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*** Due Sept 08 *** The third thread....

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MummyToOneForNow · 03/02/2008 10:23

Thought I would take the plunge as I seem to have killed the previous thread . Will put a link on the old thread so you know where to come!

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mamamufin · 26/02/2008 12:18

Sorry you have been feeling so ill sunshine, hope you are starting to feel better now.
I have done lots of solo flights with ds as my parents spend most of the year in spain. I have found stickers, snacks, playdoh, fuzzy felt, portable dvd player and little surprise treats wrapped up help. It will be worth it once you are there. Take care x

Sunshinemummy · 26/02/2008 12:36

I've done short haul with him before but not long haul. Thanks for the suggestions mamamufin.

Gracie14 · 26/02/2008 13:13

Hi all,

Just coming on for abit of a rant really, although pretty much everyone is happy for us regarding pregnancy news I've had about 4 people say 'whats going to happen with the dog now then???' I don't really know how to answer this because nothing is going to happen with the dog!!!!

Do you think I should be worried about the dog and baby more than I am? Obviously not going to be leaving baby alone with the dog I just don't understand the issue. Do people not own dogs when they have babies then???

Also why does everyone keep asking when we are getting married now then?? I just think thats a very personal question to ask and not the first thing I would think of if someone told me they were pregnant!!

Sorry, just feeling abit sensitive today, plus have a headache again which I can't shift. Trying to cheer myself up with a chocolate bar, yum

izzybiz · 26/02/2008 13:22

Hi, was wondering if anyones around?
I need some reassurance!

I posted the other day and said I'd had some bleeding on Sunday morning, then it stopped. Have just been to loo and now there is more, this time its brown though, on Sunday it was red.
I know the "brown is old" thing but I am really nervous.
I've texted midwife, and am waiting for her to call, there is no pain, so I know I shouldn't worry too much but, well you know!

Sunshinemummy · 26/02/2008 13:30

Hi Izzybiz - I had a week worth of brown blood with pain. I went to A&E twice and was scanned and had an internal. All was fine. I had another scan last week and baby is growing well. It's worrying and upsetting but chances are it will be ok. Make sure your midwife helps you get some reassurance.

becaroo · 26/02/2008 13:31

Bleeding in early pregnancy is very common - and brown is better than red and the fact you have no pain is also a good sign. Your midwife may refer you to an EPU clinic to have a scan to reassure you.

How far on are you? Could it be an implantation bleed??

Take care.

Sunshinemummy · 26/02/2008 13:33

Oh and doctor said it was likely to be placenta impanting further into uterus. This was at 11 weeks.

izzybiz · 26/02/2008 13:33

Thanks Sunshinemummy, I'm nervous as I have had 2 other children and have never had even the slightest spotting before.
I feel really bad as it was after Dh and I had sex that I bled first time.

izzybiz · 26/02/2008 13:34

I'm 10+3 weeks.

Sunshinemummy · 26/02/2008 13:35

I didn't have any bleeding at all with DS which is why I was so upset when I bled. Aftermy internal I bled red blood for a while and they said that's normal so probably the same after sex?

izzybiz · 26/02/2008 13:36

Thanks guys, I knew this was the best place to ask
I will post later when I have spoken to midwife.xx

izzybiz · 26/02/2008 13:37

Oh, and Dh won't be getting anymore for a while!!

lollipopmother · 26/02/2008 14:10

I had my second appointment with the MW today, she took 3 vials of blood, I remember someone saying earlier in the topic that they thought their MW was a vampire for doing this! I did ask her why it was three, she said I should be happy, it used to be four!! Heard baby on the doplar as well today which was nice, wish my partner had come with me really as he really enjoyed the scan.

Sunshinemummy · 26/02/2008 14:23

As I said lollipop I've had 17 phials taken so far!

Excitable · 26/02/2008 14:30

Poor sunshine you're having a hard time aren't you? Can you book a mum to be massage at another salon? I think this might be an emergency!

Gracie that's a really strange question to ask - I don't understand. It's fine - my friends have a dog and a baby and they banned him from upstairs about a month before the baby came and put a baby gate at the bottom of the stairs and then let the dog sniff the baby when it did come and then never left the dog and the baby alone. It was fine. People are strange.

