Due April 2009 - Time to dance the light scantastic.....

[LittleMyDancing]

New thread as the old one was full!

So many people have said brightly "was it planned?", none of them people who remotely have an appropriate relationship with me to ask things like that. I don't know what to say to that.

Springysunshine, you are so clever to be having a baby when you're 20. By the time you are my age (s)he will be able to drive you wherever you want to go and you won't be on the bus any more!
But youth brings out the worst in some people. When I was in my early 20s (not pregnant!) at work there were resentful jealous older women, resentful dismissive men, lecherous old gits.... all kinds of people who think they have some sorts of rights over youth for some reason and hate them for living their own lives instead of playing their game. Maybe jealousy? now I am older I still remember this and always protect the gorgeous young things in my team at work from the bitter sniping and unjustified bossing about by the bitter old witch who picks on them in the same way.

finally told my mum... she told my dad who is not happy. but she said "babies bring their own welcome" and is really happy for me.

yup i agree - its just not on my list of things that I would think to say if someone told me they were pg - i may very occasionally think it - but i'd never ask - particularly if its a work colleague rather than a close friend. firstly cause its none of my business, and secondly cause if someone tells you they are pg with a smile on their face, its pretty likely they are pleased either way - as you say bellamummy.

was quite relieved to get it off my chest as my trousers are getting tight.

gingersarah - why is your dad not pleased? sorry if you've said before, but not sure how far back i should look (so many people on the thread i find it a bit hard to remember everyone's story). great that your mum is happy though. is it her first grandchild?

hi conkertree,

dad is very traditional and i am not married. mum is not keen on that either but she is happy about the baby and she won't let that spoil it for her.

it is ridiculous because i am 37 but i was very very nervous about telling them, it's a relief that it's over and also lovely that my mum is really honestly happy.

Oh don't worry gingersarah - they will adore it when it is born. My mother was a bit when I told her I was pregnant again. I am married and it will be my second child so you wouldn't think it could cause ANY controversy. But my mother is an only child (as was her mother, and as am I) and she seems to genuinely believe that is best. She honestly cannot see the need for siblings and she seems to think it could actually be detrimental to her beloved grandaughter.

What do you do? I'm sure she will be besotted when number 2 actually arrives.

I lived in London when I had DS1, and not a single person ever made a single comment to me about my pregnancy until I was a good 7-8 month pregnant! I guess that's London for you! And even then, the ONLY questions they ever asked were "Do you know what you're having?" and "Where are you having it?".

Try telling people it's twins - an amazing number actually think it is entirely reasonable and not overly intrusive to ask 'did you have IVF?'!!! Blimey. Like you'd tell them!

Hi everyone! Sorry I've not been on this thread for ages - have been busy and hanging out on Spring Mums thread (mushy pregnant brain can only deal with 1 thread at a time these days!). Thought I'd pop back round though and see how everyone's getting on .

I'm 17 weeks today and have got a slight bump, which isn't really that noticeable yet under my clothes. Feeling loads better though - nearly normal really. No sign of any movement yet since placenta is on the front.

I told my boss this week that I was pregnant. I have been dreading it for ages, but he was actually really nice and didn't make a big deal out of it at all. Huge relief to get it out in the open and without much fuss thank goodness! No-one else has commented on it yet, but I don't think it'll be long before it becomes obvious .

Hope you're all doing well and feeling blooming and glowing and all that other pregnancy stuff!! (I'm not exactly blooming yet...when is that actually supposed to happen?????)

Hey all

Just want to say it's amazing how nice it is to come here and feel like you are not on your own - just had a very bad day at work (see below) and just coming home and reading all your posts makes me feel better for some reason!

Springy - Firstly - well done for not crying - I would have cried if nothing but in pure anger at the cheek of the bloody woman! Isn't it annoying how you can think of all the things you wish you could have said after the event - but she needs to take herself out of the bitter barn and go play in the hay - and I have to say I finished uni just over three years ago and I never had a skanky house, they were always really nice and we ket them so clean so she clearly has no idea what life is actually like outside her tiny little brain and I don't think you are too young at all - all that matters is that you have the ability to love and care for this little baby (whether you are 17 or 47!) That was a very long rant with very little punctuation! sorry!

This baby wasn't planned for us but that doesn't make it any less welcome, in fact I feel even more lucky because it was obviously meant to be! why do people say these things?!

Gingersarah, you're dad will dote on your child as soon as it arrives. Everyone has their own views and you have to respect that but at the end of the day he loves you enough to not let it get in the way and sure he will forget you aren't married as soon as he gets to hold his grandchild, well done for telling them tho must be such a relief!!!

