Due in June 10! Longer than the Lord of the Rings!

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new thread 604 posts is far too many for one little thread, time to start again!!

Welshie,
Your comments are of course welcome. But, it;s more like the straw that broke the camels back. I feel I have given miles because I do feel that she mostly does a good job. She is very dedicated to nutrition, but I had to ask her 3 times to give DD eggs before she deemed it necessary to listen. When I asked her to give DD paracetemol oh you are going to LOVE this one she recommended "vodka socks" instead. After I got over the shock of hearing the word vodka, I realised this is not someting for her to swallow, but rather wear on her feet. It is an Estonian remedy for a fever. You dip cotton socks in a 50/50 vodka/water solution and put them on. Then, put dry wool socks on over them. And this (allegedly bring down the fever). I was horrified and strictly forbid this practice from being implemented on my child. I asked her to fill out a daily sheet that would say what the did, what she ate, when she ate it, when she slept, etc. (nurseries use similar forms). She refused to use it. Said she had too much to do already. She asked that she inform me of these things verbally instead. I reluctantly agreed. But, she rarely informs me, unless I go up to her room and question her on each item. But, I let this one go. The toys that are not put away in what I would regard as neat and tidy fashion has been irritating me for some time. But, I have let it go for along time. So, today, I just asked that the parts go with the right toys. And, she got really defensive and argued with me. A rather unpleasant confrontation. And, I feel this is a step too far. I could of course be biased, but I think I am being reasonable, and she is out of line.

Morning all, have completely lost track of where we are, will see if I have time to read the thread properly.

Feeling v tired and 'bleurgh' today, fortunately the house is not looking to horrendously untidy for our visitors tomorrow, just the bathroom needing a bit of sprucing up. I reckon if I play my cards right I can get dh on the track of that. He had a completely manic hoovering afternoon yesterday, fantastic. And isn't sleeping properly so has taken to loading the dishwasher before he goes to bed (I am too lazy to do this and so do it in the morning) - I keep waking up to find a sparkling clean kitchen, it's freaking me out!

My bro is off for his repeat scan this morning so any spare positive energy sent his way would be much appreciated. We won't get the results til next week some time but fingers crossed all will be well and their adoption can proceed.

oww, Lynny you seem to have a wonderful DH! I am very glad you are both getting a lovely DD together!
I think Eleanor is a beutiful name! It could be shortened as Ellie for your DD?!

Coop, I have only been in England for a year, so the crisp craze is all new for me! I got into tea with milk and flapjacks really fast, but still don't know my way around crisps. There are so many of them is overwhelming! I grew up in Brasil, but have lived just about everywhere! Still have bnever seen such a crisp crazy culture before !

TRib, ~~~positive vibes your way~~~~~

Uwila - I understand a bit more now and can see the cumulative nature of the problem. Can you face searching for someone new while you're on your (incredibly short) mat leave? I think if you've got to the irreconcilable differences point something(one) has to shift.
Tib - hope all goes v well with your brother.
Lynny - your dh sounds like a treasure. However we must make sure you and teabelly don't sit together at a meet up - would be like sitting in a Carry On film. Fruit and veg man???? Bet he had a nice line in cucumbers!
Cooperoo hope a nice rest cures your pins and needles - I'm hoping for an early finish myself today.
Lua - don't know where to start with the British and crisps - we do like our savoury snacks. I used to be a real crisp freak but have sort of lost the urge now - I do remember one year when I was a teenager being given a box of 48 for Christmas.....

Just spoke to DH, and DD did not eat an egg today. I did not put one on the counter with a sticky note sayign to give it to her. So it seems nanny has interpreted that conversation as feed her an egg only when forced to do so.

I am remaining clam for this, but a conversation / contract review does evidently need to take place. DH is certain that she is just as "strong willed" as I am and believes she will not conform willingly. This is the problem. But, then I wonder if perhaps she genuinely misses the point due to language abarrier -- but I'm afraid that is wishful thinking on my part.

Ah, maternity leave. Oh yes, the though has most certainly occurred to me that if I let her go I could have another month off.

Incidentally, I would regards this as beyond hope. She does still have some good qualities. But, I will certainly have to adress this one ASAP.

The good news is DH is back on my good side, and that migraine that was creeping up on me did not develop further.

Oh, and it's Friday.

And our new pram arrived this morning

ooops, that was meant to say I would NOT regard the situation as beyond hope.

She does good things with DD. She teaches her lots of vocabulary. DD can count to 12 (sometimes). Lots of things she does that I certainly never taught her.

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Lynny I am crying with laughter.

