaranteed - but at least I won't have to sign up for six months of physio like last time!

Was going to post more but I can't remember what... you lot have been very chatty today! I had a fab day apart from being reeeeeeely tired midday and DD being really tired too but as usual she didn't want to go to sleep. She would have slept if I'd taken her out in the car but I didn't feel awake enough to be a safe driver so just battled through. I hope it means I sleep lots tonight!

Hello and welcome to catdean >waves

veggie - Yeah I was thinking that for a bit - you probably are as I bet you've been eating healthy - I'm going through a real eat anything and everything phase again - and i had a mini melt down today about the size of my thighs..... i really hope i'm not getting as big as i fear i am..... i heard sometimes you possible lose weight towards the end of pregnancy? Anyone else confirm that one???? [hopeful emoticon]

Verso- i don't know how i missed that you were having a CS, you def need some home help if your DH is not going too be able to do much. Really your DH should talk to his mum about being a bit helpful.

Chutney thanks for the incredibly kind offer but luckily all the baby's stuff was with us and not in storage so all present and correct. I was really touched by you thinking of me though.

They still have not found most of the missing things. They asked for estimates of the value of the missing items today which doesn't bode well. DH has been having heated discussions with them so we will see what happens tomorrow.....

On the plus side, we should have Internet by the end of Friday.

Thank goodness Pixsix - have been thinking of you and all you are going through. What a nightmare.

hehehehehe Kmp it's very funny i was just about to post a message extolling the virtues of Waitrose seriously creamy dark choc ices, maybe no so healthy. But i did make a quiche from scratch inc the pastry for dinner, and i omitted the cheese.....but i put about half a pound on my roast potatoes.

veggie i dod that too -- and i also buy half fat cheese and put double the amount on top of my spag bog! Either that or a grate some for DH and eat half of it while I'm waiting for pasta to cook, and then think i'm doing really great when I don't put any on my dinner!
Well done on the Quiche..... I struggle with pastry cooking!

LOL Kmp, i hope we can manage a bit better weight loss techniques when the babies come out.

Oh that reminds me who was it that was saying they had a friend who had a cs because she didnt want to lose her figure??? i hope she lost her figure, how does having a VB make you lose your figure??

Morning.

My friend and her baby are fine. They didn't keep her in but did say if she has another day of no movements they will have to put her under a consultant.

Veggie It was my friend that had the CS so she didn't lose her figure. She apparently read somewhere you don't get as many stretchmarks and you lose the weight quicker. She is quite a bit bigger than she was so it didn't really work.

Honestly you think you are managing to keep up then suddenly find yourself way behind! Ds seems to think I should be playing with him though so shall attempt a catch up later

Morning all, just quickly popping in, will catch up properly later.

I've been feeling very tired & drained the last few days, not sure if its just the end of the pregnancy or my low iron or both! Managed a good night's sleep last night though so feeling a little better today. We'll see how long it lasts with a very active toddler to chase after

See you later

Morning girls, trying to find the time to do a big catchup and read everyones news!

Feeling very grumpy and grotty. Sleeping badly, DDs ill and DH doing my head in.

He keeps saying how on earth will you cope when the baby is here if you are this tired now when it's not. Have given up trying to even explain a little of the exhaustion of late pregnancy/bad sleeping/discomfort.

He keeps having a go at me about letting DD's watch tv and making "helpful" suggestions about things I could take them to/do - which would be great if (a) I wasn't heavily pregnant and knackered and (b) they weren't ill and ratty and (c) it wasn't freezing.

He also has an irritating habit of comparing me to other mums we know without realising that he only sees the external front put up by people..."X was full of beans and said all was fine when her third was only a week old"..."Yes, but every new mum seeing her husband's friends will tend to be fairly positive about it all, it's unlikely she would choose you to sob about how tired she is!".

Have two cross DD's at home and no chance of a break at the weekend as he's booked in lots of stuff, including house viewings on houses we have no intention of buying at the moment. All I want is a little bit of chance to sleep at the weekend! Grrrrrrrrrrrrr....Feeling like the world's most rubbish mum at the moment, I'm finding the girls exhausting and just can't fathom how I'm going to cope when the baby arrives. They've decided they hate their nursery and pre-school and sob hysterically whenever I mention it - which doesn't make life much fun either .

Okay sorry to moan, feel better now! Will go and catch up and feel awful when I realise all the far more serious worries everyone else has!

just popping quickly also after being so proud of my from scratch quiche, i had a really bad night of indigestion which culminated in me brining the quiche back at about 3am this morning and now feeling like i have a hang over. Oh well i can't complain too much as i'm off to a prenatal massage this morning with DH & DS so nice family outing and pampering.

