Due in June 7 - the one with all the boys!!!

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yeah new fresh and clean thread!

BTW all - i wont be posting my scan results until 4pm as i am going to the hair dressers straight after my scan (all being well) I have decided i have been a bleached blonde for too long (13 yrs) and i am going to return to my Brown roots - although i am going to opt for a more "interesting" brown than my mousey brown (sorry to mention mice on this thread!!!)
My dad said to me this afternoon - "you do realise you are going to have to act more intelligent when you have had your hair done - you cant blame being blonde anymore!!!!!!"

Tessie, just blame dizziness on pgy ? I do!! Oh and good luck with the scan tomorrow?

Teabelly, I agree - weak tea is a waste of time. Just like tea made with fully-skimmed milk, for me. An utter waste of a good cuppa.

I?ve had a funny old day today. Today was supposed to be the due date of my 1st pgy (missed m/c at 12 weeks) if I had gone to term, so it?s made me and DH quite sad. I know one of you (so sorry, can?t remember who) went through something v. similar a few weeks ago, so I hope you wont mind me offloading as well. I realise how lucky I am in getting pgt again so quickly, having a wonderfully supportive DH, and friends who stood by us and offered us so much love and support, but you cant help thinking on what might have been?..

Enough of my feeling sorry for myself. Off to count my blessings. Hope you?ve all had a lovely weekend, take good care of yourselves?.

Hello there, just reading through the thread, you sound like a friendly bunch, mind if I join in?(smile)

Hi Franni, we a re a great bunch, but be warned, we talk a lot!!! Not so much at weekends, but definitely during the week!!

Lippy - just spoken to a friend of mine who has two, she wanted a boy for the second but the radiographer said it was a girl, she said she cried all the way home from the scan Then she came around to the idea of it being a girl ... and it was a boy! So you just never know.

Jonah - hope you and dh aren't too sad today.

Tessie - they do say you shouldn't make any major hair decisions whilst pregnant, in case you regret it! But at least if you decide you don't like the brown, you can go back to blonde again. (I have told dh not to let me go to the hairdressers if I say I am going to have a major cut or anything).

Franni - welcome!

Hello everyone,
I do enjoy Sunday evenings, more because I don't have to go to work the following day I expect!!

Charley, I used to have a bf who loved shopping with me and watching me whitter on at make-up counters, buying the latest 'wonder cream', trying on clothes etc. But he wasn't the one. I don't mind dp not being bothered about 6 hours of intensive shopping. I generally prefer being on my own or with girlfriends. What's all this "he has the money" business???? Get yourself a joint credit card

I can't stand Dev, eeeeuchhhh! Slime, slime, slime. No-one on Corrie worth stalking I dont think!

Good luck with the scan Tessie, are you telling?? I shal be awya for the night, so wont find out till Tuesday anyway. Oh, and good luck with going back to your roots

Oh, Charley, have you bought/chosen a travel system yet???

Hey Pink, sorry you're feeling a bit gloomy. Don't feel bad about calling the midwife, it's their job! How come you are seeing a consultant so regularly, everything's ok? Is that common in your neck of the woods?

I must say, it makes me a bit sad to hear all these horror stories about the NHS. We all have different expectations I suppose. I don't think I'm more relaxed because I live with a doctor, but I suppose there is an element of him always understanding what they say, what their tone means etc. Takes the pressure off me. They do tend not to give us any bullshit as a result.

I guess it's a bit dis-heartening because I know how hard dp works to keep his patients happy in all sorts of ways, not to mention the emotional strain.

Still for every doctor who gives good, considered treatment, there'll be one doesn't

Jonah, sorry to hear you're feeling sad about your little baby who would have been around today. Very important to feel those feelings though. Don't worry about ranting, that's what we're here for.

Trib, I'm not even gonna go there!!

KVG, I would think it's a safe assumption that most people posting on a 'due in June' thread are women!!

Evening all - Welcome Franni - how many weeks are you ?have you had your 20wk scan ?- do you know the sex? (sorry for so many questions!!!!) We nearly have enough boys for a footie team on here!
Jonah - (((((((Hugs))))))))) I hope having your healthy baby inside you brings you some comfort today.
Lipstick - yes i am telling!!!!

Oh Lippy, I do hope you haven't taken any of my MHS rants to be a jab at your DP. I do think that most of the short comings are a result of the organisation as a whole, and not due to individual doctors/nurses. The truth is doctors are people, and they come withh all different kinds of personalities.

