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Due Sept '08: We're halfway there part 2....

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LittleConnie · 30/04/2008 14:42

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barnpot · 03/05/2008 06:34

let me try diagram again didn't come out right
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thats better

luboo · 03/05/2008 08:16

And then once the egg is released does anyone know how long it takes to fertilise if there are sperm already sitting waiting?

eandz · 03/05/2008 09:17

antenatal classes: NCT has yet to contact me about my placement. I was told to do the classes 1 month before my due date.

you know, i'm started to resent the fact that most of the people giving me pregnancy advice haven't had any children yet.

biglips · 03/05/2008 11:43

well im off to see my Physiotherapist today as i was nearly sobbing in the shop yesterday. so im relieved that im getting it done at 3.30pm. She had told me not to sit down at all which it is painful and also to try and walk abit straighter as that doesnt help slouching down. (Doesnt help when im huge on front and also im a 40FF!! ive got visions that this one is gonna be a 10lbers!! eeek!)

about the NCT classes, i was told to go to one by my midwife at 28 weeks pg and i found it useful.

eandz · 03/05/2008 12:07

hmm what do i do if the nct people don't get in touch with me with regards to classes?

carrieon · 03/05/2008 12:24

I remember thinking that about receiving advice from people who'd never had children. I was there when my best friend had her first baby; in the room with her was a midwife, me, and her dh. At one point I looked round and thought about how not a single person in the room had ever given birth, what on earth gave us the idea we could help her through it?!! But of course everything turned out ok!

I'm off to Bettys for a posh coffee this afternoon for a hen party. Its one of those things that should be a real treat but with my low energy and a long list of much better things I should be getting on with, its more of a pain in the butt (a bit like sciatica!). Also you can't book so we'll have to queue outside which can take an hour. Sorry for being a spoiled brat but I just really really really want to go to bed, not to town

slinkiemalinki · 03/05/2008 12:49

Contact NCT again eandz. Did you book through the central London branch - they are usually v responsive (within a week).

Sassafrass I find all that gender stuff interesting too - but different studies say different things! Here is a good US link on probabilities of the sex of next baby www.in-gender.com/XYU/Odds/Gender_Odds.aspx

Also a lot of the stuff is not entirely proved. Different studies and people believe different things eg the high sperm count = more boys; low = girls; sex at ovulation = boys etc. But some people will tell you it didn't work for them! But very interesting nonetheless.

carrieon that's why I had my mum there when my daughter was born. Bet you perk up once you get ready and meet your friends (hope so anyway)

eandz · 03/05/2008 12:55

see the thing is, the lady i've been calling hasn't answered the phone. the other lady only talks to me about volunteering my time (which I'm willing to do) but ... NO ONE is telling me if I can take a class.

barnpot · 03/05/2008 13:53

think the egg has to travel for abut 3 days in tubes before it can be firtilized but sperm can last for up to 7 days
(ooh being kicked bad bob)

Sassafrass · 03/05/2008 14:14

Thanks for the link Slinkiemalinki, that was an interesting read.

barnpot · 03/05/2008 14:27

if anyone is on facebook, you can download a pregnancy application, just search for 'baby & pregnancy countdown ticker' just for fun

meglet · 03/05/2008 18:57

My bump has started getting hiccups! .

DS got them all the time when I was pregnant with him. I thought he was dying the first time it happened .

Must go, pasta is waiting. x

WombFor1More · 03/05/2008 20:06

Just out of curiosity I wondered how many of us are planning/would like a HB and who's planning a hospital birth??

Can we have a list for that too

Womb - Home

mustsleep · 03/05/2008 21:00

Womb - Home
Mustsleep - Home (hopefully)

mustsleep · 03/05/2008 21:03

right am due to go back to work on tuesday after being off sick for two weeks withback ache, but numoed into someone i work with and she said that i will be back to cleaning upstairs once i go back, i said i wouldn;t as that is why i had hurt myself in the first place, plus i have ben in hospt due to bleeding

she said nope i am defo going upstairs and my boss will carry stuff up and down for me i bet that happens all of once and ffs if she will be carrying the stuff i will waste time finding her when i want to move on so why ffs does she not just do the section herself and move me to another or swap me with someone else she's a fucking arsehole!!!

so now i think on tues will be offf to docs to se if i can be signed off again and will phone h and s this time!!!!

splishsplosh · 03/05/2008 21:45

Mustsleep - no wonder you're . What's their problem???? Are you the only person capable of doing upstairs??? How hard can it be to swap things about for you? Definitely fight your corner.

