Due May 2008 - Second trimester, here we come!

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Hope you found it ok!

hello again

macaco - I was really worried about my dh's ability to deal with the gory detail of the birth, but he was amazing on the day. He was my absolute rock (especially as the midwives I had were generally useless at giving any kind of emotional support).

You could always agree for him to be up by your head for the pushing part, but I couldn't keep dh away - he was absolutely enthralled to see his baby come out!

Good luck with going for a non-medicalised birth in Spain. Perhaps you could find a doula or similar to support you?

Babylove - I can't say i've done any proper exercise since becoming pregnant. Am going back to pilates after a long break in a couple of weeks. Can't wait, actually, as I feel horribly out of shape at the moment. I keep thinking about swimming, but then i remember how cold it is and I never make it.

dd starting nursery in a couple of weeks so i'll have a whole 2 hours a week to myself!! That might persuade me to do something...

Having said that, am desperately trying to get my driving licence before the new one arrives. The thought of having two kids and not being able to drive reduces me to tears. So, I suppose those 2 hours will go on lessons.

Hi all
Just wanted to check in.

NAME - WE THINK -CHINESE CALENDER - SCAN
bobsmum (whenachildisbob) - boy - girl - ?
sweetbean - boy - Girl - ?
jacobandlysette - girl - girl - ?
mitchell81 -girl - girl - ?
pregnabrain - girl - boy - ?
walkingwomb - girl - boy - ?
hayleyandbaby -girl - boy - ?
mrsstresshead - boy - boy - GIRL
blobsmummy - girl - girl - ?

SCANS

Macaco - BOY
Snooks - GIRL
Chuffed - GIRLS
Coby - BOY
Iarel - GIRL
Mumblesmummy - BOY
Aussiesim - GIRL
Mrsstresshead - GIRL
JackBlackRoady - GIRL

Thanks for the tip about M&S and New Look mat cloths i will go in and have a look! Hope all is well with everyone i was 20 weeks on Saturday and can hardly believe that I'm half way through (thank god !!) Im not a big fan of being pregnant and can't wait for the new 20 weeks to be over and to get on with the birth ! xxx

NAME - WE THINK -CHINESE CALENDER - SCAN
bobsmum (whenachildisbob) - boy - girl - ?
sweetbean - boy - Girl - ?
jacobandlysette - girl - girl - ?
mitchell81 -girl - girl - ?
pregnabrain - girl - boy - ?
walkingwomb - girl - boy - ?
hayleyandbaby(Now mumblesmummy) -girl(changed to boy 3 weeks before scan) - boy - BOY
mrsstresshead - boy - boy - GIRL
blobsmummy - girl - girl - ?

SCANS

Macaco - BOY
Snooks - GIRL
Chuffed - GIRLS
Coby - BOY
Iarel - GIRL
Mumblesmummy - BOY
Aussiesim - GIRL
Mrsstresshead - GIRL
JackBlackRoady - GIRL

There's double girls to boys at the mo!

Ive been feeling so much better the past few weeks now that I'm past the sickness and stuff, however, past couple of days i keep feeling sick and needing to eat LOADS. It's not like constant all-consuming sickness like in the beginning, but I could puke IYKWIM. Is anyone else like this?

Our lil boy hasn't stopped kicking for three days and two nights!! He never stops which is lovely.

Is anyone else having a water birth? I really want one but there's only one pool at our hospital so it's pot luck. However, I've totally not visualised having baby on a bed so I duno what I'll feel like if that happens! Does anyone know the dress code for the pool? I know it's stupid but I'm really self conscious about being naked so can i wear like a bikini top or a nightie or something in there? I can't stop thinking about the birth all the time, I'm so excited about it!!

Is anyone else going to aqua-natal? What's it like? Is it worth going?

My friend's having a baby girl.. awww... She's calling her abigail.

Hope everyone's well.
xx

hiya - just found this site, and this thread. I am due on 30 May, and have my 20 week scan next week. Cannot wait, and hope to be able to find out sex of baby too. What a great time to be pregnant - my bump started showing just as the January sales started! Have spent a fortune on clothes I hope will see me through. Becca

Wow, what a useful forum! I'm from Scotland but currently living in China where it's been very difficult to get info and advice about my pregnancy. Heading home at the end of this month and already dreaming of clean NHS hospitals and English speaking doctors!

This is my first and I'm due about the 15th of May (though British doctors may dispute this, Chinese dating technology isn't very advanced).

