Due DECEMBER 2008 - just over a hundred shopping days to Baby

[LadyThompson]

New thread, people, unless someone else has started one...

I am not sure what the mumsnetiquette is when you have a neonatal death but i wanted to let you know our beautiful little boy Oliver was born on the 19th July at sunset in Sydney at 20 weeks and 3 days. He died a short time later. We feel very lucky to have had the opportunity to hold our precious boy and spend time with him but I am bereft without him. We have his funeral on Friday.

Girls, I wish you every happiness and well being for the rest of your pregnancies. You have been a great support, and I hope to check in from time to time to see how you are all doing.

take care
snowwombat

Def go for the place where DH can stay overnight, i think it is unfair that the dads can't stay overnight normally. All of the dads in the NCT group we were in bar my DH and one other (they had their DS at the same place as us) had to leave literally as soon as they left the birth suit as it was no longer visiting hours. It was so sad in one case the mum had to stay in a couple of days and her DP was only allowed to see her & his DS during visiting hours, he lost about 4 days of time with his DS and had to go back to work the following week. Some places charge for the DH/DP to stay and others it is included in the service.

Oh snowwombat, I'm so sorry to hear that. It must be so awful for you and my thoughts are with you and your family at what must be a difficult time. Please take care of yourself and spend as much time as you need grieving. Take care.
xxxx

Oh snowombat I am so sorry for you I cannot express in words but am thinking of you and your family at this horrible time. Take the time to heal and grieve.

oh snowwombat, sorry we had crossed messages, i'm so sorry, and will be thinking of you and your little boy. take care of yourself

oh snowwombat I am soo very sorry for you, my thoughts and condolences are with you and your family at this difficult time, take care xxxx

Snowwombat, my deepest sympathies to you & your family. I am glad for you that you got to meet your little boy but cannot begin understand how devestated you must be at his loss.

Take care of yourself.

Snowombat I'm so sorry or your loss. My thoughts will be with you and your family, especially on Friday.

snowwombat, so sorry about your little boy. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers if that's ok with you.

Snowwombat, so sorry for your loss.

Snowwombat, I am very very sorry to hear that and will be thinking of you and your boy. I can't imagine what you've gone through, you poor girl.

Snowwombat, so very sorry for your loss.

Snowwombat I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss. What an incredibly moving and brave description of your experience. Take care.

I am so sorry Snowwombat. Words fail me but you are in my thoughts.

I'm so sorry, snowwombat. What terrible news. I will be thinking of you on Friday.

snowwombat - what awful news. so sorry for all of you - cannot imagine what you are going through - will be thinking of you.

snowwombat I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your baby. I hope in time it will be a comfort to have met and held him. I wish there was more we could say and do but you and your family are in my prayers and I will be thinking of you all on Friday.

Im so sorry snowwombat, I don't know what to say.

You, your family and baby Oliver are in my thoughts and prayers

xxxx

wow snowwombats terrible loss has knocked me for six, i had thought i wasn't that connected with Veggiebaby yet but today the idea of it not being there has just torn at my heart. I am so grateful now for all the indigestion and sleepiness. On friday when we see our baby on thescan machine i will send a little love up to Oliver.

Im so sorry for your loss snowwombat. My prayers are with you, your dp and baby Oliver xx

I'm so sorry snowwombat, can't imagine what you must be feeling. My thoughts are with you, DP and baby Oliver.

Hello - I've just caught up on all the messages from last week and was thinking how well everyone was doing and how happy they all seemed (bar a few lurgies) and then I came across Snowwombats message and it has knocked me sideways. If she is still reading I just want to say I am so sorry and thinking of you all.
You just try to assume at this stage that you have got past that 12 week danger stage but still these awful things happen x

That's exactly what I was thinking, Olipop. We can't take anything for granted.

snowwombat, I really hope it goes ok on Friday and I'll be thinking of you all. I would find it heartbreaking if anything happened to the little beast and I can't imagine how you must be feeling. I am so sorry for you all.

xx

snowwombat I am so sorry to hear of your loss, I will be thinking of you and your family on Friday