Due Dec 2007 - All I want for Christmas is a baby!!!

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Hola

thanks loucee - sounds like a great idea. It's a bit hard knowing whether to splash out on all these things when you don't know how sore you'll be. I was going to get those silverette things for bf-ing but then I thought what if it isn't sore this time, what a waste of money.... but then again if it is really sore I won't want to wait 3 days for delivery... aaaagghh

Has anyone read JARM's thread on bf? It is so lovely - seems to be going really well for her now

No, you're right Skid, the thought of it was much worse than the reality.

Amani, we have virgin and had no problems with it but now suddenly it keeps cutting or freezing-very annoying.

Although I'm not feeling ready for baby yet I'm at the stage where I just want to know when it is going to happen-I hate the feeling that it could happen anytime but not knowing when.

Think dd is preparing me for newborn, last night she went to bed at 7 and woke at 8, 9.30, 10.45, 1.30, 3.30, 5.30 and 7.30. Was properly crying each time and only mummy would do. No idea what was wrong but she didnt have much of a nap today either. Slightly worried I may have scarred her-she was in room when I was watching home grown births yesterday and watched it then went very quiet and came and sat on my lap for a while afterwards. She seemed fine afterwards but maybe that had something to do with her not being able to sleep!

On the plus side I think she is starting to say "I love you", she lay her teddy down earlier and said "ite ite teddy ubpoo" which I think was "night night teddy, love you" as thats what we say when we put her to bed (well, not the teddy part!)

aawww clairey that's so sweet - isn't it amazing how we can understand their little utterances? I always think DD is really clear and completely understandable until I meet up with a friend and everytime she says something, they say, 'I'm sorry you'll have to translate!'

Poor you being up so much last night - hope you have a better night tonight...

I've decided to think my baby isn't coming for at least another three weeks and to treasure the little time I have left with DD before her baby broyher arrives. DH was saying last night that she might be a completely different person for a while as she adjusts to his arrival so am really trying to make the most of her when she is so happy and lovely and not feeling jealous/resentful/sad/ousted etc

Ahh that is so sweet Clairey. When DS was in bed with me the other day he was making sounds that sounded like I love you, btu cant be sure that it wasnt me making it up.

Hey to everyone, sort of skim read and wanted to say good luck to CP for tomorrow looking forward to your announcement. No word from Wizzka?? Hopefully that is because she is just enjoying her little one.

Good luck to everyone feeling twinges hope baby comes soon.

We are off to a TENS demo at the hospital tonight. DH really not pleased at being dragged along, but since he needs to put it on he has to be there, have made it very clear that he not to work late under any circumstances. Men. He even said to me why dont I just have an epidural and be done with it, he cant understand why you wouldnt just end the pain if you are able to do so. I dont know if it is a man thing or what.

Off to MW tomorrow and going to do birth plan... asked DH if he had any input and he just said whatever... drives me mad.

Anyway, mat leave is a litttle stressful as havent managed to spend as much time with DS as i would like as faffing with appointments and moving this week, but hopefully by next week we will be settled and can enjoy the last few weeks before LO arrives.

Hugs to you all.

i know what you mean Clairey, my due date not until Fri but i am sooo impatient and restless now and just wish i knew when it was going to happen, then i could stop thinking about it and just get on with stuff until the day, i know i should be doing this anyway but finding it extremely difficult!!!
I'm on my own a lot as we only moved here a few months ago and my man works an hour away, know a few people here but they're at work and all the pregnant people i have met are lovely but i'm not very good at actually being confident enough to see if they would like to meet up outside of the classes we've all been going to.
Hence i seem to have a lot of thinking time on my hands and of course what do i end up focussing on but; when will it happen? how will it happen? will the baby and me be ok? how the hell can i be a parent? what if i break it? what if it's too cold/too hot - how will i know?will i be any good at breastfeeding? on and on and on......
sorry for long ramble i obv. needed to get that off my chest!

same fears melly!
Also lots of 'is this it?' for me. LO rummaging really low down now, lots of sensations in my cervix. trying to keep mayself busy, but finding that my exercise tolerance is so rubbish that i can only be on the go for half a day before i collapse

Suey - when's your due date?

Bought some clary sage today. Don't think it worked on DD but might try it this time!

Good point about how it will happen Melly. With dd labour started with my waters going so am assuming the same will happen this time-probably won't believe I am in labour if my waters havent gone! Have to keep reminding myself that it is likely to be an entirely different experience. And also that just cos dd was on time doesn't mean this one will be...

due date by LMP is this thursday. Really cannot imagine myself getting any bigger! Seeing MW thurs so may ask her to examine me for my bishop's score

Oh and don't worry, I didnt know anyone in the area when I had dd and didnt get talking to anyone in my one antenatal class but after I had her and summoned up the courage to go to groups it was really easy to get chatting to people and I made 4 or 5 really good friends with babies roughly the same age. When you have babies in common there is always something to talk about! We didnt meet outside group for quite a while but the group was closed at half term so it was natural progression for a few of us to meet at someones house instead and the friendship developed from there

Melly - stop worrying about it and call those people from your antenatal groups!! They will probably all be having all the same thoughts and worries as you and will be desperate for someone to share them with. It's also usually first-time mums at antenatal classes so they are also probably all as bored as you are.

If it's any help I am a bit of a klutz and yet I never managed to break my dd. A few little worrying episodes and trips to A&E over the last couple of years but nothing too serious!

You'll be fine.

Claireyb - poor you with all the night waking, you must be totally knackered. My dd also only wants me at night (as opposed to her daddy) and I am terrified she will start waking again after the baby is born and I will have two to cope with....

