Due Nov 2008 - Explosion Risks, Names Dilemmas and Baby shopping Galore!

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New thread ladies

MM, I was thinking about Yorky earlier (one of the women on the AN course today reminded me very much of her, in fact they could have been sisters!) and that she hasn't been about for a bit. Was she going on holiday?

I have her mobile phone number somewhere (or I did have). I'll see if I can dig it out tomorrow and send a quick text.

hi kraftwerkkittie and welcome to the thread

We have a stats list on another thread if you want to add your details to it...look in Antenatal and it;s there somewhere (too tired to dig out a link )

I missed the Kate Garraway programme. I'll try and remeber to watch it on catch up tv tomorrow!

Oh I loved my proposal.
After leaving loads and loads of hints and tips for DH about how I would like it to be done. Going ring shopping together (DH would no doubt now like it pointed out HE chose the final ring) Chosen in July.
December and Christmas and no proposal, grr.
Finally New Years day and I mention in the morn that it would be a good time to do it cos his parents were up so we could share the news.
2-3pm and he is in the pub with is dad and I have given up hope. He comes home and insists that we all go for a walk to the beach, half hour walk there, alone, and it is nearly dark! But he insists!
Fine.
So off we walk, we get to the beach and he keeps trying to take me up into the dunes, I am resisting cos the moment, for me, had past.
Next thing, he has dashed up a 20ft dune and is hollering,'Twink! I love you! I think you are the best thing to ever happened to me.....etcetc Will you do me the honour of becoming my Wife!?'
What do you say to that but, 'Yes!'
He jumped and I ran up, big kiss and placing of ring!
Run down again to explain all to PIL

Better than any of my suggestions!!

We had been together for 6 years before that point, both in previous long term relationships so didn't want to be in another engagement without a wedding on the cards.
We would have got engaged on our first holiday together, even chose a ring, but I chickened out, so we waited.
We got married in Sept 2005, on the same date that we met.
DD arrived 1 year, less 5 days later

I love hearing about everyones proposals and am glad to see we are not the only unromantic ones out there. The first time dh suggested we get engaged I thought he was joking and laughed it off. A really annoying couple we knew had recently announced their engagement and I didn't want them to think we were copying them! The second time the subject came up dh just said 'what do think about getting married?' I said 'great' and he said 'well, if you want to get a ring today we have to go now as there is a big rugby match on later' Swoon with the romance of it all. We had been living together for years at that stage though. We got engaged in March 03 and married 6 months later. DD was born in May 06 after a fun couple of years with loads of holidays, weekends away and general living it up.

Morning,

I was so worried that i wouldn't like the ring when DH proposed (not that it's all about the ring AT ALL). However, when he opened the box (at which point I was in floods of tears, think he thought i didn't like it) it was the most beutiful ring I had ever see and made all the more special because he had apparently spent and age choosing the individual diamond and choosing a special setting. It was just the thought that was put into it. He is very thoughtful, i'd never had a boyfriend like him. I used to choose complete twerps who only looked out for Number 1.

Anyway... I just have to say, i just can not wait to meet my baby, i am so excited.

OBS - sorry about the bombshell DH dropped on you. Good timing!! Hopefuly it can be something to look into for next year?!?!?!

I am feeling like that the last few days too Pinkali. I just want my baby now, enough waiting. I love going to see my friend and her new baby as I can get loads of new baby cuddles to keep me going. DD is really excited too. She keeps asking me when the baby is coming. It's weeks away yet. I am so impatient.

morning everyone, wow havent been on here for a few days and so much to catch up on!! Have just read most recent posts as love hearing about everyones proposals

DH proposed to me on holiday in New York we had only been together 7 months but we just clicked from the moment we met and were already living together, he wanted to actually propose at the top of the Empire State building (as my favourite film at the time was 'Sleepless in Seattle, sad I know) but they were doing work on it and it wasnt open but the thought was there at least! We then got married on the coast of Florida 2 years later!

Well sisters wedding went well on saturday, dd was a beautiful flower girl (know I am biased) and everyone commented how well behaved she was! The weather also stayed dry so a really lovely day although I was very tired on sunday!!

Right going to catch up on all other posts now sorry this is just a me post, hope everyone is doing ok!!!!

Hi Ladies,
Firstly apologies as not read posts but I am after advice and you wise pregnant ones always come up tops.

I am really struggling with my SPD not sleeping well because of it and feel if I went to the doctors she would sign me off. Now I could just go on maternity leave early but as I will probably be made redundant next september it would mean going back to work before the summer holidays and sorting chldcare etc.

An external HR person advised that most people when they are struggling and have medical issues in pregnancy go on the sick and then start maternity leave at 36 weeks. I know its only an extra 3 weeks on full pay but if I can do this then why shouldn't I?

Sorry for me post. I am off work today as last night following day at work reduced me to tears, on top of that got stinking sore throat and temp etc.

