Aug 2021 - 2nd Trimester continues

[Alittlexmasmagic]

Hi everyone, another thread begins & things are getting real now 😄 x

@Dia12 have you spoken to you midwife? This link might help - www.nhs.uk/pregnancy/related-conditions/common-symptoms/pelvic-pain/
I'm going to call mine today about my back.

@Hoares3 hope all goes well today!

@Jessicapebbles looking great!!!

@BertieBotts I honestly think if I had to count up to 20 kicks I'd be lay there for 24 hours or more 😬

@Jessicapebbles I did slimming world for a year or two and lost 2 stone but then realised I was limiting myself and binging so not a fan of it anymore. I do however like calorie counting!

@LottSE20 right there with you! 20 weeks tomorrow and nothing I can say is definitely movement. I have an anterior placenta which I know doesn't help, but still! Got my 20 week scan tomorrow and worrying he's stopped moving 🙈

Well yeah you would at this point :o later on they get much more active though.

@Daffodil21 glad to hear it’s not just me. I also have an anterior placenta but it’s quite unnerving when there’s no bump either. Where is he?! Good luck to those with scans x

Hi everyone,
apologies for the cryptic message last week but I do appreciate the concern 🥰. Last week was the first anniversary of loosing the boys, on top of this my builder decided to really stress me out. I've never experienced this before but I went on to get repeated palpitations and a tight chest, which hasn't quite disappeared.
I have a heart murmur already so brought this up with the MW at my 18 week check today and will speak to GP later. Dreading the 20 week scan in two weeks but at the same time, I'm wishing time away to get there. Not felt many movements yet but not concerned by this just now.
Refurb is coming along so hopefully the end is in sight.... no more bloody builders!
I have bought myself two bralettes from Bravissimo which whilst not the prettiest will work great under strapped summer tops and dresses. They're SML sizes so plenty of inflation & deflation tolerance 😂 www.bravissimo.com/products/impression-bralette-fa213/#beige-fa213bge
I'm also loving the references to daffodils being a treasured flower, they're mine too and they're all coming out in bloom now.
Hope you're all okay xx

with movements they say not to worry too much before 28 weeks I think. At this stage movements are likely to be unpredictable and counting kicks isn't really necessary. Once a predictable pattern emerges you'll be well aware of it and that's when if anything feels off at all you should call triage. the kicks count charity is a helpful resource that explains it all better than I can! www.kickscount.org.uk/

It's also different for every baby, there is no set routine but there will likely be a set routine for your baby. my first used to like waking me up at 3am with a dance party...

@Alittlexmasmagic so sorry to hear all you've been through. I hope you start feeling better soon. Loving your daffodil photo 

@Dia12 and I think there was someone else suffering with back/hip pain but I can't remember who - I spoke to my midwife earlier and she is going to refer me to a physiotherapist and is also going to drop me off a back support thing so def worth calling

Sending love @Alittlexmasmagic. It sounds like you’ve had a really hard time recently so I hope those around you are being supportive. Also your daffodils are gorgeous!

I wanted to say thank you to those of you who recommended the positive birthing company recently. I bought the package when it was on sale recently and have been listening to some of it today. Just listening had made me feel much calmer about the prospect of giving birth and it’s giving me lots of tips as to how it can be a more positive experience. Sorry I can’t remember who it was who recommended it, but thank you!

My little boy pushed me on the stomach earlier and had recurrent cramps on my right side since. 😔😔 don't know whether it's related or not and really worrying now. Rang the MW but had to leave a message

@Dia12 I am doing exercises and they help but only during the day. I then go to bed and my hip hurts in the night and I wake up with it really sore 😔 I actually don't think this is PGP. I have been under a women's physiotherapist since 10 weeks and she said my lower back pain could be linked to PGP, but the hip pain is different. These exercises help me during the day, I hope this link works:

documentcloud.adobe.com/link/review?uri=urn:aaid:scds:US:d5c10dae-1c6e-4117-9f84-030c37ebccc7

Definitely speak to your MW re physio referral.

@lucyrp I'd ring the Obstetrics Assessment Unit, you should under their care now? They were great when I rang a week and a half ago after my dog accidentally bounced off my bump and invited me to be checked over xx

I've had this quite a lot already, it seems it's an occupational hazard of toddlers!

When I googled it seemed like it's a very common thing and not to overly worry about it, but you can get checked out if you are worried. I think it's more likely to hurt you than hurt the baby at this stage.

Also re movements, my MW at my 16 week appt said that the pattern should be established around 24 weeks. That's why I was wondering whether to note the movements for myself because this isn't that far away! And like I said, I don't think I'm particularly observant, sadly.

@Alittlexmasmagic Lots of love ❤
FWIW on the builder front, mine gave me a heart attack today when he told us things will cost 20k more than we initially discussed. I am SO bloody upset!!! He's coming in tomorrow an we'll have some stern discussions I think. I'm not up for it at all, I just want to curl up and cry, I don't want to be dealing with this. I can't face the prospect of redoing all the plans now, I spent months designing and selecting everything and he was always in the loop and knew our budget! This is why I'm so upset. We are due to start in a fortnight, I can't even think WTF to do now 😔

And I've had an awful day at work with a stupid client too, stressed me right out, he's so unreasonable.

Scan on Friday is making me so anxious too.

