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Due October 2005 ... come on, ladies....

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morningpaper · 28/01/2005 10:47

OK let's take a deep breath and begin...

morningpaper, expecting #2, due 8 October 2005, so currently 4 wks to the day...

Hoping that someone will invent a new form of pain relief in the next 8 months....

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bonniej · 14/02/2005 14:58

I was dieting before i found out and lost 10lbs. Got to under 10st for the first time in ages. I was really pleased and just about to get all my 'skinny' clothes out of the loft! Looks like it'll be the maternity clothes I'll be dragging down instead. Haven't put anything on yet but sure it won't be long.

Lexie100 · 14/02/2005 15:13

Ohhh i think it's started. I feel hungry yet sick at the same time .

So when do you usually start wearing maternity clothes? Having never needed then before is there anything you must have?? How do you know what size to get?

triceratops · 14/02/2005 16:33

On my first pregnancy I couldn't wait to start wearing maternity clothes. But I could still fit into my size 10 jeans when I was 18 weeks. Then suddenly started to get a bump almost overnight. I only really needed maternity clothes in the last three months. I still can't get back into the jeans and it has been 31/2 years . I will just stick to loose clothing and flat shoes until about june I think this time.

On the other hand I was very tempted by a little white baby sleepsuit in the sale. I was looking for socks for ds - honest .

triceratops · 14/02/2005 16:37

I was sick in M&S this afternoon ( I did that last time too, something about M&S brings on my morning sickness). I've left a message with the community midwife team to arrange a booking in appointment. I know its early but I want to make sure I can get the midwife I like this time.

cori · 14/02/2005 16:53

Yes, favorite jeans are getting tight. I think I

have only a couple of more weaks wear out of

them. What to do I do, way to early to buy

maternity clothes. Last time I was pregnant over

the summer so I just wore skirts and dresses
until I was big enough to fit the maternity clotes.

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morningpaper · 14/02/2005 19:56

Cori: Maybe just buy a couple of pairs of jeans in a size larger, or maybe with (shudder) elasticated waists?

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Joseyjo · 14/02/2005 19:57

I like the list!!! I especially like the fact that I am near the beginning of it!
None of my work clothes fit and my jeans are a lot tighter - and the worse bit is that the top of my tummy has flopped out completely so I look SOOO fat! oh well.
i had to leave work at lunch time today because i felt so sick and hungry. why is it called morning sickness when i feel sick all day? even after tea in the evenings i feel sick and by the time i go to bed i am hungry again!! i am sure i didn't have this last time.. although i did wake up in the middle of the night starving. how long does the nausea last on average? please tell me not too long?!!!

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morningpaper · 14/02/2005 20:00

Depends I think Josey - but normally ends around 12-14 weeks (with a bit of luck!).

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Joseyjo · 14/02/2005 20:04

thanks morningpaper - only 5 to 7 weeks to go!!!
i borrowed all of my maternity clothes last time but I don't want to tell anyone just yet so i am going to have to buy some things.... especially something to wear to work. dh won't be pleased about me buying clothes, but never mind!!

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morningpaper · 14/02/2005 20:11

I hate spending money on clothes too. But I'll go for some nice baggy stuff in a bigger size this time because last time I was a BLOB after I'd given birth and needed something bigger - but maternity wear was too depressing.

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Joseyjo · 14/02/2005 20:17

i know it is quite sad, but i quite like wearing maternity clothes. i was so proud of my bump last time - i can't wait till i have a bump as opposed to just looking fatter than normal.

SusiS · 14/02/2005 21:10

well, i have to say i started off with wearing just "bigger" clothes until i finally invested in some proper maternity trousers! what a difference - so much more comfortable!!! - well, mine are not put away anyways, so might just have to buy a couple of summer dresses

penpal · 14/02/2005 21:30

I've been watching this thread, not admitted to you all yet but my due date is 8 Oct. Dh not very pleased so we're still trying to comes to terms (I'm waiting till say-so to get excited). Very depressing tho, have DD and DS, miscarriage before DS so I think he'd called it a day on any more pregs, just didn't follow up with discussion and/or contraceptive!! Going silently mad, know exactly how big the baby is, heart etc. and even have every single one of the symptoms you all mention except actually vomiting. Don't want to make appointment with Doc until I can say 'we are excited and happy' instead of 'I want it, he doesn't'. Had some bleeding at samestage as I started bleeding with the miscarriage but it stopped within a day. Anyone else out there with a partner with mixed feelings? I'm just anxiously waiting for his support...........

