Due Nov 2008 - Explosion Risks, Names Dilemmas and Baby shopping Galore!

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Oh dear Lacksa I know what you mean about the silent stewing. Silly men... prob as well he is out this eve. Hope he sees the error of his ways and apologises later. If not think you are well within rights to give him a taste of his own...

Well done on the housework tho I am so knackered at moment am lucky if I get half a basket of ironing done .

They never covered BF at any of the classes I went to last time but that is prob because I didn't go to the NCT ones which sound a bit more informative.

hi - Really sorry if I have missed any important posts. Just not been on for days and finding it hard work to try and catch up. But will try. Hope everyone is ok.

barbs - Read your post about bus accident and that nasty witch of a midwife.

lacks - sorry to hear about your probs with DS. My DS is on occasion "pushing the boundaries" and seems sometimes to have inherited his dad's selective hearing. My DH seems to be the one I have trouble with getting to check safety gates are shut correctly! Recently I've been doing something upstairs and DS is downstairs with DH only to hear DS shouting me and thinking his sounds close. On checking realise DS is at the top of the stairs holding on to the stairs side of the gate . On shouting DH he pulls a face when coming to get DS.

MIDDLE/NORTH LINK - www.mumsnet.com/Talk/2290/601783?rnd=1220738225845

Will now try to read posts from Thursday onwards.

ruthosaurus - Weird you should mention the floods in Sheffield last year. One of my friends lives (not currently) in Catcliffe and her house was ruined. It is still being done up. Luckily for her her now DH (got married a couple of months after) had his own house in Stocksbridge so she now lives there.

Was so scared for her safety especially when it started being reported (on sky news etc) that the reservoir banks could burst. I felt helpless at the time and couldn't contact her.

My work was just out of the worst flood area at Catcliffe.

Morning hope everyone is having a nice weekend and the weather isn't too bad!
We had a very chilled day at home yesterday i've started washing all of the baby clothes and putting them away in th nursery, it all seems much more real now!
Lacks hope DH cheers up soon!

Morning!!

I had an interesting evening last night. I was talking to dh in his office/music studio, which just happens to be our garage, fully equiped with electricity and carpet! I noticed what looked like damp, so started to investigate, pulled back the carpet to find puddles of standing water. Started panicking as we have 2 drains/manhole covers in the garage (bloody council in their wisdom would not have them moved when we had the extension built). We figured the water was coming from there, but after a while I noticed water seeping in through the the mortar between some damp proof bricks. We now think that the issues are being caused becasue the house next door's garden level is higher than our damp proof course and the damp has been causing the mortar to eroode away over the last 3 years and now it can't cope with the sheer amount of rain we have had recently. I am not kidding you, it was like a mini indoor swimming pool. The carpet is ruined and we are probably lucky our house did not burn down with the electrical equipment we have in there. So today is going to be spent moving stuff away from the flooded area, removing that section of carpet and trying to dry the floor out. Dh plans on speaking with one of his customers who is in the building trade to see what he recommneds. We know we have a fight on our hands as we don't get on with this particular neighbour, who we fell out with 3 years ago right after the extension was finished being built. We know that she will not allow us onto her property to try and sort the problem from her side out of spite (she wouldn't allow us to fetch our son's rabbit back when he escaped onto her property, depsite having sobbing ds with us at the time)

This really is the last thing I need right now. Between the stress of waiting on ds2's DLA decision and the worry of where we are going to get the money from to rectify this HUGE problem, which may involve getting the council involved or a court order to force neighbour to cooperate, I am well stressed and can tell from the sheer number of BH's I have been having

Hi Heartmum - you poor thing. Such a huge deal when so many other things are going on. Grit your teeth and take it a step at a time. How frustrating for you.

good afternoon all!

merry nasty consultant!!! I think those people at whipps need to get some manners! Bah!

Dozy i'm getting sock marks too!

lacks Hope things are less tense with your dh. My dh can be like that and it is sooooo annoying!

Heartmum Sorry about your flooding - and so frustrating when you have to deal with an awkward neighbour as well. I hope you are able to get it sorted with as little stress as possible.

Well is my birthday today!! Dh at work so am slobbing around - only just got up, have lots of treats in the cupboard and fridge so just plan to spend the day on the sofa
Hope you're all having a lovely day too!

Hi All, havent had chance to check in all weekend but had a quick scan through all the posts.

Sorry to hear about the flooding heartmum and hope your neighbours and/or council can do something about it to make it less stressful for you!

Had my in-laws plus 2 dogs with us all weekend - they left about an hour ago and am enjoying the peace that has settled over the house!! Was lovely seeing them of course and very exciting as they have bought us our cotbed and bedding etc so had a lovely day shopping yesterday All been ordered and should be delivered in a few weeks so feel like we are finally getting organised. MIL and me dont quite agree on some aspects of what baby needs and how nursery should be decorated (I like colour & fun stuff) but she realises its our baby!

