October 2005 - time for nr. 2 !!!

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i always wanted to do that

Kiwifruit - i am so sorry that you are not having a positive experience with midwife led care...
last time my doctor treated me like a fraud and told me "there is no point coming to the doctors, you are not ill you are just pregnant"!!! and that was after his locum instructed me to see him.
my experience of midwives has been very positive if not consistent - by that i mean that i have seen all the midwives in my area as they work as a team. generally they are all very well informed and as YOU keep your notes, they can't forget to bring them or miss things as you can point them out.
i think the most positive thing you can do is to decide that you are in charge. they are all helping (in their own way) but your care is up to you. i really think that if you shout loud enough that they will look after you. i know you shouldn't have to, but at the end of the day, i would prefer to know that they were busy delivering babies than busy doing my paperwork!!!!!
please don't give up on the system just yet - and let us know how your appointment goes.

sorry, forgot... re the query line.
i have a local number to ring which leaves a message with the midwife team. the first one to pick it up then rings me back to answer my question. and i have asked some ridiculous questions, but they have always been lovely. ask about this service at your apptmt.
the emergency number puts you through to a triage person who decides whether to send you an ambulance, a doctor, a midwife, or tells you to do something a little less drastic. i have rung this one as well when i was bleeding in early pregnancy and they were very calming and sorted me out. no such drama as an ambulance (thank god) but a doctor's appmtmt the next day followed shortly by a scan at EPU. all was well.
anyway, stop distracting me, i am supposed to be working!!!!!!

Joseyjo - work shmirk. I'm supposed to be doing that too, but it's sooo nice outside, and work is soooo boring... And I'm off to NYC on Saturday, so a little distracted by that! Hopefull we will win the lottery soon and I can retire . Ha.

I agree with what you say about taking charge of your own care - have already started that by having private scans (dating one and a nuchal, which is tomorrow) and changing GP surgeries. Am sure that the midwife thing will be fine, once I actually get to see one... If it's not, will start looking into other options (like changing hospitals).

seems like there is quite a difference in care! with my last prgcy i was quite happy i have to say! - wasn't so impressed with gp; but didn't see her often at all; think it was only once week 20 and at the beginning when she quickly forwarded my details to the hospital. so that worked quite well! - from then on i saw my 'midwife team' at the local health center and for scans i went to hospital! was really good care!!!! - i also got a list with phone numbers. - they really looked after me so well before the birth/ during the birth / and after the birth! - so can only hope to have the same experience here now (we moved last year)

Kiwifruit - i have my nuchal scan tomorrow as well. am totally nervous about it - which is probably why i can't concentrate on what i am supposed to be doing.
can't wait to see the bean, but terrified that somehting will be wrong.

Joseyjo - I feel exactly the same. Keep imagining worst case scenario. DH, on the other hand, is very excited (he couldn't make it to my dating scan) and is hoping that the bean will wave at him... not entirely sure what planet he is living on at the moment .

What's really weird is that here in Liverpool I was at a different hospital first time round because I lived in a vaguely different area, I had all my care from the hospital midwifes (special womens hospital) and they were great, scan at 11 weeks then at 18 and an appointment in between those, then I had scans lots because my son has funny kidneys.... but this time, different hospital for scans although they don't do births lol and they seem to be crap!! Nevermind my clueless midwifes at the surgery...ugh! They got half my details wrong I'm down at the hospital as 'miss' and I think they think it's my first pregnancy even though I told them otherwise and my DS was right there!

Try not to worry about your nuchal scans... the odds are so incredibly low.... and in my opinion Downs Syndrome is hardly the worst thing that could happen, I've known a lot of very happy people with the syndrome.

we're soooo lucky with our gp, he's an absolute star. he let me cry on his shoulder whe were ttc with no luck and he suggested we push for ivf. he told me to come back anytime if i wanted a another cry or a chat.

so when we got pg naturally 2m later i went staright back to him to tell him in person and he was chuffed to bits; handshakes, pats on back, etc. and told me i'd made his day. i remember from my pg with dd that he loved all his 'pregnant ladies' as he called us and said he saw it his duty to protect us from the rottweiler midwives! He's only young and has 3 kids of his own (and the midwives love him really).

fastasleep - it is not just downs they check for at nuchal scans and what my first son had can be spotted that way (although not always and not with him). my terror is that this baby will have the same condition and it is not compatible with life outside the womb, so would have to deicde whether to continue the pg or not at the point.
i am trying not to worry, but it is all so scary...

Aww Josey that must be terrifying ....best of luck... I'm always nervous about scans at the best of times!

thanks...
the scan we had at 7 weeks was ok, so i am hoping this one will be as well. dh is being positive, but i am not very good at that.
the worst bit is that assuming all is well, then we have to wait 9 weeks till the next scan!!! how much is that going to drag? i might request another one otherwise it is really going to stress me out!
will post tomorrow when we get back anyway....

