Due April 2023 💕 into the second trimester 🍂🎇

[Cuppasoupmonster]

Welcome back ladies. Here we are, second trimester 🥰

@Lisa221987 congratulations! 💖🎀

@Lisa221987 congratulations 🎉 💝 💕

Someone emailed me today named Eldridge which I thought was lovely ☺️

@Lisa221987 congratulations 🎀

Congratulations 🎉 🎀 lots of girls in this group!

So many girls, love it!! 💞

I can't remembered if I asked this earlier in the week, my pregnancy brain is crazy 😂 but has anyone had their cervical length measures at this scan or previous?

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@Lisa221987 wonderful news! You can see it’s a girl too! 😍😍

I have my First nhs scan tomorrow at 14+3. I can’t wait to see her and to check she’s growing as she should be etc 😀

Congrats @Lisa221987

Just catching up ladies, Pommy good luck for tomorrow, it’s a lovely moment! We have a bit of a tradition of going out for brunch after ‘milestone’ scans (they’re always in the AM because of consultant clinic times).

16+2 today and feeling a lot better. Sleep has also improved. Only thing is my bladder, I’m on the toilet constantly and feel like I haven’t ‘emptied’ - I have to really force it to get anything out. I had this in my last pregnancy, I think my womb just pushes on my bladder and cuts it off slightly. My stomach is feeling quite ‘tight’ and sensitive and I’m a little bit breathless.

Have the consultant on Tuesday, no scan but will hopefully have the Doppler! 🤞🏻

@DBS94 i haven’t had mine checked, so can’t be much help - might be worth a new thread as it’s a bit ‘niche’? I’m sure plenty of ladies on here have had one!

Made 2 more baby purchases on Vinted, fleecy zip up pramsuits in size newborn and up to 1 month. DD stayed in newborn size until she was about 4-5 weeks old, so thought I would cover the bases.

Btw, TK Maxx sells heavily discounted play mats - think £25 down from £60, brands like Bright Start and Fisher Price. Keep an eye out and save a few quid! Their baby range is surprisingly good.

@Cuppasoupmonster good idea, thank you!

I'm like you with the bladder and feeling the need to push for it to empty. I also go from not needing to feeling like I'm bursting really suddenly

The joys of pregnancy! Around week 20 something (can’t remember exactly when) the womb flips up and ‘frees’ the bladder so it’s not forever luckily…

Is anyone else finding it hard to get excited about pregnancy? I don't remember feeling like this with DC1. I guess it's a bit of mum guilt thrown in the hat because my DC1 is just so happy with their life and it's going to be totally rocked by a baby they didn't chose to involve. That and the inevitable anxiety following on from multiple previous losses.

We told our families this weekend, finally (15w) and I don't know what my face was doing.

I guess I'm just a bit lost with this feeling atm and thinking about how unexcited I am compared to last time makes me sad for DC1, for DH and for the baby.

Is it just me?

Evening ladies,

I have had a rubbish day, spent almost all of it in bed trying to shake off this horrific cold!
On the plus side I am on now season 5 of PLL! 😂

Been reading through all the baby names, names are so hard! It’s our first and we seem to have agreed on a name for a boy and name for a girl but the more we say it, the less it seems to be right 😂

We find out in three weeks if we are having a little boy or little girl so then the real name planning and shopping can begin!

It’s not just you @Margo34 , promise! Second babies are a different kettle of fish - you already have a toddler to look after, it’s miles away from the evenings when DH and me would chill on the sofa with a nice meal and chat about baby names etc when I was pregnant the first time. I’m not too worried about DD because although she might get jealous in the short term, I know a sister will enrich her life and be a lovely playmate. I’m more worried about coping with 2 children and my demanding job. I also felt so unwell until very recently that to be honest, I had no excitement at all. It’s creeping in a bit now, but will take time, and I’m just going to accept the fact it’s just a different experience with a 2nd. Keep posting here, you’re not alone!

@Margo34 this is my first pregnancy so no advice from me but didn't want to read and run. There's 6 years between me and my sister and my mum always laughs at my sister saying she's backing her bag and running away when my mum told her she was no longer going to be an only child but the minute I was here she fell in love and we've been so close ever since 💞

@LauraA31 I just can't get into PLL, I've watched the first two episodes and I can't cope with the trashy cringe acting 😂 does it get better??

