Due August 2021 - Third Trimester!

[Daffodil21]

Not totally up to date, sorry!

@wimbler - EDD 29 July, surprise 💛
@coffeeandrainbows1- EDD 4 August (but most likely July), Boy 💙
@Jessicapebbles - EDD 5 August (but having C-section at 39 weeks, so really July), Girl 💖
@Smurf123 - EDD 5 August (but likely to be July) 💛
@WhatEvenIsSleep - EDD 2 August, Boy 💙
@ready2020 - EDD 4 August, Girl 💖
@Xaxnxdxrxexaxandrews87 - EDD 4 August, Boy 💙
@Smushty14 - EDD 6 August, TBC 💛
@Rattyclife - EDD 6 August, TBC 💛
@Dia12 - EDD 8 August, Girl 💖
@Biscuitcat - EDD 10 August, surprise 💛
@ElonaWise - EDD 11 August, TBC 💛
@Runnergirl123 - EDD 11 August, TBC 💛
@PurplePansy05 - EDD 12 August, Boy 💙
@Srtdr - EDD 12 August, surprise 💛
@Daffodil21 - EDD 12 August, Boy 💙
@Inmypjsagain - EDD ???, Boy 💙
@BananaHammock23 - EDD 13 August, surprise 💛
@MrsB2019x - EDD 13 August, Girl 💖
@Magik01 - EDD 13 August, Boy 💙
@Aaaaa1519 - EDD 13 August, Girl 💖
@Carefree1 - EDD 15 August, Girl 💖
@DressyGerbera - EDD 15 August, surprise 💛
@lucyrp - EDD 16 August, undecided 💛
@BertieBotts - EDD 16 August, want to know! 💛
@WolfMother326 - EDD 17 August, surprise 💛
@Caz1226 - EDD 17 August, Boy 💙
@Lille4 - EDD 17 August, Girl 💖
@Redskinsucks - EDD 17 August, TBC 💛
@RockyRockyRoad - EDD 18 August, can't wait to find out 💛
@Smallbean27 - EDD 19 August, surprise 💛
@WatermelonKisses - EDD 20 August, surprise 💛
@Alittlexmasmagic - EDD 22 August, surprise 💛
@Millymay13 - EDD 22 August, TBC 💛
@Whatshouldbemyusername - EDD 22 August, surprise 💛
@LottSE20 - EDD 22 August, TBC 💛
@Notinthestarsigns - EDD 23 August, TBC 💛
@Winecoffeeteamum - EDD 23 August, Girl 💖
@LaceyMermaid - EDD 24 August, TBC 💛
@Fran919 - EDD 25 August, surprise 💛
@ava50x - EDD 25th August, Boy 💙
@Ghhh - EDD 25th August, Boy 💙
@northernsquirrel - EDD 26 August, surprise 💛
@LyraShaeLilly - EDD 27 August, Girl 💖
@ame88 - EDD 28 August, TBC 💛
@diamante11 - EDD 29 August, Girl 💖
@HopefulB - EDD 29 August, TBC 💛
@CountryGirl84 - EDD 29 August, TBC 💛

@Inmypjsagain 😂😂 that's crazy and great. Dreams can be funny things. My pal once told me of a sexy dream she had about Nicholas Cage. I made sure she remembered it at her hen do when I got masks made of Nicholas Cage for everyone.

Things are fine now. It's just his way of coping, which isn't a healthy way of expressing his stress but he is genuinely worried about the changes coming and if he can live up to all that's expected of him. We need to be better at spending time together just now as we sleep in separate beds most the time as I'm sleeping so lightly just now and then go to work in separate rooms then I go to bed early and he stays up late. Funny how you can live in the same house yet not spend that much time together.

@Ready2020 we also sleep in separate rooms most of the time (because DH snores like a bloody foghorn). We start off in our room together but my pregnancy pillow means we may as well not be!