I think that as a patient you just have to learn how to work the system.

No, not at all Uwila, I'm just sorry you haven't had a good experience at times. All I was trying to say was, just as you have said. Sometimes the system doesn't work and it's such a shame when some people are doing excellent work. Living with a GP I see behind the scenes and the situation from both sides, that's all.

Maybe I do get a bit defensive though when people attack the health system a lot. 12 hours a day of seeing 30+ patients in a 10 minute time slot, giving out medical advice and emotional support, then doing referral letters, follow-ups and paperwork, is tough (like lots of jobs). I think the NHS should pay partners for counselling their overworked staff when they get home

KVG, Charley is the travel system queen!!

Hi, im new to all this. But I need to get out with my nearly 3yr old (v.active) and my passive 5 month old. Live in the sw19 area, any suggestions, playgroups/activity centres etc etc. Done all the major ones, not looking to travel on public transport as its a nightmare with a double buggy, but will drive to the ends of the earth for a happy and exhausted chikd...HELP

Mornin' all,
Hope everyone had a nice weekend and is ready to face Monday morning(afternoon by the time Charley reads this ).

Welcome new comers! Have you found the stats thread? I dare say we must be one of the frienliest and chattiest mumsnet threads of all time.

Morning girls,

Just popping in quickly to say good luck to Tessie for your scan today (although you probably won't read this til this afternoon!)...going back to brown was the best move I made (wasn't blonde, but had so many highlights it was hard to tell what colour I was), also it'll save you a fortune, and give you back hours of free time!

Welcome Franni, as Uwila says pop over to our stats thread and update your details...and I hope you have alot of free time - you'll need it just to catch up on all the posts!

Boredmama, sorry don't know your area, but there maybe some on the October '04 thread on the Post Natal board that could help??

Franni, doh I just noticed your post on the stats thread...good luck for your scan on Wednesday...are you going to find out the sex or hoping to keep it a surprise?

Lippy - just wanted to say that I know quite a few doctors (no GPs though) and I think that's given me quite a different perspective over the course of the last year. It really does help to have a bit of an 'inside track' and I worry that doctors don't realise quite how intimidating, frightening and baffling the process can be for patients who don't have access to behind the scenes info.

On the other hand, I do think that being a GP particularly most be an exhausting job, constantly changing gears to deal with such a huge variety of problems in 10 min slots. Don't get me started on how Choose and Book is simply unworkable ... subject for a different thread I think!

We've had occasions in the last year when we've both come back from the GP's utterly distraught and in tears. Not necessarily because the GP has done anything wrong (although there is one there I refuse to see now, the woman is a complete beatch and I'm convinced she thinks dh is drug seeking) but just bewilderment and frustration that no-one seems to understand just how hard things are for us, and how little quality of life dh has. And we are both articulate, middle-class 30-somethings so you can imagine how much harder it can be for people who don't communicate so well.

Having said that, I think all the doctors and nurses we've seen, and certainly all the doctors I know, are 100% committed to doing their best for their patients. I think the system is just swamped (and bear in mind a lot of our appointments last year were private ones - it could still take two months to get an appointment, during which time dh is basically unable to function).

Sorry, not sure what the point of this rant is now. This year has been hellish and frightening, and I can't really relish the thought of going round again. But that isn't to show disrespect to your dp, he must have enough bloody patients giving him ear-ache (I am always v polite, even to beatch GP).

Morning all
New week, new start (?!?), new join-in on June thread. Sorry it took me a couple of days from my stats post to get round to it.
Am feeling a bit better. Have been having a very anxious pregnancy due to a) being an anxious person generally and b) conceiving 3 cycles after a m/c which (the m/c that is) was quite a shock to my system of course. I'm still finding it very hard to believe everything is going to be fine, but at 24 weeks +4 now and with our little boy (another addition to the football team?! I was terrible at sports but dh is sporty!) kicking around in there the idea that this is actually going to end in a real live BABY is beginning to sink in!
Am currently signed off work as I thought I'd lost my mucus plug the week before last and while that turned out to have not happened (big sigh of relief) the doc reckoned my cervix was too soft and short for his liking and that I was standing and doing too much. Was there again on Friday and it seems to be recovering, but I'm still supposed to have this week off and have had lectures from doc and dh about not pushing it. Difficult when you know you're understaffed and your students depend on you, but our little one is priority, of course. This week is the last week of semester, so after that I won't need to be signed off any more as I can work from the sofa .
That's my update. Will read through the thread properly now