People mentioned materniy clothes a few posts back, I can thoroughly recommend M&S, I had some clothes delivered to a friend who came out for Christmas. There's not a massive selection but I love everything I ordered, it's all reasonably priced and they do free delivery for orders over £30 if you don't fancy leaving the house!

I'm so glad I found this!

Hi baiyu and welcome! It's a godsend, mumsnet, isn't it? I'm in Spain and it really helps when you're abroad. What took you to China? Are you going back after the baby?

Hi all

Sorry to have not been around much, struggling a bit at the momeht with everything. Being constantly ill, DS, work and DP all getting a little too much.

Still, starting to feel LO on the outside now which is nice for DP.

Welcome to all the new people and hope everyone else is ok. Will try and catch up better soon.

Podglet - hope you feel better soon, my dh felt the baby move for the first time a couple of days ago too which he liked.

Mumblesmummy - you don't have to be totally naked if you don't want, I wouldn't want to be either. Although by the time you're giving birth feeling self conscious is the last thing you'll be thinking about & they really have seen it all before so don't worry too much.

Welcome to baiyu & beccablum.

Can anyone help me with names as we're finding it hard to decide and I'd be grateful for some outside opinions. So far we've narrowed it down to Archie, Harry, Oliver & William. If you could say which you like best and least I would be interested what other people think. Thanks!

Indigoblue - another vote foer harry from me!

Podglet, sorry to hear you are finding things a bit much at the moment. I think this time of year makes things a lot worse, more bugs around, DCs wanting to go out all the time but the weather is awful, DPs only seen during the long hours of darkness etc etc - well thats what its like for us..

Spend most of last night in the labour ward after contraction-like pains (No, not braxton hicks, becoe a bit of an expert on those over the years ). Not entirely sure what the problem was but docs think it is due too overdoing things and stress etc. Little nugget was absolutely fine thank god but I was pretty shaken at the time. Midwives were fantastic and said if I need a break from DCs and DH they would admit me just for that reason whenever I wanted them to - they could plainly see DH not much help - me on delivery bed having bad pains, him letting our DCs climb all over me. Anyway all over now, funny bits of the eve involved hearing woman in next room shouting 'get the F* away from me' (not sure who it was directed at!), also MW seeing to me got interrupted because someone's epidural had run out. I told her to go to sort other woman out (hoping that the karma will come back to me when the time comes if my epidural runs out while the MW is busy )

mrsstresshead, no unfortunately not which is why I think the midwife made what I thought was a rather generous offer. There are a fair few others in the same situation and worse though so I'm not going to complain (too much )

Hi all

Coby
Hope your OK babe? My sympathies for the rubbish DH !!!! mine used to be terrible but i have to say that labour and a new baby made him a changed man,and we are much much closer now than we ever where before we had are daughter so maybe the same will be true for you

My little bundle has also caught the wiggle bug and i have been feel so much movement, yesterday and its carried on thismorning.I have to say its the only thing about being pregnant that i love !!!!

Hope your all well I'm OK but my usual paranoid self has anyone hear suffered from depression and or OCD before becoming pregnant or post pregnancy ??

Oh i new there was something i forgot...

Indigoblue
my vote is for Archie i do like Harry and that woulkd be my second choice but Archie has my vote

Hi Sweetbean, thanks for your concern. Actually DH was fine until the DCs came along, he does his best and has got a lot better, I just get pretty humpy with him when he has a 'relapse'.

I have suffered depression for 'a few' years , quite used to talking about it all so if you have any questions fire away! Also suffered anxiety too but now cured . Depression has always lifted while pregnant but this time things had to be different so I now have a new label to play with 'pre natally depressed'. Not that bad atm. I have lots of support avaialble to me if I need it - something to do with being in the mental health systems files for too long methinks .

If you are feeling a bit paranoid it may not be OCD, IME depression + pregnancy = paranoia quite often. Either way there is a lot of help out there, it's just taking the plunge and asking for it thats that problem usually.

hth

Hi all,

Thanks to all who wished me a happy birthday. Had a nice famimly day. DH tried to cook my birthday steak well-done and ended up cooking it medium-rare - and I loved every mouthful of it!

My SIL gave birth to my nephew on my birthday (christmas eve), so he definitely stole the limelight this Christmas! She had a wonderful easy home birth, and he hasn't yet cried! She has no idea how lucky she's got it when I think back to DD being born and her first few weeks....

fleurie - I live in Kent too!

