Anyone due July 2009 ? Bring on the BFPs for a summer bubba !!!

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Hi, I'm also on the June thread but officially my due date would be 4th July 2009 so thought I'd better set up a thread for all these summer babies.

Got 3 BFP's yesterday although technically I am only 3+2 weeks. Would love to symptom spot with fellow early testers. Surely there must be more of us out there !! I can't be the first

Oh Marvonia what a way to wake up! Just read your post....

christiana how absolutely frustrating that you cannot get the care you deserve on NHS. It is a worry isn't it that they are so overstretched - I remember when I had DS everything was very busy at the time, not enough midwives etc. He is a September baby and I think popular month (seems lots of christmas conceptions!) and that year there were pregnant people everywhere in our area. But even so why don't they have the same system for all of us? I am angry for you.

Hello to newbies!

I'd better get back to work too, really not wanting to do anything productive today.

Hello - I'm due on the 22nd July and wondered if I could join you? I only found out last week and we're so excited despite the fact that our house is a building site right now and we have a 15 month old DD who is a lovely, lively little soul! MS is pretty horrendous - wet plaster and paint smells don't help - I didn't have it much last time so if anyone's got any bright ideas on how to combat that one then I'd be very grateful!

Welcome to newbies and congrats.

Not sure where you are christiana but sounds like you've been treated really badly. If you live anywhere near Hamshire the place I go to for private scans sounds like it might be cheaper (i think dating and nuchal together (two sep scans) are £170). i can give you details if you are near enough to me.

Have been reading back and mav, yes dd2 is a teenager, shes17 (dd1 is 20). i think they are both worried because i was quite ill last time and for dd2 this is coming out as aggressive comments. She is slightly better about it all this week, i'm sure she be ok about it in the end. My mum gave me a big hug when i saw her at the weekend but I think my dad is still adjusting -TBH I think i am too! Just want to see the scan now and then it will all seem more real. Thanks for lovely comments about being number 3 or 4 or having an older mum

ready2pop sorry to hear about your bf problem. You really must feel all over the place. Sorry.

Welcome catty29

Welcome to all the newbies and congratulations!!

Christiana I also think that having to wait til 15 weeks for a scan is unacceptable. Were you planning on having a nuchal fold scan done as this needs to be done between 11 and 14 weeks?
With ds I was slightly unsure of my dates as cycles were irregular and when I got my date for my dating scan there was a possibility that I would be after the 14 weeks (they wouldn't do the private nuchal scan until after I had had a dating scan) so I got on the phone to mw, explained that I wanted nuchal scan and timing probs and she managed to get me an earlier dating scan so I could then have my nuchal scan at the right time. (Just re-read and hope this makes sense )

Went to Dr yesterday to tell them and had to fill in all the usual paperwork. The maternity care here has changed completely since ds as the local unit is now midwife-led whereas as before it was a complete unit. Have to go to meeting on Sunday to get all the information about the different hospitals and the care they offer. Slightly annoying as the local hosp is literally around the corner but as my labour wasn't straight forward last time I may not be able or not want to go to midwife led unit in case of problems

Had my booking in yesterday, midwife said I'm unlikely to get a scan before the new year.

So have booked a private one for nest friday, feels very indulgent but don't think I can cope with waiting till the newyear,
would like to let the dc's know,

ms awful in eve not being sick just feel it and constantly tired.

Have an unbelievable bump will be nice to have the scan to check its just one

Welcome all newbies, hope your all coping.

Me too large glass of red! I really do look like I am with child already (but at number four i assume my muscles have gone 'pah'! or something similar, in disgust!). Am slightly worried there could be two as it's more common in older mums. Not sure how we'd cope!

yes gingermumi twins risk is suppose to increase with age and pregnancys,
am on number 4 too, so have none exsistant
muscles

Also my dad and grandad are twins so ever so slightly worried

Hi all !!! Well I am still suffering really badly with all day sickness I wish it was just in the morning , tried to wrap christmas presents between gagging at the smell of sellotape!!!! just don't know what to do with myself to top it all my bank phone me to say my debit card has been cloned as someone had tried to withdraw money from America while I was using my card here so they knew straight away it was being used fraudently so stopped it now waiting for my new card , so not being able to spend any money is really annoying as I have lots still to buy sorry for that long moan feel much better for that

christina I really feel for you and your nightmare of trying to fight for the appointments and scans you need it seems crazy that its your problem for shortage of midwife and its going to cost you so much its so wrong this postcode lottery of care my friend needed a special cancer medicine hampshire you can't have it on nhs but surrey you can so she ended up renting in surrey so she could have it. It makes me so Off to bath my girls catch up later xxxxx

Hi all. I'm due 4 July. Booking in tomorrow, scan just before Xmas. Feeling a bit worried about how I'm going to cope when baby arrives though - DD is 21 months and I was just starting to feel myself again, and like I was coping with it all. But all you with 3, 4 or more will wonder what I'm fussing about

ready2pop sorry to hear about your bf problems. My milk has also stopped, but as DD is fairly old it hasn't been too traumatic for us. You may want to try the pregnant and BF support thread - perhaps someone there will have some advice on how to keep going if that's what you want? Or at least it's somewhere to talk about your feelings.

