Due July 2008 - the thread where we all (hopefully) have our babies!!

[sweetkitty]

Here we go ladies

New thread I've tidied up, theres raspberry leaf tea on the go, all our bags are packed, come on babies..............

Congratulations twinkle gorg names! oh my god, it's all happening now, who'll be next? so don't want it to be me till due date, 4more wks!!!

Hey Twinkle Congratulations. Love the names.... Hope all is well.

pigley Any twinges yet?????

Justjules Is it you that Disney is talking about with baby Sidney?

Congrats Twinkle and Mr Twinkle!! The floodgates have opened...
AggiePanther - beautiful weather here today, couldn't be more different, we were back on the beach!
My dad's family are Welsh - from SW valleys (Senghennydd for anyone who knows - can't rememebr who else was talking about being Welsh now..)- one of my uncles cycled to Aberfan to try and dig out the children when the slag heap collapsed..
Libra1975 - yes, babies can engage and then disengage, numerous times - more common in 2nd+ pregnancies though.
Bebe -hope you can find some support and ways forward, I agree, financial probs are the worst - so stressful, embarressing, and just affect everything else.
My right calf has been majorly cramping all day long - really hurts!
Oh yeah, Skip Hop bags - love em - can't wait to use mine!!Never had a nice changing bage for dd1.

Wow Twinkle huge double congratulations!! Two lovely boys, well done (and thanks Mr Twink for the update.)

Glad you're ok Pigley, how odd that it had gone back to normal again. Did you mention your headaches?

Just finished some more pineapple...

want to ask you guys a question here

anyone else had this

last few days i have felt very detached from my DH even much so i tild him tonight i dont want him at the birth which he was upset about he cant understand why

he knows im terrified of the labour and am in total denial that its going to happen

ive benn very withdrawn into my self this week like i have to mentally prepare myself as no one can help me anymore
i know it sounds dramatic but in my mind he wont be able to help me if its like last time i even e-mailed my doula and said i dont need her help whats the point!!!!

been very weepy this week and sad i thought i was supposed to be happy and waiting for these 18 days till hes here instead its just sent me kind of in a depression
my dh wonders if my mood change is a sign that baby will arrive of his own accord

i think even though i will be scared i will be stronger on my own
he feels im shutting him out he so wants to be at the birth
am i being horrible to him and just thinking of myself here?

twinkle well done you

very happy for you all

Hello,
Twinkle - congrats on your two boys, glad they are doing well.
Disneystar - You are not alone in feeling like this, I have been worrying about the labour for weeks now, as dh could be anywhere in the country, and to be honest I have resigned myself to doing this on my own. I have no-one who I would want there, esp my mother, she would drive me up the wall. I'm not sure if it's just me expecting the worsed case scenario, so i'm not disapointed, or I really want to do this on my own -
I think perhaps not analysing (sp?) things too much might help a bit, and focusing on other things. Although it is difficult, with hormones flying around at the minute, hopefully your dh will understand your perhaps not yourself?

thank you just jules for undertstanding

yay more babies! Well done Twinkle! Cheers to mr Twinkle for posting

Sorry I fell off into the abyss there yesterday and thought I had posted but spaced it. Sheesh!

DH and I ordered ham and pineapple pizza last night and he jokingly said..if you go into labour after this I will be shocked. I did kick off with some nasty cramps which gave us an excuse to practice early labour bath and hypnobirthing relaxation. DH hadn't done his homework and while trying to go through the rundown skipped whole body parts and then saying umm relaxxxx and er breatheeee all the while nervously squeezing my wrist knowing he screwed it up. I was half laughing, half fuming. He said " well if i get it wrong you will be mad at me"..hell yes I will..he's all I have!

Went to the MW yesterday and she said all was well and I had a "good sized" baby. She said he could come anytime. eek! I go back in two weeks (july!!)can't wait to get my mits on this kid

Catec - I know how you must feel, we had a while there when my MA hadn't been processed and it was tight like I've never known. DH and I made a budget and did all we could to trim the fat. I can cook a lot of meals for under a fiver. Eat your heart out Jamie Oliver! Also second that about Gumtree. These things have a way of working themselves out at the last minute. (big hugs)

Jules - You are a star. I think you've pinpointed what we are all going through.

