firstly when do you start bleeding am worried I will start bleeding whilst my legs are numb and I wont beable to go to the toliet and put a towel in and the thought of asking for help is
They kind of pad you out with towels while you are in theatre and recovery. Sounds but once someone has seen your insides it doesn't seem to matter so much what they see of your outsides... I think I may have been given a bit of a bedbath at one point too but that's a bit hazy.
Secondly what do they make you wear when your in the theater I am a big girl and the thought of a little hospital gown is also my DH is a big block what if the clothes provided dont fit him what happens then!
I had to look at the photos to check, but I do appear to be wearing a hospital gown with a particularly fetching yellow trim (I look terrible in yellow... clearly that is why I also appear to have been run over by a truck in the photos and not anything to do with, say, having just had a baby ). DH is wearing theatre scrubs but appears to have one of his own T-shirts on underneath (not positive about that, but it doesn't look hospital-issue). You can get hospital gowns and scrubs in a whole range of sizes so I doubt there will be an issue. There's clearly a lot of extra room in what DH is wearing, and fundamentally a hospital gown just needs to cover your front (in the photos after the birth I've clearly been attacked by the blanket fairy as I'm covered in hospital blankets too, so modesty isn't really a concern.
Thirdly do they/I have to shave everything off down there - what to be prepared!
Mine was emergency so they shaved the top bit in theatre. You could do it yourself in advance if you want lotions and potions and so forth or let them do it for you.
Fourthly what happens after you have the baby you must go to recovery but what happens with DH and the baby do they come too?
Yes.
Lastly now honestly how much did it hurt - sorry for anyone else who may need a c section but I dont want to go into this with my eyes shut! could you hold the baby ok and what was the first feed like?
In general, not too much. The first feed was fine (that was lying down in bed, though) and subsequent feeds were OK too. It hurts when you try to sit up in bed or stand up, but if you're not doing anything it's fine not like a constant nagging pain. Picking up and holding the baby wasn't a problem it was getting out of bed in order to pick him up that was the part of the process that hurt, but you develop your own techniques for that. I suggest not catching whooping cough, though, as that wasn't very nice.
They do give you plenty of painkillers and I suggest just taking everything they offer you in hospital, even if it doesn't hurt at the time that should keep you more comfortable. But be aware that some of them are constipating, so get plenty of fibre in your diet. Once you get home you can start cutting back on the painkillers they send you with I think I was off them entirely within a week or so and still have some of the packet left three years later (having used them as my super-duper painkillers for bad pain of various unrelated sorts in the meantime).