Due in Fab Feb 2009

[Davidsmom]

Hi

Couldn't see a Feb thread so thought I would start one as am so excited to get a faint but definately positive HPT.

Fertility friend estimates a due date of 4th Feb.

Unfortunately (or fortunately)am off this afternoon for a hen weekend in Barcelona the first holiday in at least a year and a half and can't drink. Ohh well will have to be the responsible adult..... Hence checking to see if up the duff before I went drowning myself in Sangria.

Hope to see some others on here when I get back!!! If anyone cares to join me?

Mornin Idont, glad to hear I am not the only one feeling rough!

Personally I would ignore the locum and discuss with your regular midwife as she should be a lot more supportive. I know that there can be a few obstacles regarding home births if you have had or are having what they class as a high-risk pregnancy but I thought that covered things like high blood pressure, post-partum haemorrhages, gets diabetes etc. Not sure if VBAC comes into that category or not.

I am seriously considering asking for a homebirth. My first went excellently ? I made it to 6cms before I went into hospital and then I had an epidural which slowed everthing right down but I managed to push out DD unassisted in 1.5 hours so I am hoping that this time I will be able to manage the last 4cms with just gas and air and the second stage will be a little shorter.

The only worry I have is I had a second degree tear and they needed a doc to confirm it wasn't third degree before repairing me. I am worried that if i tear as badly again at home they will transfer me to hospital to fix me up. That would be gutting!

I bloody hated the 6 hours I spent on the maternity ward and was ready and dressed at 8am waiting for DH to get me the hell out of there!

i was stuck in hospital for a whole week. It was bloody awful and that's why i really don't want a c section this time. I think i'm going to have to fight very hard or maybe just ignore their advice to go in when labour starts and hold out until i can't stand the pain any more! Have recently moved from manchester where i was told a domino birth would be an option next time, the midwife didn't mention it yesterday but i'm going to do some research and see if they offer it in leeds.

i bet if you have a nice relaxed homebirth you won't tear as badly, time to get out the almond oil and start massaging?!

Poor you, I think I would have discharged myself against medical advice if I had had to spend a week inside. You must have nerves of steel!

Hope you are right about the tearing theory ? it took me months to heal, wasn't pleasant but hey you don't really notice too much when your up all night feeding! I figure that everything got a good old stretching last time therefore will be like silly putty this time round

What have I gotten myslef into! How on earth am I going to manage a newborn and a 20 month old! Its going to be a mission but I do love a good challenge

Hello - just POAS and looks like number 2 is on the way. Reckon I'm due around 9 Feb.

Hello

I'm new to this thread. Think I'm due around 2nd Feb...

I'm feeling tired and sick and also a bit teary today! I feel bad at feeling teary as everything is good at the moment, getting married in a few months! But it is taking me a couple of hours to feel normal in the morning... this is the hormones yes? I have a four year old dd but I didn't know I was pregnant last time until about 2 months in so I'm new to the early stage if you know what I mean.

Any reassurance welcome!

Hello to you all!

Loopylula, yes, it is definitely an early m/c.

Is an annovulatory cycle one where you don't ovulate? Because I'm wondering what happens after this. I have a very regular 26 day cycle normally and usually experience ovulation pains on day 13. Because of the ovulation pains I've only really used those as my guide before, conceiving 5 times. So I'm not sure what I should be looking out for.

All info/advice gratefully received - and good luck to everyone else x

hi ladies can i join??
i have been TTC#2 for 7 cycles and i had an early MC in april. i did a test yesterday and it was a BFP!! it was faint but definitely there (confirmed by my notoriously sceptical DH) i did antother today and another faint BFP i have lurked all day uesterday and im a bit scared of posting on here but i just thought what the hell!! if i am going to have another early MC it will happen whether i post on here or not!! you all seem so nice so i think i will like hanging around here for the next 8 months if all goes well i am 4weeks 2 days today (due feb 16th) and i had my MC at 5+1 so i have 6 days to get to my next milestone!! good luck to everyone and congrats ladies we are up the duff!!
xx ei xx

ladymac sorry to read about your MC i had one in april and it was horrible i hope you dont have to wait too long for your 'sticky' bean xx
xx ei xx

Hi Queeny, welcome to the fab feb thread (that's a bit of a mouthful!) Lets all keep our fingers crossed for each other, there are lots of us who have experienced the anguish of early MC.

I was so nervous last time, after one MC, by the time I was confident enough (26 weekks) to join the due may07 thread I felt that it was too late for a newcomer. Hence me joining straight away this time round!

DH doesn't even know DC2 is on the way yet! Am saving it for fathers day as I know he'll be so chuffed.

ladymac ? your are correct, an annovulatory cycle is when you don't ovulate.

Basically, after the early mc, I didn't get the rise in temps which indicates that progesterone is being produced post ovulation. I did however have an immediate return to my 28 day cycle and the next month I saw the pre-ovulation drop in temp, did the old BD, then noted temp rises so i knew that i had ovulated that month and hey presto we were preggers again.

You could try taking 50-200mg of B6 daily as it is supposed to have a regulatory effect on hormones and worked for me after bfing. It took me much longer to adjust back to normal after bfing.

Hope that helps. xx

Hi LuLu and LittleS. congrats and welldone. Sounds normal to me LittleS, if its any consolation I am having trouble staying awake. I am too tired to feed myself and am just managing to cope with 12mo DD.

I was really queasy last time round but not so tired ? seems to be the other way round this time! They do say no two pregnancies are alike though.