I just want to curl up somewhere with a cuppa 😔 Sorry about a massive moan, I had to let it out. DH has a tendency to be in cuckoo land and believes things will always be ok, well, I don't and I'm alone worrying about all this 😔 xx

Update: GP offered me an ECG which has come up clear.

@PurplePansy05 20k is a scary amount but I know the feeling. We're currently around £50k over budget and there's still more to do. I appreciate a lot can't be helped because it's an old house and a gift that keeps on giving. Make sure his quote is clear about what it does & doesn't include. There will likely be many areas that savings can be made without affecting the overall function. Just yell if you need an outside opinion.

Regarding the movement pattern you'll unconsciously realise if you've not felt anything for a while. Lying down with an ice cold/sugary drink is a good way to check in on baby if you've not felt anything in a while.
Kicks count says "from 16-24 weeks you should feel the baby move more & more up until 32 weeks then stay roughly the same until you give birth". I'd take this to mean that everyone should feel something by 24 weeks but there's not an established pattern until 32. @wimbler posted a helpful link for kicks count which you can download to record movement patterns xx

I've just found this brilliant set of videos/presentations about breastfeeding on youtube, if anyone is interested. I tend to stick things like this on while I'm hanging up or folding the washing. I thought I was pretty clued up on BF but I have actually learned some new things! I love her calming voice and she explains things really well.

Just avoid the "Breastfeeding the Brave" video - could not remotely cope with this emotionally with my hormones at the moment (it's about poorly babies).

www.youtube.com/channel/UCjxDyrZ92jcD00KB6oOpRJQ

Xmas so glad to hear your ECG was clear :)

@PurplePansy05 I'm in between swapping birth centres so rang the other one and someone said the midwife on call would ring me back as she was driving then my phone died and a mobile number I don't know rang me so rang them back and they didn't pick up so now I don't know what to do. Baby has been moving since but still worried. X

@BertieBotts he's not very careful. My OH is continuously saying "don't jump on mummy!"

Having a hard evening as we've been told we're back in work 9-5 from Saturday onwards if the stay local rule is lifted, this means I can no longer do the school run to or from school which made me cry, I also realised I have to put the other car back on the road sooner than expected which probably means we have to cancel our holiday to the seaside as we have to pay that by the end of the month and won't be able to afford that and putting the car on the road. I just want to go to sleep now 😭

@Alittlexmasmagic glad to hear your ECG went well, and thank you for the bras tip! I might need to pick up a couple of those...

Has anyone yet had their whooping cough jab? I had mine yesterday and my arm has been really sore since and is a bit swollen and red - it doesn't seem like anything dangerous but I wanted a moan and to see if anyone else has had a similar reaction?

Hi all just thought I would update regarding my scan today. Firstly thank you all for the well wishes... scan was great and baby looking healthy although got to go back in 2 weeks because baby wasn't playing ball for all measurements!! Also found out I am having a little boy! I had convinced myself it was a girl so I'm shocked 😳 my little girl wasn't happy bless her!
Had my whooping cough vaccine and my goodness my arm is sore, bruised straight away and swollen 😬 wishing you all well that have scans coming up x

@biscuitcat yeah mine hurt for about 2-3 days afterwards. Like a stiff feeling. I think they say its the tetanus in the vaccination. The same with any vaccine I believe x

It's a lot to go through @Alittlexmasmagic, you're doing really well keeping it together - it will get better. Great that your ecg was all normal.

Your MW sounds wonderful @Daffodil21. I did discuss this with my MW a few weeks back but she just gave me info to read.
My pain is also worse in the evening @PurplePansy05 - thank you for the exercise info, I'm going to try them out. Has the physiotherapist helped you with the pain at night?
I have some pain in the right hip but quite a lot of pain in the pubic bone so makes movement in bed really awful.
I think I will have to make a bit more of a fuss about it with my MW again. I've tried a maternity belt but hasn't helped much.
I'm sorry you're having a challenging time with your builder. why are they all the same? I hope you're able to be firm and get numbers back down again.

Good morning all, hope everyone is doing well?

I have been overall pretty well, also tired in the evenings, not sleeping great with hip pain and also getting pains towards the end of the day. The most noticeable thing, though, is that I'm getting these little waves of unexplained sadness. Like, nothing is wrong, but I feel these waves of gloom. I guess it's probably normal, hormonal stuff right? I havent' felt too many mood swings til now.

Nervously looking forward to my 20 week scan tomorrow bright and early!

@WolfMother326 another thing to try if you have hip pain is to fold up a spare duvet and place under your bottom sheet to give a bit of cushioning.
Have you got a coccyx support cushion on your office chair etc? These help a lot and aren't overly expensive from Amazon. Your work should provide one but easy to get yourself.
I had SPD and also found swapping cars with my husband helped as the seat position was agony in mine. Just a little thing but made driving far more comfortable xx

@Alittlexmasmagic it sounds like you’ve really been going through it bless you! Glad your ecg was normal.

@PurplePansy05 good luck with the builder today, what an arse!

Congratulations on your scan @Hoares3 and your baby boy! Did they do the vaccination at your scan? They were offering flu jabs at 12 week one, so hoping I can do my whooping cough and not have to book in with the GP xx

@Carefree1 yes they asked me if I wanted it at my scan and I just waited a few minutes 😀 good luck with you scan