Due July 2008 thread - The Final Stretch!

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Just thought I would start a new thread! x

mummypig when I worked in neonatal intensive care I used to suggest to parents that if they wanted a quiet day or 2 with their baby when they first went home to lie about when they were going home some people just do not know when they are not welcome and when it is time to leave or they want to do the most inappropriate things like hold the baby when what they should be doing is making tea food generally pampering Mum, making Dad feel great and occupying any children and makig them feel really special too about what he has crated.

sweetkitty and sleepycat I don't know how you Mums with small children cope maybe it's my age but I am shattered and uncomfortable most of the time and I have no one to run around after other than the cat

sweetkitty,
{{{{{hugs]]]]]]] hun know the feeling. I am lucky to have family around though.

sleepycat
As SK said it is hard being PG and looking after LO's... There really is no rest.. I cant even remember the last lie in i had! Vent away hun we all need to let it out..

I have definitely felt it this time, first time was fine even though I was working and commuting to London up until 36 1/2 weeks.

Second time DD1 still slept for 2 hours in the afternoon therefore so did I.

This time I think it's my bodies way of telling me no more.

thanks sleepycat just feeling bit sorry for myself tonight

yes Kaz that's why I've lied about the due date to most people . Unfortunately dp has been more honest than me, and it's his family that are the worst. Even if I had a notice on the door saying 'Mum and baby resting, do NOT come in unless you are going to do some housework for us' they would probably think it didn't apply to them .

Dp's brother and brother's girlfriend are the worst. They are so self-absorbed and never think of anyone else except themselves. I could never imagine them having children, and the girlfriend has even admitted she wouldn't be a very good mum. They live abroad but come over to the UK every summer before travelling, and this year they are coming over the week before my due date. Luckily they are not staying with us but I know if the baby arrives while they are here they will be at our house like a shot - just so they can see the baby when it is moments old - and expecting everyone to wait on them hands and foot. Last time round they not only sat around waiting for someone to make them drinks etc, but at one point I was trying to breastfeed my hours-old baby, and had asked dp to keep everyone out of our bedroom, when his brother's girlfriend waltzed in to check something on the internet . Just what I could have done without.

sleepycat moan away, that's just what I felt like at 32 weeks and my kids are older so definitely more manageable. Now I'm just counting down the days... and hoping the little one comes a bit early so I don't have so many days to get through.

sorry about your family sweetkitty I hope you go into labour at a convenient time for everyone so that dp is there for you and you don't have to worry about the kids.

Good luck to tjuice tomorrow.

and poledra that's what put me off about epidurals - not being able to feel enough to push. But then I think I'm a little strange in that I'd rather be in quite intense pain as long as the overall experience is over pretty quickly.

Oh that is thoughtless sleepycat. I suppose I'm lucky in that this pair aren't in the country most of the time .

Want to hear what my family were like after DD2's birth?

My Mum came up less than 2 days after she was born, first thing she said after looking at DD2 was "same father" (meaning that DD1 and DD2 had the same father bet you didn't know my Mum is a walking DNA tester). She then got waited on hand and foot and as it was DD1's lunchtime I asked if they (she and FIL) wanted a sandwich yes they said then I made it brought it through and she moaned that it was not a bacon sandwich but only ham! This from the woman who tells everyone in her day you spent 10 days in hospital after having a baby and the first 7 you weren't even allowed out the bed to pee. Oh and your baby was in a nursery and brought to you every 4 hours for feeding except at night when the MWs did it to give the mothers a rest! Oh and then she pissed off for 4 months.

MIL wasn't much better came up looked at baby said oh she's lovely and pissed off home again.

Bitter me? Absolutely

SK!

I am defiantly my mothers daughter with my best mates first I went up the second week when her husband went back to work (he worked away from home during week), cooked cleaned, made her drinks plumbed pillows, went shopping took dog for a walk. Zac was a demanding baby too she was so tired I sent her to bed when she had fed him once a day to sleep for an hour or 2 or what ever she needed, bathed and held him (he cried every time you put him down) took him to the shop.... just so she could recharge her batteries.

When my SiL had to go back into hospital it was Mum they called upon not her Mum I think because she is the same. But that I what I was brought up to do at times like that did the same when a friends Partner died suddenly went up there fed her made sure she was drinking cleaned helped look after her daughter but not too much as they obviously needed each other. It just seemed the natural thing to do.

To be honest sleepycat when Tim died it was as much for me the only way I know how to cope is to do things.

Oh SK, for you. I wonder if I could get my mum (in Scotland) to adopt you as an extra daughter as she complains that we are all too far away? She and dad come to stay when my babas are due, do all the cleaning, cooking etc. Obviously, they want to hold and cuddle the new baby too, but also make sure the other children don't feel left out.
I suppose the problem is that they will be busy in July this year....

