October 2005 - time for nr. 2 !!!

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i always wanted to do that

bonniej.. I put on a bit when i felt horrid and did nothing and then lost it again when i got back into my routine. I'm a size 8 so i would have thought i'd show quickly but only got a small bulge and still in my jeans (they are tight when first washed!) and at night i have to undo buttons. I really wouldn't worry too much as had scan yesterdy and baby doing fine - even waved it's little arms at me.

ohh baby was 2.4 cm and i'm 9+5

thanks Lexie and Yokefleet,I feel better now! there always seems to be something to worry about doesn't there! Congratulations on your scan Lexie, it's wonderful to see the little one for the first time.

I actually feel like it's all going to happen now and that we are going to be parents. Seeing the baby wave really brought it home that it's a little person. so yet so scared.

seems like we all are doing better now!!! pheww, and time it was - guess we deserve it

and our dp/dh's too

my scan is next wednesday! if it's anything like with ds i will cry again - it's just so amazing to see them for the first time and to actually realise ' it is happening!'

haven't put on much weight yet; but i did lose easily 6lb in the first few weeks! BUT my tummy is already huuuuuuge
dp keeps teasing me with twins!!!

Hello again ladies.

Congratulations CPT on twins, and Lexie on your scan.

Glad to hear people are starting to feel a bit better now. I haven't been on for a while as I have been feeling so rotten. It has felt like one of those horible flu bugs where you are completely wiped out and can't even walk across a room without feeling as if you've done a 100mile hike. And the mood swings have been horrendous too, I've found myself having to distance myself from my friends at work just because their normal everyday chat irritates me so much, and little things like I'd say I felt tired and someone would reply 'oh me too, i hardly slept last night' and i just want to shake them and shout 'oh shut up, you haven't got a clue about being REALLY tired, aarrrgghh'
I'm just thankful I haven't been sick yet. Plenty of nausea though, usually cured by a nice big burp Dh has been great though, did all the cooking when we had visitors at the weekend and putting up with me sitting on the loo for ages while ranting and crying

Finally woke up this morning feeling vaguely human again. I got my booking in appointment through for 7 April - i'll be 11wks by then so goodness knows when i'll get my first scan.

Anyway sorry for rambling on, I can't do it to anyone else yet as no-one in RL knows.

It has been so hard to cope with ds while I have been feeling rough. I have been a very bad mummy for the last couple of weeks. I am beginning to think this was a really selfish decision. How on earth am I going to cope with 2?

yes agreed trice!!!! same here; and ds can't walk yet so have to carry him alot too

how old is yours?

I feel the same triceratops. I've hardly taken little dd out at all as I've felt so rough and find it hard to gather the energy to play with her or even get her dressed in the mornings . I am also thinking how I will manage with another baby, but then again we won't be feeling like this when the baby's born (hopefully!). It's just the thought of having a crying baby at the moment that scares the life out of me as I have zero energy. Still haven't had any midwife appointment through and am 11 weeks now so think they've forgotten about me. might ring today. Anyway, my shopping's just been delivered from Tesco and there's a cream eclair with my name on it, so I'm off for now xx

Awww CPT congrats on the twins!! And lexie...I'm , can't wait for my scan...not till april though! Still feeling very very sick and pukey... and the problem with looking after the little one thing is getting to me too, DS has had a really bad stomach bug and we think he's actually become allergic to his formula...he's had nappies like...like...well you don't want to know! And gathering the courage to change him and not vomit all over him has been difficult! Not been out in ages either ....trecking all the way from Merseyside to Yorkshire this weekend though...heehee nervous laugh

(Ooh that is without a car, and with all DS's stuff!)

Hello all. I am off to see the midwife for my booking in appointment at 3pm. The leaflet I got says that the appointment will take an hour! Seems like an awfully long time.

We still haven't told a soul but it is getting harder as I have had to tell a couple of white lies. I just don't feel ready to share our news yet (it's our first)and have people fussing over me. The symptoms I had last week (bit of nausea and sore boobs) have completely vanished and I don't feel pregnant at all any more. At least the nausea was reassuring but I don't particularly want it back!!

