Due November 2008: "Now, where is my uterus?...Just above the hair!! "

[Heartmum2Jamie]

Our shiny new thread!!

Heartmum and lola, v of your scans on Thursday, mine is one month today, seems ages away!
Glad people are enjoying baby shopping, I've already got a double buggy for childminding so have no real excuse to do any

Pinkali37 - I don't know how much you have seen the quinny buzz 4 at but it is £314.97 on www.kiddicare.com. Are you getting any accesories?

Part of me would love to buy an "expensive" buggy but apart from not being able to afford it my DS's £90 stroller has been more than adequate from birth. Just the minor problem with access to basket when fully reclined.

Thinking about it I have gone a little spotty over the last couple of weeks. But all other not just my face .

19 weeks today and feeling quite big. I will have to get a picture of my scary bump for you. I've got my detailed scan on Friday so I will put my bump and baby pictures on after that .

Pinki lol at your dad and stepmum, and i can truly too

I'v got one of the big old fashioned Silver Cross Prams it's beautiful but quite heavy. Not quite worked out how i am going to get it into my ford Ka yet though

Thats four of use with 'big' scans this week then. How exciting!!

Pinkali truly relate!

Vbab, apparently (???) you buy the basics (a bit like some cars) so you buy the chassis, then add on top of that all teh extras so carrycot, car seat parasol etc... the lady in Babies R Us added it up to approx £620. Just text my dad to say this is the price and his reply is "get what you wish, nothing is too much for my grandchild"... blimey it was just his actaul children my wicked step mother obviously had control over!!!!! . If anyone has seen it all cheaper do let me know.

Pinkali that was an amazing thing for him to say.

I would definately have a look on kiddicare. Any money you save on the buggy he can put to other things . For the buggy, basket, footmuff, carrycot, parasol & clip delivered free is £486.77.

I have tried some buggies but really need to look into it more. Seen

Sorry to go off baby topic but I have a dilema!

My lovely, aggrivating dh bought tickets for the 2 of us to go and see a comedy show in Wolverhampton on Saturday evening as part of my birthday gift. The tickets were bought back in April. He had plenty of time to arrange a babysitter and this weekend, I asked him if it was arranged. He looked pretty horrified, said he forgot. Now we are in a pickle, as the people we usually use for babysitting at busy. The inlaws are going away tomorrow for a week and my mother is at a work conference on Saturday in Birmingham. We used to use my Nan too but she now has alzheimers and is a dnager to herself, never mind others. There isn't anyone else we would trust enough to leave the kids with, or that they would stay with.

What would you do? Would you go on your own? Would you try and find soeone else to go with you? Would you sell the tickets and try and find something else to do/go to together in a few weeks?

I am very sad about the whole thing as dh & I almost NEVER go anywhere together. Now I am not complaining as I knew that when I had children that I would be making sacrifices and I wanted to be the one to bring up my children, the one putting them to bed everynight (Not that there is anything wrong with using babysitters and going out as a couple if that is what you are comfortable with). Dh & I are happy to wait our turn, until the kids are bigger. However, this would most likely have been the last time we would be spending quality couple time for a loooong while, lol! I really wanted us to be together, so am sorely tempted to sell the tickets quickly, or even freecycle them and cut out losses. My hormonal mind is all over the place. What would you do?

Typically DH's. But we must remember it isn't their fault as they are men.

I personally as I couldn't get a sitter I would try and sell the tickets and failing that give them away. It is DH's money that has been wasted he might think more in future.

Because you have probably made DH feel really bad, as you should have, tell him he needs to make it up to you by setting up a nice evening at home and followed by you having a lie in the next day. Also arrange a night out with babysitters for another time.

My DH didn't do anything (!) for my 30th this year. I had a night out with friends a few days before with him along but that was it. I was/am really hurt about it. I ended up settling for him cooking me my favorite meal, a full english. But to be honest I didn't enjoy it as much as normal as i was so hurt. Especially when a few years ago I took him after a year of saving up and keeping it secret took him to Las Vegas for his 30!!! I didn't expect Vegas as we have a young child but anything would have been nice.

Heartmum2Jamie - Sorry for going on about my 30th.

Awww Vbab, I am sorry to hear about your 30th . I don't blame you for feeling hurt. Maybe he will make up for it at Christmas?

I know I can't blame dh, like you say, he is only a man, lol! I know he is very busy with work ect and probably feels terrible. He didn't sound best pleased when I spoke to him earlier. I think selling or giving away the tickets is the best bet, I would rather spend the time with him somehow than go without him.