Am now spending the rest of the day slobbing on the sofa with occassional trips to the fridge Hope you have all had good weekends!!

Oh and I've just checked out weegallery.co.uk and the babylegs website - how cool are they!! More shopping I think!

Also saw some quite cool wall stickers etc in B&Q yesterday although some were a bit more grown up than baby!

Oh gosh, How awful Heartmum.
So you built the extension then they did up their garden but knowingly built it up higher than your damp proofing?
How stupid.
Then to not let your crying son in to search for his rabbit? How could she face a child in that kind of state and turn him away?!

Well, I am knackered today and aching. You guys were talking about cramps, boy did I get my fair share last night!
But then again, cutting the grass in both sections of the garden, trimming both hedges and sanding down the bottom half of the welsh dresser would do that to any body, never mind a pregnant one.
But I can't help myself, these things needed doing and DH was fixing the car. He did clear up the debris from the hedge trimming though and at least I got him to pull the unit out into the garden for me. Norm I just do that kind of thing myself too.
We don't wonder why DD is an independant wee thing though

Oh and men are just so silly Daisy
DH doesn't keep things stewing but we do have to go round the houses with every argument we have before he listens to what is being said.
An exhausting and draining way to agrue but it is his way!

Poor you, I would just want it all out there and then. But then perhaps DH and I have too many arguments because we hold very little back Everyone is different.

Hello mums to be. I too am due in Nov (30 weeks today) but am new here. V excited to have fond this site as it reaches out to so many others in same situation! :-)
I have started thinking about going to antenatal classes (havent been to any yet and don't know if i will either as i've heard from most women i've spoken to that it was a waste of time) which especially focus on breathing techniques during childbirth. Can anyone pls recommend anywhere? I live in Marylebone and dont mind paying. Grateful for any adivise.

Hi All
I'm back after 3 months of hell with DH being very ill and in hospital. All is now completely back to normal and I feel blissfully happy. Am starting to think about nesting type stuff and had a day hunting for curtain material last week. I plan to spend this afternoon looking at names as I have given this no thought so far.

I'm feeling bloody huge although I am lighter than I was with my other 2 but my bump feels a lot bigger. Some days it hurts so much and I can not imagine how my skin can stretch anymore. I can feel a lot of pressure now on my pelvis/bladder etc. Everyone looks at me in an astonished way when I say I have 9 weeks to go. Standard response is "aah big baby". Getting on my nerves a fair bit. This causes me a bit of worry as 1st was 8lbs, 2nd just over 9lb. I'm quite little at 5'5" and plan for a home birth (had one last time). Anyway I'm going to do some yoga at active birth centre from next week to hopefully make myself a bit more comfortable. And plan to start stocking freezer and clear what will be the nursery over the next few weeks. I can't believe how organised some of you are with hospital bags packed already. I never did one before and had to do it as was in labour with my 1st. Got to hospital with 20 minutes to spare! But I vow I will be more organised this time just in case I end up going in.

My DS age 2 and a half is so into the baby and comes to our room every morning, climbs into bed with us and says 'cuddle baby' whereupon I have to put duvet aside for him to drape himself over my bump with his ear listening for sounds. He thinks the baby is talking to him if my tummy rumbles.

Hope you all having a nice time, isn't weather crap? I just got back from Cornwall where my daughter turned blue every day from sea temperature despite having a wetsuit.

Skyllberg
For antenatal classes check out NCT website and it should point you to a local one. The ones I did when pregnant with my first were amazing and have served me well ever since. A really good argument for doing hem is to meet other Mums in your area due at the same time. It gives you a social network to get you through the first few months. I made a firm friendship with one couple in mine and am in touch with them 6 years on. Me and Dh are godparents to their 2 youngest and we go on holiday with them every year.
I tried a couple of classes at UCL hospital when pregnant with my first and found them too large and pretty crap.

Thank you Renaissancewoman! Glad to hear you found them amazing. will certainly look up NCT now.

Happy Birthday Barbs welcome skyllberg and welcome back Renaissancewoman glad DH is better now!
Heartmum hope you get your flooding sorted am at how nasty people can be!

Barbs...HAPPY BIRTHDAY! [Btw, I didn't ge a txt, so hope you haven't been trying...I think I put the right number!). Sounds like you are having a lovely chilled out day, which sounds ideal in this weather. Me and my Mum use that expression "slobbing around". I love it and I do it a fair bit!

Lacks - Oh my I had LOL and read your post out to my DH. It is so reminiscent, especially not clearing the lunch things and the stewing. My dh is the biggest nag on the planet when he is stressed about other things, and it is always nagging about tidiness. I can generally tell when he is stressed, and ask what's up, "I'm fine!". Yeah, right?! After a fre humdingers stuff will come out, and half the time it is not even to do with ME!

