Due March - the final thread????

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Here we go...

Norash! How are you doing? You were very quiet yesterday!!!

Kerryj - how did the midwife appointment go yesterday?

Bonym - did you get a better night with Grace last night?

Pidge - I am feeling really guilty for moaning about the pain after my CS. Sounds as if you are suffering more than I did! Its miserable, how can you properly enjoy your dds when you are so uncomfortable! i hope you gets better fast!

We also said we would never have the baby in bed with us... the first week or so we really enjoyed it, but it has started to be time to move him into his own bed. I started putting him into the carrycot in the bed beside us at night (no room for a moses basket) and during the day (if we are home) and for his first stretch at night I am starting to put him in his cot in his own room. When my mum goes I will try to put him through the night in his own room. He usually spends some time in bed with us (from 5.30 to 7am this morning) but it is getting less and less everyday. I still worry about rolling on him although I am aware of him, but I also need lots of cuddles from dh which means Niklas would be on the edge of the bed and my back would be turned on him - more risk of rolling on him.

Well finally me and my mother had a bit of a fight last night. She interfered a bit too much when she shouldn't have done and I really have had enough of hearing how 'all my babies were sleeping through the night at 1 month', 'I never let any of my babies cry' (we are 6 children) - my mother can't even remember when my bloody birthday is so I don't see how she can remember any of that!
I have to talk to her today, everytime she comes I get stressed and miserable, I really forget how to laugh and smile when she is here. Something has to change for the next time she visits! Trouble is this morning she has got up and is acting as if nothing happened! Typical!

Harrizeb - that is a good suggestion - I will definitely try it. Last night dp seemed to be taking up more than his half of the bed, with the result that Iris ended up with her head partially under my pillow ... gulp. Project moses basket training begins this weekend.

Leogaela - I think birth however you do it is a pretty brutal thing for your body. And there's nothing like a bit of complaining to make you feel better . I've noticed a real transformation in how much I can do at the 2 week mark. Yesterday I even made pudding and cooked supper - whilst my parents looked after Iris. It was actually a treat to do some cooking rather than being a permanent milk machine!

Your mum with her babies sleeping through the night at 1 month - good grief! What a trial. Sounds like the showdown was necessary. I hope if I'm ever a granny I avoid all these pitfalls. Fortunately my own mum's memory is so bad she doesn't seem to inflict her own expertise on me. In fact the only thing she can remember is that I wouldn't feed, wouldn't sleep and took 3 days to be born! Not the model baby.

BoneyM - how is Grace doing on the sleep front? We still find that Iris drops off to sleep really easily, but then wakes up hollering after 5-10 minutes. I do seem to remember with my dd1 that they sort of have to learn to get to sleep and then stay asleep.

Pidge - LOL! there is the difference between your mum and mine! Mine has a terrible memory (hence the birthday thing that I cant stop mentioning!), but she remembers everything as being wonderful. She never remembers the bad stuff. Well she was on best behaviour today and it was much better and she apologised to us at dinner tonight!!!
And I agree, there is no easy way to give birth! we did a huge walk today and I realise that I am still way off from being back on my feet. the walk was half of a midweek run that I used to do at lunchtime when I was marathon training - I am dead on my feet this evening.

What has happened to Norash?????

Niklas threw up for the first time today! could be something to do with being bumped around in the pushchair for hours during the walk. he has just taken me about 3 hours to settle to sleep this evening!

Hey gals,

Sorry for the silence and thank you all for the concern.

Well where should I start. Here goes, last night no sleep pain like I have not known it before. Decided to go in to delivery suit around 11am. Monitored for 2 hours, contractions not regular. Cervix intact.

To cut a long story short, nothing is happening. Oh well hope it all happens before tuesday. I am now resigned to my fate.

I am lucky that I have a wonderful hubby who is being very attentive, even though I am a cow at times. Anyway ladies I promise to keep you posted.

