Waddling Zombies and Dancing Babies - Due Feb 2008

[Pk616]

Hiya ladies,
Thought I'd start the new thread, hope you like the title! Best I could come up with I'm afraid!

Congrats Ladle - hope they continue to do well! Look after yourself too

woweee, congratulations ladle, deligted to hear that your girls are here safe and sound and that you are OK. Our first babies!!!!! . Welcome to Blue and Leggy - Blue, I'm planning an elective as bad time last time plus spd this time but am v jealous as don't have a date yet - going back to see consultant AGAIN on 7th Jan and taking dh to fight my corner - not leaving without a date!, went on my own last time and had to go through details of last time and subsequent surgery so spent most of appt in tears. Sounds like you're both having a rough time - hopefully you'll find the support on here will help

Hey leggy didn't look at the link before I posted my hello to you last time so didn't realise what you were going through. Sounds a bit like what miniandme is doing at the mo as well (she is also due 2 Feb, same as ME and you, but with twins, and has been in and out of hospital with contractions and even hindwaters leaking, so has also had steroid injections).

We will look after you .

Talking of mini - where is she? Anyone heard anything?

Welcome Leggy, lots of support here. Have two dds already and am also having a boy. DD1 was born at 28weeks so know how you feel about worrying about another prem labour. also feel that I've had enough! Have had a pretty rough time this time around. Take it easy hun

Ladle - How fab! Our first babies (unless mini has got there first). Wow, feel quite emotional. You take care of yourself, hope the babies go from strength to strenth. Big hugs.

Ladlemumke- Love your little girls names btw, gorgeous!!

princessllama, I think your question got kind of missed because of ladle's happy announcement. I have no experience of writing ads asking for help, but do have a doula who is coming to help out after the babies are born. She does have crb checks as well as various first aid qualifications etc.

However, for a "mother's help" type person, I don't think they have to have those, but personally would prefer someone by word of mouth if they didn't have a CRB check, just for peace of mind. It's tricky though, as there may be lots of great people out there willing to help, but I think if I was going to offer my services to new mums I would get a CRB check done so that no-one turned me down because of a lack of one.

Does that make sense at all????

Ladle wow they are here !!!were they delivered in the royal after all then??
Mines are still threatening to make an appearance ,no more water leakage but planety of contractions for a few hours at a time then nothing!!Am past 32 weeks now so should be able to deliver at our local hospital instead of being faarmed out.
Had growth scan today and both twins abotu same size still and weighing 4 1/2 lbs each !!Little girl well and truely dug in at my pelvis they had to dig to be able to scan her head !!

Hey hey mini, glad to hear from you! your news seems to be an improvement on before, glad to hear it! Keep 'em baking!

Hi mini, glad you are still baking. My little girl has her head buried deep in pelvis too and her head can't be scanned properly! Strange that we are both due on same day, with boy/girl twins, and girl is down in pelvis. Is your boy head down or up? When the labour really gets going will they let you go for it naturally?

thank you for the warm welcome and its good to know am not alone...

I have a growth scan booked for tomorrow and have to see consultant straight after, hopefully will get more news as to whats happening, if I get the run around again I swear I'm likely to smack someone lol

It's our bodies they prod and poke at and we know how we feel but do they explain what is actually going on inside no and it's not like we can bend over and have a look ourselves!!!
It doesnt matter if it's your 1st or 4th (in my case) every pregnancy is different and while we learn to recognise certain signs its not always that simple, it would just be nice to know exactly what is going on.....am I alone in this way of thinking?

Leggy, am with you on this, last time I saw consultant he told me the large fibroid I have is not crushing anything! He said it was too strong a term. Even my dh said 'hang on it's her body and if that's how it feels....'etc. Generally I have been happy with treatment i've had but occasionally people can be dismissive of amount of discomfort and stress that being pregnant can bring with it.

I was lying awake last night feeling sorry for myself, and feeling crap, and wishing it was a month's time and Christmas was over with and, more importantly, inlaws visit at new year was over with, and I was thinking, here I am complaining and feeling woeful, but at least I don't have

SPD
Fibroid
Threatened early labour
Depression / on ADs
Older children with SN
Crappy commute to work
Big money worries

etc etc, all the things that some of you have to deal with (have probably forgotten many other problems too .

