Due May 2009 - The 2nd thread... our pregnancy-addled brains can't think of anything wittier!!

[SpangleMaker]

Here you go

Got home to find an appt for my booking in - on Oct 13th

I am surprised actually, having been told I wouldn't see a MW till 12 weeks - maybe the GP was clueless !

I'll be 7+3 then - I guess too early for her to try for a heartbeat ?

It made me have a hormonal "oh my god, I can't be a parent moment" Getting a bit scared of the enormity of what is to happen.

hi all,

claudia schiffer- really sorry to hear your news, really feel for you and hope you get lots of support and best wishes for the future.

thats ok MsG

ive been having real problems wiv constipation at the mo i think thats whats making me feel so bad. the sickness feeling really set in today and had such a bad headache too im sure when i get that thats what makes me have a headache and feel ill.
hoping im gonna feel better 2moro but i know that prob wishful thinking i just wanted another few weeks before the sickness set in so i could get my spring cleaning all finished and now im just getting annoyed wiv myself coz i know ive still got lots to do and just dont feel well enough to do it

been eating lil and often today so far ive had-

dry cracker as soon as i got up to stop the sick feeling.
2 slices toast
2 packets crisps (i really cant help having crisps they always make me feel better)
oh yeah then another packet crisps ooops!
some prawns
peparami
cup tea
squash
just gonna have chicken and pasta for dinner eating abit late which isnt good but had busy day!

not sure if thats too much or what but im just trying to help the sickness feeling and eating something seems to help and i just dont feel i can stomach fruit sometimes! feeling really thirsty alot though so know i need to drink more.

got letter to phone midwife and arrange booking appointment today for 8-10wks even that seems miles away wiv the way im feeling today.

Claudia- sorry to hear your sad news. Hope you find a way to get through this difficult time. Must have been a terrible shock for you.

Has anyone else been craving healthy food today? I have (although i have scoffed choccy biscuits and crisps too). Can't get enough of fresh fruit and veg. Also crave pasta but that mainly helps with keeping the nausea at bay.

Been a bit down today - didnt get the job but was 2nd choice. Bit disappointed really. Think I'll look for other promotions over the next couple of months then give it a break, and review my career path once I've had the baby...

Claudia - I'm so sorry for your loss.

I got my scan appt today, I'll be exactly 12 weeks when it happens. I got my booking appt with the midwife the other day, that'll be a week before my scan.

Have just had a huge cry and now feel better. Was feeling very vulnerable and emotional - this pregnancy has brought up some stuff for me and I was processing it today. Like my pregnancy, I find this a very reflective time. Have been feeling a bit dizzy now and then but nothing to be woried about as long as I eat regularly. Also my MS started on Monday, but is just some low-level nausea mainly in the morning, nowhere near as bitching as it was last time.
So that's my report to date!

Hi updates from here MS really kicked in during late afternon so spending a lot of time over the loo which is pleasant!

Claudia - I'm so sorry. My thoughts are with you.

Also feeling like crp, v tired and nauseous but thank god not actually vomiting. JustgotBFP* I'm glad you're getting help... but it does sound pretty awful..

Eating quite a bit, yes. I'm okay long as I stay away fromn the crisps...and I can't eat too much or I also feel rubbish. Feeling like I'm damned if I do and I'm damned if I don't... (eat that is). Can't eat sweet stuff. Can't be bothered to cook properly and have succumbed to a few ready meals. Didn't find the nausea bands helped much... am also upping my B6, and taking milk thistle in hot water - though it smells slightly of chlorine - it does make me feel a bit less grimbo.

Exercise - very impressed some of you guys are managing it. Frankly I'm impressed if I manage to get the laundry out of the machine. House is pretty messy but for a change I just don't CARE! Too busy feeling sorry for myself! hehe

Not seen a few friends/colleagues for a while and I feel sure my new drowsy, swollen boobs, pale and un-madeup state will be super obvious that I'm pg - or maybe I'm being paranoid!

Current pre-occupation is wondering if I'll go for a privcate scan at 10 weeks - which would be after I would have lost my previous MMC. Don't know. Now that I know how little money we'd have after a baby... I'm tempted to save the cash and wait for another 3 weeks for the real scan... Is anyone starting to save some money each month?? Am thinking we should probably do this...

And DiveDaisy Thanks for the hot baths info - pretty reassuring!

er.. Sorry for long rambling post!!

nauseous if you can, save cash!

