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Due October 2005 ... come on, ladies....

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morningpaper · 28/01/2005 10:47

OK let's take a deep breath and begin...

morningpaper, expecting #2, due 8 October 2005, so currently 4 wks to the day...

Hoping that someone will invent a new form of pain relief in the next 8 months....

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Kiwifruit · 23/02/2005 12:01

Morning! And welcome Expressmummy (fingers crossed!) and Tommy.

How is it possible to feel sick and starving at the same time? I'm constantly hungry, but also nauseous!!

Is anyone out there going to use a private midwife (am waiting for a brochure with prices from one that I contacted, but just saw someone mention £6000 - ouch!!)? Prefer the idea of having the same midwife for ante natal, birth and post natal care (this is what happens at home), and read somewhere that only 25% of women giving birth in UK hospitals have acually met the midwife who helps them deliver. Did any of you 2nd (or 3rd) time around Mums know the midwife who delivered your baby? Am I just freaking out about nothing? My doctor was spectacularly uninformative when I went to see her, so feel like I'm working on zero information at the moment (quite scary for a self confessed control freak!).

jessicasmummy · 23/02/2005 12:06

i didnt know the midwife who delivered my baby! Where we live (til friday!) you have you ante-natal checks with a community midwife, and unless you go to the birthing centre rather than the hospital, you dont get the same one. i couldnt face the thought of no pain relief so i went to the nearest hospital - 24 miles away! my ante-natal midwife came to the house afterwards though so it was nice. I actually saw her the other day at the doctors and she couldnt believe the size of jess.... jess was only a week old the last time she saw her - now my little monster at 7 months!

Kiwifruit · 23/02/2005 12:11

Hi Jessicasmummy - I hear you about the hospital - don't plan on going anywhere else!! How many post birth visits do you get?

Joseyjo · 23/02/2005 12:11

Kiwifruit - I had community midwife care during my last pregnancy which consisted of a team of midwifes, but generally you see one most of the time. You don't get continuity of care, but you do have the safety net of multiple people trained to the same level at your beck and call!! They were all fab for me. Then at the hospital, there is a different team, but again, they were lovely and made an effort to get to know me while i was in, so that it wasn't a problem. You will find that as your first conversation with any of the people you meet while you are pregnant is so intimate, that you stop worrying about the fact that you have never met them before... especially after the baby is born when they become obsessed with your "loss" and have huge numbers of scarey words to describe it!!!!
Mine was a positive experience of meeting lots of people who all helped. Hope this helps!!!

Joseyjo · 23/02/2005 12:13

having said that... my sister lives in austria and her gynae turned magically into an obs bloke when she got pregnant and saw her LOADs!!! he was also supposed to deliver the baby, and she was paranoid about him being on holiday, but in the end she had a caesarean and he didn't do it anyway!!! then she had to wait 8 weeks before she could see him after the birth as he went skiing!!!!!! swings and roundabouts i suppose...

Kiwifruit · 23/02/2005 12:17

Thanks Joseyjo - that's a good way of looking at it. Still trying to feel my way around the system at the moment and work out how it all works!

Right, am off into Covent Garden to find some lunch (just started snowing again, so good excuse for something hot and stodgey!!).

SusiS · 23/02/2005 13:43

kiwi: i had a very good experience with nhs pregnancy care!! was a mixture of gp/mw/hospital - everything was very well organised! you just have to go and see your gp and from then on you get told when you should turn up where to see who! you are right, it's not 1 mw only; it's a team - but i even got a list with all the mw's of my team, and over time you get to know all of them (in the end you have an app every week!) - in hospital, well, i got to see all of them (stayed quite long) - most of them are stationary but i also saw some of my "mobile" mws! didn't manage to give birth in just one shift - so saw quite a few mws there too! and i couldn't fault one of them! all were very friendly, competent and very understanding. and whatever i wanted i got it!! (re pain relief!) - nhs does it for me - i know what you mean though! i was quite scared myself, didn't know what to expect not being from this country!!

sapphire35 · 23/02/2005 15:01

Good Morning ladies.

Thanks for all the warm welcomes .

I guess i'll go without a midwife, i'm paying out-of-pocket for the IVF procedure already. I don't know if DH and I can afford it. I'll ask my gp about it.

Sorry i have another wierd question has anyone had an O in their sleep! I did last night and afterwards i got really bad cramps. It scared me. I have a scan today to check on the twins, we should be able to see the little heartbeats today . So I hope everything is okay.

Woodelf · 23/02/2005 15:10

Welcome Sapphire and good luck with the twins scans! Not sure about harmful effects of an O, how something so nice could cause cramps it's hard to know if the two are linked. They often happen at night if one is not enjoying them often enough during waking hours, ahem... Have definately been off sex myself which is unusual but probably a fear that some harm could come to the baby woodelf?

Thanks for the encouraging words about the NHS SusiS; it's reassuring to not just hear the horror stories which are scary for first timers like me .

