Due in December 07 - that's next month!!

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Thought I'd start a new thread

Skid, The men are like that excuse isnt good enough for me either-although I realise I posted words to that effect on your thread . I think i am sometimes just as bad though, the amount of times DH has told me about a big meeting etc and I forget to ask how it went...

Sex? What's that??

Feeling very ashamed of myself today. Shouted at dd cos she woke up at 5.15 and wouldn't go back to sleep despite me breaking my rule and giving her milk. Poor thing is poorly too so she really didn't deserve that.

Clairey- happens to us all, dont feel too bad. I had a moment like that the other week where I shouted at DS because he wouldnt go to sleep and I wanted to go to sleep myslef... was really upset afterwards and cried myself to sleep, you are not alone hun.

Skid - I was thinking about whether it was the tablets. I took my first tablet this morning about 7.00 and was sick by 8.00. also now you mention it i have had quite a few trips to the toilet aswell. Might take them tonight and tomorrow and see how I go and if i get a reaction will switch.

Clariy - what rule do you have for you DD?

My DD usually wakes up at 4am and she frequently needs milk so she can fall asleep again. I know the critics out there will say she needs to learn to fall asleep by herself etc, but just don't have the heart to deny her it when she asks for it.

MM - sounds like the tablets are the culprit - would really recommend spatone - certainly saved me last time. Think if you take two sachets a day that will be about the dose the doc prescribes - what was your hb count? Also did you take the tablet on an empty stomach? Think that might make the nausea worse

clairey - the fact that you feel so bad about shouting shows how rarely you do it and therefore what a lovely mum you are! Try not to feel bad, it is totally understandable when you are so tired and hormonal and need your sleep (plus you might as well get used to it as there'll be plenty more of that when dd is socking one to the new baby! )

Damn, just posted and disappeared.

amani - my dd still wakes in the night but not for milk - just to come into our bed. We were always happy with this but with only 4 weeks to go I now realise that having a toddler and a newborn in the same room/bed just isn't going to work (can't believe it has taken me this long to work that one out). So we are currently trying to train her not to come into our bed.

If she wakes up in the night, DH goes into her room and soothes her back to sleep and then she gets a 'big girl sticker' in the morning for having stayed there all night. She loves the idea of this but after two nights, poor DH is exhausted and there's been no improvments yet. Obviously it is early days and we are hoping she will stay put within a week with no waking.. would a strategy like this work with your DD?

Yes I agree Clairey, sex what's that? I'm sure it's a distant memory from about 8 months ago. Poor MM and all you others working when you feel shite. Glad you had a good break thelady. Buzzy, I was breech but the MW ?think? she?s turned, with the comment: ?Well, that?s either shoulders or a bum? I have no idea what it?s feels like when they engage though ? sorry that?s no help at all.

After a shocking nights sleep, damn sore back (overdid the housework on my first free day yesterday) Managed another hour in bed once DH went to work feel better now, but I?m ready to venture out into the big wide world today and I?ve decided on the cinema.

I?m getting impatient now and am ready for the little one, I defo cannot watch anymore baby/birth shows from Discovery home + health, it?s starting to put me off the whole thing!!

Ah -Ha, cut and posted from word, won't catch me out twice MN!!! (saddo emoticon)

How old is your DD skid - she is just slightly older than mine (22 mths)? Not sure if she will understand the concept of being rewarded a sticker - I'll give anything a go to see if it will work!

Yes my DD is just the same - she'll wake up, ask for milk but then will want to drink the milk in our bed and fall asleep with us. As she is DH 'little princess' he's not too bothered by it and said he is happy to carry on doing it until she stop, where as I'm just worried about when LO arrives and having to wake up for newborn and for DD.

Buzzy - from what I remember last time ...
it feels like you're balancing a bowling ball between your legs when the head is engaged. My baby is head down with her arms and legs in the air (so we are back to back and it's not very comfortable!)
My due date is 05/12. Last baby was early and the head was engaged by this point so not expecting this one too early but who knows .....