Can I have a little rant? P was out at some work social thing (which he never invites me to anyway) and got back at 4am (had to let him in as no key). Despite the fact that he promised last week to try to get up early 1 day at weekend so i could have a lie in, rather than get up at approx 6am every single day (he gets up 1 day for work about 6.45, the other days vary between 7.45 and 10.30). Only got up to take dd to dad's group when I had a bit of a go at him & she kept ging to try and get him up too. He finally rose at 9.40, went out, returned with sleeping dd at 1. He then slept till 4, and has since been at the pub with a friend. I look after my niece while sister works tomorrow lunchtime til Monday lunchtime so he will disappear off then too. I swear he thinks he's a 20 year old single man, and I am his mum irritating him by asking him to actually "help out". We spend no quality time together, and very little as a family. I've been trying to find a doula as don't think I want him at the birth any more - he gets upset at this idea as says he was at other 1 so should be at this 1, but if he can't spare me any time for the 9 months pregnancy, why should I want him there at the birth???

Ok, sorry for that, but just wanted to get it off my chest, can't be bothered to start a moaning aibu or relationship thread, but find it hard to enjoy pregnancy, as just spend half my time crying cos wish I was in a better relationshup / had someone to talk to my bump

LouiseAnn · 03/05/2008 21:59

Hello all,
Mustsleep - sorry you feel so fed up. I am not sure what I can say to help.

Lollipop - I have also changed more above my belly button. I think that is quite normal, it's all the bits that have been displaced by the growing womb.

I am happy to have a hospital birth. Home births don't appeal to me. I don't find the hospital intimidating and that's where all the doctors and equipment are in case something goes wrong. I can see why others might want a home birth.

Womb - Home
Mustsleep - Home (hopefully)
LouiseAnn - hospital

crabby · 03/05/2008 22:07

Had scan on friday. DP and I both knew he was a boy. So much for mother's intuition! Both really thrilled and all her bits seem to be in the right place. Still wonder if she will surprise us and be a boy... We shall see in September.

Crabby - boy?? - GIRL!!!!
Kiskidee - GIRL
WombFor1More- boy? BOY
Debithescot- boy ??
lollyheart- boy? BOY
Starlight- girl?
Barnpot- boy?
jearund- boy?
Potxola- boy- GIRL
Sassafrass- girl- GIRL
biglips- girl?
becaroo- boy??
Talia1- boy - GIRL
izzybiz- Girl??
slinkiemalinki- boy? - BOY
Carrieon- girl?
MelT76- Girl?
LittleConnie- boy?
Micromum- Girl??
mustsleep- Girl?? - confirmed as a BOY!!!
Lollipopmother- Boy? - Confirmed as a girl
kel78- Boy??
expatmom2be- boy? - GIRL(?)
charitygirl- boy ?
ellideb- girl?- BOY
feelingpositive- girl? - Confirmed as GIRL!!
Gracie14 - boy? BOY
Bogie - girl? GIRL
eandz - boy - definitely a boy!
Worthog - boy?
Luboo - boy?
KashaSarrasin - boy??
LouiseAnn - boy?

carrieon · 03/05/2008 23:13

Will just add myself to the latest list, I love the idea of giving birth in a homely environment with the full range of medical help available at a moments notice!

Womb - Home
Mustsleep - Home (hopefully)
LouiseAnn - hospital
Carrieon - hospital (waterbirth if pool is free)

splishsplosh I don't know what to say. I'm not surprised you're feeling down and fed up and like you can't enjoy the pregnancy. Is there any option of going to something like Relate? It would be better to get help now than when all communication has broken down and the relationship is irretrievable. FWIW although dh will be at the birth, my best friend is my actual official birth partner this time - dh was neither use nor ornament last time, he's just not assertive enough and hadn't done enough any homework to have a clue what was going on. He thought just 'being there' for me would be enough. It wasn't.