Disney - I think IKWYM about DH detachment. I've sort of been going into myself lately, and a bit worried that he will freeze up and not be the rock I need when it comes down to the nitty gritty. Take some time to think it through, but I would call your doula and have a conversation with her. You are an amazing lady..hang in there!!

Pigley- Glad to hear you are feeling better, wonder what that was all about? Keep us posted ..especially me as we have the same EDD. If you go now, I won't be able to sleep.

also ladies, I am happy to post out copies of these relaxation CDs. I have one with an English lady and another one with an American lady that sounds like Betty White (of golden girls fame). Lots of positive affirmations about birth and nice breathing imagery.

Morning ladies

Wow I go away for the night and look what happens more babies!

Twinkle - congratulations two little boys how wonderful, hope they are doing well and you are too, can't wait for pics.

disney - I think what you are going through is only natural, everyone keeps saying to me oh third baby you will be done in an hour piece of cake but I don't feel like that I'm terrified of labour again, I won't be happy until she's here and I have her in my arms

mcchesers - lol @ your DH, my one has strict instructions he can rub my back if I ask other than that his job is to have abuse screamed at him!

catec - I think everyone worries about finances when you are about to have a new baby, I thought we would never be able to survive on one wage but you just adjust your life accordingly IYSWIM. I also found that you don't buy the same rubbish you did pre baby and most of your money you spend on the baby anyway.

justjules - good to see you on here

Well yesterday I went to bed for the afternoon, didn't really sleep much (too much noise from downstairs) but at least I was lying down and not running after DDs. DP then made the DDs dinner and entertained them whilst I got ready, I had a lovely meal but oh the heartburn afterwards, we went to the pub and then to my friends house and I got home at 12.45am had a fab time though, very tired today though.

Sounds like you had a good night out SK. Well deserved too! I'm going to have lunch with the girls from my NHS class. Two have already had their babies..but hey ho I can wait a wee while longer. I remember you saying you wouldn't be happy until you felt your LO whacking you in the ribs. That was my alarm clock this morning ;)

Congrats Twinkle!
All is well here, will try to catch up properly later

Morning all,

Mchessers- Know what you mean about the baby alarm clock. Was being kicked in the side at 3.30 this morning.
So much for my sleeping through....oh well 2 nights is better than nothing.
Chatting with the midwife yesterday as her theoy is that if you have a usual time you wake up then tha will be a feed time. Looks like 3ish is my destiny!

Glad you had a good evening out SK-- Pay back for DP

Disney- I think is only natural to worry about the birth.. Im looking forward to seeing baby but not the birth bit! Im sure DH will understand that its a big thing for us ladies to go through stiring up all sorts of emotions.

Congratulations Twinkle! Thanks for letting us know MrTwinkle!

Wow, so that means Minkus is next?

Pigley - glad that everything's OK. The BP thing does seem a bit random. When mine was playing up, it could go from 160/115 to 120/75 within seconds (different arms).

Disney - I think that sounds fairly natural. I got really concerned the other day because I woke up to find DH cuddling me in the middle of night (not anything naughty) and I got really upset that he was in my 'space'. I felt awful the next day about having pushed him away and everything but it was just a bit weird.

(((((disney)))) Hope you are feeling better

pigley this little one kicks the monitor as well now they cannot hide mind tried wriggling away from last 2 midwives that were having a listen in too they still have not learnt they are too big to hide.

