Due Sept '08 - Counting Down Rather than Up Now!

[Sunshinemummy]

Thought I'd do this and post my last comments:

Hi all. Glad to hear more good scan news!

We had MIL visit this weekend and she is such hard work. She literally never lifted a finger and kept going back to bed every couple of hours. I've asked DP not to let her come again for a while as it's hard work waiting on someone.

We also finally put DS in his 'big boy bed'. Went quite well - he went to bed no problems, but he woke up at 2am crying as he'd got stuck under the duvet. He was then awake for a couple of hours so I'm feeling shattered today. Anyone of you with older children got any tips?

Slinkie we'll be near each other for mat leave won't we? We can have some fun together I'm sure.

Meglet I'm the same as you with the whole bf thing. I hated it last time and was relieved when I gave up. I keep veering to and fro with regards to trying it for this baby. I had such a happy time last time round, really enjoyed the whole experience, and am worried that attempting to bf will make the whole thing fraught.

Charitygirl how weird with your MIL - you'd think she'd want to know if everyone else did?! I can completely understand you not wanting to refer to your son as 'it'. And yes, luckily DP does realise they are bonkers.

Oh lordy. in the latest installment of the PIL saga, they emailed asking us to 'keep the date free and see how it goes'. I was prepared to leave it at that and not go, but DP has sent a v cross email back saying he will not keep the date free and they have to change if they want us to go. Entirely true, but I do wish he wouldn't lose his rag with them - I hate it when there's bad feeling. Am eagerly anticipating the 'don't take that tone of voice with us' email...

i wish my husband could be cross with his family. you've got a good man Charity girl... there are soo many mama's boys out there that just crumble at the sound of their parents voices.

Hi All and welcome to lilapple.

Just catching up with the thread... I've been interviewing for my maternity cover today - really strange to be interviewing for your own job!

Sorry to hear about all the dysfunctional families... I have 5 siblings and we have many fallings out and issues with mum/PIL and so on but generally, we do ok...

potxola I think it is inevitable that girls end up liking pink! My sister did her best to avoid it and to ban barbie etc but they wormed their way into her DD's life! She's 10 now and went off pink a few years ago. She now likes wearing black (!) and is into My Chemical Romance, so I don't think the pink legacy is necessarily lasting...

I'm excited today as DP managed to fix my bike this weekend after someone broke it last week and we finally have the scan tomorrow - yippee!!! Can't wait to see this LO, it's been jumping around like crazy the last few days.

Hi ladies, sorry that I have been absent for the last couple of days and haven't updated the list, as soon as I get home I shall make sure all the requests are done.

I had to put my foot down with my mum over the weekend, I said I'd do her horses for two weeks whilst she's on holiday (I normally do this) but she'll have to get her friend to come and lead one of the horses to the field as it's a bit of a walk along the road and he can get silly sometimes (I'll be 7 months pg otherwise I'd do it myself). That just leaves me with feeding them all and mucking out the stable, but the cheeky cow said 'well I've told my friend that you might call her, it's up to you to arrange what you need her to do', to which I said in a laughing tone (God knows how!) 'You cheeky cow, I've got to organise it myself?! I'm doing you a favour here!!' Got my point across rather swiftly I thought, and my DP nearly fell off his chair, it's very rare that I bother trying to make a point to my parents but God, the cheek of it, I get up at 05:40 to go to work on a normal day and now I've got to fanny about doing her horses as well!!

What sort of things can be grouped under 'light gardening'? I heard that it's good to do some 'light gardening' whilst pg, I've been in the garden every weekend for the last month by my DP thinks I'm doing too much, this weekend I helped cut down a tree and bag it, along with a load of brambles, and a couple of weeks ago I re-dug our flower bed. So, is that too much or is he being over protective?

Oh also, AIBU to have gotten a bit peeved at a friend who suggested that all September babies were due to people 'getting carried away over Xmas' and that 'it's a well known fact that most September babies are due to 'Christmas activities'. My DP gave a shirty reply on my behalf because I was angry, but I don't know whether she's telling the truth and whether I'm just hormonal.

Well i certainly didn't get carried away over xmas! Very much planned, and conceived in the middle of the month, before the drinking began in earnest!

lollipop poor you having to do the horses, I used to have a couple and I know how knackering it is even when not pregnant mucking out etc etc etc. Not surprised you also don't desperately want to lead a silly bugger down the road as well! Am envious though - am determined to start riding again once I have healed post-birth. It's the one treat DP and I have agreed we will stretch to.