I read somewhere that women have similar reproductive health to their mothers. Has anyone found this to be true? My Mum said she never had any morning sickness or other symptoms with any of her 4 pregancies so maybe I have her to thank for my lack of symptoms.

take care

mawbroon, i have heard similar things about pregnancy symptoms and duration being hereditary - e.g. my gran (maternal), my mum and my sister were all late - up to two weeks in my mum's case. However i do now believe that no two pregnancies are the same. I feel totally different this time than last. I wasn't sick at all last time but was completely knackered all the time. THis time i have been quite sicky, but am not nearly so tired... at least not to the point where i am sobbing at my desk in the offic because i want to go to bed!!!! class act huh?

i found last time that when the obvious symptoms went away i got paranoid about something being wrong. I am now in that situation again - my nausea has pretty much gone and although i am still bloated and tired i can't wait for my scan on friday. excited and terrified about the results. will obviously report the results when i get back. 11 weeks today, so roll on next wednesday!!!

congrats to everyone who has had good news with scans, etc.
well, i have now lost a grand total of 7lbs and my urine has ketones in it, which is what every atkins follower aspires to as it means my body is now using up its own fat reserves!! still feel dreaful. have now taken the rest of term off sick and feel better that i haven't got that hanging over me as it was getting a bit stressful. i have a window of about an hour each afternoon where i can try to get some food down me and it stays down. otherwise it all comes back up again. am just about getting enough water/fluid down to stop me dehydrating. baby's fine though apparently, little parasite!

saw the midwife yesterday and today to do my booking in - it's absolutely ridiculous the amount of paper that they have to fill in. it's no ownder there are a shortage of midwives, it must be so stressful. i'm going to ring up the fmc in london now and try to book a nuchal scan. the mw has given me some alternative numbers in case there are no appts available.

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Afternoon all.

Got booking in appointment tomorrow. If anybody is around, can you let me know what I can expect from it?

Still sick in the mornings, though tireness tends to ease mid week as I get used to pushing through it.

Bit stressed as DH sis guessed the other day, due to some careless comment somebody made about me at health spa, and so we said yes but keep it a secret, but she then asked DH if she could talk to family members about it etc. So feel a bit like we're telling people on her say so rather than our own. But hey ho, can't be helped.

If anybody could let me know about booking appointment, that would be great.

Elf

I had my booking appointment in week 7 and it went something like this:

mum's family health history
dad's family health history
(esp hereditary conditions and congenital diseases)
first day of last period to discover due date (to within plus or minus 2 weeks)
history of obs/gynae stuff incl previous pregnancies, m/cs, method of previous births etc
she will probably take blood for various checks (can't remember exactly what she sends it off for testing but she takes LOADS!!!)
she asked me if i wanted HIV checks amongst other things
she also tests your urine to make sure there is no protein, which i believe is a symptom of pre-eclampsia
then she asked me about my current symptoms (although she wasn't very sympathetic!!) and told me to make my next appointment for week 16.
as i know her from my last pregnancy, she also asked me to let her know the results of my scans, but i don't think that is normal!!!
the whole thing was done at my house, but she won't come here again until after the baby is born (hopefully!!). from now on i will go to the local health centre or the doctors to see her.
at 16 weeks she will be able to listen to the heart beat!!!

i think that is about it, but feel free to chip in (everyone else) if i have missed something obvious. from what people have said, the service you get from your midwife changes drastically depending on where you live. i think i won in the postcode lottery!!
phew........

Thanks for the info.

I'll let you know later if I won or lost on the postcode lottery!

Moomin! I've lost 7lbs too! You poor thing... Strangely my appointment for the booking in scan is for when I should be 14 weeks...which p*es me off a bit because the midwife promised to make it so that I could have the nuchal scan and in the leaflet it says they don't do it after 13 weeks....hmph! I was hoping to get out of a blood test with that one! (As I wouldn't mind having a Downs baby anyway).... is it normal for your midwife to not want to see you again until 24 weeks?! This sounds really stupid to me..... that means I'll have 2 sets of midwifes, one set of people that know nothing about me and one lot at the hospital who just do scans... who'll do my home birth?! Argh!

My care seems all a bit of a mish mash too. Went to my doctor at 5 weeks to set the ball rolling but I don't have booking in appointment till i'm 16 weeks!!!! Talk about booked up. The doctor did book me a nuchal scan when i'm 12.5 weeks. If i hadn't had my early scans and a nuchal i wouldn't have had a scan till 23 weeks. How do people wait???

