Feb 2008 - The Final Thread - Get a Blardy Move on Jaysthird, princessllama and tyaca!!!!!!

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Wonder how many posts we will get before we can start the post natal one.

Come on girls, keep getting jiggy and eating those curries.

My mums just been round to have another go at me whilst i'm bf daniel. Apparently she feels betrayed that i didn't tell her i'd been in touch with her partners daughters. Completely overreacting. Heard her telling dh about it and if said i have to take my wifes side, yay to dh! Then she left without even saying goodbye. On the plus side, had lots of smiles and mini laughs from ds

My mums just been round to have another go at me whilst i'm bf daniel. Apparently she feels betrayed that i didn't tell her i'd been in touch with her partners daughters. Completely overreacting. Heard her telling dh about it and if said i have to take my wifes side, yay to dh! Then she left without even saying goodbye. On the plus side, had lots of smiles and mini laughs from ds

My mums just been round to have another go at me whilst i'm bf daniel. Apparently she feels betrayed that i didn't tell her i'd been in touch with her partners daughters. Completely overreacting. Heard her telling dh about it and if said i have to take my wifes side, yay to dh! Then she left without even saying goodbye. On the plus side, had lots of smiles and mini laughs from ds

oh dear Alkar- 7 posts you must have been cross!!!lol

Sorry your mum has been round having a go - glad your DH is on your side and stood up for you!!!

Hope you are ok,

Itsd great when the lo smiles and giggles isn't it!!!!

Tyaca - I have a close sling too and once you get the hang of it, it's fine but it's just tricky to start off with. I use a mirror to put mine on where possible and that helps me seeing where I am aiming his feet!!
Where are you? We could try and meet somewhere near you if it helps. No problem at all or maybe just meet up with a couple of us first as a trial run?
I am in NW10 btw but have a car too so can go anywhere really.

Alkar - I'm sorry your mum is being such a pooface (if I may be so bold) . Glad dh is sticking up for you though, look after yourself and please don't let anyone hassle you. It's really important that you don't have any extra stress at the moment.

Ds2 seems to not be spending the evening screaming his head off. I'm suspicious, to say the least... could be a bad night!

7!!! tried using my mobile for the first time I guess it didn't work very well?!? I am really sorry, glad it wasn't too long a post

Just booked the local indian restaurant for DSs christening

Too tired for long post, but we're all ok today, bits falling off the back of my car and lots of admin to do with the insurance claim but no one really hurt, and at least the baby gets a new car seat out of it

Slacker how are your lot doing? no serious injuries i hope? there are some knobheads on the road, take care xx

Sarah chicken pox is rife round here as well, 13 of DS1's nursery class got it a couple of weeks ago but he has'nt had it....yet, even if your not BF baby still carries a lot of your immunities with them so even if your dd gets it she shouldn't be too poorly.

Alkar we are getting loads of smiles as well, it's great isn't it? and DS2 eye's follow DS1 around all over the place

Tyaca - sorry about the horrid fanjo feeling - have 2 admit it was never quite the same down there after DD1. only good news is that the 2nd baby comes out easier!!

I was told to def NOT do any exercise until 6 weeks - but it is good to do gentle stretching - eg lie on the floor and stretch arms and feet away from each other. Also best to do pelvic floor exercises lying down (easier). i think (hope) they may help the spasm feeling. it should feel a bit better each day - if it doesn't go to the doctor!

guess what dumb sleep deprivation head me did? i booked and paid for a holiday for 5 online with easy jet TWICE!!!! thought the 1st one hadn't worked! duh. was v terrified that they would keep the money but finally got through to a person who was amazingly helpful and refunded 2nd amount - can't quite believe it - both the mistake or the resolution!! i think i need to go back to bed!

oh, so jealous of the smiles. what kind of age do they start?

alkar - i confess what worried me most about your multiple texts was the time sent. how early is your mum coming round your house???

slacker, glad you all well, tho' i dont envy you the paperwork.