I am the exact oposite Hopefully, my parents are under strict orders not to encourage my offspring to see the horses or to ride, can't be doing with the expense/hassle of it, if my mum tries to sign my baby up to the pony club we are seriously going to fall out!!

We didn't get carried away over Xmas either, hence why I got shirty, but then I thought that getting pissy was suggesting that I don't approve of unplanned pg's which is not the case at all, but we put some serious effort into our planning so I was really peeved!

we didn't carried away either. our birth control was faulty...

maybe she's just jealous? my aunt who has fertility problems says things like that all the time. before i got married (when i was like 20) she would make comments about my eggs being dried up. she eventually and mysteriously got pregnant with twins after a disappearance/trip to india for 6 months...but still is quite catty when it comes to people having or not having kids.

so we saw our son today in a 4d scan that insurance covered because i sprang a bloody leak last night...and his eyes were open and it freaked me out a little. he shouldn't be staring like that...should he?

LOL at falling out over the pony club! I will probably be one of those revolting mothers who insists on buying her (completely uninterested) child a small white pony to go to gymkhanas on. My child will be heard across the showground, "but I don't want to ride dobbin in the egg and spoon race Mummy"

Eandz poor you springing a leak, but lovely that you got to see your son. Sorry he spooked you with his open eyes, but I read just yesterday that they start practising opening and closing at around this time - at least he's on schedule!

Kiskideesameanoldmother My ds is also 3. I really thought I was the only one in that situation. Babies are meant to bring the best in people, but in the case of my in laws it was the opposite. Since then, my first pregnancy, we just decided to keep them away from us and my ds and I don't regret it one bit.

well it's a good thing you guys only have to argue about pony's/ horses...my dad wants to teach my children how to shoot things. live things. my dad likes to hunt deer. i can imagine my kids coming home full of tears because they think they shot bambi's mother.

as of right now, i don't think i can ever take my kids home to texas.

as far as my leak is concerned...i spring one at least once a week...last night was painful though. is anyone else bleeding often? my doctor says it happens to some people.

Hi guys I am keeping up with the news. Been very busy at work today and I am so tired.
Gosh eandz sorry to hear about your leaks. Have they said why this is happening?
I am loving pink girls, in fact the pinker the better. How funny that I get two boys . They are going to be so cute thou in matching outfits and spikey hair.
Laughing at all your funny family stories, but only because mine is equally as funny (if that makes sense). Double corrie girls xxx

Hi all, hope all is well, if its any help, eandz I had a friend who sprung leaks every so often, it was really worrying at the time, but she had a really healthy girl, (who now plays rugby)
have been working all weekend, with some really bad stretchy pains, at one point I had to close the curtains around my patient to do some stretches. (luckily my patients are unconscious!!)
my PIL didn't want to know the sex, and even convinced dh not to find out!
so now I cant have the 4d scan incase he sees lil bob's tackle

eandz i hope you and noah are ok?

Did you get any pics of him?

Ive got my 4d scan on sat i cant wait

My midwife opp went well all is normal she measured (spelling?) my bump it was 24cm i thought i was bigger than that.

Barnpot...erm.....whats it got to do with your PIL???

If you want the 4d scan can someone else (not dh) go with you?

Omeprazole making me feel rubbish...have had to have 2 naps today! I feel 80!! Might go back and see if there is anyhting else I can take.

Good luck with the family, hopefully!

My mother is totally emotionally clueless and stressful to be around for any length of time, so I was very glad when she said she'd be abroad for the fortnight around my due date! She does mean well and wants to buy me lots of stuff, but it's always a question of channelling her talents...

Talked to MIL yesterday after birth of grandson #2. Turns out that Mr NotCitrus's obnoxious brother is having a baby in August. I feel irrationally peeved - there's a queue here to produce grandsons, and they've just barged in! I don't know how much grandson #3 will see his cousins, but hopefully we can influence the kid - it's not going to be his fault his parents are snide passive-aggressive snobs...

Hi everyone, lots of posts to catch up on over the past few days...all the chat about in-laws makes me - I can totally relate to alot of what is said! Mine are ok, but in small doses.

Someone at work (female, who I don't know v well) asked me today if my pregnancy was planned! I'm sure I can't be the only one who's been asked this? How rude! I managed to smile sweetly and say oh yes, very much planned, but honestly, where do people get off?

Hi everyone, back from Scotland. We only got back late last night as on the way up DD screamed all the way (bored, doesn't like being stuck in the car seat) so we decided to come back at night. It worked a treat - she slept all the way and we made it in only 5 hours with one 5 minute stop (I crossed my legs the rest of the time!)