I am sorry for me post, any words of wisdom

coolkat - I would go out sick too and go on maternity leave at 36 weeks. My sister had SPD last time and it is a horrible, painful condition. No point in trying to work if you can't even sleep at night. Rest is what you need.

coolkat I would take sick leave too, no point in struggling when you are feeling as bad as you do! You need to put yourself first, get yourself to docs and sure will sign you off work straight away!!

Just wondering if you are all taking iron at this stage? Does it help with energy levels? You are always told to take it here regardless of iron levels at the beginning of pregnancy but I didn't take it on last pregnancy due to being so sick I just couldn't keep it down. This time round I made a half hearted attempt a few weeks back to start but it really doesn't agree with me. I am really feeling exhausted these days and can barely cope with dd some days. Would iron help? If so, any recommendations.

I am totally in awe of those of you still going to work especially with other children.

Hi all,

I have had an eventful weekend I'm afraid. Have been suffering from a severe headache since Sat eve so called the MW unit on Sun about it as I also felt my pulse was racing. Paracetamol didn't help and neither did over the counter Co-codamol. Anyway I ended up being admitted on Sun eve as they needed to rule out pre-eclampsia as had 3 symptoms by then.

Luckily BP was fine altho pulse confirmed as racing. All other tests clear so was given prescription strength Co-codamol which finally took edge off the headache (couldn't bend forward/look up or to side and felt like something was pressing on back of my eyes). Horrible, anyway has been put down to pregnancy related Migraine (never suffered before).

However I have now been signed off until next Wed so I will doubtless have another date with the dreaded Occ Health Fanjo . Remember her/it? ....the lecture on pregnancy not being an 'illness' and how I would have to express milk in toilets if still BF when I return to work... Feel sick at thought of going through all that again TBH. Perma-tanned witch.

But also as I have a sick line which says I must refrain from work until next wed, does anyone know if I can go back on say Mon if I am better or will I have to get GP sayso first??? Not sure as have never had sick line for a very long time...

Sorry for mememe post will catch up on y'all properly as soon as I can but this is all stressing me out... xxx

I am loving all these proposal/wedding stories.

Well, let's see! I proposed to dh on Feb 29th 2000, a leap year! We had a few romantic days away in Stratford. I had no ring at the time, just wanted him to say yse first, lol! I ws very nervous, took several attempts to get the words out, but he did say yes and said he knew I was going to ask. Cheeky sod! We didn't go picking rings out straight away or anything. There was some stuff going on we needed to sort out, but he came home one day in April with a velvet box and inside was my engagement ring. It is white gold, with a round diamond in a square setting. Not big or flashy, but more suited to our relationship and style.

We decided to hold off on a wedding as just a few short months later we found out we were oregnant with ds1 and were going through a bit of a rough patch. We worked things out and ds1 was born in May 2001. In Spetember 2001 we flew to Florida to visit with my parents and show off thier grandson. We had only been in the US 48 hours when my Step Mom asked about weddings and said how Dad would love to give me away. Then applied a bit of pressure and asked if we would consider getting married while we were on holiday! I kid you not! Sooo, on Sunday 9th September I asked dh what he thought, he said "why not" and so we agree to be married. On Sept 11th 2001, we knew we were doing the right thing. We were watching with horror, the twin towers being crashed into and burning, people jumping ect. The loss of life was not lost on us and we realised life was too short. We went straight to the country courthouse to get the paperwork and book a date, 2 days later! How we arranged everything in those 2 days I will never know, sheer determination! 24 hours before our wedding saw us trying to find wedding bands. We were walking around a shopping mall, had tried all the places we had been suggested. We had been told to avoid proper jewllers if we didn't want to be ripped off, but a sign caught my eye. It was a jewllers called Marks & Morgans. It was perfect! My DH's name is Mark and my maiden surname was Morgon (different spelling, but everyone mistakes is for Morgan anyway!) We looked at one another and KNEW we would find what we wanted in there. We went in, bought the 2 plainest, cheapest white gold wedding bands, explained we needed them resized in less than 24 hours and they couldn't be more helpful!

The day of our wedding dawned, and considering we were in Florida, we couldn't believe it was raining! The girls went to have their hair done, the boys had a big brekkie! It did stop raining anytime we had to go outside, which worked well as apparently rain on your wedding day brings good luck. We were married at the county courthouse, with just my parents, adopted sister, ds1 and my dad's boss & wife as our witnesses. We went out for a meal afterwards and later that day, headed to Orlando to spend the second week of our holiday! I was a great day, we have fond memories and it is our 7th wedding anniversary on Saturday

I have just put some pics of us just married in my profile! Looking back, I can see why we both joined WW on our return home!

Sparkletoes Sounds positively awful! I hope you are feeling a little better, sorry i can't help about work though.

suiledonn I am using spatone instead of iron tablets and I do feel better than I did. I think tiredness is part and parcel of the 3rd trimester, but it does help, I don't feel so bone weary anymore, just normal tired and not as breathless as I did. Spatone can be got from Boots or Holland & Barret. Also floradix is meant to be good and I have heard of another natureal iron supplement which is supposed to be even better, but can't remember what it's called .