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Lynny - Wanted to say Ahhh about your lovely DH, dd and dbump, but I am now filled with ideas about fruit and veg.
Lua - Sorry about the monster munch question. I guess that the answer to my 'where have you been' question was Brazil ha ha. I forgot you weren't a Brit understanding our crisp culture. When I was at Uni my Dad used to send me the boxes of 48 packs of Salt and Vinegar Squares. mmmm. Certainly made me popular. He ran a shop at the time and would send me fab food parcels instead of money. They were so exciting to get, loads of choc, biscuits, pot noodles and odd things like squid ink pasta (!)
Trib - Def positive vibes to your brother!!
Uwila - Yay about the pram, but vodka socks
KVG - It is actually very cold here today and now raining. I think I am just wobbly cos I am tired. DH is home now so I will be going for a nap in a bit as he can look after dd for me.
I get that stitch thing too if I move too fast. It can make me yelp out.
I ordered a camera from Amazon (digital) as our last one broke but it took so long to arrive I thought it was lost and so told them. They re-sent it and I now have two! Why did one take three weeks and one take three days?? Our post is so erratic. I wouldn't mind if everything took three weeks, at least I wouldn't expect anything any sooner. Ho hum. On the up side the camera is great. I just have to work out how to use it now before dd's bday party next Friday.
I do also have to arrange to post back the replacement one.

Hi!

Well I had a bad night too - really fierce diarrhoea [sick] I'm ok now though. Was worried that baby would have it too and would be floating around meconium so called NHS direct and they told me he wouldn't have been affected

oo Redhead - signing with babies sounds v interesting - can they tell you when they want to go to the loo?

Glad you had a good scan Lynny! CONGRATUALATIONS ON YOUR GIRL!! I'm glad your dp is so happy about your baby - what a suprise it must be for all of you! Lol at your fruit and veg man!

Hi Lummox! Maybe your blood pressure was high because you'd been rushing? Mine was unusually high at the docs the other day until I took some deep breaths and calmed myself, then it was fine again.

KVG - I get those big stitch pains if I turn over without "preparing myself" first. I'm another fan of pickled onion monster munch!

Coop - I've heard that pins and needles in hands and feet are common in pg, but teeth??

Uwila - how exciting for you - a new pram!! Can't wait til we finally get ours. It must be tough living with a non-family member in the house, let alone one who is responisble for your dd. I think it would do my head in no matter how good the nanny was.

Hi everyone,

Welcome to Lynny and big congratulations on your girl

Ummmm not getting these 'turning over at night' stich things, but I am getting them when I try to walk at a decent pace. Really annoying because I walk to most places and I have to stroll all the time which adds an extra 10 minutes or so.

What else..? Gosh, haven't posted for a day and a half, although I have been watching you all #evil laugh# I haven't had the time or the motivation to actually put anything constructive down on here, bit sad!

Oh, and we still don't have a name

It's ok, I didn't think you were ignoring me at all

The walking thing is annoying, last time I walked for England right up until the day I went into labour and we went into town for a piece of tea and cake

Poor you Charley, isn't it typical, one week you can't go, the next you can't stop going

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we shop online with tescos and rarely have cause for complaint!! the food is alway the same quality as i would pick up, you do get substitutions but you can reject these if there not what you want. We've found it saves us loads fo time and money.

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ooooo the nanny saga continues. DH had a chat with nanny this afternoon. I normally insist that it is my job and I will take care of it. This is largely because it is I who is home all week, and so really should be the one to deal with any issues that arise. Well, I guess she ended up in tears and said that she feels that I only talk to her when I have something to criticise. And so on... I don't think this is true, but I can appreciate that she does.

We are all going to have a talk this evening when I get home. Oh joy.

Oh, also, she feels that as she has a university degree in nutrition that she knows more than I do and it is just wrong to give her eggs in the morning and she can not do it. My view on this is that while she may be very knowledgable on nutrition it is my decision what my child eats. And it is not her place to do do therwise even if she disagrees. What? Like I'm the first person to think eggs are for breakfast???

Oh well, I am going to draw up a list of things I like about nanny for tonight, hopefully that will bring some good vibes to the conversation. But, I don't thinkI am prepared to give in on having her tell me how to raise or feed my child.

Tonight should be fun... not.

Any opinions anyone has are more than welcome. After all, if I am being unreasonable, I want to be told about it before I go and stand my ground.

Uwila, My two pence...

I think you can have many different nannies. You can probably find someone that above all does what you tell him/her what to do. Or, you can get one that you trust his/her decisions. You can get one that above all loves your DD, or you can get one that leaves your house impecably clean... Not sure if it is realistic to expect to have all of these traits in a single person.

I am used to get money for my brains and qualities, IYSWIM, and would not put up with a boss that would expect me to do something just because he told me so... Ok, I am not a nanny. But I do have techs that work under me, and grew up with a culture of maids. I much prefer to get the ones with a good brain, than one that just does what I tell them....
It is a very personal decision... Nothing wrong with preferring one or other.