So please forgive me when I witter on...

Ah but Egg, comparing yourself to someone else and then going on a guilt trip doesn't help you feel any better - that's what we're here for anyway!!!

Good to hear you're still cooking mini!

Welcome leggylil - hope you get to catch up with us all quickly...you're def not alone!!

ladle, congrats congrats congrats. best wishes and gl to you all xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Egg i have to agree with Jo....everyone has their own probs and worries and when you compare them to other peoples, well it can make u feel worse (it does me anyway often sit here and think what you moaning for so n so's going thru much more than you etc etc)

I'm glad have found this thread cos no matter what you going thru there are ppl who understand and are there to offer support, forgive me am getting a bit soppy now lol

Leggy - you think you're getting soppy! I'm welling up here (I think it's mainly my hormones at the moment which are being slightly driven by copious amounts of clotted cream, why do they let me buy that stuff?)

Egg - it's just like Leggylil and Jo9977 have said, Please don't go suppressing you're own feelings because you know there are people out in the world with other problems. You're feelings are important and just because you think someone else is in a worse situation than you does not make them any less valid.

I know it must sound very wrong to all you workers, but I'm Sooooooooo glad it's monday, I've missed you all!

Wow, how clingy did that sound! lol

Oh [sob], you are all so lovely .

I am actually feeling really good as DS has been a star all day, I rested a bit this morning, and all is going well .

I actually look forward to Mondays, as DS is at nursery all morning today and tomorrow, so it feels like more of a break than the weekend.

lol your not clingy pk616.....If i haven't had my daily does of seeing/talking to my friends online i get withdrawl symptoms (hmm maybe thats why i was so antsy when had to stay in hospital overnight friday lol)

and egg i agree before i had DD3 when my eldest 2 were at school i loved the peace and quiet....am sitting here now remembering it and thinking to myself why am i going thru all this again for???? OH i know I love the little blighters even when they are being the devil children

You know I'm terrified about this parenting business! Not worried about whether or not I'll bond with the bairn, I'm a proper softie and can't see how that wouldn't happen! It's all the responsible stuff I'm worried about. The oldest man and I are just big kids, we wouldn't know responsible if it came up and bit us on the arse, how do you think we got pregnant!! lol! Do you just fall in to being responsible or what?

Congratulations ladle! I'm so pleased you managed to hang on until 28 weeks and your little girls are doing well. Take Care.

Take care everyone else too - not much to report here! Baby and I are continuing to grow at an alarming rate!!

pk i was 17 when had my DD1 and like you i had same fears......its amazing cos you do change even without realising it, its called instincts. stick to what you believe in and listen to your heart and you wont go far wrong. thats what advise i was given from my grandmother and i have to say i now agree with her

PK when I was pg with DS, I wasn't worried about giving birth, or having a small baby, but was worried about being a "bad" parent, and not bringing him up properly. I still worry, I keep wondering what happens if he ends up having no respect for me and takes no notice of any punishment... I read too much about the youth of today! I don't see why he would turn out like that, but it terrifies me still!

egg its weird you saying that i was having similar chat with neighbour not a few hours ago about the youth of today....

My eldest is 9 in january and she's a bit on the niave side and i am dreading when she starts senior school cos of the influences out there, I live in one of the worst areas of the country and there was recently a documentry on channel 4 (which involved DD's school) and it really put the frightners up me cos of seeing the sort of language kids use and while I do my best as a parent its hard when there is so many contradictions and peer pressure out there. But what can you do but try your best and hope DC's listen and follow your advice

mind you having said that i feel like when i talk to my DD's it goes in 1 ear and out the other lol

congratulations ladlemunke. so glad you got to 28weeks. sagitarians rock .
keep going mini, you're getting there.
thank you egg for sound advice re child care. think i'm going to pluck up the courage and put an ad out now before i bottle it again.[stupid i know].
we've made a huge error with our kitchen which looks like costing even more and taking even more time now, finish date getting way too close to baby arrival date.
good luck with growth scan leggy