Skid - I fear the same about my dd. She's lovely at the moment but she has been playing up a bit and I worry that this is going to get worse. All the advice I get from my friends who are already onto their second is lavish as much attention on your oldest as possible, the baby won't know any better and can fit in around your life.

Am now 40+3 and nought going on apart from similar things to you Suey - wierd sensations down below. But not contractions. Have m/w tomorrow so will see what she says about sweep etc.

Good luck mememummy and anyone else having labour symptoms.....

Not too much longer then Suey. Know what you mean about don't see how we can get any bigger, I've still got just under 2 wks but I honestly will topple over if my bump grows anymore (it's all out the front so looks very odd!).

On another forum I look at now and again there's a girl who was due the day before me and after her routine MW appt this morning has been kept in as she's 4cm dilated and the MW is going to do a stretch to hopefully get her to 5cm then they're going to get her on a drip to start contractions!
I think I'd had my epidural at 4cm!

loucee - ooooh, perhaps that'll happen to me tomorrow (or even better, she'll have a look and say oh you're 9cm, you might want to get down to the hospital)

Loucee - when do they actually do an internal check? I've never had one at a MW appt before, but then have never been beyond 38 weeks so maybe that's why. My week-by-week pregnancy book says the MW will examine me to see if cervix is thinning/effacing, but it's an American book so a lot of their appointments info is irrelevant for us here in the UK.

oo loucee do you think the rummaging may be the start of it? I am finding it very difficult to sit with my knees together too- bump now much lower.

clairey - I'm the same about labour starting - my waters DIDN't break last time so I don't even consider that they will this time hence no towels/mattress protector/pads in my bag - you'd think we 2nd timers might know a bit better but no!!

clara - good luck with the mw tomorrow and hope you get a sweep or she at least looks to see how your cervix is - even if she tells you you're 1cm dilated that would at least be something

suey - you're due the day before me I think (10th?) so for your own sanity I would def start imagining a Xmas day birth! Hopefully you will be pleasantly surprised before that!

MM - your DH's attitude to your birth plan sounds similar to mine's! Mine has been a bit better recently since we had a long chat about my birth and recovery last time and he realises how hard it was (couldn't really bear to talk about it for a while after so it was all news to him).

And at you talking to your mw about your birth plan - I asked mine if we were going to go through it and she said, Oh God we can't be doig that with 2nd time mothers - we'd never get anything done so basically no-one but my DH will know what sort of birth I want...

housemum - don't think they do an internal until 41 weeks when they so a sweep

lol at 9cm at your mw appt clara - good to remain optimistic!!

yeh, skid, i know (sigh). I now say to people 'within the next 3 weeks!' Which still seems pretty scary for this first timer TBH. It is just the size issue that makes me impatient.

suey - very wise (saying 3 weeks) - it will only get worse when the people who know your due date start ringing and asking if you've had the baby!! I can't believe people actually do that - caller ID is a sanity-saviour [bitter experience emotion]

Skid - no-one has spoken to me about my birth plan either and I haven't had a vaginal delivery before. It's basically all a bit pants! Not that I expect my "plan" to quite work out as I hope but it's nice to talk over the options etc. When they start asking me something like "should we break your waters now" I would like to have an informed answer. In reality it will probably be "God just get it out"!

I was wondering about Christmas Day births - someone on here's got to have one.

Skid as your name is Holly does that mean you are a Christmas baby yourself?

I waver between wishing this baby would come early and thinking "aaagh, it can't be happening that soon!!" Max 5 weeks now, hopefully will follow previous form, but if it does it's less than 2 weeks.

Lots of "down below" rumblings - it's got hiccups at the mo and it feels like it's knocking on the door to get out!

clara - yes, well birthday on the 17th (due on Xmas eve) so would be lovely if my baby arrived then too

Am shocked you haven't discussed your birth plan as this is effectively your first labour - that is appalling. As my 2nd birth looms I realise I actually found my first birth a bit traumatic and most of the reasons I did so was lack of information/choice. If you can (if you haven't already) I really would advise you to have a long in-depth chat with your DH about whether you wants your waters broken etc so that he can speak for you to some extent if you're not able to.

First time round for me, the mw said, 'we'll just break your waters now as that will move things along, ok?' as the crochet hovered round my nether regions!!! I had no idea whether it was a good idea or not and just nodded meekly. Makes me quite angry now as I feel they took advantage of my vulnerability to do what was more convenient for them (i.e. a quick labour)

sorry sooo many typos in that last post -

crochet should be crochet HOOK!!

My MW is just really useless. I don't think she would notice if I didn't go and see her this week - I feel like there's no personal care at all.

Luckily ALL the midwives I have met at the hospital so far have been lovely (although post-natal care wasn't brilliant last time but that was probably because they were so busy). I suspect they shove the more useless ones out into the community.

Now I'm starting to fret about crochet hooks.....

Hi all! Have had lots of 'down below' movements too although far less BHs than I was getting. Today I think my first new stretch marks have appeared , they are looking a bit red as are some of the old ones. Why the body needed more I don't know, I thought there were plenty from the last couple of times! My belly button has gone flat too wheras it has been poking out since about 5 months! Really hoping this baby won't be late although I know there is not much chance of it being early. Like you Suey, size is concerning me! MW seems to think I am probably having another large one, also worrying about the effect pushing a big one (esp if it gets stuck) will have on my hernia.

Meme, your pains sound like how both my previous labours started - I had a couple of days of regular and painful contractions, apparenly it was pre-labour. Trust me, once labour was established the pain became a lot more intense! Try and relax through the pain if you can (hahaha) as I found out last time when you tense up through them, which seems to be my natural reaction to the pain, it stops the cervix from dilating as effectively.

This is getting so exciting with everyone so close and so many signs from you all! I just know I will end up going over to January! (or poss Dec 30th as DH has planned to go out that night...)