Sorry to 'hear' your news ladymac. I TTC for 6 years with my second pregnancy and experienced early m/cs. I seem to remember my period kicked back in pretty quick. When I had a D and C, I was advised to wait one cycle before ttc again. Perhaps that's so your cycle can normalise and you can track your ovulation. However, of course, the best way to get pregnant is to have lots of sex, and I was told by a GP, every 4 days, whether I was ovulating or not.

I don't know if this is true for an early m/c, but I was told I would test pregnant for 3 weeks after my d and c, so I guess that is another reason to wait at least one cycle.

Lots of luck and my gran was 44 when she got pregnant with my mum - healthy birth and that was in 1934 - I'm sure if she could do it 74 years ago, why shouldn't you?

Thanks loopylula and tummytrouble. Never done the temperature thing before but will read up on it and start.

I have a friend who had 3 or 4 early m/cs in her forties before going on to produce gorgeous dc4 at the age of 47! So I'm not giving up hope.

ladymac - Sorry to hear your news. I've just come off the Temping buddies thread - they are a really nice bunch on there and very supportive. If you feel like it, go and join them - they will give you some good tips -

www.fertilityfriend.com is where a lot of people post their temps - people have quite different cycles but you often get low temps pre ov a dip and then a slow rise or a quick dip and rise indicating that you have ov'd - your temps then usually stay up until AF arrives again when your temp then dips. If you're pg then the temps stay up after ov. Fertility Friend will draw your ov line and give you tips etc - a few months of charting gives you quite a good idea of what goes on. The first months it takes a while to get into the swing of things with the temp taking first thing etc.....but otherwise I found it really helped me to get an idea of when I needed to step up the bd'ing (or in my case persuade DH to do the bding ?!!!!)

I am waiting nervously here expecting the worst to happen....this waiting is horrible I wish I could relax about it but I just can't....

hi girls. Welcome to all the new entrants! Hope you are feeling really excited. I think everyone on here seems really friendly, although there are so many of us it's quite hard to keep up!

Ladymac - hope you are OK today. I was also on a ttc thread and used FertilityFriend to plot temperature charts. It really helped me as I don't ovulate even close to where I would have expected! We had been doing it at the wrong times for the first 2 months!

Herbgarden - I also feel a bit like I am waiting nervously for the worst to happen. I said I was going to enjoy these weeks and what will be will be...but failing miserably! I am worried about waiting til 12 weeks then finding out there is nothing there . I don't know why I feel like this. Is it normal to worry? I guess it probably is.

ChocolateEclaire - I feel exactly the same as you. I was so pleased to find out I was pregnant but now feel so nervous and scared to get to 12 weeks.

I suppose it's normal, i felt the same with DD.

I'm trying to keep going as normal, including going the gym (not sure if this is wise???) i have no sickness yet but feel very drained

I think it is normal to worry CE but I am funnily enough more worried than last time - I suspect down to several things - last time I fell pg first time and it was a bit of a shock and I was fine all the way through until the end when I had awful bp problems and then ended up having an emergency c-section - I do however now have a gorgeous ds of nearly 2. This time it took longer - I'm also nearly 38 and my ds is coming up to 2 so a) I am in a slightly riskier age group (as are quite a few of us here) and b) I just didn't want there to be a big age gap between siblings (plus, haven't told dh yet, but I'd like another ?!)...so that seems to have put an added stress on it....oh plus the fact that dh and I seemed to have to make more effort in the bding dept than before - children, stressful jobs and other factors just make all that stuff harder and less spontaneous (for us, I'm not speaking for everyone of course !!)

That said, even if things go well here, things can still go wrong in another way later (hope to god they don't of course) but unfortunately one worry just gets replaced by another as your children grow up -....or of course it can all go just fine and dandy. My mum had 3 kids and we all turned out fine !! Maybe that's what I should focus on...

I feel really rubbish at the moment.

My blood pressure reads that of a 60 year old according to the manual . My palpatation are back and now I have face full of spots..... Just great.

I hope I do not mc again, but I am having an early scan anyway privately as soon as they can fit me in. I have to call again tomorrow.

I am really fed up and wish I could feel just a little bit pregnant.

I am pleased to say I have been feeling sick all day today. I spoke too soon when I said I have no symptoms! But aleast I can believe I am pregnant now as the 8 positive preg tests did nothing for me. I am really worried about my early scan on Thursday as that is how I found out last year I was having a mmc. I wont feel better till I hold my little baby in my arms. As I've said before we must all keep positive, but it is very hard when you have lost one or more before. xx

All quiet here? Everyone feeling queasy & tired and gone to bed?

I'm not queasy but vv tired! More so than last time - I think partly because I have dd to cope with but also because work is very busy and stressful at the moment. Like several others on this thread I think I'm also more anxious this time round, and 12 weeks seems a long time away. It's a vicious circle - I feel stressed and anxious, and then I worry about the effect on LO and this makes me more stressed and anxious! Anyway will stop whinging now.

BTW I think I'm due around 11 February - forgot to say before.

Yeah - it's going to be interesting being pregnant with another child to look after.

I haven't really got any symtoms yet, but I seem to remember the tired and queasy kicked heavily around week 7 last time.

So far I keep having to peer at the photo I took of the pregnancy test just to remind myself I really am about to do it all again.

Jelliebaby, you should keep fit whilst pregnant, but not take up anything new like skydiving.

I went to my GP today to get the ball rolling and she told me to do exercise, but not get hot and watch the BP. I don't have any history of BP problems, so not entirely sure why she said it to me, perhaps its because I'm 40 and more likely to have problems. Has anyone else been told not to get too hot?

I'm with you all on the second time round nerves, etc. Am feeling absolutely shattered but at least DD was an angel this afternoon and played by herself for ages whilst I slowly mooched on with things.

Think I'm gonna get an early night!