Due In Jan part 2

[fufmum]

Here is thread number 2 as asked for, for those with dialup.

Are you having your babies in 8 days SmellyMelly??? - just wanted to wish you luck

Thanks Tessiebear - yes, if I don't have them before then they will induce me next Tues!!!! I can't wait...

And thanks To Quackers too. :)

SM I am soo excited for you! I have to swallow the tears down just thinking about it and it's not even me!
I can't wait to have my DS in my arms! Really looking forward to hearing all about it from you. What time you booked in for on tues?

Dophus your other half is mean making cow noises, bet he won't be doing that when he gets frisky!! MEN!

Thanks Fufmum - I can't wait, I am in pain so much of the time, it will be great to finally see them and get my body back!!

I will have to ring them at 7am just to make sure they are not too busy, then go in if they have room. If they say they are too full I will be going in anyway :) and demanding they induce there and then!!

smellymelly - how exciting - make sure you update us!

fufmum - sadly I'm the frisky one

BTW

fufmum

I dream about labour almost every night. Sometimes it's a girl sometimes a boy (I don't know what I am having). My most common themes are:

• being unable to get hold of DP
• Not getting to the hospital in time
• Not being sure if labout has started and being unable to to convinve hospital tht I should come in
• general 'being incompetent'-type dreams

Lol fufmum, about the milk.. I remember the first time it happened to me with ds. I was totaly shocked ad not expecting it at all, i actually cried . Wasn't upset just got all emotional over it cos of the shock.
I agree it get earlier every time, this time it has, and i am contsantly examining them! At the moment i am convinced that one side is less active than the other. Does anyone know if that's possible?

Dophus my Dh does the mooing thing too, How men think they are funny is beyond me!

Good Luck SmellyMelly!

Can someone reassure me.

I've just been to the loo and passed some mucus. Is this anything to worry about (i.e. start of the show)?

I'm 33 weeks and it had nothing to do with DP

Hi Dophus, I'm a first time mum so no idea really, but it certainly could be the start of the show. My antenatal class on Thursday was talking about this and, if I remember rightly, it doesn't mean that labour is imminent, could still be weeks yet...but I'd ring the MW to check if I were you, if nothing else but to reassure yourself.

It's getting exciting now!

Just called her. She said nothing to worry about as it wasn't 'stained'. Still I can't help but think does this mean something is stirring!

I'm not ready and Douphette is quite cooked!

Hi Dophus

I'd take this as a hint to get yourself organised...I'm thinking your suitcase should be ready and by the front door just in case!

You said your dreams about labour are 'incompetent' type dreams... if you get organised you will probably at least get rid of these... since we made the crib up all my dreams have been about the baby just literally popping out... i'm hoping it's a prophecy

Then again, I still haven't dealt with what will happen to the dog if I go into labour on my own... last nights dream I gave birth stood up in my lounge with my rotweiller licking the goo off the baby...sorry to anyone who's eating x

I think you're right. I shall go home and pack my bag.

At least your dog was helpful!

Dophus my dreams are the same as you. Mostly that i am not sure if it's happening or not.
Artyjoe what do you think to your classes? Mine are good i have learnt a little that i didn't know but most of all met some nice ladies, all gonna be first time mums.

I am starting to get stressed over nothing again, been a while since i have had this. As i have said before i know it's cause im ready for leaving work, just 9 more working days!

Hi Fufmum, i'm afraid my antenatal classes leave me depressed for at least the evening after it... I'm hospital phobic and not likely to be able to have a natural birth so am dealing with the horrible realities each Thursday. This Thursday is all on breast feeding and I asked if I could not attend as I don't intend to breastfeed but they've said I should, so no doubt I've have 3 hours of being made to feel crap for not breastfeeding as all the other mums are going to. The mums do seem nice but they are all at least 10 years younger than me, skinny and not dealing with the kind of issues I'm dealing with, but I'm hoping they will be good company once the babies all come along...if not I'll have to organise a mumsnet meet up for older mums in my area

I have also found that I get stressed two days before a MW appointment, obviously psycological...baby not moving in the morning, feet like Shrek, the usual stuff seems worse a few days before.

If my psychic is right I've only got 10 more days! Plllleeeeease let her be right!

Hmmmm well i am not sure i will go to another ante-natal class after the one today. for starters it means getting up so early and then i'm knackered all the day through, not good. Artyjoe poor you hospitals making you feel down. I do have a few young mums at my classes but some are my age and older too.
Bit dissapointed today though, i go to a just mums class for the sole reason I AM SINGLE, i would have thought the people taking the classes(MW and physio) may have thought about this???
But it seems not!
They couldn't have said the word partner or referred to BF/DH more if they had tried. Maybe i am just feeling over sensitive but it really bothered me today and i found myself switching off and wanting to walk out of the room. I know i am in the minority but it would be nice if they just said birthing partner or mentioned people who will not have a father around!
Nextweek is all to do with breathing and things going wrong at the birth. Week after is breastfeeding which i don't need as i took the 3 hour breastfeeding class. Artyjoe if you definately aren't going to breastfeed and you don't wanna go, don't go, you will be bored ridgid and it will probably make you feel bad.
Wish work was finished and when i feel lik this i could just crawl back into bed and hide under covers till i feel better.