Oh and talk about SIL. I hide everything when she comes round but left an envelope on the side with a few scribbles about nct classes and she read it - can you believe how nosey that is and started asking questions. I think i covered well but she might have guessed. Not seen her since.

Hi everybody,
I am joining again after a long time. Work and home was taking all my time.
I couldn't quit my job as my manager told me that I could take leave whenever I wanted.He was being so nice that I could not refuse.
While going through all the morning sickness, tiredness, nausea... let me tell you some nice things about having a baby in October.
Baby born in october,in general, will be smart, beautiful/handsome,intelligent,will have a religious bent of mind,will be cheerful.
Don't ask me how I know all these about a baby born in October. You will regret asking.

Fastasleep - I was in the same position with my booking in appointment/nuchal scan. I asked them if I could change the appointment so I could get the nuchal within the required time frame, but I couldn't, so asked why they bothered to send out the information if no one was actually getting their scans in time (she told me that most people get their first scan too late) - she said it was just bad luck. This doesn't seem to bode well for the rest of my care...

Have booked a nuchal scan at a private clinic, and have it tomorrow. Booking in appointment not until the 23rd. Seems like ages away...

gosh, everyone's care does seem to be really varied. the awful thing about not having a booking appt until 16 weeks is that you miss the opportunity to discuss a nuchal, unless you're on the ball and you organise it yourself, but it's nice to have all the info beforehand. You're also too late for a cvs - if you want to go that way - as they can be performed at around 11-14 weeks. this is important if you do need to have info about genetic disorders and you have a difficult decision to make. of course you can alwasy have an amnio but that's usually done later and i guess if you need to know it's better to know sooner rather than later. of course this won't apply to most women but it would really matter if there are potential problems.

i've been referred for consultant care now anyway, due to my last preg (placenta praevia and c-section) and the fact we were under the consultant whilst ttc, and i'm chuffed about this. he's already given us an early scan 'freebie' just to put our minds at rest. i'm entitled to another scan on the nhs at 12 weeks and then one at 20. i booked my nuchal at the fmc for 12 weeks too so i'm going to be seeing plenty of this little bean. little? sorry it's probably the size of a house, sucking all the goodness out of my sorry frame! I've also got a booking with my gp at 13 weeks for a thorough going over. the care in this part of the country (west mids) does seem to be quite full-on, compared to some others of you.

i have to admit i am shocked!!!
i thought the level of care was relativley consistent, but the difference is shocking!!
i saw my midwife within 2 weeks of telling the doctor i was pregnant. i had the info about my 12 week scan from the hospital within a month and they sent the 20 week scan appointment date the week after i went for the 12. The queue when you get there is enormous, but at least the paperwork seems to work.
this time i have been referred to a consultant as i am special but the midwife led care i get in the community is exactly the same - booking apptmt as soon as, bloods and urine again at 16 weeks (and heartbeat ) and then i have been told that if i am ever worried, to pop into surgery before her apptmts to have a quick listen to the heartbeat!!! apparently i can do that once a week if i am feeling paranoid.

are late booking apptmts only down to not having enough midwives to see everyone? it is pretty poor isn't it? do you get the queries line number and the emergency number before that or do you have to wait until you see the midwife?

Joseyjo - have no information re queries line for midwife - didn't even know that they might have one!

Have no idea what happens after my booking in appointment - whether I need to see the doctor again and when (my GP is cr@p - when I went to see her she was less than helpful (to put it politely), so have switched GPs and have my first appointment with the new GP the same day as my booking in appointment (have the day off work) - fingers crossed it will be a more positive experience!. Did think about going back to see my GP for more information, but the first appointment upset me so much (because it was so cursory and uninformative), and the receptionsist guards the appointments book so jealously, that I decided it was more stressful to try and see the GP again than it was to wait for my booking in appointment (pathetic, I know...)!

Am looking forward to my booking in appointment - hopefully will be able to clear up a few things, however am a little worried that treatment so far may well be just a taste of what's to come. We looked into private midwives, but they were a little out of our pricerange, however think I might have another look around and see what other options are about.