Pregnancy after loss - Autumn babies 2021 - Thread 2

[Pancakes7]

Hi All,

I thought I'd start a new thread before we fill the other one.

@Bellabubble
@Firevie
@PumpkinEverything
@MrsF111
@MrsTD88
@Strawberry08
@imisscoffee
@Greenrubber
@vitaminb33
@Smurf123
@NorthernGirl1991
@bookwitch13
@JRH4622

Hopefully I've tagged everyone!

@smarty4 aww congratulations! What a lovely Mother’s Day present. Really lovely scan pics, too!!
@HereWeGoooo and @PumpkinEverything yay to fellow first time mums! Can’t wait to have my baby ♥️♥️♥️

@imisscoffee there are twins on my mums side apparently but two generations ago. My 2 cousins have twins though and they're both on my mums side

@smarty4 Wow so 3 cousins with twins now. That's a lot. It must run strong in your family. I hope it's sunk in for you.

@smarty4 amazing!!! What a lovely surprise. Congratulations!!

@Firevie I don’t have any children yet, this would be my first. But sadly 5th pregnancy 😢

@Strawberry08 yay another first time mummy!! Fingers crossed this one is THE one! You have your scan tmr right? Xxx

I'll be thinking of you tomorrow @Strawberry08 what time is your scan?

@Pancakes7 @Firevie yep scan tomorrow at 8:40 so at least I don’t have to wait for it during the day x

@Strawberry08 That's good it's nice and early. I'll be thinking of you. Good luck x

@Pancakes7 thank you! I’m feeling weirdly positive about it. I think I’ve never felt so rough in my life and in none of my other pregnancies so I’m thinking that’s a good thing there’s something different!

@Strawberry08 Aw I really hope so. It's good you're feeling positive. 🤞🏻🌈

Good luck tomorrow @Strawberry08 😊

Anyone else feel a bit nervy when other people talk about their pregnancy? I’ve actually been okay this week, I’ve had a really busy and stressful work week which preoccupied my mind and this week has zipped by and I can’t believe I’m 10 weeks tomorrow. So feeling positive enough about all this and I smile every time I look at my scan photos on the mirror. I went for a walk with my mum today and she said that my sister asked if she thought I’d get pregnant again and my mum obviously lied and said oh I don’t know and I won’t ask her 😂 then my mum said you can tell I’m pregnant from the way I talk because I was telling her I forgot how nice a certain brand of cheese was, how I was happy to find golden Graham’s in Sainsbury’s last night (I haven’t been able to find them!) and also that I rang our local chip shop 71 times last night to get through to place an order. I see what she means as I know pregnant women are like this with food, but also these are all 3 things I’d say normally 😂😂 (I loooove food, and have always loved cheese and cereal). I think just hearing other people talking about my pregnancy panics me a bit because I don’t want anyone else to be sad or disappointed if something goes wrong 😔 my husband also said to me this morning that he’s sorry but he didn’t want to get me a Mother’s Day card as he’s scared of jinxing it, but he had thought about it, and I could see some tears in his eyes as he said it. He also told me at the start of the week that after the scan last weekend he was now starting to feel excited and positive again as he was too scared to think about it until then. I dunno! I need positivity but also I’m very aware than I’m not in the clear yet and I feel like others aren’t thinking about it 😬😬😬

Congratulations @smarty4 My husband is a fraternal twin - so it’s likely his sister will have twins as it runs through the female line (it was one of the first things I checked when we started thinking about having children as I wanted to be prepared) being 37 there was a part of me that quite wanted to have twins so I could have 2 brfore I turned 40!

Best of luck tomorrow @Strawberry08!

I know what you mean @PumpkinEverything, I've told a couple of people at work and my in-laws, and I just feel a bit awkward whenever anyone brings it up. I enjoy talking about it with you lot and on the FB group, but in real life I'm not quite there yet.

@PumpkinEverything @imisscoffee completely feel the same. I haven’t told many people, just 2 but I really hate talking about it. Feels fake and awkward. So I’ve just asked them to stop talking about it until I get past 12 weeks and can start being excited!

@imisscoffee @Strawberry08 yeah! I’m always completely fine with anyone on here asking me things, but in real life it just makes me feel weird. It’s too much pressure 😂
One of my best friends is getting married in 8 weeks and I’m maid of honour. She thankfully knows about my pregnancy and I’m glad she does so I didn’t have to bring it up later. We’re in NI so she doesn’t have answers yet as to whether her wedding can go ahead (hopefully this week) but is just planning for it to go ahead. She had to order new dresses this week as they don’t fit the other 2 involved (thank god it’s not just me causing the issue!) so I had to measure myself and guess my size as I should be 17 weeks then. They take 3-5 weeks to arrive so I know she had to do this, but I’ve felt very pressured and stressed as I’m obviously anxious that something will happen as I’m not 12 weeks yet and I’ve had to order a dress 2 sizes to big (the dress measurements were really weird as well!). I just didn’t want to have to think about things like this until I know everything seems to be fine at 12 weeks 😔

@smarty4

Congratulations! Wow twins! What a nice surprise although a little scary I would imagine

Good luck for your scan this morning @Strawberry08! Will be thinking of you, and hope all goes well x

@PumpkinEverything Oh yeah, I get what you mean. That's sort of committing to it being ok isn't it. I'm sure it will be ok. But I get that it's scary to commit so early on. I get that fear of planning to far ahead and jinxing it. I know that's silly.

@Strawberry08 Good luck again!! I'll be thinking of you!

Hope all goes well today @Strawberry08

All good!! So so pleased. Measuring bang on 8+1 which is the same as my LMP. Everything looks great.
Just a shame the scan looks like a lizard 😂😂

@Strawberry08 Aw great news!! I'm so glad all is ok!! X

OMG ladies! I just got a message asking how long I need to sort childcare to go back to work!! I'm in a panic. I've been off for 2 years. My son is due to start Nursery in April for the first time. What if my dating scan falls on a work day and I've just started!? 😱

@Strawberry08 amazing news, so happy for you!

@Strawberry08 so happy for you. Great pic - do you think that's looking at the back of the baby lying on it's side?

@Pancakes7 if your scan falls on a working day, just tell them you have a hospital appointment? You don't need to tell them any details. Will they need proof of appointment or will they take your word for it? Don't panic!