2 days to our scan and I'm soo excited! Glad to hear other people's scans are going well.

pregnabrain-m&s maternity part of limited collection and only in bigger stores..trousers worth searching for.

Thanks for all the lovely welcomes.

Macaco, I'm in China studying Chinese, still a full time student. Next year I'll not be back in China but my partner and I will both be trying to finish our undergrad degrees in the UK so that'll be a different kind of challenge!

Does anyone have any experience of fitting childcare into student life without losing the plot entirely?!

IndigoBlue- I personally like Oliver best, I would consider it as one of my boy names but my cousin recently called his little boy Oliver so it's out of bounds!

Hope everyone is feeling well and not as exhausted as I am!

Hiya Sweetbean, I have had several years of depression. Took myself off the cipralex when i knew i was pregnant and had conflicting advice about re taking it. My life was made complicated ( self inflicted ) with a new relationship last year and now i yoyo all the time.
I work part time so that keeps my head more level but i am worried about what the next few months will bring. Are you on any medication for your depression ?

I'm also miffed that the placenta is at the front which seems to be preventing dp from feeling the movement from baby that i can feel

hi all new pg ladies!

coby hope you're ok. i think pre-natal depression is a very good lable as it's not really very recognised yet. and i've been experiencing great paranoia this time around. last night i lay awake most of the night because sam wasn't sriggling as much as normal. he's a champion wriggler and has been kicking me like no-one's business but must have been sleeping lots last night but of course i nearly woke dh up and had him drive me to a&e just to check. normalish wriggling resumed today so all well i think.

i do a few good walks each day - 20 mins to tube station with dh and then the same on the way back home, and we have clapham common really close so a good 40 min walk pushing ds in the buggy each day is what i'm doing. i'm huge anyway though so n ot sure how much it's helping....

luckily ILs are out this afternoon as i think i would have seriously lost it today... i just get no space for ds and i at the moment. am really feeling that he's not going to be my little boy in probably 8 weeks when sam is born and i'm really relishing these last few weeks with him ON MY OWN..... o'h and MIl insists on rolling his trousers up so they look like "village idiot waders" ifswim ? I know i've lost all sense of proportion over it but i'm pg and irrational.

sorry anyone i've missed out and is hayley still around or are you posting under another name or not on our thread any more? just checking!

xxx

jacobandlysetteandbump - I know how you feel about feeling your DS isn't going to be your litle boy when sam is born. I was exactly the same way with DD1 when DD2 was born. DD1 was born a few hours into the day following DD1's 2nd birthday and I very clearly remember taking her out for lunch for her birthday despite having pretty bad contractions, I just wanted to have as much 'us' time as poss before DD2 arrived. When DD2 turned up I left the hospital really quickly (pretended epidural had worn off and it hadn't properly) so I could be back with DD1 who had been left to wake up with my stepmum and dad who she hardly knew in the house and mummy and daddy gone.

I really need not have worried really but it wasn't an option. DD1 looked so huge compared to a newborn, it was like changing an adult's nappy . Have to say that today DD1 and DD2 have been apart for the morning with DD1 back at nursery, neither could wait to see the other and now they are cuddled up right next to each other on the floor watching a beatrix potter video. They fight like mad but totally inseparable.

Can your DP have a word with your ILs about giving you and your DS some 'us' time alone?

btw - the trouser thing would drive me mad too - esp when pregnant. I think it is something the older generation do to young children as my stepmum does it to my two all the time when they visit

coby thank god it's not just my MIL! luckily (depending on how you look at it...) FIL is o nwarfarin and has had to go to guys for a routine blood test (because they are away from home for so long) so i have had pretty much the whole afternoon with ds, which has just been lovely! also when i "get a strop on" as dh kindly puts it, they tend to disappear pretty swiftly so i get time with ds that way too

Oh well...strop away then! - you can always blame the hormones at a later date and do your apologies then (thats what I do) .

Wow the thread has moved a lot. We had an eventful Christmas break with me having to go into hospital to have my appendix out between Christmas and New Years and I'm about to head back in as now my scar is oozing pus.

The triplets seem to be doing well, no ill effects from the surgery. I'm pretty bummed as I wanted to get a bunch of sorting done and a whole lot of sewing done during the hols but haven't had a chance.

I only have about 50 little newborn fitted naps to sew before the bubs are born. I have the fabric just need to get going on the machine.

My machine is on slow mo so I can't add myself to the baby sex list but it looks like we have 3 girls coming and are really struggling with names. Hopefully we'll be able to agree on 3 before they are born and we might get lucky and only need two