Anyway while we are ranting - my bad day today - there is a complete witch at work who is a complete princess and always trying to put people down and prove she is more senior / superior than them (even tho she spends her entire days doing nothing!) and she keeps making really weird comments whenever I am out of the office, like when am I leaving and is it a good idea for me to be working on new clients when I am pregnant and going to leave - I hate underhand people - why does she need to say that to my bosses and my team (who I manage) but only when I am not there!! such a cow! grrr

Anyway, am at home it's the weekend and we get a whole extra hour in bed. I'm going to clean up the spare room ready for nursery decorating after Christmas!

Hope you are all ok xxx

Babybolat, she sounds like a right silly cow, poor you. Do you think she might be jealous?

I can really feel bump stretching now. Does anyone else know how much weight they have put on? I have put on 5 pounds already and i'm 14 weeks. I can see this being another pregnancy where I pack on 5 stone. By the end I hardly recognised myself. I looked like a girl who had swallowed Puzzle.

Thanks Puzzle - Yeah she has always been like it, she just is stepping up a gear now she has something she can use against me!

I am avoiding the scales - far too scary! It feels like I have put on a bout 10 stone!!!

Haven't been near the scales but I do feel a little portly. Really, really don't want to become the size of a whale again. Gained 4 stone with DD and still had 1 stone left to shift when I got pregnant this time. Oh dear. Doesn't bode well does it.

Last time my legs swelled up so much I couldn't even pull my wellies up over my calves by the end . Oh the indignity of it all!

BabyBolat - don't let the witch get to you. In no time at all you will be on maternity leave gazing at your new baby far, far away from all the hellishness of office politics.

Hello Ladies,

Can I join you all? I had my dating scan today and am due on 25th April. I've been reading the 'due in April' thread for weeks but was reluctant to post because I've had mc's in the past. We have one DD who is about to turn 17 months old. We live in Southampton. I'm not sure what to say other than that! Oh, I guess I should add that I'm hoping to make it to April before DC2 is born because DD was premature.

Welcome swaliswan!

I'm just past portsmouth so join you in sunny hampshire!!!

How early was your DD?

Morning all

We are tired.

DP is ill so spent the night sweating and moaning and coughing and then got up at 4am to watch telly for a bit, DS wanted to come into our bed, coughed continuously until I roused myself enough to get the knock-em-out cough medicine, took all my side of the bed up, kicked the bump several times and then had a nappy leak at about 5am onto freshly washed sheets (always on my side of the bed, why god why?).

We're now on the sofa watching an industrial amount of CBeebies....

Hope you all had better nights! Welcome swaliswan

LMD x

Hello ladies!

BabyBolat - what a cow! The only thing I can say is that people must be able to see what she's doing & she's only making herself look spiteful & sneaky which isn't going to help her personally or professionally.

Welcome Swaliswan How have you been finding your pregnancy so far? Not been suffering too much, I hope!

LittleMy - DP had a horrendous cold last week & woke me up ever 15 minutes as he blew his nose. When he was little, he used to have night terrors & although he doesn't get them now, he still suffers from occasional sleep disturbances - I get woken up because he's wildly thrashing around in his sleep. Wednesday & Thursday night were awful for it & I have important essays to write, so I spent last night back in Birmingham with my parents so I could sleep I'm so pleased that this is my first child at the moment - the thought of nappy leaks & CBeebies when you're so tired anyway is enough to put me off ever having any more!

Hi Everyone,
Hope you've all had a good weekend. Have been very tired this week so haven't posted since last weekend. I was interested to read about everyone's bump sizes - I have quite a bump (wearing maternity jeans for past two weeks) but it's not bigger than my boobs yet and I'm having triplets. Am starting to get worried that because I was so sick up until 13 weeks I'm not as big as I should be!! Am 15 weeks now and have 16 week scan on Friday.Last scan at 14 said babies were all the 'right' size but now feeling paranoid. Also, I haven't felt movements yet ( I don't think!!) Should I be?
Crikey, sorry to sound so paranoid but I still find it hard not to worry.

Hope all is well with you all,

Love, Barbarella XX

Eugh, I've just been sick again. I've not been sick for a couple of weeks. I always try to take it as the baby's way of letting me know it's still okay, but I wish it'd find a nicer way!

Barbarella, I think it depends on things like where your placenta is, if it's your first pregnancy, etc., but I've been told not to expect to feel movement until 16 weeks (which I am today, yay!) at least. Lots of people don't feel it until quite a few weeks later. I wouldn't worry about it

Thanks SpringySunshine,

I had a puke yesterday morning - it's not a nice reminder, is it!!!

It is my first pregnancy and I have only two placentas: twins sharing one + a singleton with its own one and no idea where they are lying!

