Due November 2008: "Now, where is my uterus?...Just above the hair!! "

[Heartmum2Jamie]

Our shiny new thread!!

Heartmum - Bugger what a predictament. I would also try and sell the tickets as it is really something for the two of you. Put aside a weekend when you can get a baby sitter and make it the 30th take II.

Dr's Wife, what a horrible person your SIL must be. How nasty saying those things. Perhaps she jealous that you are making a choice? What ever her reasoning, i would find that very difficult to deal with. Go and eat some sweets!!!

Afternoon everyone, and isn't it gorgeous. I've been in the garden for a few hours but had to come in as I'm just tooooo hot (typical brit...never happy with the weather )

DrsWife, I can't believe your SIL. She really sounds like a venomous witch.

gotta go, SS squawking...will catch up properly later.

Qucik wave to barbareeba...nice to see you here with us

Yeah I think I will be co sleeping too. with one of those child friendly things attached so we don't fall out.
Not sure about DH though, he does like a wee pint or two (norm just the one can though) and a nip before bed. I don't think any of this should be happening if you are co sleeping. Though, in saying that, he doesn't move much in his sleep and turns over quite obligingly when I poke him and tell him he is snoring.
What do you think? Should I tell him to cut it out completely or share the room with DD who has a big bed waiting for her? Not sure how the second option would go down though

As for attaching baby to mum Not sure she would agree to that. She will have bouncy seat ready for when she feels baby needs a break. She was the one who told me I needed a break from DD last time, who either needed to be on the boob or attached to my pinky for the first few weeks. The bouncy seat proved to be just the ticket (and a dummy). I am gonna get one that vibrates and does fancy stuff this time.
So I guess I am not going the whole hog with the attached parenting thing. Just think that I will throw baby in a sling for feeds so that I can jump if DD is doing anything naughty, cos you know she will be using the opportunity to do something!
I also know that baby seems quite heavy when you have zero pelvic floor left so a sling won't be put into use until I feel I have that back under control. It just felt a bit odd to begin with, last time.
And if I end up with the c section they want me to have, how long will that take before I have the confidence to don a sling?

Talking of seats, I am not actually sure what to do this time. My friend loaned me a seat, which I used at mums, that could lay baby down or sit her up to eat in. That was a great help. But I also think the vibrating ones are good for sending them off. There again, a swing was a great loaned gift too. Only used it a handful of times but do think that it would have been a good thing to have from the start. I am gonna have the place littered with options!

Oh my head is spinning today!

I will have baby in my room in moses basket straight off and for first few weeks and then into cot in own room.

Have chosen a lovely border for the nursery from the Mamas and Papas brochure. It is lemon with little snails and hedgehogs on it. So sweet! After the 20 week scan which is in 2 weeks, and after our holiday we will start getting the nursery ready.

Just one more thing. First babies, when will I feel it move? I am 18 weeks at the end of this week.

I too have babies in with me, not in a moses basket or co sleeping but in a travel cot (which has a bassinet on top, although I never use that) as found that DC1 kept waking up when arms hit the side of the moses basket.

Around 4 months I put them into their own room and hopefully get them sleeping through - at least that worked with DC1 and 2!!

I wonder if anyone else can claim to be doing what I am doing....ame wearing my knickers with a t shirt whilst cooking the dinner as was just 2 blooming hot to keep my trousers on!!!!!! Oh the shame

DM x

*pinkali8 i felt flutterings with first DC around 19/20 weeks.....i think!!!

Afternoon all!!

I'm back from my hols and had a really good time Missed you all of course though

I have a def bump now and NONE of my clothes fit me anymore. Shopping trip to Bluewater anyone?????

Hope you are all OK and will catch up properly during the next few days - first day back in office and busy catching up.

xx

LOL Dozy - I think my boss may have something to say if I dressed the same as you here in my office

lucky you to be able to do that though, I have soo had enough and want to go home now!!

xx

twinklingfairy - I would never have a baby in mine and DH's bed mainly because I could not trust us to sleep perfectly still all night. But I think baby and parents need their own space to some degree.

I will be doing the same as Pinkali37 which is what I did with my DS. Moses basket until he is too big for it which was approx 3 months then his cot bed in his own room. DS was 9lb 4oz at birth and quite long so he outgrew his moses basket very quickly and it got to the point when it would rock if he moved .

autumnlady - glad you had a nice hol. I've got until 19th July to wait.

autumnlady welcome back!! how was your holiday??!! Lots of R and R I hope!!!! Days like today make being a SAHM sooo much fun! Paddling pool and chilling in the sun anyone?!! Just realised that if the neighbours over the back had bonoculars they would be able to see my rather large derriere wobbling all over the garden - eeek!

Now wehre is bubbaz when you need her?! can't find the bookclub thread anywhere and it is getting to that time of the month when we need to think about swopping again!!!

Knickers and t-shirt whilst cooking - watch out for hot fat or spitting from the pan, it oculd be nasty. I was ironing outside yesterday and had my top rolled up so Tarquin could get some sun. I made one mistake which followed with one mental note to ones self - DO NOT PRESS STEAM WHEN IRONING WITH BARE TUMMY!!!!!

autumnlady welcome back, i loved the book club book you sent me.

im too hot outside too, and hayfever is killer so im inside on here yipeeee

Hiya

Dozy - I had a fab holiday thanks with loads of R&R and book reading (thank you pinky for the great book!!) am particularly jealous of the SAHM status you have right at the moment - want to swap????