Thanks poledra TBH I am so well used to it now but every now and again (like this childcare issue) it kinds of gets to me. I haven't seen my Mum for over 4 months and haven't spoken to her for a month, I couldn't care less really, it's her thats missing out on her wonderful grand-daughters.

Kaz - what a lovely thing to do wish there were more like you about.

TJuice all the best for your nuptials - Copenhagen will sport one beautiful bride tomorrow

much love to you and DP DH !

Thanks mummypig - have very dry skin at moment, hadn't thought about oils.

Sweetkitty - i'm sure a friend even with little ones wouldn't mind, it is only a one off. Hope you get it sorted.

My midwife is the very pro home birth and bangs on about it. I mentioned my DH wouldn't be that comfortable with it and she replied 'had many babies has he, how would he know'. Anyway she then went on to say you can't have one anyway! Think she was having a bad day that day.

Been up since 6am, couldn't sleep. Meeting friends for lunch today and so excited, only been at home on my own for a week but missing the social side of work.

Best wishes to Tjuice!

Morning all bad night couldn't get comfy and it was so warm, looks like it's going to be a lovely day here today.

Finally decided on colourscheme for bedroom and bought a duvet cover yesterday which I am going to work everything else around. It's aqua/light teal, I wanted red, DP wanted navy so feel it's a compromise not being too girly but not too masculine.

Congratulations to Tjuice and MrTjuice, hope the sun shines for you both and you have a wonderful day

SK
With you on the bad night!! Got bad pains and though it was labour!!Had a sressfull evening with DD1 and trantrums and was having on and off pain all evening.. Scared the living hell out of me as i am no way near ready for bubs yet.. (and i was having a lovely dream aswell) You so right in it's your mum that is missing out not you.. Its in years to come that you DD's will see how much of a fab mum you are..

TJuice and Mr TJuice
Thinking of you both

God i am slowing down so much, each day i can fee it.. and there is 6 weeks left..

Morning all. Minnie1 I know what you mean about the slowing down. I walked to physio yesterday to get the wonky pelvis realigned and half way there my hip gave way so I was like an arthritic snail again, just about got there on time and it took me ages to walk back. It used to take 10 mins, yesterday it was half an hour with frequent stops to lean against hedges/bus stops etc!! I find it so difficult to assess what my limits are as every week I seem to get more knackered and bits of my anatomy stop functioning properly (or overfunction, like the bladder!) Another 6 weeks of this? DH says I should think about confinement!

Morning all,

Think my busy week is catching up with me as ive only just woke up so had a nice long sleep.

Had a bit of a teary evening. Hormones again! My parents sent me pics of my new baby niece which were great, made me want my own now.
Also (which i feel abit embarrased about) felt abit Jealous.
Were we trying for a baby when my sister accidently fell pregnant so looking at the photos made me feel like it should of been me first,giving the first grandchild. Seeing the photos of my parents both looking so proud made me abit sad. I worry that as the babys are so close in age that my will be kinda forgotten... sort of been there done that.- Silly i know!

Mum has always been more interested in my sisters prenancy and compares anything i say with my sister. Hard to hear mum saying that Tiffany is so perfect,conteneted and hasnt cried then say Bet yours is a screamer- i cant cope with that! Thanks mum!

Sory to moan guys, just hormones has left me abit all over the place now.

morning all.

Thinking of you Tjuice ,hope it's a lovely day!

Slowing down over here too. I feel like, I look around at the flat and think can I be bothered hoovering cat hair again? Good news is, I slept last night from 1:15 to about 8am. I'm going for a flotation session this afternoon (using up all those nice gift certificates)and I finally started getting paid maternity pay.

SK- If I had two other DCs, I'd be in your position. I've decided not to give a toss and just focus on my new family. We're on our own out here too, and I only hope that my DH can handle any politics that may arise our of this decision. I can't imagine we will see much of the in laws after the baby is born and none of my family can come over. I can't even talk about being pregnant with my sister, but that's another nightmare.

I've just decided to put as much in place as possible to create my own safety net. I've got DH home with me for two weeks after, and then a doula to come by a couple times a week until I can get on my feet, and the PND hotline, colic helpline, and breastfeeding support line all programmed into my phone.

That's just my style..if I can't get the help I need from my family..I'll get it somehow.

Gilly,
You poor thing, i had SPD earlier but seems to have settled a little.. Comes back every now and again. It's annoying when you want todo somthing and just cant! I would love to be able to run after DD's in this nce weather, but i am like a scary monster trying to hobble after them so i gave up on that Well 6 weeks left and all the pain will be gone fingers X up since 7.30 and only have me and lo's dressed now!! 3 hours of thinking will i wont i, am i able to even catch one of them!!