Due Fab Feb 2009: the Curry and Cake Club

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Here is our new thread!

Is there anyone else who wants to join the Map? Email me my id @ymail.com

I am happy to join you in your virtual life swampy, it is pleasant escapism.

I share your medieval gum problems Dinky...a HUGE abcess has developed on my top right gum, I really don't want to think about what it's going to be like when it bursts - (TMI...sorry) Anyway I phoned the dentist AND the doctor to be absolutely sure and both said I could take the prescription for amoxycillin that dentist gave me last time for same problem, so hopefully I feel less like an old crone in a day or two. Do you think I could get an implant (tooth - not boob job!) for free in the year baby is born on the NHS? Dentist has said that the tooth that is causing all the gum probs will need to be extracted at some point - but I'm reluctant to be left with a gap - it'll be one tooth in on top righ back, so not quite visible but I know I'll be conscious of it.

Right, now I'm going to dish up sausage casserole and then I may even try to join the facebook group and the map.

Dinky & Pluto - My gums are looking a bit frightening at the moment too. They are always a bit dodgy (even though my teeth are good) and pregnancy has made them a lot worse.

must make a dentists' appt esp as for once it's FREE.

dribbling over thought of thai red curry I have just concocted - with smoked tofu (DH is a veggie).

It smells very very good and is laced with coriander, ginger and fresh basil.

I could do with another curry tonight. TBD isn't eating and said I have to, I don't want another microwave meal (I hate this, I need to eat, he doesn't want to, I get a microwave meal) but he won't let me call in. I think he's actually going to go and buy something though.

I went to our local on Saturday when I was on my own and called one in on Monday (because he didn't want to eat again).

I wish I could stand long enough to cook, but it's too much for me so I have to rely on him cooking. Oh and I have no money because he was supposed to go to the post office for me and didn't. I can't walk there and don't have enough money for the bus

mrsy - yes this preg, taken yesterday, so 20w and 1d.

i've had bleeding gum issues and when i tried to make an appointment with my dentist found that i'd been dumped from there list and no one else is taking nhs patients - nig fat grumbling grrr!

neerly3 - love the picture, will have to do one myself!

we did a family trip to the dentist yesterday - he said my gums were getting bad and prescribed me some mouthwash 'Corsodyl' to use 2/3 times a week

DH took me into work tonight and listened in to the baby. Strong regular hearbeat and now a little movement. I think baby has changed position as the tiny movements I've had have been quite deep and not as noticeable. Thanks for all your messages

thehouseofmirth - your fart story made me roar with laughter! brilliant. and you're a top woman for sharing that one!

TBM - poor you. no use for tonight, but any chance you could persuade TBD to cook mega big portions of stuff and freeze the extra for when he doesn't feel like cooking?

I had a day of feeling almost nothing yesterday and then today the baby's been doing some sort of gymnastic routine! Am also getting stitch pains down my side again. And am the hungriest person in the whole world!

I might get him to do that when we have things that we can. He got some pizza in today, so it wasn't so bad and he found a box of pakora. I think the problem is that we're not eating the sort of food we can batch up. I'm trying to get into the routine of making Tink's dinner to put up and giving the next day so that she can eat earlier than us because waiting for her dad is making her eat very late.

Hi everyone hope alls well! Glad everythings ok McDreamy!
DH wont suggest any baby names! after making me wait all this time as it is! He says he cant think of any and any I suggest he doesnt like! arrgh lol

Hi all
Not checked in yet today.
TBD - I've been doing a lot of cooking up of the staple stuff we eat day in /day out (bolognese/chick curry/casserole) and whilst it is a pain in the arse and takes longer to cook lots of it, I now seem to have a freezer full....and I keep bits over for DS to eat at 5/5.30 - he wouldn't be able to last much longer. I know it's not that easy for you but if you could persuade him as Mama Goose has said, it might make your life a bit easier. I'm finding I have no enthusiasm for this daily cooking lark so at least we can go some way towards eating something vaguely home cooked if we have sthing frozen.

McDreamy - that's a relief isn't it. Lucky you to have that facility available to you.

Had a frustrating day in the house on such a beautiful day (well it was here anyway) - I seem to have washing piling out of the laundry basket (how can 2 adults and 1 toddler generate such a mountain ???) but I did manage to defrost my freezer - god my life is exciting.

I have had the sky man out for the second time in a couple of weeks and still the flippin thing doesn't work properly. Told dh he could call them tonight - you just get a call centre which I get a bit frustrated with and all they do is tell you to switch it on and switch it off again before advising that there is something wrong and the engineer needs to come - apparently the call centre was busy when I asked dh to try earlier and he's now trotted off to bed and I suspect I'll have to deal with sitting on the phone with them tomorrow whilst I try to occupy ds at the same time.