Understandable to have a little panic but I'm sorry he upset you ❤️

@Ready2020 Now is a really good time to reintroduce date nights ahead of baby arriving. Just one night a week to go for a meal and just chat about worries, wins and whatever away from screens.x

Anyone had stomach cramps?
I'm having pretty intense cramps today. They come on pretty fast and then ease again. Also bump goes tight. I am prone to ibs but it's been fairly good during the pregnancy so far and I can't think of having ate anything that would normally flare it up today.
(I'm sure it's prob just ibs right.. But maternity unit aren't answering the phone to ask)

@Smurf123 it could be braxton hicks, sometimes they can be a little painful but hopefully you get through to triage soon to be safe. This hot weather is giving me loads of BH

@Ready2020 sorry you had a hard day yesterday hope all a bit better today...
I tried to start buying for my hospital bag today.. I sort of wanted to go neutral for baby clothes for it but the shops were full of either all pink or all blue Dinosaurs 🙈 so I didn't get very far 🙈

Thanks @wimbler that's what I'm hoping it is but then would they continue off and on through the day? The first came around 1230 this afternoon been off and on since when they ease I feel absolutely fine.. Until they start again

@Ava50x oooh that's an interesting trick. Will try the soap thing from tonight. Thanks my love. I've tried magnesium salt baths but not sure what to do now. The soap has to be the last option x. I am going for reflexology tomorrow so hoping that will help too. I also have my yoga session tonight so fingers crossed 🤞🏽

@Ready2020 am sorry my darling but glad it's all sorted now. I do agree with @alittlexmasmagic - date nights can be great at this time since it's close to baby and emotions are high on both sides ... it will all come together when you have some time to yourselves where you talk about normal stuff x

@Smurf123 I've just got a few whites from John Lewis since I don't know baby gender. Will get more stuff when baby here. I started putting 4-5 items for hospital bag aside over the weekend too. And DH put up changing table so that's good.

Received baby cot bed today and chest of drawers today too. Exciting!

Yeah it's better now. We've arranged a dinner and cinema trip for Sat night so hopefully that'll help. It's just been so busy with house move and work and family visits that we need to just breath a bit on our own.

I'm quite worried about after baby is here as I know his mum will be extra keen to come see us all as soon as possible and I need to politely say stay away for at least a week please.

I've been sooo hungry lately! I guess she's just growing fast.

Been for my 31 week appointment this morning and although bump is still measuring above the 97th percentile I don't need to go for a growth scan yet as it hasn't leaped upwards but I do have to go for a GTT now just to check for diabetes in pregnancy although the MW said she doesn't think I have it it's just to check. She said she thinks I just have a big bump with a normal sized baby. Head was down when she had w feel but still free which makes sense as I feel movements all over atm

Smurf, do you like bright gender neutral, or more traditional pastel yellow/white/beige, or modern grey/white? Maybe we can do some virtual shopping for you and then you'll know which shops to check out :o

I am getting BH fairly regularly as well. Nothing painful but I do notice them.

I took DS2 to the outdoor pool today which was lovely :)

@BertieBotts oo thank you.. I like both Bright colours and neutral whites/ cream.. Just not pure blue or pink. Also love disney. 🙂
We've started swimming with ds too he loves it.. It's really nice to be back in the water.

Hello, can I rejoin please? I’ve been reading the threads but haven’t felt confident to rejoin as anxieties grew due to previous pregnancy issues.
I’m having a baby girl, due 20th Aug but will be having a section on or shortly after 30th July.
At our 20 week scan they said I had little cervix left so was rushed up to delivery and had a stitch put in that night (they found I had 2cm of cervix left so enough for the stitch thankfully). I’ve been signed off work since then which has been lovely, but also very boring lately.

I’m sure I’ve seen somebody is giving birth in Lancashire Women’s & Newborn Centre? This is my local hospital :) I’m under the rainbow clinic here which has been great.

I’ve had the Moderna vaccine (first dose) and whooping cough is tomorrow.
That covers my pregnancy in a (largish) nutshell ha

The BH - this is my fourth pregnancy and they are the worst they’ve ever been. Always worth getting checked out if you’re unsure.

Does anybody else’s baby stick their head or bum (not sure which it is yet ha) out of your belly so much that it’s painful?! I have to push her back in gently or get on all fours to reposition her.