Good news is that hen party was lovely Bride's sister queued early at Bettys so I arrived just as we were being seated, and we had a lovely time, then have been out watching dirty dancing tonight. Only grumble is that the evening do started at 7pm, but they only provided nibbles. Do these people not eat dinner?!

Apologies for long post!

splishsplosh · 03/05/2008 23:35

Crabby why are you both so sure it's a boy?

Carrieon - glad you had a lovely time, especially after your initial reluctance. Nibbles wouldn't be enough for me either.
Can't see him agreeing to relate, he just suggests I go to counselling because I always seem to be angry at him, and I need to sort this out. He doesn't seem to comprehend that if he stopped behaving like my teenage son and became a grown up responsible adult, I might not be angry anymore. But if someone never changes their behaviour, however often you try and discuss it with them reasonably, who wouldn't get angry?? He has all the energy in the world to party with pals til 3/4am etc, but surprisingly little energy for spending time with his family in the morning, and it irks me, a lot! Tbh, I think it's roll on single motherhood. Anyway, I mist think more cheerfully, sure all this sadness can't be good for baby

potxola · 04/05/2008 08:55

mustsleep Again, I wish there was something we could do to solve your situation. I would drive me mad.

barnpot I love your explanation.

I was convinced I was having a boy, because he was conceived before fertilisation as planned. In my mind I could picture the sperm waiting for the egg to be released, BUT maybe the sperm got tired of waiting for the egg and a sperm for a girl, despite travelling slower arrived in time and took his place instead.

I am huge, well, only my tummy is huge and I get very tired just by walking to the shops.
I am off now to get myself more maternity trousers, the ones I bought from DP a month ago, don't fit me.
The potty training is going well, my little man is growing sooooo fast. He is 4 in Sept and has the size of a 6 year old. I just hope my baby girl is as beautiful as him. (Sorry, but he is just so handsome.... and I made him. Can't believe it!!!!!!!!> I am not a looker)

eandz · 04/05/2008 09:46

Womb - Home
Mustsleep - Home (hopefully)
LouiseAnn - hospital
Carrieon - hospital (waterbirth if pool is free)
EandZ - Hospital (with lots of drugs).

Sassafrass · 04/05/2008 10:01

Womb - Home
Mustsleep - Home (hopefully)
LouiseAnn - hospital
Carrieon - hospital (waterbirth if pool is free)
EandZ - Hospital (with lots of drugs).
Sassafrass - Hospital either vbac or c-section

ellideb · 04/05/2008 10:30

I'm planning a home birth because I find hospitals intimidating and its somewhere you go when you are sick. I don't see giving birth as an illness and believe that I will find giving birth in my own home, with my partner, doula and the same midwife throughout a much more pleasant experience. Reading Ina May and having the support of the pepple I care about has empowered me and made me feel confident in my own body's ability to do this amazing thing. Being able to shower in my own bathroom and go to sleep in my own bed has huge appeal! Being at home is the best place for me so hopefully it will all happen where I want it too!

Womb - Home
Mustsleep - Home (hopefully)
LouiseAnn - hospital
Carrieon - hospital (waterbirth if pool is free)
EandZ - Hospital (with lots of drugs).
Sassafrass - Hospital either vbac or c-section
Ellideb- Home and waterbirth

lollyheart · 04/05/2008 11:11

Womb - Home
Mustsleep - Home (hopefully)
LouiseAnn - hospital
Carrieon - hospital (waterbirth if pool is free)
EandZ - Hospital (with lots of drugs).
Sassafrass - Hospital either vbac or c-section
Ellideb- Home and waterbirth
Lollyheart - hospital waterbirth (gbs)

my bump is moving loads and its lovely when i lie down on my back my whole tummy moves.

Im having a great weekend we went to my sisters house for a bbq yeaterday and going to the inlaws for one today