bean - shall we bite bullet and start a thread in meetups? will give my close a go today i think. will need to find instructions online... feel bad for dd already as i know my ineptitude will leave her in tears

omy - second baby are you out of your mind? without being too melodramatic... some reasons why dd is going to be a v spoilt only child: 1) pregnancy 2) labour 3) the knowledge that there is NO WAY i could do any of this AND have other older kids. all you parents of more than one, i bow down to you

pk - if you're lurking, i hope things are going well for you and sending you cyber hugs and hellos. same to samsmam - hope things are getting a bit better

jaysthird and princess - hope all's going well with your little ones and look forward to hearing from you both

I'll remembert to holdyou to that, tyaca, when I see you skulking on another antenatal thread in about 18 months time....

Smiles: supposed to typically start age 6 weeks (newborns r cute but they dont interact much!). Was almost 6 weeks for my older dc, 3 wks for ds3, 2 wks for ds4.

Whatever exercise you were doing in last week of pregnancy is ok otherwise take it slowly from wherever you are. I was out jogging 10 days after my others because I was still running 3-7 days b4 the birth, too.

Still nursing the clingiest most muck producing baby on earth over here...

Mine still don't smile much . 10 weeks today. I have to really work on it to get them to do it. DS1 spent ages trying to get them to smile the other day, he was very cute.

Slacker, horrendous to hear about your car accident. Glad everyone was ok but v scary.

Tyaca, I honestly did say about a year ago that I might not have any more children. Not so much because it was so hard but that DS1 was at such a lovely age, and I loved spending time with him and being able to "devote" myself to him. Two months later I was pg with twins . Am glad though, as it will all be worth it in about 18 years .

Good news, I put the egglets in their cot for a lunchtime nap as am trying to structure their day a bit more as normally they sleep on and off all day and I never know when it might be for a longer spell. So far apart from the odd cry earlier they have slept for TWO HOURS. I feel very chuffed. Probably a fluke though.

Hmmm. And now one of them is waking up and I wanted to watch Neighbours...

Oh I did some running a week after having the DTs, I ran back from town with DS1 in his pushchair. My midwife did say it was prob not advisable.

Was told to wait 6 weeks before getting on exercise bike. I think I waited 4 weeks last time, but longer this time mainly as I was too darn tired to contemplate it.

Just did 20 mins on it today though and hoping to aim for 3 or 4 times a week.

You just have to take things at your own pace Tyaca, if you feel like exercising after a couple of weeks that's ok, but if you don't feel up to it don't feel you should. I remember the 'fanjo falling out' feeling when I went shopping with ds1 aged 2 weeks, whereas this time I felt great after 2 weeks. (No stitches helps...and it will never be the same down there but it does heal, if it doesn't heal within a few weeks at the most make a big fuss and get it redone if necessary)

And when you're still getting used to having one child isn't the time to decide whether to have any more! Don't have any more until you feel ready, if you never feel ready then you don't have to have more. And from my experience a

hi all

tyaca - my lo has just started smiling - he's 5 weeks - only does it for me though!!! I felt like you after ds1 - wasn't sure if I wanted to do it all again - 5 years on and 2 more ds later............

I'm sticking to the walking with baby strapped on for the moment - no room in the house for my cross trainer anymore and lo doesn't have a regular enough routine for me to leave him just yet.

Beany - my ds is getting more settled in the evenings too. Had a worse night last night though - ended up taking him into bed with me but he did then sleep for 4 hours between feeds beside me which was fab!

Had to give in and get a bigger car yesterday as we were struggling to get all 3 car seats in the back of our old car - feel ike a proper 5 person family now

cross post slacker - I agree with you re age gap. 23 months between ds1 and ds2 then 3 years 3 months before ds3 - definitely much easier this time round!

Why didn't someone tell me 23 month age gap is hard..................

Rozzy what car did you go for?

My two are getting more settled in evening, but it does seem to reflect on the night a bit, and they are a bit more unsettled at night. Would prefer it the other way round if I can't have both!