@Ready2020 I’m clearly on this thread too much when I’m dreaming of you! Date nights sound good, this whole process is more stressful than I anticipated with a house move on top, I can’t imagine. I’ve already started telling people I really don’t want guests straight away but it’s tough to say to close family!! Especially in laws, I don’t mind my parents seeing me look a mess but I’d be self conscious in front of husband’s family.

@Smurf123 marks and Spencer have some nice baby grows that are plain white with days of the week, some are just plain multicoloured packs. So do Baby gap.

@lucyrp bit jel of all your appointments! And your big bump!! 😊

@WinterBabyof89 hello 😊 sounds like your 20 week scan was stressful! But glad they got you sorted quickly! I didn’t find the whooping cough injection too bad, very quick but had a sore arm for a few days- hopefully you’ll avoid that!

First NCT was so awkward- no one spoke! So naturally I felt the need to fill the silence but was conscious I didn’t want to be the annoying one talking too much 🙄 was surprised the leader went straight into the content as well- I as expecting some ice breakers but she made us change our zoom names and that was that. Hopefully we’ll get into the flow…

How is everyone doing in the heat? My hands and feet are the most swollen they’ve been. I’ve tried raising my legs but is there any other handy tip anyone has? Am willing to try anything because my feet actually hurt- even a massage isn’t doing the trick! (Conscious I need to keep an eye out for preeclampsia but my blood pressure readings have been low)

@Inmypjsagain I forgot about babygap must have a look in there too.

I think I may be in the bad books with the in laws.. Oops. Dh is from a European country and his family all live over there. We haven't seen them in 18months due to covid. They want to book to come over here the first week of August (week of due date!). Lovely dh will be delighted to see them and will be good for ds to see them. They want to see new baby. They were talking to dh tonight about what list they are on for NI - red green amber etc. I think they are currently on amber. (We have very very few green countries) but amber says they could isolate in our house with us for the 10 day isolation period. I said no way.

First off The guidance recommends isolation for a reason so why on earth would it be a good idea to subject a newborn baby to that possible risk. So I've said they would have to isolate elsewhere and have the negative tests before they see us.
Second we don't have much room here.
Third dh parents are somewhat opinionated E.g. Insisted ds didn't sleep through night as a baby as I didn't give him a duvet at birth, didn't force him to take a dummy and that I kept the house too cold - 18-20degrees as recommended by NHS. And I'm not sure I can deal with that with a newborn baby.

Am I being unreasonable to expect them to follow covid guidelines and isolate before seeing their grandkids after travelling on a plane? If it was my own parents I'd be saying the same thing. And as it is my parents and 2 brothers will be taking lateral Flow tests before coming to visit baby - their suggestion and insistence and they have already ordered kits to ensure they have them when that time comes. And they are still shopping online, only meeting people outdoors and fully double vaccinated (except the 14 yr old who's obv too young for vaccine as yet)

Argh I just wrote a really long reply and the app deleted all of it 😩

@Smurf123 for your in laws situation, I would absolutely stick to your guns! I couldn't imagine anything worse than having people staying with you then, especially if you can't even kick them out of the house for a few hours (though even if you could of their country went green I would still say absolutely not). My SIL has requested something similar and she's most irritated that she's been told no - but if there's one time in your life that you can prioritise yourself it's at the end of a pregnancy and with a newborn. I've decided being unpopular is well worth it. Imagine going into labour and not feeling comfortable to walk around your own home as you need to manage, or to be coming home with a brand new baby only to have people there you can't get rid of - awful!

@Smurf123 not unreasonable at all! I don't want to see anyone at all in the first week, even my mum who lives 10 minutes away. I couldn't think of anything worse than people staying over at that time. Stick to your guns and as @biscuitcat says I wouldn't care if I were unpopular with family because of it. It's your baby, your house, your rules. Especially around covid too. Isolating for a week in a house with a new born is not on really.

I plan to have boobs out, comfy pj's, sleep whenever I can and no doubt make a bit of a mess before I can sort myself out in my new role as a mum and face other people.

But then saying all that I'm in the extreme where having people around in normal times can stress me out and I try and avoid it lol.