Kayz-not that i'm glad but i hope she realised that a CS isn't the walk in the park she thought it would be. I have to say the thing that can contribute to figure loss is not having as much time to concentrate on that sort of thing (watching weight, exercising) after the baby comes.

Have skim read all your posts so apologies for missing lots!

Formula: I didn;t use it, but the best tip I've heard is to see what's available at your local corner shop/garage/24hr supermarket for emergencies. Think they are much of a muchness, so don't get sucked in by the advertising. I think Aptamil are a bit notorious at appealing to middle-class mums as a 'premium' product when there's little difference between it and the other brands. Oh, and they aren't allowed to use terms like 'closest to breastmilk' now cos they can't be substantiated!

Cat: welcome . I'm another one in N16 and have booked into the Homerton. Re: a home bith, it does depend if they have cover on the day, so you may want to be prepared to come into hospital anyway. Pack pillows. If you're in the mw-led unit it's a lot less medicalised and they have a nice birthing pool. I had DS there 2 years ago and the care overall was good AND the place was clean. Postnatal care was a bit rubbish but then it is in most places.

Another tip to those planning hospital births: if you have to stay in, before your partner leaves make sure he buys you a card for the patientline phones/tv etc. Or you will end up wandering the corridors looking for a machine that works.

And Cat if you are planning to breastfeed there is a La Leche group that meets regulalry in Born on Church Street. In fact Born runs a lot of events and has adverts for other stuff, so worth a look.

Hatty: thin kyou need to have a long chat with your DH, or get someone else to do it. I am exhausted looking after one toddler and being pg, let alone two, and post-viral ones at that. A bit of cbeebies at this stage is not going to hurt them - if he objects then ask what HE is planing to do to entertain them

hello cat - used to live in stokey, now in bounds green N11 (hello invisibile from the other end of the 102 bus route)

have been doing a lot of reading but no posting.

EP - someone mentioned that you have sent a grid round with people's emails/addresses. i thought i sent you an email with my details. did you not get it? i can send it again - let me know in case i didn't get your email right.

hatty poor you - sounds rough. lots of cyber hugs is all i can give you.

Off to the consultant this afternoon to find out current size of baby and beg and plead for a C-section if it's as big as I think it is - keep your fingers crossed for me.

Re Aptimil, I think it was one of the midwives who told me that it was considered the closest to breastmilk, and it is what they gave DS in hospital when I couldn't get him to BF, so I just decided to stick with that.

Hello WG - I know the 102 well!

Katie - good luck with the consultant - hope you get what you want!

hatty - its perfectly reasonable to be finding it hard right now - sounds like your DH is expecting too much. Personally I definitely felt less knackered after DD arrived than before, as at least when I got to sleep, it was restful!

pixsix - hope you have some success with your movers/storage people.

Feeling a bit perkier today than have done lately thank goodness - somehow managed a bit more sleep and its amazing what a difference it makes! Glad you're also feeling a bit more rested rosmerta

WG: I dodn;t get your email (or it has vanished into the system somewhere!). Could you resend to personal not business at gmail dot com (no spaces etc.)?. Also anyone else who would like to be added to an email list .

katie good luck for the consultant. I'm seeing mine today too. Is anyone else still having appointments every four weeks? Obviously I haven't got that long left now (!) but with DD by this stage I was being seen weekly. I guess it means they're confident there's no reason for concern and I know they tend to be a bit more relaxed with second or subsequent pregnancies .

hatty I second Effie's suggestion to ask your DH what HE is going to do to entertain your offspring. I am sure that men really don't 'get' late pregnancy first time round - but I think it's a bit less excusable when you've already got children. He should know by now! How about just announcing on Saturday that you're going back to bed? (I got really fed up at one point wanting a lie-in - you know to the reckless hour of 8am or somesuch - and DH not understanding so eventually just said "I'm going back to bed". Astonishingly, he just accepted it and got the message . Worth a try?)

Feel very odd today. More positive than in a while but at the same time very very weepy - which is a weird mixture! Got all misty-eyed on the primary school tour, seeing all the little children in their uniforms filing neatly down the corridor. My baby is growing up!!

I know it's premature of me but I find as this pregnancy nears its end I more and more and more want to have just one more child. I just don't think it's practical though, and it makes me sad that this is probably the last time (despite horrendous heartburn and insomnia last night ).

sigh< Time to stock up on more Wispa bars methinks!