Congratulations twinkle and Mr twinkle lovely weights hope fully they will feed keep warm have no probs and not be in SCBU for long

Saw my community midwife yesterday my blood pressure is right down 120/60 she also did it one on both arms because apparently it is often different and she is right the BP on my left arm is higher and guess which one it has been done on when it has been up at the hospital she always does it on my right arm. She also lookes at my birth plan and said it was ok and very reasonable and expalined why I had problems with certain things (lying on my back, lots of noise and people, epidural, sudden changes, ventouse)and suggested a few tweaks and showing it to the consultant. She said that because of my medical problems they might want me continuously monitored and we might need to do some negotiation but what I had written was reasonable and to stick to my guns

Went to Boots and bought some more bits and pieces the exciting ones like maternity pads and disposable pants. Then as it was such a beautiful day I went to the zoo and had a mooch round partially because I had quite bad back pain and though if this was early labour then keeping moving and distracted was a good idea (had my ordinary TENS on not used that for ages). I was knackered when I got home and so intent in getting in and having a lie down and nearly missed being called by one of my elderly neighbours she has knitted me 2 beautiful matinee jackets and made me cry

Sorry, my last paragraph made very little sense, but I'm just trying to say that my emotions are really surprising me at the moment. I get upset or angry about really irrational things and so how I react to people keeps changing. I assume it's just hormones and fear but it has freaked me out sometimes how weird I feel.

yes I am very emotional right now wondering how I will cope with 3 etc

pigley - don't think DD2 heard your MW about the night feeds, she used to get up about 6 times!

Have laods to do today, DP forgot to put a pull up on DD1 and she wet her bed so of course he doesn't know where the clean bedding is so I had to change the bed when I got in last night and tonnes of washing to do today. And he had a curry lsat night and kept the leftovers in the microwave so kitchen stinks.

Right and I am definitely buying a pram this weekend!

hello everyone, and of course congrats to twinkle and isaidno.

Glad you had a good night out sweetkitty after your dp being so inconsiderate the night before.

Heffa I am just like that when dp cuddles me in bed.

Disney do talk to your doula. It seems to me that even if you don't want your dh around for the birth and even if stuff happens that you were trying to avoid, it will help to have someone around to support you and take your side.

Agree about moneysavingexpert, it's a great site. Hope things get sorted out for you bebejones, especially that you get a new tenant quickly as it sounds like that would make a big difference.

Our main midwife came round yesterday to see me and dp together and do the big talk about how labour might start and progress. She also went through what dp should do if it's going really quickly and the midwives haven't arrived yet . I hope it made him think a bit more about it... earlier on this week he was still going off to see clients in far-flung parts of the country. It's made me think a bit more about childcare. If our lovely neighbours aren't in, or available, we don't really have anyone to look after the kids, so as the midwife said we need a 'Plan B'. So far dp's suggestion is to buy them a new DVD... and I'm still hoping it all happens in the night and they stay fast asleep until the baby is born. I also flagged up my concerns about dp's family - as usual he hadn't really twigged how stressful it was for me last time and how much I'm worrying about the same thing happening this time.

Anyway I don't even have any little twinges (apart from the SPD and quite a few Braxton Hicks) so I think the baby can hold on for the next week at least.

Both boys are at home today and I'm hoping they will mostly amuse themselves as I am aching from too much walking yesterday, and feeling too tired to think of distractions. Dp said he was only in the office so might come home early, which will be a help.

Aww Kaz, what a lovely neighbour! Glad your appointment went well.

sweetkitty my dp did similar with some bolognese sauce I'd left for him a few days ago - there was enough to save for another meal if he'd thought of putting it back in the fridge but I had to chuck it all away in the morning. Also ds1 wet the bed one day recently and all dp did was take the sheets off and stick them in the washing basket without telling me, so I didn't notice ds1 needed new sheets until bedtime.

pigley forgot to say glad that your bp stabilised itself.

Morning all and congratulations Twinkle and Mr Twinkle!

SK and Mcchesers - thanks for your words but think you meant them to be addressed to bebejones? Whilst my finances aren't great, thankfully no mortgage to worry about at the moment. We plan to move back to NZ at the end of the year and acquire a mortgage then. Then I have to be the one to go back to work while DP plays house husband ! We wanted one of us to be at home at least for the first couple of years and unfort I can earn more so have to go back to the coalmine.

TGIF and then only one week left at work - woo hoo!

good lord I need a brain enema. sorry about that catec.

No worries, I know how you feel. I am rather worried about the quality of some of the work leaving my desk at the moment - becoming rather a liability!