Here goes....morning all.
Scraggy - hope you're feeling better after all that travelling for work.
Uwila - I didn't use arnica last time but I did heal really fast anyway. I'm thinking this time I will give it a go too - any help from anywhere I reckon AND I didn't have a lively 3 year old to contend with last time! On the tube this morning I was idly thinking how some other cultures have got it right - after giving birth the women get removed from their normal duties for 40 days - they just look after the newborn while the rest of their extended family take care of all their chores etc, make sure they have restorative meals prepared for them. How lovely I thought.....
On the cot mattresses - the new one will have dd's mattress, she didn't do too much damage to it and it was a really good one.
Lippy - I think we'll go for a toddler bed for dd. Apparently there's one in Ikea that grows with them - we might go for a gander next weekend. DD is moving into the spare room which is a gorgeous deep blue colour with curtains to coordinate so won't be changing any of that.
And Lippy on the NHS/GP front, 2 of my bfs are GPs and I hear it all from them - they are fab and put up with so much nonsense and care so much for their patients. I get loads of insight into how it works/doesn't work through talking to them.
Pink - hope you're feeling a bit better now. On the dishes front - you could get some paper plates for the days you really can't be arsed.
JonahB - I think it's only right and proper to feel sad on our due dates. I know I did. They were our little babies after all and they do deserve to be remembered. I hope you feel a bit better now. xxx
Tessie - good luck for scan, looking forward to hearing your news later. As for the hair, I got rid of my blonde highlights last year and it's so much less work now - I get a bit of copper etc added if I need a bit of a lift and fades out nicely instead of looking too scruffy.
Franni - hello and welcome to you.
I think that's my catch up complete....as for my news...I'm now in the position to reveal that women who are 24 weeks pg shouldn't play rounders....

Morning all

Trib you're right 'choose and book' isn't a great idea, dp hates it. it's difficult I suppose when you're part of a much bigger system and I'm not sure how much choice medical people are given when it comes to new policies etc. (Apart from the new contract for GP's) It was the same for me when I was teaching, adored the job and could be my own boss in the classroom, but there were so many pointless guidlines made by non-teaching people, it was very frustrating. Yet, I still loved the job despite the battle, the praise and the criticism.

Boredmama, are you expecting? You may have posted in the wrong place inadvertantly. If you are especially looking for mums in your area, you need to look under the topic of 'Meet Ups' and put a post there. SW19 is Wimbledon-ish? Not sure if any of us here are in that part of London..?

Am off to buy maternity swimwear today, what joy. Dd begins her swimming course next week, last one before I drop!

Morning all,

Big hug for yesterday JonahB. The due date is very hard, it's impossible not to spend the day thinking about what could have been. Being pregnant on mine (1st Nov) definitely made the day slightly easier, but it will always be a day to have a bit of quiet reflection about what we lost.

Hello and welcome Franniban. Will pop over and read your stats in a bit, but good luck for your scan on Wednesday. And good luck for today Tessiebear! (scan of course, but haircut too - funnily enough, never pictured you as a blond!)

Started my pregnancy pilates class on Saturday and it was heavenly to have an hour's peace and quiet, thinking about my bump, doing a bit of breathing, and some very gentle exercise. I nearly fell asleep in the relaxation bit at the end! Is anyone else doing something similar? Or yoga?

Welcome back Berolina. Sounds like you've had a worrying time recently...share the load here!

I'm impressed with all the shopping that's gone on over the weekend. Does anyone want to do some for me? I bloody hate shopping. Luckily I got given a bag of maternity clothes on Friday from a girl in my mother and toddler group, so I do (finally) have some maternity stuff to wear. I just can't face going into town and braving the shops.

Welshmum, will remember your top tip if anyone happens to pass me a rounders bat in the next few months.

~makes mental not to cancel this afternoon's rounders tournament~

Lippy you really should cancel it
I feel really odd today. My body is sending me a message ' Welshmum you are PREGNANT, you cannot go dashing around with 15 year olds like nothing is going on' When I went to the loo in the night I could hardly walk. All the ligaments in my pelvis and legs felt like they'd been stretched way too much. It was a bit better this morning but now the top of my bump is really sore. Moan moan, did enjoy the rounders though - my competitive nature came to the fore.