Oh how awful Heartmum you must be dissapointed.Do you know anyone who would enjoy it with you?
Welcome to Barbareeba.
I feel enourous at the mo and I'm struggling at work too. y manger did not help today when he told me that I was a bit early in my pg to be having problems!! - And you would be an expert on what pg feels like then???
I'm going to occupational health tommorow for a meeting so we shall see.
I have decided to get a cheap side by side buggy and a board for DS and see how that goes. i'm hoping he prefers the board so I can use my pram again!!
Hope everyone is well x

heartmum can you call the theatre and explain your predicament and see if they can change them for another day? They may even be able to sell them on for you???

Your poor DH - I bet he thought he was being very organised but as someone else has said, that is men for you!!!!!

Another option is to ask a good friend who you and the kids know and trust, and then you can return the favour another time? we do that quite a lot with a lady at school and works well both ways!

DM x

Hi all, just updating stats. Hope you're all enjoying the sunshine (well, it's sunny in London. Everywhere else?)

Oliviaelanasmum - EDD ? November (#4)
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Heartmum2Jamie - EDD 29th October (#3) Anomaly scan: 12/6
LolaBella - EDD 29th October (#1)20 week scan 12/6
MummyAnnabella - EDD 1st November (#2)
Jojay - EDD 1st November (#2) Scan date: 21st April
Jaydee - EDD 1st November (#1)
Lilchick - EDD 1st November (#3)
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Chickenmommy - EDD 2nd November (#1)
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Coolkat - EDD 3rd Nov, Scan 10th April and June 24th (#2)
Creena - EDD 3rd November (#4) Scan: 20th June
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Zonedout - EDD 4th November (#2) scan 16th June
Scully - EDD 5th November (#3) Scan dates: 25/3 & 23/4
Bettispaghetti - EDD 5th November(#3)20 WK scan 2/7
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Dozymare EDD 11th November (#3) NT scan 6th May
llareggub ECC 12 November (no 2)
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LolaBella - EDD 29th October (#1)20 week scan 12/6
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Jojay - EDD 1st November (#2) Scan date: 21st April
Jaydee - EDD 1st November (#1)
Lilchick - EDD 1st November (#3)
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Chickenmommy - EDD 2nd November (#1)
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Pinkyminky - EDD 3rd November (#3)Scan Date:April 16th/ june 25th
Coolkat - EDD 3rd Nov, Scan 10th April and June 24th (#2)
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llareggub ECC 12 November (no 2)
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Tryingtoleave - EDD 26th Nov (#2)
Mad4mybaby - EDD 26th Nove (#2)
Ceebee74 - EDD 26th Nov (#2) Anomaly scan 11/7
MrsMattie - EDD: 28th Nov (#2)Anomaly Scan July 15th
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heartmum i'd sell the tickets and go somewhere together another time

tostaky you asked what books im reading and others have recommended some but ive been reading call the midwife and a midwifes story. both are accounts from midwives, one in the 50's who had to deliver babies at home in poverty stricken areas, the other is account of woman who delivered babies in Amish rural area in U.S. Both have just inspired me at how birth is normal, home birth is normal and helped to empower me.

which is a good thing as ive spent all weekend sobbing and had chronic pains for which i called the midwife. Why? cos my evil SIL in the middle of a wedding announces to me and DH that im gonna die, my baby will die at homebirth, that ive used my DH for a baby and that i dont love him, that our wedding was "shit" as she was asked to move her pram! its caused merry hell and ive just sobbed that someone could be so horrible about my birth choice and so cutting. pains kicked in and so midwife has told me to calm down and rest. still crying to think of her venom.

OMG Docswife what a horror! Why come out with such horrible things, your baby is going to die, you don't love your DH!? That is just disgusting to say things like that!

Yeah I think I will be trying the sling thing this time round hanaflower. I think it will be kinda hard though, baby is in the car so much and tehn out at toddlers or my mums where it woudl be sort of impractical and unfair to my mum, to attach baby to me immediately.

i need to upload a photo of my bump too really, people can deffo tell and i too was saying im 4 months but then all the oh my god, is there just 1 in there comments start!!! yes my SIL is a nutcase! Thank god my DH has refused to see her until she comes to apologise to us both which is likely to be when hell freezes over so hopefully i'll get some time to calm down. i did however warn my independant midwife that we are all going to die allegedly!

if you guys are going for attachment parenting etc will you have the baby in your bed with you? just wondered if you would do that or use a bedsise cot etc?

bedside cot even.... damn these gorgeous strong healthy long pregnancy finger nails mistyping!

LOL at the fingernails Drs Wife vi'm with you there!!
Grr at your insensitive nasty SIL though.

DoctorsWife - So sorry that your SIL put you through that. I hope your DH stepped forward and put her in her place which probably has "hell" in the address.

Keep away from her for your's and baby's health. Then after baby's born you can either don't let her have anything to do with your beautiful baby OR rub her face in how happy you and DH are with your beautiful child.

She is obviously jealous and a little barking mad.

maybe she was just jealous of my fab nails, thick hair and "blooming" look at the wedding