Slacker what is it with some family members??? My sister is coming to stay for the weekend so I am really looking forward to that.

Just booked DS on a waterbabies course anyone tried it? So now Tuesdays will be cinema in the morning and swimming in the afternoon, got all the other days free to be lazy though!

We didn't do waterbabies but did aquatots which I think is similar (lots of underwater stuff). DS1 did it when he was 8 months old for about a year but we had to stop when we moved house and now we can't do swimming at all . Really liked aquatots and was nice to have something definite to do each week.

Glad your sis is coming Alkar, you'll be able to have a good bitchfest about your mum! That's what we'll be doing about the inlaws when we go and visit DH's bro and family on Saturday...

Thanks for the reminder about baby swimming, must chase that up. I've never done it before but I think it would be fun.

Yeah sorry egg, I had a 23 month gap between DS1 and 2 and it was a bugger . They're both strong personalities though so that probably didn't help, and I was still learning of course, wish I could go back and parent DS1 again and see if I could do it better! Although he's turning out quite well now aged 13, he was a complete PITA for the first few years!

Close carrier - am a bit disappointed with this, it spreads the weight well as long as you don't have to lift your arms above elbow level...if you do, it pings off your shoulders and then you end up with back/neck/shoulder ache. Especially because I wear it under my coat, it pings off as I'm putting the coat on usually! I might like it better in the summer...I like my Bugaboo pram but it's a bit of a pain having to take it apart to get in the car. Am finding my simple pouch sling the easiest, at least while he doesn't weigh that much.

Rozzy, what car did you go for? I'm finding my 7 seater a bit small, and since we're not ruling out one more child, am going to look for an even bigger car . DH wants a Landcruiser Amazon, it's nearly 2 metres wide!! Hope it comes with parking sensors...

Right, meet up thread is here

Have been out for lunch (at Giraffe if anyone knows them, yum!! ) with a top friend so have had a good day.

Tyaca - you seem to be very down on yourself (and I mean that in the kindest way). This baby business is blardy hard and we all find it difficult. Please, please don't assume that you can't do it or that you are upsetting your dd in any way. Ds2 always makes a fuss when he is getting into the sling but as soon as we are down the road, he is fine. It took me a few goes to get the hang of it so please don't give up it it doesn't work first time.

My main form of exercise is walking around with ds2 strapped to me. I take great comfort in the advice not to do too much too soon!!

Ds2 slept from 5-8pm yesterday but then wanted to wake up at 4am. Won't be doing that again!!

Ooh, I have a 23 month gap between my eldest, too. It wasn't (whispers) that bad for me. And they are very very close those 2. But (whispers even more) I think this jump, from 3 to 4, has been the easiest yet. The kids spend so much time at school/preschool and they are somewhat rational at home. Better than having 2 under 2 or 3 under 5 or a newborn+toddler or 2 bent on mission of self-destruction.

I think I'm harder, too. Crying just doesn't get to me like it did with the first.

You have to experiment with babies, to figure out what works for them & you. Especially with your first, they're guinea pigs (but at least they don't share you with a toddler, too). That means some mistakes along the way, but you can't get it right if you don't risk getting minor things wrong. Very important to let dad just try to find his own ways of interacting with and settling baby, too.

Who else is breastfeeding and walking miles (chasing around for school run) & eating stupid amounts of food? I feel like I need a nosebag...

llijk - I am and feel like I am permanently hungry!!

I'm only on my second but am finding it much easier this time and am not so harsh on myself too, for example:
ds1: oh no, there is some neck cheese - what a dereliction of duty, I have failed as a mother!!!
ds2: oh look, there is some neck cheese.

And so on...
I really, really gave myself a hard time over ds1 but that's fine, it was new to me and there is a first time for everything. I don't know loads, I just happen to have done it before.

Ds1 remains the testing ground though. This week I have been mostly reading "How to talk to kids will listen etc etc". Poor bastard doesn't know what has hit him. I keep it up for a while and then snap and revert to type. It's like having a one woman good cop, bad cop routine.