Hey all! I'm on holiday with a wild hip pain atm but so glad to be away 😊

@Smurf123 YANBU, definitely. My family is in the EU too, also on the amber list, and no one even came up with an idea to come and visit in August, not even my mum! I mean I'm sure she's gutted about not seeing my son straightaway but that's way too much, too soon. If your DH's family come few weeks after at least, stay separately and isolate before as you say then I'd feel fine about it personally, but not otherwise. Stick to your guns, otherwise you'll have people on top of you straight after the birth and an added covid risk when all you need to do is look after your newborn and rest.

Oh no @Inmypjsagain, I fear our NCT will be the same 🤦🏼‍♀️ I hope it gets going a bit more for you...is the content actually ok though? I now feel we could have used 2 weekends for finishing the house not on this, really mixed feelings about doing it online from as soon as they've moved it xx

@PurplePansy05 I have been seriously thinking about cancelling my nct course as the local midwife is doing an online course too for free. My nct course is based in Edinburgh so it's not exactly local to me anymore so I'm not sure I'll meet up much with the new mums. I think I'll be too late for a full refund though. Most people I know who had babies say the nct course is better than the NHS one though so I'm not sure.

With us doing a hypnobirthing course, plus OH doing his dad to be course, doing 2 more courses in July seems like over kill!

My manager has decided to give me a load of work to do before I leave as they've not got my replacement in yet so want to have a load of draft submissions ready to go for things happening up to December! Plus my manager forgot I was off all next week (going away to Crieff, self catering) so I've only got 10 working days to do it all. Not impressed really...

Anyone else waking up feeling swollen ? My hands and feet are definitely larger now, just slipped my slip on vans on to take OH to work and I can barely get them on my feet all of a sudden ☹️

Thank you all i feel a bit better about it all now. I have no issue with them coming and staying somewhere else and isolating properly before then seeing us. But I don't want them staying with us.
Sorry your sil is still giving you a hard time about it @biscuitcat
The thing is if they would come and help and not overstay their welcome its one thing. My dm is already planning day trips for when I go in to have baby and I'm the days after where she and my dad will take ds out to do something fun with them and give us a chance to settle. I know also that they will come only after checking its OK to visit and won't stay more than an hour etc unless asked. Dm will offer to take baby for an hour for us to sleep if needed / do a bit of tidying in the house or bring some shopping etc. And won't take offence if I say no to her doing those things.
Mil would be on top of us all day long only taking a break when they decide to go for their own afternoon nap. And remark on how I'm doing things differently (ie wrong) to how they would. And they will speak their language 90% time where I will only understand enough to know a few words but without understanding the full conversation. I kid you not one of their previous visits before we had ds they came over and stayed with us. Dh took the day off work but I couldn't, so I went to work as expected and came home to my kitchen having been rearranged. Apparently I was keeping my plates and cups in the "wrong" place and they should have been in different cupboards.

@Ready2020 I'm not doing a nct course. We have free antenatal classes by the health trust here which we did last time around. There's also an online version this year.

@Smurf123 my darling you're absolutely right and not being unfair at all. You do have a point. Self isolation is there for a reason and the reason isn't be self isolating with a new born.

I can understand where DH is coming from but if they aren't keen to self isolate else where he needs to tell them to come when the rules change. As @PurplePansy05 we've all not seen families for over 18 months but that doesn't mean that to see a newborn all rules are thrown out of the window.

I did the baby academy free courses and I have 2 coming up with my NHS trust. Didn't have any local NCT classes available except for virtual but even that group wasn't too local to where I live.

Baby was moving a lot last night. Was so magical. However there is one spot that is just soo hard! I feel like that is sticking out and may be the baby bum. When I had my growth scan a week ago, baby was head down though.

@lucyrp I get swollen feet towards the end of the day. ESP the left one. Poor you. I'm not getting swollen hands.

Also a tip from the yoga ladies last night - freeze fresh watermelon ...it can be both healthy and refreshing when trying to fight the heat x

@lucyrp I had to take my wedding ring off a few weeks ago as my hands were a bit swollen by my BP as been normal.. I think it's the heat

I just checked the t and c's and I'd only get a 50% refund if I cancel now 🙄 so may as well stick to it.