Am I the only one who can't get on with my DH when I'm pregnant? Just everything seems to annoy me, and I remember the feelings from last time around. Poor guy, in my more lucid moments I can see quite clearly that it's not his fault

Right, off to cook dinner...

ready2pop sorry - just saw you have posted on that thread and no-one has replied. I've not been on it for a while

I'm not a bf expert, so the only suggestions I have are:

• to find a copy of 'Adventures in Tandem Nursing' (it's a La Leche League book). It talks about weaning during pregnancy . I got mine from the La Leche League website but if there's a group near you you may be able to borrow a copy from them.
• or call the LLL helpline on 0845 120 2918. You will get put through to a local group leader, and my experience is that they are both kind and very well informed.

Sorry for the insensitive post a few minutes ago.

ghostbuster, i know what you mean - ds is 20 months and although i didn't have pnd and was delighted have ds it's only recently that i think i have relaxed and fully adjusted to a new life with a baby. Having another one can feel a bit daunting at times - but i think most people, even with the most wanted babies and pregnancies, has moments when they dive under the duvet wailing "what have i done"

i cried bitter tears when dh brought me a lemon frappuccino the other night instead of the watermelon one i wanted so it's not just you

congrats to newbies!

Hi guys

Such a lot of new pages on here since I last looked

Sorry to kookykid mavorina and christiana You too cracked me up with your MIL stories!!

My ex-boyf mum was mental, she used to take her top off when she got too hot after eating a roast dinner and sit there in her bra, she would then exclaim 'what' it's my house.

She was called Oonagh and she dated people through a cristian agency, the phone went one night and I answered it and a guy said 'hi is that Gill?' and I said yes and it turns out he was called for Oonagh and she'd placed and add and used my name as she thought hers would put people off. She was very dramatic and used to barge in in floods of tears all the time. Most weird bit is that she used to ask my ex to massage her feet and then make orgasmic sounds when he did - needless to say we split up after 4 years for many reasons but I was never going to let her be my MIL!!!

I have been feeling tired out too - been very tearful last few days and have had a really bad cold but feeling better today - cooked tea for the first time in weeks tonight, I made chilli con carne and rice it was yummy

Hi again to all the new people - I must sit when I have some time and read all the new pages proparly and get to know the newer people

Hope you are all okay xx

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readytopop, so sorry about your milk drying up, sounds like a nightmare and the last thing you need on top of the pg hormones. hope you're ok.

christiana - very at your maternity care in Kenya. Why can't it be like that here

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and don't be so hard on yourself about feeling rubbish. I think we all feel like that

I'm making sure that rather than collapse into bed each night, once ds is asleep I just take an hour or so for myself, have a nice bath and relax. have treated myself today to some lovely Decleor stretch mark cream stuff so am going to pamper myself a bit at home to make me feel better.
(I'm sure it probably doesn't really work, but it smells lovely and leaves my skin really nice, and seemed to have an effect last time, so it's good enough for me )
also finding that eating little and often (even if that means popping to the shop as soon as I think of something I feel like!) is making the sickness a little easier to cope with.

I think your dh just sounds stressed and overworked and probably deep down he is just worried about you. which is coming across as negativity I'm sure he is as pleased as you about the lo. He just wants you both to be ok.

try to just leave him to it until his work eases up a bit. focus on yourself if you can. (easier said than done I know!) but whatever little things will make you feel better just do them. your favourite sweets. a nice new body lotion or moisturiser/face pack. it doesn't have to cost too much. but it will all help. and this sickness stage will hopefully pass very soon.

ah, sorry to hear you're having a rough day with dh, christiana - maybe he's just really worried about you and it's coming across as a bit gruff rather than sympatheic. the viral meningitis must have been really scary for you both.

my chin is all spotty too and i have days when i shuffle around like the great unwashed. I find a bit of Lancome flash bronzer for the face makes me look less like the living dead. And Dandelion pink powder by Benefit is fab for healthy cheeks (though you can use it all over the face). Mac concealer and It stick by Benefit sort out the chin and if i can be bothered with makeup, Stila eyeshadow in Kitten is gorgous on the eyes, it's a shimmery beige that looks like a crushed pearl and flatters everyone without being too much.

otherwise, i find just surrending to slothdom for a day or two helps until i can be bothered to make the effort again. i take to my bed for an hour if i can with something like Forever Amber by Kathleen Winsor, a cup of tea in my favourite mug and something like radio 4 on the in the background

gillyan, i just did a most unattrative snort at your post, still giggling about it.

god, oonagh wasn't irish was she? it always seems like the absolute headers are Irish (and usually from belfast). i'm probably related to her...

Christiana, that sounds really hard to deal with especially in the freshly pregnant and vomitous stage when everything revolves around the pregnancy for us pregnant people, and it seems crazy that it doesn't for everybody.
And I am totally with you on being ridiculously unattractive - podgy looking tummy, hairy dry legs (moisturiser makes me feel sick and so does shaving and waxing is too much to cope with on top of MS), shuffling about shivering in thousands of layers of baggy clothes, exercise makes me feel sick so I am indoors on my butt all day long (it's even gone numb today as I literally have sat down all day). And on top of that I am inexplicably too scared to actually have sex (as if DH even fancied it!) in case the baby gets shaken about and gives up the ghost clearly I have gone mad. I do not remember this feeling from last time. I think we did it lots in the first trimester last time. Anyone being similarly paranoid about sex?
Mavornia I would like to swap makeup bags with you please!
Gillyan your post was hilarious!

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what news from US?? I've been round at in-laws snaffling down squid and mango today. she's not pregnant again is she?!

[mavornia's penchant for celeb baby gossip rears its ugly head again]

o, must add, there is a great but horribly addictive site called www.makeupalley.com where the mostly American posters go into the most minute detail about makeup and perfumes, most of them very literate, if somewhat obsessed. it becomes hard to buy anything without checking first

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