Heartmum, that sounds like a nightmare at this time, not what you need at all...glad dh has got someone to ask advice from. I'm sure you must have some legal rights if it is their garden causing a problem for your house, but I am not any expert on that.

Heartmum Sorry to hear about your flooding and neighbour problems as it's really not what you need at the moment As the others have said, hope you can sort something out. Is it worth going to Citizens Advice and seeing if they can suggest something regarding the neighbours?
Renaissancewoman Welcome back and glad everything is now OK with DS. Must have been a very worrying time for you.
Skyllberg Welcome Woud also definitely recommend NCT classes, even though I'm a first time mum and have only just completed the course. I did NHS AN class and NCT class back to back yesterday and today and although both were informative, the NCT one had a much more intimate atmosphere because the group was much smaller. We're already planning meet-ups in the run-up to the babies' births and also a group reunion so I think if you're lucky to get a group you get on well with then you've got ready-made friends who are going to be going through the same thing as you.
Daisy Hope you get to the bottom of things with DH. It seems to be catching - I had something similar with my DH last weekend. He finds it very difficult to say what he's feeling and then suddenly explodes. I think it could be the imminent arrival of the baby which might be worrying him, either on a conscious or sub-conscious level. Hope you sort things out soon.
Hope everybody else is OK

Merry I thought I had txtd you oops! Will check your number and try again

Welcome back Renaissancewoman! I am pleased to hear that your dh is better and things have settled down.

Happy Birthday Barbs!!

Welcome on board skyllberg Lacks, I hope you managed to find out what was up with your dh, men are so silly sometimes.

Thanks everyone for the sympathy and suggestions. I managed to find the deeds to our property and found that we do have the legal right to access the neighbours property to inspect, maintain or repair our own property. Getting her to agree civily may be another matter, we may still have to apply for an access order from the courts. Thankfully I do speak with the neighbours parents when I see them and see them around several times a week, so I may approach them first to see if they can soften her up. Thankfully as it has been mostly dry today the water has stopped seeping in.....for now!

barbs, just in case i got it wrong 07949 086 304.

heartmum, glad you have got 'rights', it's just such a hassle exercsising them, eh.

My nesting instinct has kicked in already

Was hoping for a few more weeks, but no...body says "you must clean the bathroom" and I have no alternative but to obey. Bloody pregnancy, why can't it let me slum it in peace?

heartmum, sorry about your flooding, and grr to your neighbour. If the wall is in the boundary then you will be covered by the part wall etc act for doing the work. You need to speak to a party wall surveyor, who will serve notice of the work to be done (and if that means from thier side then si be it). Your neighbours have a certain amount of time to respond, and if they don't then you are entitled to get someone to act on their behalf and they have no leagal say in the matter. But tbh, they have been unreasonable in covering up your dpc and should imo be held accountable for part of the cost of getting it fixed. You should be covered on your buildings insurance for it though, so your outlay should be minimal. I hope you get it sorted soon, this is the last thing that you need at the minute.

Rennaisancewoman, good to have you back with us and glad to hear that your DH is back to normal. I too get the "you're huge" comments which is starting to piss me off no end. Even my midwife, who usually just has a feel got the tape out on Thursday, but she didn't say whether she thought I was looking small or big!

Hi to skyllberg. I second the NCT classes; I've not done any NCT ante-natal classes, (although I'm doing a refresher course on Tuesday) but I have been going to a PN group with my 15 mo old DD and everyone is really nice and friendly.

I have spent the day being ruthless in my wardrobe and having a massive clear out. DH took the DCs out all day again, so I have managed to get loads done. All peaceful chez moi today though, DH apologised when he got back last night for being Mr Grumpy, so all's well.

And thank heavens for a bit iof a break with the weather. The weekend has been really nice here; a few showers and it rained through the night, but it has been lovely and warm. I even got some washing hung out today, for the first time in weeks.

Still having killer gastric reflux though

Sorry if I missed anyone....I've forgotten everything else!

Lacks I have been feeling nesty too but is sporadic! Can't start/do ANYTHING after 12p.m. - napping instinct sets in then! There is so much that I want to do!!
Also getting the heartburn thing too - not nice!

I think that is what I was up to yesterday. As I was cutting the grass and hedge, I was thinking that it should be just about the last time I do this year.
We always miss that window, then the bad weather hits and you can't get the grass done cos it is so wet ad our garden looks just awful!
But I bet I will still have to do it once more and I bet that I will, once again miss the window and have the worst looking back garden all winter. That is our saving grace, at least the wee front one is paved, just the hedges to do there and they are not so bad to keep on top of.

DH and FIL will be putting in the new kitchen in October, so that is why I need to revamp the dresser. So that is prob a bit of nesting too.

DH's work collegue has put in his order for a ginger cake though. Last time I was a mad un' making cakes the day before, and the day of, going into labour, so he has said that a ginger cake would just be lovely