@Margo34 I feel sometimes it’s a defence mechanism… just incase…

I’m living day by day and just enjoying being pregnant without sole focus on the end result. I have in my mind very acutely that it was “impossible” to get pregnant and there is still an air of disbelief I guess. I care very much that this is happening but I’m very pragmatic about things as I feel I have to be, and the excitement will increase the more time goes on for the longer term excitement. For now I enjoy the daily miracle that has chosen me to be their momma. ☺️

@Pommy1 love your attitude and mindset!! Great way to be ✨

@Margo34 Ive been feeling exactly the same re the impact on DC1 and while I am excited at times, other times I'm feeling guilty and anxious about how exhausted I'll be coping with 2. Have you read The Second Baby Book by Sarah Ockwell Smith? For me it's really helpful and I want to read it again now it's a few weeks later and this is all feeling more real.

@Pommy1 I just don't feel like I'm enjoying being pregnant, even when I'm not thinking about the end result, and I can't say sickness or first trimester unwellness is to blame either unlike @Cuppasoupmonster because been really lucky in that respect. It's a very wanted baby which makes me feel so worse as I should be over the moon, which I was when the 2 lines came up, but maybe I'm just expecting it to go wrong somewhere along the line because of how the year has been in terms of losses, I'm not sure I dealt with them particularly well at the times either tbh which probably hasn't helped. I hoped that telling family F2F would make me feel more excited as I didn't get to tell anyone F2F with DC1 because of lockdown, but it hasn't and I guess it's just left me feeling a bit flat and deflated when I should feel so grateful and happy.
I have no doubt that DC1 will be a great big sibling and I would feel sad if they were to grow up without a sibling because I adore my 2 siblings and we're also really close @DBS94 so can't imagine not giving DC1 a sibling either. Maybe I'm kind of mourning all that wonderful 1:1 time I have and have had with DC1 that DC2 will never have? I don't know.

But I'm glad to know I'm not alone in this headfuzz.

Thanks for the book recommendation @MamaMenna I will check it out.

Sorry to be such a Debbie Downer on a Sunday evening!

@Margo34 💐 it’s probably your inner self trying to limit excitement ‘because what if’. I have complicated pregnancies - higher risk of this, higher risk of that - and I feel a bit the same. I find I say ‘when the baby arrives, touch wood, then…’ like I have to add a qualifier otherwise I’ll jinx it. You’re not bringing us down at all - I expect we all have dark thoughts underneath, it’s refreshing when somebody comes out and says them, I find the thoughts lose their power a bit if you say them out loud.

i can’t remember if I posted this but I’m slightly irritated by DH’s family’s reaction to us having another girl. His brother posted something like ‘hard luck maybe it’ll be a boy next time’ 🙄 (he has one of each, naturally!) and MIL was all ‘yay’ but it felt a bit off as she had been banging on about how much she wanted a boy for weeks beforehand, and even bought ‘him’ a little blue teddy (which of course will be given to DD2 regardless!).

I think it’s a bit of projection as MIL has 2 boys and I feel like she wants to see her family reflected in ours if that makes sense? But still annoying.

@Cuppasoupmonster I think that everyone who has two or more of the same encounters some silly comments like that and I really wish people thought before they spoke. It would irritate me too if my BIL said something like that.

I said to a friend that I felt like this one was a boy (I've since changed my mind and think it's a girl) and he was like "that's amazing, one of each, it's the dream" and looked so surprised when I said we'd really love another girl, DH has had similar conversations at work. Lots of people asking if he wants a boy to take fishing and golf and they always seem surprised when he says he takes DD fishing and to the driving range already and that he'd love to be a girl dad. If this one is a girl that means my MIL and FIL have all granddaughters as their boys will have had all girls and I do think FIL would like a grandson, he'd never say it, but I think he would like to see his boys reflected too like you said. I still remember his face meeting his granddaughters after being a boy dad, absolute joy mixed with "I'll hold the changing bag don't ask me to change their nappy I don't know what I'm doing" 😂 he couldn't name a single Disney princess when I met him, he now knows them all, songs included.

Hi all, another scan! Is the nub any clearer on this one?!

@cheekysausage no nub from what I can see but that scan is amazingly cool!