After reading this, must admit, think I have won postcode lottery! Which is odd as a friend who lives down the road and is at a different surgery hates her midwife and was at 22 weeks before her first appointment as nobody seemed bothered.
I am 10 weeks plus 3, but will have this confimed at the dating scan shortly. Midwife totally lovely. Did all family background stuff, blood tests, urine test etc, asked what hospital I wanted to go to, gave me her number so I could call her whenever I wanted or needed advice. Seeing her in 6 weeks time for another appointment. Been told that my notes will be copied and sent to hospital of my choice and I should get a letter from hospital inviting me for a scan in about 2 - 3 weeks, which I cant wait for. Then I'd get another at 20 weeks.
Got a load of free books, and a bounty pack with all the freebie and offer things. Very impressed with her and felt reassured that I was in good hands. Especially as I have only just registered at the doctors.

Also told my mum and dad last night. Was petrified as mum has always made it clear she wants her kids to be older when they have their own. Very surprised at the reactions - mum a little disappointed but said she was pleased for me. Dad very supportive and told mum not to worry as I'm "very sensible". Woah!!

after reading this decided to phone my surgery and ask why I haven't heard from anyone yet. (11 weeks now). Had early miscarriages and really wanted an early scan to put my mind at rest. Spoke to a midwife who has put me down for an early scan even though she said 'there's no guarantees that everything will be ok even if the scan is' I chose to ignore that comment as if the scan's ok I'll feel a million times better. Can't wait for my date now to see the little one (or two!!) for the first time x

I'm impressed with the midwife who runs the clinic at my doctor's surgery also. I've got a hospital appointment to take bloods etc next week which apparently I can expect a long wait for so had better take a good book (nothing new there!).

What concerned me about the surgery midwife was that she hadn't had any lunch at all and looked extremely tired. When we chatted about it, she said this was an ordinary day for her and she rarely got a break of any kind. She was bleeped in the middle of the clinic to go and help elsewhere. Despite all this, she was very helpful. Honestly these people deserve a medal!

Been away for a few days so I've been catching up with the posts!

I am now 11 weeks. Had some bleeding yesterday - rang midwife this morning and have a scan in 2 hours - how's that for good service? I am very scared. Send positive vibes my way. Will post back later. xxx

morningpaper, will be thinking of you this morning and sending loads of positive vibes your way. I'm sure everything's fine let us know how you get on xxxx

sorry to hear that morningpaper. good that you are being seen so soon. all the very best xxx

Morning all.
First and foremost lost positive vibes to morningpaper. Thinking of you.
Morning All How are you today. Here in West London its a sunny day! But I'm at work till 8.30pm so won't be seeing much of it!
Been reading all about experiences...I think I too am quite lucky at mo! (Sorry!)
My GP was v nice( sometimes she can be a bit off but was very helpful when I went to see her) I've had 8wk scan (thats when they saw twins!) Seen midwife (bit strange to start with but warmed to her afterwards.
Spoke to Consultant yesterday (lovely man)(was under his care pre conception (on clomid tabs x 2mths)As Downs blood test doesn't work for twins will have nuchal fold scan in couple of weeks at hospital I will deliver at and then normal scan on 19/4 at local hospital.(approx13wks) Now 8.5 0r 9wks (they can't decide!) and sickyness kicking in more!

Planning to tell all parents over easter w.e which will be exciting ;D Dreamt last nite I forgot to tell them AS IF!!

I am still so excited - but scared too! Sometimes wish you could have scans all the time to know all is ok!

Take care
CPTx

Sorry to hear that morningpaper - sending positive vibes your way xxx

beautiful morning
no sickness
friday
nearly easter and holiday
things are getting better

Morning Ladies, I hope you don't mind if I join you, I have posted on here before but that was as a september person but after my scan on Wednesday they have now dated my pg as 11w+5d which gives me a new edd of 02/10/05.
Some info about me
I'm 27, pg with my 1st, live in Wakefield.
Sending positive vibes your way MP

I told ds last night that I had a baby in my tummy and it would be his brother or sister. He was quite pleased and told me that he had a baby in his tummy too! He shouted hello to it through my tummy button

We are telling the rest of the family on Sunday as they are coming round for Sunday lunch [large vomit emoticon] which I have just bought the food for but I am NOT cooking. bleuuugggh

Welcome yokefleet

and good luck morningpaper

Yokefleet - congratulations and welcome to the October gang.

Lexie - good to hear you being so positive - might spur the rest of us on a bit!!! Agreed - it is a truly fabulous day!