Anyone else now snoring like a pig - I started this ladylike behaviour nearer 30 weeks with ds so dh is now decamped to the spare room - I get the WHOLE bed to myself hee hee (not much other action going on so I really don't care TBH).

House of Mirth, laughed at your experience with the doctor. I don't care whether they've seen it all before I would have been mortified !...

He's off next week (our holiday ) while Tink is away so I'll see if we can do a mass batch. Good idea that woman

TBM-Whats the email address?? The one above doesn't look quite right but then my brain has turned to mush in the last few weeks so probably wouldn't recognise my own email address!

TinkerBellesMum @ ymail.com

I've gone to the Facebook page and requested to join...is that right??
I feel like a bit of a dunse!

Product plug alert - I just got a Carriwell Maternity Support Band and it has changed my life already! AMZ1208 gets you 10% off at mumstheword.com (but I just snuck into MarkStretch's drawers for mine).

Dinky-I'm not worried...honest. I'm just really curious, that's how my brain works...I won't be able to leave it until I know the answer [wierd scientist grin]

i have somehow become the playschool commitee's assistant chairperson.

the women who volunteered for chair is a tool a bit dim, so guess that means my workload is going to be mahoosive! every now and again during the meeting she'd say things like 'sorry, what was that? i zoned out/wasn't listening' last years chair ended up doing her job the whole way through and no one is best pleased.

the joys of village life eh?

PT send her on the course that I've just done, that will have her running for the hills!

I did get some sad news today...

A good friend of mine recently moved away. She is in a loving marriage (if a little fragile; name me a marriage that doesn't have snags) and has 2 lovely children; a DD aged 2 and a DS aged 8 months.
They needed help conceiving both children and lets just say...she wasn't very good at being pregnant; very ill, premature labour stopped several times caused bt iritable uterus etc etc.
Anyway and I'm sure you can all see where I'm going with this, she fell pregnant again and this with absolutley no help!!! Nature has a poor sense of humour.
She has decided to fly back to the UK this weekend to have a termination because she just can't cope with the idea of another child...could give lots more detail but amounts to same ending!
I feel really bad for her...she wasn't sure how I would react so she didn't tell me about it and has had to deal with all of it on her own
When she finally told me today, all I could tell her was how sorry i was that she felt alone and that I would never judge her for making such a difficult decision.
Do you think I could say or do anymore to help???

Chilledmama - your poor friend. I really feel for her - she must be going through absolute agonies having to make her decision. I think that all you can do is make sure that she knows that you're there for her if she needs to talk. I know that there are support groups out there for women who have had to go through similar difficult decisions - maybe look out some numbers for those groups for her should she need them?

Pinktulips - looks like you're going to be very busy for the next year!

Herbgarden - most impressed on your productive day: I always aspire to batch cooking but DH always eats most of the half I was planning to freeze! DS is still abit of a selective eater (not so much fussy as generally not bothered about food, then suddenly ravenous and eating everything in sight for a couple of days) but am sure he's going to end up like DH when he starts school (all little boys seem to go that way!) - god only knows how huge our food bills are going to be when we have 3 ravenous males in the house!

General question to the mums: Am starting looking at pre-schools next week for DS to go to next September (he'll be 3 and a bit and as I'll be returning to work and will - fingers crossed - have finally potty trained him by then seems a good time to do it). Have lined up 4 local ones (hoping to get him into local primary school just round the corner from our house when he is 4 and a bit and they all send kids to that school)which all seem to have pretty good Ofsted reports and indoor and outdoor facilities. Other than making sure about staff turnover, cleanliness, happiness of children and staff to children ratios is there anything else any of you wise mothers of children who have already been through pre-school can recommend I should look into? Any pearls of wisdom on this would be most appreciated.

Dinky - My advice would be just to get a feel of the place. What do you think of the wall displays, are they up to date? What facilites have they got? How are they going to involve you as a parent, keep you informed etc I think the overall feeling of a preschool speaks volumes though. Good luck.

ChilledMama - really sorry to hear about your friend. I echo Dinky's advice. Be there for her, be a listener, she must be in such emotional agony

Dinky- I agree with McDreamy. My dd's pre school was by no means state of the art, the building was old and wonky but the staff were lovely and the children were happy.

I dreamed that I was being kicked to death by Romans.

Instead my baby kicked me ALL NIGHT. I haven't felt him during the night up until now but he had a kicking fest last night and it still going now!