Book Club Thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/5013/527097

Hope this works.......

Thanks vbab - the time will go quickly, where are you off to?

DrsWife - Glad you liked the book, it's a real easy read but you get really into it! (well I did )!!

xx

and I am MN-ing in the sun whilst the kids are having a picnic tea!!!! I honestly forget what working in an office must be like......can't even imagine how I did it for so long and was so responsible....it seems a million miles away from running around the garden in a frilly g string (discoloured I hasten to add before any of you get any ideas that I am a yummy mummy) chasing the kids with the hose (God, I REALLY hope the neighbours haven't got binoculars!!)

Off to find some trews now, am far to paranoid!!!

DM x

autumnlady - Just going to a haven caravan in Caister. Great Yarmouth way.

hanaflower - aware of the FSID guidelines. As I have said I would never share a bed with a baby or child for I feel safety reasons firstly but then also them feeling their own independance in sleeping in their own basket/cot etc. But when DS was a baby and he was too big for his moses basket he had to be in his cot bed before 6 months in his own room because there was no room in ours. Our bedroom at our new house is slightly bigger so I may move the cot bed into ours but that is a decision me and DH will make at the time. After all I may have a little baby this time that we stop in the moses basket for 6 months. Here's hoping...

hanaflower am totally aware of the guidelines and before having DC1 was adamant that they would be in with us for the first year. However, as vbab has already said, sometimes the best laid plans go to pot once baby is here....I also have huge babies (over 10lbs!) and eventually was advised by the HV and Dr that the best place for them was their own room. I personally feel that once baby is in a routine and provided that you have the safety measures in place (as in baby listener/movement monitor) the risk is no greater than if they were beside you. If anything, we were up more times with the monitor than without (when babe was in the room).

Again, it is personal choice, I for one would be terrified to have a baby in the bed with DH and I...would be far to paranoid that the duvet would go over their head or one of us would roll on baby....

However, I respect your decision and would never judge you on what you choose to do!!!

That is the beauty of MN, everyone is different - wouldn't it be boring if we all ran around flashing our knickers to the neighbours eh!!!

DM x

Evening all - thanks for your kind words about my bump

DrsWife - am totally by your SIL - what an evil evil woman she is! I can't imagine people saying such things, let alone relatives I know it isn't easy but let it wash over you - she clearly as 'ishoos' that are not your problem!

Re sleeping arrangements - we followed the FSID guidelines to the letter with DS and moved him into his room on the day he turned 6 months and we will no doubt do the same with this one too. Once DS outgrew his moses basket, we bought a rocking crib (much smaller so fits in our bedroom) which we still have so I suspect we will just use that from the start. I don't want to waste money on a moses basket tbh but can't think where this baby will sleep during the day downstairs if I don't buy one

Wow - I can't believe the 20-week scans are upon us! Those of them this week - good luck and enjoy them

Still haven't decided on what to do about the pushchair situation - I am so indecisive! But I feel I should wait until my 20-week scan - don't know why but I just feel more comfortable buying big purchases then. Only 4 weeks to go.............

x

I loved having DS in our bed, but that was a treat/after a night feed when I'd dropped off! rather than a regular sleeping arrangement.
Will be using the Amby hammock again as it takes up less space than a cot and lasts longer than a moses basket.
Another sun wimp here - DS got to watch teletubbies this afternoon as it was too hot outside and we have no shade in our back garden - I also needed him to save his energy so he wasn't too horrible at Brownies tonight, he has to come with me when DH is working away, they love him, and he got to make a fathers day mug with them!

Doctorswife, I too am totally appaulded by your SIL . I think the less you have to do with her the better for now.

Sleeping arrangements is a bit like the breastfeeding choice as well. With ds1, he was in our room in a moses basket or travel cot for 5 months and then went in his own room. Ds2 was in our room for 19 months, lol! He woke far too many times a night for me to move him and we only moved him when he dropped a night feed and also to see if he was waking because of us (he wasn't). This baby will probably be in our room for a year as we have nowhere else to put him/her before we move the boys in together. The one thing I have never really done is co-slept. Not because I thought it was dangerous re smothering or sids, but because dh has a terrible tendancy of flinging his arms and elbow about in his sleep and I have been hit on more than one occasion. I didn't want the boys to get hurt, so only ever had them in bed after the 5am feed and on my side only. To this day, the boys sleep in thier own rooms & beds, even when ill. They do come in for cuddles in the morning. My best friend can't get rid of her 7 year old from their bed and I honestly could not be doing with that, I need my space!

I decided to sell the tickets. We are VERY particular about who watches the kids and aside from the in-laws and my mum, we just don't trust anyone else. If I wasn't comfortable with who was watching them I would not enjoy the show anyway, so it's not worth it. We are now talking of using some of our Tesco vouchers to go away for a weekend soon, stay in a hotel and just lazy about. We will probably take the kids with us, but I will also get a meal & a trip to the pictures out of dh soon when we have family available to sit for us.

I think my bump "stagnates"... it doesn't grow at all... Are we not meant to experience some kind of "exploding" at one point? I've got a slight bump but it hasn't moved in 2 or 3 weeks now...

Re-sleeping arrangements - got no experience with babies yet but i was planning to have "it" sleep in our room for the first 6 months... in a crib or in our bed, depending on where s/he cries less!