I'm very pleased with myself today because I've got a doula. I was so fed of the midwives here very plainly not giving a crap if I hadn't vomitted up half of my own bodyweight and decided that for a first baby with no family within 100 miles that I need something more. I posted on her website and she rang with within half an hour. This is her website You can read all about doulas on here too. Feel so excited and supported, it's brilliant!

Sunshinemummy · 26/02/2008 14:40

I've been looking for something Excitable but can't find anyone else I want to go to.

Well done you on the doula. Sounds great.

lollipopmother · 26/02/2008 15:28

Oh God Sunshine - 17!!

Sunshinemummy · 26/02/2008 15:47

I know. I'm surprised I'm not anaemic!

feelingpositive · 26/02/2008 15:55

Sorry you are having a rough time sunshine. If it helps I have done 3 solo flights to Aus with DD. portable dvd, sticker books, toys, etc are a must, but I also take snacks, medised and dummy! Generally she is fine, just many laps of the plane. But really it is exhaustion that gets me in the end - the lack of sleep is the worst, but as I don't think you will have too many stops (we had to get off the plane in Dubai and Singapore last time) I think you should be fine.

Hope you get a massage soon!

x fp

kel78 · 26/02/2008 16:52

Hi sunshine, I just came back from barbados with kids- I wasnt on my own but I always take bag full of goodies make sure its things they havent seen before I know it means spending but sticker books, puzzles etc dont cost too much. I always find this works better than taking theyre usual stuff which they play with everyday. Have a nice time. wish I was getting away for the weekend from all my inlaws. we still havent spoken to them since telling them but apparently theyve been on phone telling everyone else and not in a nice way.

Sunshinemummy · 26/02/2008 16:54

Kel that's awful. Can your DP have it out with them?

kel78 · 26/02/2008 17:02

He just says ignore her shes old but im abit more sensitive than him. Reason for it is that DH was married when he was 17 and hes nearly 40 now. He had 2 boys and has brought them up paid for them and still has a very close relationship with them. One is 21 and the other is 18 and they are both in the armed forces. We then met years on got married and have 2 girls so they just think another child is too much hence the comment of a football team.

Excitable · 26/02/2008 17:23

Kel None of that is a reason to treat you so badly. She is old enough to know better.

My midwife has just been to see me and I'm beginning to wonder how capable she is. She couldn't take any bloods in either of my arms, then she asked me for a urine sample before she tried to put the dopler thing on to check the baby's heartbeat. When I said, that might have been easier with a full bladder, she kind of vaguely said "oh yes." So the only thing she's gone away with has been a urine sample which I sorted out for her. She was very happy with baby's heartbeat too, so I guess I should be happy. It was the midwife that I had my first appointment with and I find her really annoying. I really hope she's not on duty when I get to D-Day.

lollipopmother · 26/02/2008 17:34

Bad luck Excitable, I didn't feel happy with the MW the first time I met her, she seemed really distant and off, but I met her again today and she was really nice and we talked about all sorts of non-baby related things (as well as babies obviously), so I feel a lot better about her now. I was anticipating having a problem again today so I know how it feels to not be happy with your MW.

digitalgirl · 26/02/2008 18:13

How exciting excitable you have a doula! Does she do anything pre-birth too? I was wondering about getting one of those. I guess i'll wait to see how I get on at my booking-in appointment first (which, by the way, I still have no sign of).

Oooo kel I know how frustrating it is to hear that inlaws or others have been gossiping nastily, the only way to deal with it is to realise that they obviously have sad sad lives. Ignore ignore ignore (which is difficult on the same street, but you ARE the better person). FWIW my dad remarried and had two sons at 44 and 48, that's the thing with men - no age limit on fatherhood, his nan's been around long enough she should know that.

sunshine hope you find a massage soon. Perhaps give your DP a little task - find you a pre-natal massage somewhere fabulous NOW.

izzy fingers crossed, but it sounds like you'll be fine

gracie how strange! do you have a vicious baby-eating rottweiler? is that why they might be asking?

DG's update - I have resigned . Start new job on Friday . New boss is disappointed he's only got me for 6 months, but pleased to have me anyway!
I am 10 weeks today