Due May 2009 - The 2nd thread... our pregnancy-addled brains can't think of anything wittier!!

[SpangleMaker]

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Hi Momino - I too have read the 200-300 cals thing and I'm sure that it's true but I also think it's different for different people and can change at different times of the pregnancy anyway. With my 1st PG I didn't eat much more and my body stayed more or less the same except for bump but 6 years on and 2nd PG and I'm ravenous for all things bready and cheesy! It's a major carb fest in my house at the moment! In my 1st PG I was still going out in my 'skinny' Jane Norman outfits until I was 3½ months and I got away with it!

I think the difference is that when you're PG you know there's a reason for the food cravings so perhaps your brain tells you it's OK instead of blocking those thoughts when not PG..

that's a good point about brain telling us it's ok. at the moment I'm eating lots of junk that I would normally hate (eg mcdonald's cheeseburgers) but am craving now. Maybe baby needs a bit of grease as well!

Baby takes all the fat it needs from you - no need to eat McDonalds for his development

I do believe that the odd things you crave for a short period during pregnancy are due to body telling you what it needs - like the massive lentil-mania I went into for several weeks during first pregnancy. I was cooking lentils with onion, tomatoes, and carrots, then eating this dish throughout the day. Later on I learned that lentils have lots of iron and I was anaemic (as per blood test).

Here is a question that still boggles my mind three years on: I didn't know lentils had iron. How did my body (1) know it needs iron, and then (2) know that lentils have iron?!?!

I don't know Cote but it's weird, your body does just know. In my first pregnancy there was a this period when I just couldn't get enough milk. I had never drunk milk as a "drink" before only in coffee/tea/cereal etc, but had two weeks of glugging it. When I got to my prenatal appt a week later the doc told me that this was the time when bones were gaining mass/density so to keep my calcium up! Clever old bods eh?

Jools couldn't agree more with frazzled - that could be a description of my DH too. I'll bet there is something else going on that you don't know about and he feels he can't talk to you about it because you have so much going on yourself with the pregnancy. They are such delicate flowers these boys, I tell you, it's why they don't have the babies - there's just no way on God's earth they could handle it!!

Congrats loubylou lovely to see that first image

my body isn't telling me to eat nutritionally though!

non-pregnant, I usually eat heathfully and almost never fast food. but from the beginning my body was saying 'Dime bars and vanilla ice cream', and 'fried egg sandwiches with cheese' - body must be storing fat as I'm craving fatty, greasy food. though I did go through a carrot hoummous phase a few weeks back.

i did tell my MW about not eating healthy food and she didn't seem worried.

i think my craving today for pasta and olive oil/salt was fairly heathy, wasn't it? though I am waiting for my lentil/iron craving

Congrats on your scan loobylou You're due the same day as me!

Got blood results back today, also good news, combined with the scan results & my age (37) the risk is 1:7144 for Down's, very low for the other two as well. Obviously no guarantees but I reckon I can stop fretting now

Jools about your DH's attitude. I'm in agreement with the others - I'm sure that he does care deeply about the baby but is worried & so is withdrawing. My DH is similar, but after having a bit of a heart-to-heart (felt more like heart-to-brick-wall ) he is trying to appear interested when I'm speaking to him. I'm convinced it's just to keep me happy though, I don't think he wants to face up to the whole baby thing at all yet. Eg before nuchal scan, asked him how he felt about it, said, 'I hope it goes well, I don't want you to get upset' - errr, what about the baby??

I do agree with DandyLioness though, I think it's important for ourselves, and our DH/DPs to keep identity as individuals, there is plenty of time to be obsessed about the baby when it's here. Admittedly I'm having to try quite hard at this, having waited a long time to get pg I just want to revel in it!

Great news on the tests Spangle

Thanks for the responses everyone

We've had a better evening so far - still no baby talk, and apart from half a dozen short conversations there has been nothing at all since I peed on the first stick. However, it does turn out that he is cutting back on his daily 2 hours in the pub and decided to try and give up smoking (only ever when he has a drink in his hand) without telling me.

So, I think in his own way, he is trying to prepare for the new arrival but not quite communicating his own stresses.

I'm trying not to obsess and failing completely My boobs have deflated for the second day in a row and are now tender rather than sore I have no nausea at all - can just about imagine a little bit in the morning but it is like the 2WW - might be there, might not be there. I could be more tired than normal, but I could be imagining it. Sometimes I wee more, sometimes I go a whole night without getting up. I'm starting to really quite seriously wonder if anything is still there and am considering paying the £80 for an early private scan. If it wasn't for the fact I've suddenly become really constipated today, I'd be in bits by now

Oh, and Spangle - meant to say how lovely it is to see a nuchal score like that

Jools1- try not to worry about symptoms (or lack of them). You may just be one of the lucky ones. I keep wondering about paying for an early scan too, but in the end, it won't change things and isn't a guarantee that things won't go wrong further down the line. So i think i will just sit it out for another 3 weeks. I have booked my nuchal scan for the following week too.

I wonder if anyone is expecting twins? It's exciting as more people get their scans.

Dandylioness- I try not to let the pregnancy become my only thought and topic of conversation with DH but its very hard. I love being pg (not necessarily this stage lol) but until I can share it more widely, its like a special secret with my DH and apart from MN, the only real chance to talk about things (and have a whinge unfortunately).

Luckily DH likes a bit of baby talk (baby names, cravings, boy or girl, etc) but gets a bit fed up with my "oh i'm so tired" and "oh my tummy is getting big/my jeans dont fit" stuff. I was even quite surprised that he told a couple of work colleagues about it- they'd asked if he would have no.3 and like me, he couldn't cover it up, so think he's excited too.

Hi Gals! Been busy since putting up shelves on Monday! Loads of reading to do here to catch up...