Coolcat, I would go on mat leave sooner rather than later too, no point struggling on when you feel that bad, you really need to care for yourself so you are in the best place possible for babe's arrival.

Sparks - I was worried about you as I realised you hadn't been on for a while How awful and scary for you but at least they have ruled out pre-eclampsia. Re the sick note, you would need to get a doctors note to say you were fit on Monday otherwise you can't return to work - but why are you in a rush to go back?

Coolkat - on a similar note, I would (as an HR person aswell) recommend you go off sick and switch to your maternity leave at 36 weeks. In your situation, I wouldn't expect anyone to do anything other than that (and believe me, in my job, I have seen all sorts of 'conditions' that pregnant ladies use to have time off) - SPD is a genuine medical condition that is making you unfit for work so go to the doctors and get yourself signed off!

Suiledonn - I am not taking iron - didn't know it was recommended tbh. I stopped taking the pg vitamins ages ago because I kept forgetting but I do eat at least one big bowl of Frosties a day (sometimes 2) so I know I am getting vitamins/iron from there - although DH keeps telling me they don't count

I just wanted to add to my 'proposal' story that it wasn't that I didn't like the ring DH had bought - it was just that it did not suit me at all. I have quite fat fingers so I needed a big ring to look ok! This was 12 months after we had met and we got married 2 years later - and have now been married 11 years which I suspect is longer than anyone else on here. But, we had 9 years of marriage before children and enjoyed every minute of it

heartmum we got married in 2001 in Florida too!!!! But we got married in May of that year and celebrated our 7th wedding anniversary earlier this year! Your wedding photos are lovely cant believe you aranged it all in 2 days!!!!

sparkletoes sorry to hear you were so ill over the weekend, sounds pretty scary for you! Not sure about if you cant go back to work early perhaps ring docs/mw to ask advice?

suiledonn think there are others on here that are taking iron at the min (but cant remember who?) I have never taken it but sure someone will be along soon that can advise you!

sorry crossed posts, knew someone would be along to give better advice!

Thanks Heartmum & Ceebs I am not really in any rush to go back but I know I will get the interrogation when I do and if I say I felt better by weekend they would be like... oh why weren't you back then on Mon? I am a rubbish liar!

Thing is GP made me another appointment for Mon but it is at 3pm which would be a bit late in day!! I'd have to make another one before then but at my practice I would be lucky to get one before end of this week... aaargh why is all so complicated! Would be easier to just lie (if I was any good at it).

Should I just try to get another appointment this week and get signed back on then? Am sure I will be ok by then to go back and think they were a bit when I told them line was for a week anyway...

Thanks for your concern too mumsbecks

Sparks - well don't tell them you felt better by the weekend - they cannot query a doctors note, particularly when it comes to maternity issues (they have to tread very carefully!) Just remember your GP is better qualified than the Occy Health bitch woman so just ignore anything she says and take your GP's advice and rest for a week

HM2J - what a lovely story about your wedding day/build-up - I know the circumstances were obviously very tragic but it gives it a romantic edge

Sparkles - Yep would need signing back on! LISTEN WOMEN: Pregnancy is not an illness(stuff that OH woman) however, you can suffer side effects of pregnancy which can make you very ill in deed. Suggest to OH woman that if you bashed a les crusset (sp) casserole dish against her head perhaps she woudl then be able to empathise! YOU STAY OFF as long as you need to. You adn your babys health are far more important than stupid H & S law and the power stricken OH bi*ch... Yikes pregnancy has brought a monster out in me!!

Suiledonn - I still take the pregnancy vitamins and omega 3 so Iron will be in the vitamins.

sparkletoes Glad to hear you are feeling better.

Interesting about the iron. Here in Ireland it is standard practice to tell all pregnant women to take iron after the first trimester. They don't recommend any of the easier ones either, like the Spatone or Floradix, just the huge horrible tablets. I think more and more women are taking those ones though or not taking it unless they need it. Weird policy isn't it? You would think it would be based on actual iron levels.

LOL Ceebs that is what my DH says I should do but I find it very difficult in the return to work interview when they go thru every day 'how did u feel then'... blah blah. Just don't think I could believably lie and say yeah it was still bad then. I have never had migraines but surely they don't last as long as 8 days anyway do they??

Have had quick look at other posts and also loving all the proposal/wedding stories!

My DH is sooo much more romantic than I am, he proposed to me in Central Park on a last minute short city break in Nov 2002. I was totally NOT expecting it (think if I had I would have thought he would have done it earlier and not 2 hours before we had to go to the airport to fly home!). He then surprised me even more by taking me to bloody Tiffany's to get the ring. Could never in my wildest dreams have imagined that! He says it was all spur of the moment as well and since we were there he may as well do it! My friend Chris did make me LOL when I told him the story as he just said 'flash b***d!' - in the nicest sense tho haha!