For us, two children, a new pregnancy, five paycuts (for me) later since moving down the career ladder for part time work, I live cheque to cheque. In fact, my current job pays so little I'm actually having to dig into my savings each month. Just don't know an alternative right now and don't feel i can look for another job now that I'm pregnant.

After this 3rd, don't know if I can afford to work so have no clue how we'll cope. But, people do cope somehow so I know we will.

And I'm sure I'm not the only one of us worrying about money, job... am I right? Wish the worries would just go away.

OK who mentioned saladcream? It's not something I usually eat, and not something I have in my cupboard, but I'm salivating right now at the thought of a massive brown barm, with thickly sliced corned beed, onions and saladcream. MMmmmmm.

I'm convinced my colleague has sussed me. She keeps bringing up babies, and knows I have some sort of appointment on Friday. I've told her I've got the day off to look after dd who was told by Dr today she has chickenpox. Doesn't look like the chickenpox she had a 14 months ago but I still can't take her to nursery.

Anybody else with horrendous wind?

Pula sorry you didn't get your job.

Claudia..sorry to hear your news, my first miscarriage was picked up in the same way, they did a scan and no heartbeat. I was given a d and c the next day and once I was feeling on top of things went out and bought a sapling to plant in the garden just as a token towards the baby. It is in bloom now and I am really glad that I did that.
Doris..did the ondansetron make you very sleepy? I am not sure what it normal tiredness, what is medication and what is a result of losing so much weight but around 1 oclock I really struggle with exhaustion and embarressed as I am to admit it usually have to put some tv on for ds while I crash on the sofa beside him.
Hi to all the familiar faces and also to the new ones too.
I am still feeling nauseous and vomit a couple of times a day but other than that and the nausea I am loving being out of hospital and being with my son again and well just feeling human really, makes me realise just how bad it was!!!

Decisions, decisions ...

My mum phoned last night and asked how things were - I said nothing !! I am going down to see my parents and sis on Sunday - can't decide whether to tell them or not (I'll be 6+2)

I'm not sure I'll be able to keep the secret, especially if my dad makes a "who ate all the pies" comment - highly likely

Also, I know one cousin on my mothers side and my maternal great grandmother had really really bad pre-eclampsia, so I guess I ought to find out the details before my booking in appt the week after ?

I'm sure we've talked about this before, but when would you all tell close family ? I wanted to wait longer, but really feel like I want to talk to my mum about it - she is also planning a long trip to Australia next Spring and I'd hate for her to be away near my due date ..

SpangleMaker, am with you! I used to be a late-night person and now going to bed and getting up early Everyone has said - enjoy the lie-ins while you can, but I can't

Am generally OK though, but in Sweden you get NO SCANS until 20 weeks. 20 weeks! I'm constantly worried if the baby's OK, esp as I have no symptoms. However, will try and stop being a worrywart and get on with it.

I can't keep a secret under any circs so have told everyone Hopefully, it will all be OK!?!

Morning everyone

MOMINO I and understand your worry over money, I have 2 kids with 1 on the way aswell. I only work part time but my husband found out last week that he is being made redundent in january, at least it's after christmas!!!!!!!!

My personal rule for telling people I'm pregnant before I've had my 12 week scan is whether I would want them to know if I had a miscarriage.

So, that means that telling DD is a definite no-no until after my scan, as she is going to be so excited about having a brother of sister and would be devasted if something went wrong.

I've told three close friends, my brother, and DH's mother and brother as all these good folk would provide support and TLC should the worst happen.

I cant believe I am pregnant again, my daughter is 6.5months and I think I am just over 5weeks pg. I am not sure as my last period was really light, and they have been really irregular. So she will just be about 15months when this baby is born. EKKKK!!! Still excited about it tho.

Does anyone know if I'll get an early dating scan due to me not being sure of the dates?

pulapula sorry to hear you didn't get the job. Sounds like you were close, though. Can you get any feedback? It can be hard hearing it, but it's often helpful.

Jools Like the others say, I think it depends how you would feel about telling her if something went wrong - would your mum be supportive or fuss too much? I was thinking of waiting to tell my Mum but she told me she was going away at the time I'm due my 12 week scan, and I wanted to make sure she knew first (she & my Dad are divorced and I know she would be miffed if she thought he, his wife, my brother etc knew before her). It was a bit of an anti-climax - I told her at about 7w but said not to get too excited because I was worried about the bleeding etc, and she didn't! She just said, 'congratualtions. Right, when shall we go shopping for an outfit for your brother's wedding?' Rang her after the scan and she seemed a bit more thrilled. Not telling the rest of the family yet though as I don't want to have to make loads of phone calls should anything bad happen.