DH & I don't really talk much about this preg. I think I don't want to obsess too much, and Iknow he's scared of either something being very wrong and loosing it again, or me having a bad pregnancy experience that he remembers me having last time. Unfortunately, I dealt with all the problems - I'd have sacrificed anything to have DS. So any wee probs I feel - ie aches/pain/tiredness etc I keep to myself. I don't want to burden him. But we have spoken andhe has no preferance re boy or girl. He is paying for nucal scan and will attend for it too.

Nausea has settled well now, but occassionally I get hit by it! I did this evening on way home from work, but I think that was as a reaction to a good outcome from a VERY stressful couple of weeks with work issues.

Jools - you may be getting more used to sore boobs - mine don't feel as heavy or sore - but I know they really are - I'm just used to them now!

I've my hospital appointment on 5th Nov at 9am - now how do I make the appointment at the same time as leave DS off at school 10 miles away!! WIll have to get this rearranged!

Jools1, my boobs aren't even sore yet. And some days I'm tired, some days not. And, I'm not running to the loo like most pregnant woman are. I do have cravings and am nauseous most of the day. I guess my point is that everyone is different and some symptoms you won't have. It's hard not to focus on everything, I know. I did that the first pregnancy. If it's possible to get a private scan, do it so you can feel more at ease. Otherwise, bite your lip and do try to relax. Come on here and talk to everyone, usually helps to get other mum-to-be opionions - we all know what you're going through!

my scan isn't until next thu and i'm terrified that it won't be good news (the pessimist) but am trying to think the other way round and imagining how lovely it will be to see the little bean. It's wonderful to read everyone's post as they get their scans. Pulapula, I would be shocked if my scan shows twins! but one never knows.....

i feel bad ive just eaten 2 chocolate cakes!!
prob end up down the loo anyway ms still bad...
only time ive caved though..

spangle fab test results - woo hoo.
Jools - chill hun, everyone is different, I hardly have any symptoms at all and consider myself really really lucky!! But if you have a spare £80 and are past 7 weeks then go for a scan to put mind at rest. Dandylion is right - what will be will be and stressing out is bad for everyone including little bean thing

I'm considering prunes and custard but unsure I can be bothered - would be a def yes if DP was here to make it for me!

Oh and regarding extra cals - I heard they are not needed until end of third trimester. Why we crave stodge and bad stuff generally (Custard and prunes...hmm) is anyones guess

Jools my boobs have hardly been sore at all since about 5 weeks! If you have the cash spare, it may be wise to have a private scan. It won't take the worry away completely I'm afraid - a week later you'll still have the odd 'but is it STILL ok?' thought - but seeing bean & heartbeat will at least reassure you that lack of symptoms is ok! Are you about 8 weeks or so? If so you should definitely have something to see but it might be a bit blobby

Hi Spanglemaker, wow you have had your nuchal done quick and what a great result. I'm booked in for mine on the 27th, I had to go private though got to drive to Cardiff £180 but well worth it for peace of mind. Now I've had the scan I'm feeling a lot more positive I've even bought myself a dress for my hubby's xmas party (although I think I'll look like a ship in full sail). It's ironic really - all the women try and outdo each other glamourwise at the xmas do. Last year I was 2 stone heavier than I am now So in Feb thought "that's it I too will fit into a slinky black dress for next xmas!!" Went to Slimming World lost 2 stone then got pregnant! Oh well - at least I don't have to worry about breathing in all the time!, lol.

Since the scan my hubby's attitude has totally changed - I didn't think it would as he already has a 10 year old from 1st marriage. He is being really cute about it all although he is convinced its a boy. He's cutting down on drinking apparently (although I'll believe it when I see it).Not that he's a nasty drunk or anything but it does worry me - I mean it's not normal to drink every day is it?

Momino I too am craving a bit of junk food (cheese and onion crisps and mcdonalds cheeseburgers yum yum) but I've also gone off spicy food which a normally love - shared a curry with hubby last night felt llike crap ever since and normally live hot/spicy food. I don't really feel like cooking much either - something I usually love doing. All I feel like eating at the moment is pasta with tomato sauce or jacket spud. ( or a big mac - I must resist).

Hi all

Congrats Spangle! and Lou, and others.

Jools, I have had a funny pregnancy so far this time. Last time I felt sick from 7 weeks until 16 weeks nonstop, but never terribly so as long as I ate carbs. This time, from 6-8 weeks I was almost bedridden with nausea and since 9 weeks it's been much easier. I have worried too, but had early scan at 8 weeks (bleeding...) and was fine then. Am also constipated q badly (sorry if TMI - which last time didnt start till the final trimester!) and am peeing more (didnt last time). What I'm saying is that every pregnancy is different. And last time I went to the 12 week scan sure they'd say there was nothing there.... I dont think I believed it till then... this time I believe more but am more anxious. Goes with the territory! Oh and my 8 week scan helped cos I'd been bleeding, but the effect wears off to be honest and you start worrying again. Best IMO to focus on other things like having a life while you can!

I'm not having twins (saw 1 hb at 8 week scan) but bet some of you are! Interesting! My nuchal scan is Monday... fingers crossed...

Have a good day everyone!

No twins for me.

Morning everyone

Twins, Twins, Twins...............

Thats all I keep hearing from people or that my dates are wrong.

We're 11+3wks and we have a quite a large bump plus I've had to wear mc since 5/6 wks.

Our dates are right cos we got pregnant 1st month of trying.

Next monday we have our 1st mw appointment so hopefully we will be having a scan soon to prove everyone wrong or right.......

I think I'm just one of those women that show big and early, it is my 3rd but a friend tried to scare me and told me she said that with her 3rd and it turned out to be twins at her dating scan.........