Kiskiddee and Starlight according to Starlight's list our hospital is one of the few with full bf accreditation so is supposedly among the best! It makes me wonder what the others are like......

I don't think my friend will try to re-establish bf now as they've got used to bottlefeeding. Even there she is getting conflicting advice: 3 different midwives have told her to feed every 3-4 hours, every 4 hours and every 4 and a half hours respectively. The last one told her you only need to feed more often than every 4 and a half hours if the baby is underweight or premature. I'm sure that's not right. But when I found myself trying to persuade her to make it no less often than every 4 I started to worry I was interfering - and TBH I know next to nothing about bottlefeeding as DD never had formula and was breastfed on demand - every 2 hours at the beginning!

Re drinking: I'm with Potxola on this one as I didn't drink at all during the last or this pregnancy. I was tempted quite often (I love wine with a meal out) but I kept imagining the baby getting drunk and was able to resist. I used to sniff someone else's glass though, just to get the smell!!! I did have the odd glass while bf - probably a couple of glasses about once a month when my NCT group went for a meal out. Of course one we dropped the night feeds (ie anything after her bedtime) it wasn't a problem so I could drink anyway then.

Eandz I thought what you said to your cousin-in-law was great, you've got a fab sense of humour. I think some people just don't get it (they are not as quick-witted as you).

Re disfunctional families: I've got one too. I have twin half-brothers (much older than me) who both live abroad (not near each other). Neither of them came to the wedding or even bothered to send congratulations. One of them was downright nasty to me (by email) when I got married. They've never met DD. The one that wasn't nasty just isn't interested, he never even said congratulations when we told him about her (my mum said he got the email and 'hoped' his wife would reply - she didn't). The nasty one (who I used to be close to) has never even acknowledged her existance or the fact that I'm pregnant again despite my attempts at bridge building by email. It's a long story and I've basically given up although will ensure he's on the distro list when DS is born. It's sad though as he lives in Spain, which is close to my heart, and I wanted my kids to grow up knowing their uncle and going out to see him every year. Oh well, tis not to be!

Hi everyone, i haven't been on here for a while, feel like a newbie again! It's taken me 3 days to read all the threads.
I seem to have gone off the list could i be a complete pain lollypopmother and ask if you could add me again, i'd try and do it myself but kept fluffing it up last time i tried! details are 13th Sept-mumiyumi age 35 ds 2.9, thank you much appreciated!
I'm gonna try and keep up to date now
Take care all

Welcome back Mumiyumi .
Hope you had a nice time in scotland Jearund. Families are funny things me thinks
Eandz your quiet tonight, hope ur ok. x
Barnpot lol I can just imagine your "stretching" routine. I worked in theatre recovery thru my last preganancy. Hope u Get ur 4d scan.
Ds in bed fast asleep
ALERT- I NEED RICE PUDDING NOW. We have not got any in as I have not eaten it for years. Fantastic Dh is now on his way to the local shop for some. x

mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

I'm so proud of myself, i've just managed to upload some pics on my details here, and on facebook. Maybe second pregnancy gives u your brain back!
Also why is it we only crave things that aren't good for us, i've turned into a cake, chocolate, infact anything sweet monster!!!
Fruit is nice but never the same.

lollyheart,
I did get some 4d scan pictures of Noah, but they aren't aesthetically pleasing. he's got an eye open...I can't wait to see your 4d scan pics!

notcitrus,
my husband has a cousin who keeps trying to trump us. but it's ok since he's married to the crazy person in the family.

jearund,
i hope you had an amazing time! I also have a set of half twin siblings, but mine are younger and are girls. I love them to bits though. My half younger brother is a different story...for the safety of my future children he will not be involved in their lives.

mamamufin,
i'm not being quiet!i was arguing with dh. but thank you for asking I am feeling pretty darned good. And I hope you enjoy your wonderful rice pudding.

since we got married 2 yrs ago we've been avoiding family drama by hiding from them. so now that we're in our 6th month of pregnancy we're getting nasty calls because some members of the family think we've been ignoring them and feel left out of the pregnancy....dh is blaming it all on my health and my need for space! as if it wasn't his idea!

Lollyheart,
I couldn't add his 4d pictures onto my mumsnet profile but i've added them to our mn facebook group! have a look when u have a chance ... and that goes for the rest of you!

Haven't posted here much - but I'm still around!!

I just wanted to say can we all think of Johnworf who was due in Sept and now had a 5 day old dd in SCUBA

see this thread