Congratulations on 16 weeks!Are you showing?
BarbarellaXXX

Aww, I think it's so cute to think of the three of them in there like that! They'll all be kicking each other, even though you can't feel it At least you don't have to tell them off for that just yet

I am showing quite a bit now, actually. I don't have a full-length mirror in my flat & didn't realise just how much I'd grown until I saw myself in my parents' bedroom mirror yesterday. & when my dad got home he just pointed & said 'wow!', which made me giggle. I lost quite a lot of weight with the sickness, so the bump's a bit more prominent than I think it might've been. I can still wear most of my usual trousers, albeit a bit lower, but am really struggling to fit into old tops - they stretch over my tummy but a huge bit of bump's left on display between the tops & trousers which isn't the best look

Talking of movement though, I'm beginning to wonder how I'm going to know if that's what I'm feeling. My tummy's so gurgly the last few weeks from gas & stuff that I'm used to feeling movement anyway. I know it's hard to miss proper kicks, but the flutterings I'm not so sure about.

How much extra attention do you get with triplets? It seems you get extra scans? That must be so lovely (I'm still 'aww'ing over the three of the little things all curled up together in there!)

Evening All!

Just a quick one to answer a few questions. DD was born at 34+6 which was a bit of a shock. Not early enough to be in the neonatal unit for long but she did go into an incubator and needed a feeding tube plus some time under the lights for jaundice etc, etc. I'm hoping for a bit of an easier start to having a newborn this time but I don't want to get too far because DD weighed 6lb 3oz

As for how pg has been so far....I'm off work with hyperemesis at the moment but seem to be improving. I've had antisickness medication since about 8 weeks pg.

We're having bad nights here at the moment too. DD has a horrible cold and cough on top of cutting a pre-molar (where's the ouch emoticon when you need it?!)

Other than that, we are clearly the people about to win the lottery....nobody else has a chance!

Swaliswan - sounds nasty you have my sympathy. Fingers crossed for your lottery win (cheesy but you've already won by geting pg ))
Springy gurgles and movements aplenty here too and only difference is where they are really! Also if I press quite hard I can feel vibrations on outside (and then run to toilet..)
Barbarella huge congrats, hope you feel better soon.

I slept for 13.5 hours last night and feel great. Even managed some ironing today but Cbeebies is also being abused in this household! DH took me and DD out to dinner tonight and she was angelic..was lovely.

Hi everyone - sorry I don't check in very often. Just staying busy with 2 toddlers and had colds for weeks - between children, husband & myself - I think it's 5+ weeks of colds, and I'm still not better after 3 weeks of one. Ugh!

Hope everyone is doing OK. Anyone feeling movements yet? I'm sure I'm getting the occasional kicks/prods/flutters, but nothing that lasts for very long - usually just once or twice, but not long enough for me to put my hand there & feel anything. Can't wait for the big, real proper kicks! LOL

Finally getting my 2nd antenatal visit on Monday - yay, can't wait! Still not heard the heartbeat on the dopper (tho of course saw it on the scan I had at 13 weeks). But the only visit I had with midwives was when I was about 9 weeks, so was too early. Anyway, I'm 17.5 weeks now, so will be nice to see how things are on Monday.

SpringySunshine: Can't belive the abuse you had to endure the other day! That is just pure awful - don't know how people can be so nasty. Just sooo uncalled for! Maybe she was just jealous she wasn't young like you & having a baby! Well, you just be happy & totally ignore any daft comments about being a young mum. You're perfectly old enough to have a baby - anyone who thinks otherwise is just plain stupid. LOL

The abuse was shocking, but then there are unfortunately many people who are just generally foul and I think it is better to dwell on what more pleasant people say. I'm 31 and nowhere near mature enough for this lark .

The movement thing is just mystifying - I honestly don't know whether the 'flutterings' I have had are the baby moving, a bit of an itch, indigestion - who knows?

Hi all - haven't posted for a while so just thought I'd update!

Well my dating scan put me due on 24th April 2008 but nuchal scan put me due on 16th April, which fits in totally with my dates, so going by that I'm 15+3 at the moment.

I have read that my uterus should be about 3 inches below my belly button at the moment but I've started having tightenings and if I lie down when these happen you can feel and actually see the shape of my uterus, and it is up level with my belly button! After the tightenings stop I can feel the baby fluttering around. This is my third though.

Sickness has gone and I can't stop eating. all I fancy is cheese on crackers and crisps though! am trying to force fruit down but it's not easy!

How is everyone else doing? xx

Hi all

Another newbie here who was a bit nervous about joining earlier because of a previous MC. Have been reading posts for weeks now though and great to hear what everyone else is going through and what I am experiencing is normal.

Surprisenumber3 I just read your post and am also due on the 16th. This is my first though so haven't felt any movements yet but cant wait 'til I can. Clothes definitely tighter although no proper bump yet but looking forward to that happening too.