Norash - that's disappointing for you! And don't worry about being a cow to dh - in my limited experience I think you can expect it to last a bit longer !

Hope you are feeling OK and the pains turn into the real thing very soon!

Thanks Leogaola .

I am just thinking now that he has to come at some point, can't stay in there forever can he?
He'll be here soon, we just cannot wait to see him. I hope Niklas is doing better now.

Goodnight ladies,

Got to rest and keep my energy reserves up. Will update on any twinges. All the best KerryJ.

Hi Norash...thanks for thinking about me - you've been in my thoughts, too! Had mw appointment on Wednesday and she offered me an internal. Put bluntly, absolutely sod all is happening - my cervix although soft is still very high and not effaced or dilated in the slightest!! Good lord, when is this baby planning on arriving? I do appreciate I'm not even at due date yet, but I am already soooo impatient!!! Extra paranoid about going too late, as this would jeopardise my home birth, which I am very very keen on.

Are you planning a hb Norash??

Hell no KerryJ. I am not that brave. Are you having a home birth?

Is anything happening yet? I am just getting really tired at the moment. I am trying to get as much rest but it is so hard to sleep at night.

Hi Norash - yes, a homebirth is the plan. Have a birth pool set up ready in our dining room, and am desperate to use it (particularly after watching several wonderful looking water births on Discovery Health yesterday!!)

Nothing at all happening here, apart from my patience gradually wearing thinner and thinner due to all the "what, still no baby" comments which are coming with increasing regularity. Even from the woman in the fish and chip shop yesterday!!!! For heavens sake, I haven't even reached my due date yet!!

Hope all is well with you. I'll keep checking in for any news. Sending you some labour vibes (((((((((

Norash - Niklas has been absolutely perfect today .
He even played happily on his own for about an hour!!!!

KerryJ - if its any consolation my waters broke when my cervix was in about the same condition as yours is now! Niklas was almost 3 weeks early

A bit of an update. Had some pinky coloured discharge this morning (sorry if tmi!!) but it was watery (so I don't think it was a show?) and has now stopped. Have been feeling periody today, so hopefully this means things may be on the move??! Didn't have a proper show until in labour with my ds, but hoping the pinkness might mean some ripening is going on. What do you all think - anyone else had this prior to labour?

KerryJ - I have no idea but it sounds promising!!! good luck!!!! Let us know!

xxx

good luck to all those still waiting for their babies....
do we have a march babies thread yet in post natal clubs???

I iwll check and if not i will start one

I don't think we have one Popsycal. Good idea!

Hi everyone - haven't had a chance to log on for a while as it's all been a bit chaotic here. Wednesday night, Grace basically screamed from about 8pm onwards and nothing we could do would calm her so at about 1am dh thought we ought to call the doctor to check nothing was wrong. He arrived, checked her over and said that it was hard to tell if anything was wrong but she did appear very distressed and thought we should take her to hospital (!). This we did, and they proceeded to take blood and a lumbar puncture which was very distressing. She finally fell asleep about 4am. Anyway, to cut a long story short, they thought she may have a cord infection, and wanted to test for meningitis - they started her on IV antibiotics to be on the safe side and we have had a very distressing and exhausting couple of days. They were also concerned as she was jaundiced and dehydrated. We were told today that the bloods have all come back ok and that jaundice levels are reducing so they have discontinued the IV antibiotics. They want us to continue with oral antibiotics for the umbilicus but tbh I don't think it is infected and we feel disinclined to put more unnecessary medication into her. I feel very upset and think now that we maybe over-reacted by calling the gp but as dh says, we can't re-write history so have to move on and start getting back to normal.

Leogaela - hope things have settled now for you with your mum - it must have been so stressful for you. I am lucky in that my mum is more like yours Pidge - has been back and for here most days, washing, ironing, shopping and cooking and looking after dd1 whilst we've been at the hospital. We couldn't have managed without her and dad the last few days, but even so, I feel that my space has been a bit invaded and crave some peace and quiet.