Joseyjo · 23/02/2005 15:16

Sapphire - strange but true... one of the supposed symptoms of pregnancy is extremely vivid dreams, which i have been suffering from myself (couldn't possibly go into details though...) and i would have to admit that i have had a similar experience. wierdly though i didn't wake up straight away, but remembered in the morning. no cramps to accompany it though, but can't imagine it would be a problem.

sapphire35 · 23/02/2005 15:41

My doctor suggested the idea of keeping a journal of my dreams, he said they were going to get very intense. He already has one patient that is doing this already. I think i'm going to do that, i find this all quite interesting.

Joseyjo · 23/02/2005 16:42

start worrying if he asks to read them!!!!

Moomin · 23/02/2005 19:20

had to come home from work today - was absolutely pathetic! i only work 3 days a week (teaching) so went in feeling fine on tues, my first day after half term. but then fell asleep in front of tele last night at beginning of eastenders and woke up as holby was finishing! got up and went to bed and was asleep again by 9.45.

was shattered going to work today and started crying when i saw the 'cover' list as i was down to take a register then do a full day of lessons and break duty in the horrible snowy playground. deputy head took pity on me, took me off the registers and sent me home at lunchtime. slept all afternoon. feel really pathetic! hope this doesn't last too long or i just won't survive work. don't feel too sick yet, unless i don't eat for a while but that hasn't really been a problem as i've eaten everything that isn't nailed down today.
has anyone had an early scan (6/7 weeks)? is it a vaginal one or a tummy one at this stage?

jessicasmummy · 23/02/2005 19:22

i know what you mean about being tired.... put jess down for a nap at 3pm, and i woke up at 5.30 when dh came home, and jessica was still asleep! She has only just got up because we woke her - think she is sickening for something - got her a docs appointment tomorrow morning.

Moomin · 23/02/2005 19:26

poor her..... and poor you!
i know i was this tired with dd but it's never as bad when you look back at it. it feels so debilitating at the moment. i do feel pathetic though. feel like a i can't complain really - i've wanted this pg for so long

jessicasmummy · 23/02/2005 19:30

i know... you easily forget the hell of pregnancy when you have that little bundle in your arms dont you! i was a nightmare with dd - had to give up work at 4 months gone because i just couldnt do it.... the doc signed me off for so long i thought i cant do it anymore. Hope things improve for you soon.... at least like me you dont feel sick!!!

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morningpaper · 23/02/2005 19:43

I'd like to add my vote of confidence for the NHS too - I had great care and wouldn't go private even if I was rolling in cash. I'd also rather be somewhere where they efficiently deal with 30 women a day than somewhere where they just focus on a few.

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Lexie100 · 23/02/2005 19:45

Moomin - i feel exactly the same. Can't function at all at the moment. I went to sit down for five mins and work up one and a half hours later! I constantly feel sick but think i have figured out that my tummy likes being full rather than empty.

As for scan at 6-7 weeks i think they will do a tummy scan not an internal.

Moomin · 23/02/2005 20:35

ta for that lexie.
has anyone got mild crampy type pains? they're not quite the same as period pains, not as intense, but it keeps feeling a bit twingey, and was definitely more so when i'd been at work and on my feet more on tuesday. i'm sure it's just everything moving about and stretching but just thought i'd check. no spotting or anything though, btw.

jessicasmummy · 23/02/2005 20:45

moomin - i asked earlier and was told it was normal! I was worried too!

Moomin · 23/02/2005 20:49

oo ta, jm. night night then - off to bed!

RudyDudy · 23/02/2005 21:19

I have all sorts of pains and twinges and especially when I'm tired or have been doing lots. I remember having exactly the same last time so am trying really hard not to worry about it all too much. I'm sure it is quite normal as the body adjusts to the pregnancy and ligaments slacken, etc.

sapphire35 · 23/02/2005 22:29

Moomin, it will get better, i too have the same pains and twinges.

I don't know about all doctors, but i had my 6.5 week scan today and it was done vaginally. I saw both babies heartbeats , BabyA was 117 and Baby B was 114. They were 6.5mm and 6.1mm. The RE said they were looking great. Alot sure can happen in a weeks time.
I still have no morning sickness, just very moodie and constipated.

shama · 24/02/2005 07:04

Hello everybody.

Congrats to all of you due in October.

I would like to join this thread.
I have been TTC for the past 7 months and finally 2days back I got a positive in home test. Yesterday I got a positive again.

Mumsnet has helped me throughout these 7 months and I think this thread will now help me further.

For 3 months I took a break from work. I joined work recently. And 2 days after I joined the job I did a home test and got positive. Now I regret having joined the job.

I have started getting morning sickness and feel nauseated throughout the day.

I even wonder if it would be better to quit the job in the early stages of both pg & work.

SusiS · 24/02/2005 07:04

ohh sapphire, sounds great

i too feel little pains once in a while, and that weird one like a bubble bursting now and again - but i am not worried at all!
and i know that i wasn't THAT tired with ds - i worked up to 1 week before due date and was fine all the way through - so this is kind of new to me too! and the sickness - also seems a bit better today