Good luck smellymelly and thanks Quackers !

fufmum, it does sound very insensitive of the mw/phsyio, but if its any consolation, most of the other mothers there probably feel uncomfortable about some aspect of the class. fwiw I think that it is worth hanging in there if it isn't too excrutiating as after the birth you will all have much more in common (a baby!) and will meet up on your own, if you get to know each other.

I think I have been in denial about this baby. At the w/e my mil delivered our crib (she had been storing it) and I couldn't quite believe that a baby will be sleeping in it. I have also delayed buying anything at all, but have just made myself buy a pushchair and have ordered some things from mothercare. Wish I thought my baby would turn up this year though! (no sign of that happening).

Good luck for next week Smelly!

Thanks Hollyanna I guess i just never expected it being mentioned as much or at least one other single mum in the group!
I am so tired aswell, everything is such a chore and i have so much to get done before next weekend. I'm sure things will look better tomorrow(god i bloody hope so!)

I know how you feel about the tiredness fufmum, there are days I feel sooo low, just because I am exhausted. i think it must be easier after the birth, even with sleepless nights etc, than now. and hopefully you'll get some rest at your mum and dad's before the baby arrives. I'm not sure anyone feels really comfortable at antenatal classes - I felt that I had nothing in common with the other expectant mothers (they were all older than me, and seemed much more "together" than me), but after the birth of our babies we got together (without partners) and now, 6 years on I am still in touch with 3 of the other mothers.

Well, at 36 weeks and 5 days I wish it was worth getting excited! Problem is dd was 15 days late so I'm not holding my breath for an early delivery! Pretty uncomfortable now, there's only one positin I can sleep in (on my right side) but this must put a lot of pressure on my right hip and when I wake up I hobble around like an old lady for the first few mins while the joints stop hurting! Racing round after a 2 year old doesn't help either - though these last few weeks do seem to be passing more quickly than they did in my last pg so that's something!
Good luck for next Tues SM - that's my birthday so its an auspicious date!!

Had another bloody night in hospital again last night trying to rule out pre-eclampsia. Yet again I get to lie opposite a woman in full on labour crying her eyes out demanding a C section because she was in so much pain... I think it's dreadful that you have labour in a ward rather than a private room, she had no privacy whatsoever and she was crying for the full 4.5hrs we were there

Am only 34 weeks and am now measuring 40 weeks so I think any hope of a natural birth is now out of the window... maybe I'll ask for a tummy tuck at the same time to make me feel better about it

Is it just me or are certain friends abandoning you now? I'm getting blown out left, right and centre by someone I considered my best friend..she has no intention of having children so am wondering if she's just written me off now. Hey ho.

No it's not just you Artyjoe, i have friends do the same with me. In london i am the first of my friends to have a baby and some of them made it very obvious they thought i was mad doing it alone. I haven't heard from most of them since. But i know if they ever get pregnant they can forget having me around!! I'm glad now though cause at least i know who my true friends are!
Where is SM............hmmmm? Maybe we have our first babies on the way?? Fingers crossed for you SM if you are!

I'm all excited! Just nearly broke myself in half putting together my travel system that just arrived! I't HUGE! We put the cradle together at the weekend!
Has anybody here ever tried the rasberry leaf tea thing? does it actually work? If so, when should i start drinking it?

Artyjoe, oh i know exactly how you feel with the pre-eclampsia thing, i'm 35 weeks and have been back and forth like a yoyo, Extra antinatel checks and who knows what. They can't make up there minds, or rather my body can't decide, whether it's having a problem or not! I think we all have friends that "drop off" through transitions in our lives, and having a baby is a pretty big one! I've been lucky that a few of my friends had children before me and i "stuck around" iykwim. So when my son came along it was "yey another baby aboard!". Funnily enough i've lost more friends /with children/ because of differing veiws on parenting... Its true that you learn who your real frineds are.

Pocketasha- i know Artyjoe has started taking raspberry leaf tablets already but that's because she is showing 40 weeks when she is only 34 weeks so she is trying to help things along. I do have them ready to take but you are not really meant to take them before 36 weeks as they can make you go into early labour and before that wouldn't be ideal! I also have arnica ready for last couple of weeks and have already started to use almond oil on the perinium anything to help the stretch i say!
I had pre eclampsia scare 2 weeks ago, they wanted to keep me in but i managed to convince them i would be better off in my own bed and went back next day for more monitoring, everything was fine.

I thought you could take raspberry leaf from 34 weeks? I have been taking mine for a few weeks now.

I've also had a few pre-eclampsia scares. But it was very strange last check up, I had the same bp as before, but this time they didn't seem at all concerned. Just goes to show that it depends on who you see. (also keep having headaches). I was tested for gestational diabetes last week - should get the results on Friday. I am sort of hoping that they'll tell me I've got it and have to induce immediately as the baby is too big! Like you sassy, my last one was nearly 2 weeks late and none of mine have been early, so I'm not expecting an early delivery (we're due on the same date I think?).

Artyjoe, in my last labour I was the woman you describe. I was abandoned by the midwife, and in the end a woman from the bed opposite came to ask whether I was alright! You're right there should be privacy before you get to that horrible stage.