MeAndB congratulations You might get an early scan, particularly if you say that about your last period being really light as you could in theory be much further, if that wasn't a period but an implantation bleed. Just be aware that they may not be able to see anything so early, so don't get too worried if that's the case!

spangleMaker Thanks, Im not really to worried about not being able to see anything if I am only 5weeks but at least it would give me a better idea of how far along I may be. I am going to the doctors on Monday so I am hoping he will refer me as soon as.

Does anyone know how I can make sure I dont get the same midwife as last time (she never picked up on my pre-eclampsia)Its a really same midwife unit, I am sure to bump into her again.

I meant to say small mw unit ohhh my pregnancy brain has come back again!!!

Morning everyone. DD2 is off school today with a bug so she and I are spending some time lying in front of the tv with blankets. Just what I need TBH as has the worst night for a long time - constant nausea waking me up! Ugh. Then once I was awake worrying about work, money, a 3rd child etc etc. Why does everything seem so much worse at 3am?
Hello MeAndB congrats! Definitely request an early scan.
Justgotbfp - I love your idea of planting a sapling to remember your baby. How nice to have it in bloom now. And am so glad that you are at least feeling 'human' again!

Sympathies to all who have job/money worries - DH and I are both self-employed and in the construction industry. So have huge sympathy for anyone else struggling along and worrying about the future. I just keep waiting for some good news.......but every day the doom and gloom just keeps coming. And to make it worse the nausea and tiredness just makes it harder to concentrate so I'm making silly mistakes and forgetting things which is not helping. Roll on 12 wks.......hopefully will regain some brain power then.
Sorry, waffling on. Again.

Hi all, sorry the nausea and the tiredness are kicking in all around.

Justgotabfp- cyclizine used to make me sleepy (dangerously so!) but ondansetron was OK I was just totally whacked from the pregnancy and the nausea ( which leaves you completely drained) so If you need a nap put the electronic babysitter on a go for it (i definitely did with dd1 last time), the first pregnancy I can remember shuting my office door and "relaxing with my eyes shut" on one of the comfy chairs in my old office . Don't know what I'm going to do this time as DD1 is 3 and is reluctant for afternoon siestas although I occasionally insist that she needs quiet time!

Gettting more tired now but the nausea is still really low level, long may that continue.

Jools- just to agree with the others only tell those who would support if things were to go pear shaped (fingers crossed they won't), we've told both sets of parents and won't tell anyone else til after cvs ( I told more last time but we have the added complication of potential nightmarish decisions).

SpangleMaker, my mum was similar over my marriage and baby news. She just brushed it over and talked of other things. But then a few weeks later, she got really excited about both. I think she doesn't deal with sudden news very well; she needed to go away and chew on it for a while. And then when it's sunk in, she's all happy! Maybe the same for yours?

frazzledoldbag34, enjoy your time under the blankets!

Thanks for the suggestions It really makes it easier to clarify what I want. On balance, I think I'd like my mum to know whether the final outcome is good or bad so will probably tell her on Sunday

Hello everyone,
Please may I join the May gang? I appear to be due 29 May, saw the nurse to register at a new doctor's surgery last night and she made me decide where I want to give birth already, which was bit of a surprise! Looks like it's Homerton for me (if any of you don't know it, I think it's more famed for dealing with gunshot wounds than babies!) I'm sure it'll be fine, just wasn't expecting to have to choose so quickly.
First bubba for me, so excited, nervous, slightly queasy and craving Thai curry. Not necessarily a good mix!
Fryn

farrah yes I think my Mum is a bit like that. I wonder if it may also be hard for her as she lost her first baby at 2 days old and although she went on to have me & my brother, because it had such a big impact on her maybe she's also a little worried on my behalf.

She made me smile when I told her we were thinking of starting a family - she looked around the house saying things like 'how are you going to fit a stair gate across there?' 'oh dear, glass coffee table and sticky fingerprints!' 'You'll have to move those vases' - as if I was going to have a toddler on my hands the very next week!

Jools it's really exciting telling people, makes it seem more real! I bet your Mum will be over the moon