Due April 2008 - for our third and final trimester, give us our extra 200 kcals!

[EllieG]

Here we are!

Welcome kaybeeandzac hope your stay here is nice and uneventful

I got a grobag from bump2three and got 2.5 tog - not sure about whether that was right though, but have left tags on it so can send back to swap if needed.

Glad your LEEP turned out OK ladyVS - though I don't know what a LEEP is

Good you are feeling better scorpio - sounds like you have made some good plans hon x

I've just got a second hand urban detour travel system I got for £70 quid from a mate - is that OK? Am worried have not done any research and got a loola or whatever they are called. Don't even know what a loola is in fact. I was planning on having LO in a sling whenever possible anyway and just keeping the car seat in the car. DP will use pram thing cos he says he feels silly using a sling.

Sounds like a nice evening scorpio - is good to get out sometimes as a couple

Millie's loola

dont worry, its about whats right for you

Lol Ellie, a loola is just a type of travel system, one of the mroe recent on the market and nowhere near as expensive as the phil and ted or bugaboo etc, I'm sure your urban detour will be perfectly fine!

Millie bump is misbehaving - very strong braxton hicks over last hour and a feeling of pressing down.

Hope it stops for later! am not going to do too much to help it go away.

I had thought it was like a doola - wondered why everyone was talking about post-natal care all of a sudden

Oh bless you Ellie must have been quite confusing!

Hi everyone! Dh had the meeting with EdPsych and co yesterday at which it was establisehe that ds1 is not autistic. Er..... we knew that! Still no diagnosis and to get one we have to go to a professor which will take one year or, if we pay Eur400 one month Anyone got 400 Euro knocking around that they don't need? Is it this bad in the UK?

Chipmonkey, can't believe you have to wait a year. The health system in Ireland is really getting bad.

Ellie, Urban Detours get good reviews on babyfy.com.

I also want to get a grobag, not sure which tog to get. I am calling to see a friend tomorrow who has two small kids, I have a long list of questions for her.

I think the tog thing with grobags depends.

I swaddled DD at the beginning and by the time she was out of her swaddle, (about 6 weeks??? - so mid May) The weather was warmer and we used a 1.0 tog sleeping bag.

At the beginning of April in our house its cool enough to still use a 2.5 tog but it'll depend upon when your LO is born and when you start using it.

DD (at 22 months) adores her sleeping bag (calls it her pop pops)

We only ever used 2.5 tog in the winter. We used 1 tog in spring-autumn and moved to 0.5 tog in the summer. But we do have a very warm flat (modern build so lots and lots of insulation, and we're at the top so we get the benefit of the heating from the flat below).

Hmmm. I think I may need to send it back and swap it for a lesser tog. Our room is quite cold but it won't be that cold in April will it?

It's DSD's Mum's birthday tomorrow (she died 3 years ago approx). DSD is making her a card this evening and she and DP will go and buy a helium balloon tomorrow and send it up with that. She asked me if I was coming but I think this is something that is good for her Dad to do with her - I take too much responsibility for him sometimes and I want him to talk to her a bit more about her Mum, I think they need the time alone together for that. I helped her with the card though.

She's already talking about what she's going to do for mother's day. (we normally mark it with something similar to above for her) A horrid nasty little part of me is thinking 'But what about when I have the baby? Will she ever be able to celebrate mother's day?' How will we do that?

I am horrid aren't I?

No you're not horrible you sausage.

when mothers day comes when elliebean is here, dsd and her dad will do their bit quickly and quietly and then the rest of the day will be yours. your dh will get you a pressie etc, and im sure dsd will join in.

it is hard sometimes having step children.

Yep. And I am there all the time, day in and day out doing everything that I am supposed to do, which I am happy to do, but sometimes I feel a bit childish about the whole thing (though obviously don't show it) especially as her mum is now an angel who never, ever did anything that wasn't perfect (which is far from the truth, but wouldn't matter even if was), and it's mean ol' me that deals with the normality of everyday life. So when do step-parents get a day?

Will stop being so cranky now I promise. Am just in bad mood cos ate too much dinner and have a tummy ache!

i expect her mother is painted as an angel isnt she?

but YOU are the RL angel, the person who does do it, and who does it well. They both love you and adore you ellie - and will do even more when you produce a fabulous elliebean!

i sometimes feel insignificant too...although DH is aware what an asshole his mum is though.

Your day is everyday ellie, and i know you and dsd love each other because your posts about just her are full of warmth.

don't be hard on yourself. i bet you will feel more secure when your dd is born - i did once we had one together and now we are married and have another baby coming i feel like we are unbreakable against anyone, and any memories.

Thanks scorpio - I do feel that our LO is going to cement us all as a family together, am really looking forward to that. Feels like this is a new beginning for all of us IYKWIM? Will be good for everyone I think and DSD is so excited about having a little sister, which is lovely.

When is your wedding, Ellie?

I think that our baby will probably be 9 or 10lbs (because DH and I were both tubsters and at the 28 week scan they said she was a good size). Should I go for size 0-3 months rather than newborn, in that case?

chipmonkey, ds1 and ds3's diagnoses each tok a couple of years.... ds1 is stilla waitinga referral to OT made in 205 .

It's bad!

Even the initial meeting with a Paed for ds2 took 8 months wait, and the SALt took wait for it- for a then totally non verbal 3 year old-

18 months.

And even now he's ahd 1 session of SALT, as the therapists leave and he has to start again. A chairty gave n and funded his PEC's commiunication traininga s he was getting too old and may never ahve been able to communicate properly.

Oh, Peachy, after I posted, I thought "Of course it's as bad in the UK, look what Peachy's had to go through!" I'm just upset and annoyed because we always seem to be waiting for some other ethereal creature to "make the diagnosis" I know ds1 has ADD. Over the years, I have had so many people wrongly analyse him, one said he was dyspraxic, this EdPsych make dh and teaches fill out forms for ASD when I, who have lived with the child for the last 11 years could have told them he has neither! To cap it all, the teacher at the meeting started to quiz dh about ds1's diet and our home life. Right. So it's our fault, then. It infuriates me particularly as I am pretty enthusiastic about cooking organic food from scratch and always providing a healthy lunch for school, fgs the bloody teacher would know that if he just looked in the child's lunchbox! I really feel like I am going to let rip at him at our meeting next Wednesday! Particularly with my hormones the way they are!

WOOOOHHOOOOOOOO

i just sold my handbag on ebay for ££££, i never use it so i thought i would ebay it, its a Chloe bag. Now i can pay DH back his ebay money (which he didnt mind about at all) .

we had a nice night out, DH is sitting here eating chinese

Well done scorpio! I really should get more tech-savvy and figure out how to sell stuff on ebay. I am very good at buying all right but can't figure out the picture stuff at all. I really am in danger of turning into my granny!

Suze -- I'd be inclined to get mostly 0-3 months and a couple of newborn things just in case. DS was 10lb 5.3oz and wentstraight into 0-3 months.

Yeah to the snow, it's kept dd entertained for an hour already!!!!

Thanks PortAndLemon. I really need to get my ass in gear and get things ready for her!

I've bought all 0-3 months stuff - a friend has given me her new born bit - her's were out of them in a couple of weeks or less I think! And they weren't ginormous.