KerryJ - sounds like a show - this sounds identical to what I had 5hrs or so before going into labour so I guess things could be well on their way for you now. Sending good labour vibes to you and Norash.

Well, Grace is starting to stir so I think a feed is coming up! Will check in again soon - or are we on a post-natal board now? Haven't had time to check yet!

hi everyone
just read your thread bonym and it all sounds v difficult. my dp who is a doctor said to me that they'll often respond like that as to get it wrong would be so catastrophic.
i know what you mean about the screaming. i know it might sound stupid and it is very time consuming but our little one really reponds to my swiss ball. you know the big balls you can get from gyms or active birth centre etc. we sit on it and hold him and bounce rigorously up and down. it really does calm him down more than anything. as soon as we stop bouncing he cries again unless he's fallen into a deep enough sleep but it relieves the moment! please try it at least.
i'm still feeling half mad and feel as if i'm floating and not in the real world. i've had a couple of very emotional days when i feel as if i can't do anything right but am totally in love with our baby. my dp is back at work tues after 3weeks with us and i am dreading it. i will miss him so so much.

Bonym, what a nightmare! Is grace OK now? If Niklas screamed for ages and I couldn't do anything I would also call the doctor.

Thankfully my mum left today and I am feeling very guilty about the way I feel. I told her she could only come for a few day next time... but it won't be for a while. We are meeting up with some of the family for a holiday in the summer, but are in a different apartment to her so not so intense!

Sweeney, can your dp come home for lunch or can you meet him? dh did when he first went back to work and it really helped me settle into looking after Niklas on my own.

Just a note to those that haven't seen it yet - Popsycal has started a March thread in the post-natal section.... see you there!

Norash - are you still around?

BoneyM - what a fright - I hope Grace is back on the mend. That's the trouble with babies, you can't tell if they're just screaming because they're in screaming baby mode, or if there's something genuinely wrong.

Leogaela - sounds like it was a good time for your mum to depart - hope you're enjoying some time to yourself with your dh and Niklas. My parents have departed too, so just me and dp and dd. Thank goodness it's Easter hols for dp (he's a teacher).

We've had a lovely Easter Sunday - made Nigella's chocolate Easter egg cake and ate far too much of it. Also had a friend of dd's over, so they played together which was nice.

Operation "Get Iris out of our bed and into moses basket" began one hour ago!! She'd been awake for 2 hours, is worn out, has fed, I rocked her for 15 minutes during which time she kept going to sleep and then waking up, finally put her down and as I moved away from the basket she opened her eyes, 5 minutes later she was screaming. Another 10 minutes rocking - same scenario. Dp is now on duty! We could be here some time.

I seem to remember dd1 was the same - a total snooze monster, except in the evening when you wanted her to go to bed. It took us 3 months to sort her out, so only 10 more weeks to go!

Sounds like I should be on popsycal's postnatal March thread ... will check it out when I next log on.

Good luck norash and KerryJ. By the way KerryJ - that sounds just like how my show began - watery, pinkish discharge, which was more mucousy a few days later. It was another 6 days till labour began. I was one week over and had a homebirth - so I hope you see some action soon and get the homebirth you want.

Yep

Hi all, yes I am still here and just waiting . No show but loads of 'braxton hicks', just loads of pain and nothing to show for it. I wish he would come already.

Does anyone know what is happening to kerryJ?

Sorry for the silence but it's just a bit disheartening being practically the only one left on this thread.

But i'll be aight sorry for the mourne.

All the best gals with the breastfeeding and all.

Hi norash - just to let you know you have not been deserted completely - still checking this thread to see how you and KerryJ are doing. I'm sure baby will be here soon, just try and enjoy the last few days of relative calm as no matter how tired and achy you are now, you will be many times more so after the birth! [hugs]

Thank you bonym. This makes me feel much better.

How's the little one doing.

She's fine thanks norash - much more settled