Joseyjo · 14/02/2005 21:40

penpal - i am sorry to hear of your dilema. my dh is similarly unenthusiastic as last time went so badly. he had to watch me being rushed into emergency theatre - i got a general, but he had to wait outside the operating room terrified for me and the baby. i don't blame him for his current reaction. i was trying to talk about thie pregnancy as if we were normal, but he is not having any of it!! i am not sure when he is going to be happy - it may not be until we are holding a healthy baby. i spose i will just have to bite my tongue and wait.
i am sure your dh will come round - it is good to know that he is worried about you and your children though. at least he doesn't do the opposite of rosy tinted glasses now and then horrid shock when the next one actually arrives! I spose i am trying to say - it can only get better so hang on in there....

penpal · 14/02/2005 21:51

joseyjo, both my pregnancies ended up after a 'good' birth with no pain killers etc except aromatherapy (bliss) in theatre with full epidural and surgical removal of the placenta. Spookily each time I gave birth between 10-10.10pm and was in surgery from midnite to 1-1.30am. Dh was left sitting outside waiting and even helping the midwife clear up the delivery room and 2nd time, bathe the new babe. Although I don't think this is his problem this time, we are a bit older and now Ds is 2.5 I think he had begun to plan all that we can do as a family rather than us and 'babies'. I my view it's only delaying that stage by 2 years 7.5 months but he is so pessimistic and not really happy at work at the moment................ I just love being a stah mum, having worked until my DD was 3 and in full time nursery I've been through both miseries. Working is heart breaking on the family front, being at home is mind blowing, the harder you try the more you find out how responsible you are in the shaping of a human being;definitely the harder work but most rewarding if not financially...... Wish the government could help more with us caught in the middle, not earning enough for help, not earning enough to be worry free, yet don't get financial help for providing our own childcare whilst losing one salary. Hmmph big bug bear.

Joseyjo · 14/02/2005 21:57

penpal - sorry, it seems we are at different stages then. i am sure he will come round though. least i hope so because otherwise i will worry that my dh won't. it is different for us because my dh really wants the baby but is terrified about the process of getting it. it was pretty scarey last time. maybe someone else is in the same situation as you... responses required tomorrow ladies please...

SusiS · 15/02/2005 07:43

oh penpal, what a tough time. your feelings are all over the place anyways atm and seems like your partner is not believing it yet! and it is possible to have your life as planned!! the lo has to adjust to your life, not you to his! - sure you will have to do sacrifices, but you are doing them already, aren't you! whatever plans your partner has i am sure your lo will fit in nicely!! i am not sure if i waited for it to sort itself sometime. you don't need the worrying bit atm! - but since your partner is not happy at work atm, maybe he needs some help there? maybe you could support each other???? - it will be allright

bonniej · 15/02/2005 08:36

sorry to hear he's not happy at the moment penpal. It can come as quite a shock if not planned and men tend to think of the practical side of things (like how are we going to afford another one?) whereas we just get excited and know we'll cope. I am sure given time he will start to look forward to it once it's sunk in. I too am really enjoying being a SAHM, but financially could do with earning. It is hard but somehow we manage. Hope everything works out for you x

triceratops · 15/02/2005 09:43

Congratulations Penpal, you really do deserve to be happy and excited about your new addition.

The problem with my dh is that he worries. He worries about being able to afford to give our kids the lifestyle he would like and about my health and about being a good enough dad. He wouldn't let me buy baby clothes or decorate the nursery last time until after ds was born as he felt it was "tempting fate". He maintained all the way through my last pg that he didn't want to be at the birth (although as we planned a home birth he didn't really have much choice).

However when ds arrived on the scene he bonded instantly, he says that ds is the most important thing in his life.

If your dh really really didnt want another child penpal he would have discussed/used contraception. Having already had a couple he knows how it all works . It sounds to me as though he is just worried about how you will all cope, mentally and financially. I hope you manage to talk it through and reassure each other.

SusiS · 15/02/2005 12:20

oh my, i certainly didn't have this last time! i am so breathless all the time. everything i do is just so exhausting - i hope that will pass!!!! - doesn't help having a 9 month old one

Joseyjo · 15/02/2005 13:30

anyone else bored and feeling sick? i usually only feel sick when i am hungry but i just had lunch and now still feel sick and want to go to sleep!!!

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morningpaper · 15/02/2005 13:32

I literally wake up and think "Ah only 12 more hours before I can go back to bed."

I'm sure I didn't feel this nauseous and tired before, but then, I didn't have to run around after a 2 year-old before!

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Joseyjo · 15/02/2005 13:55

i have no excuse and no-one to look after but me, but it is still not my favourite experience so far!! oh well, the first scan will make it all worth while i suppose!!

Lexie100 · 15/02/2005 14:01

Feeking quite sick today

what's the story on nuts, can we or can't we?

SusiS · 15/02/2005 14:21

just be careful with peanuts; might trigger an allergy - but all other nuts are fine