Amani DD was still having a night feed at 14 months (think she definitely needed it until 13 months as hardly ate solids til then) but she then started to refuse to eat breakfast so I decided to try and drop it. Also she was getting in the habit of waking earlier and earlier for it so whereas before she'd go through til 4ish then have milk and go back to sleep she started waking at 12 for milk, then waking again at 4 or 5 and not settling afterwards. It all went well to begin with and I was able to settle her without milk so decided she didn't actually need it but then teething and a cold upset things and she started being difficult to settle again. Because I'd already put so much time into teaching her to settle without the milk (often being up for 2-3 hours at a time)I really didn't want to get into the habit of giving her milk just to get her to sleep quickly again so made a rule for myself that I'll only give her milk straight away if it is after 6am (so morning), otherwise I'll only give it after trying (and failing) to settle her in other ways. This morning though I was so tired I just gave her the milk straight off (although as it was after 5 I don't think that was breaking the rule too badly!). TBH if she wasn't such a poor sleeper anyway I wouldn't bother with a rule but as she still wakes at least once a night I felt like I had to try to get her to learn to settle without milk and the rule is so that I don't just give in and undo all the nights I spent getting in and out of bed to her!

amani - my dd is ony 2 and a month (not sure how to write that!) but I used stickers when she potty trained at 22 months and she loved them then too. Think it is probably a bigger leap with sleep because they have to wait until morning to get the sticker so it might be more difficult to associate the two (not really sure that my dd gets it but she loves getting the stickers so no harm is done!)

I love having dd in our bed too but I just think it will be unmanageable with a newborn as well because he will wake up dd with his crying and I can just imagine it getting a bit out of hand and everyone ending up in tears!!

ambi at cutting and pasting from Word - I don't mind confessing that I have done the same on occasion! Cinema sounds lovely - what are you going to see?

LOL bet all the first timers are reading this thinking "What??? They still wake in the night?". I know I used to think that babies reached a magic age where they just started to sleep through-ha! Don't worry-some do, just not all of them!

Clairy - how did u settle her without milk?

I've tried lots of different things - cereal before bed (got her sleeping through the night then she started to refuse it), water instead of milk (she just cried), singing/tapping her to sleep when she awakes (still wants milk) - so DH thinks she will stop when she is ready.

Morning all

Have read a homebirth story on the internet this morning where a woman ate her own placenta, raw, with yoghurt, just after the baby was born.

Is it just me or is that a bit wierd?

Sorry don't intend to insult anyone if this is what they are planning to do.....

Claraq - no, that's just horrible. Am not planning to eat the placenta.

Who is going on about sex? I am feeling well up for it at the moment, but DH is scared of me. It's too strange for him.

Sex at 9 months is just kind of....cumbersome. So congrats to all those still achieving it....I keep thinking must have sex...must have sex...will probably be last time for AGES...but then collapse in a knackered heap on the bed instead.

claraq it's the raw with yoghurt bit that scares me - did she enjoy it?

OHH a bit of placenta - nice...placenta on toast, placenta and chips, placenta soup...

someone I knew burried it in the garden, but even that is a step too hippified!

I did have a look at mine though...

oh we'll all be at it when we're 10 days overdue wizzska

no clara, that is just gross. Whatever turns you on i suppose......

placenta is supposed to be quite nutrious though...

yeh, my DH turned down sex the other day! (like, never happens) He does get freaked out by his testicles getting pushed on by the bump when we have a cuddle before switching out the light!

I try everything! Usually go in, lie her back down, give her dummy, put on music-had got to the stage where that was enough until teeth disrupted it (although it had taken a few sleepless weeks). Then go in again, cuddle her, offer her water, tell her it's nighttime and lie her back down again (each time repeating what I say at bedtime-night night, sleep well, love you, see you in the morning).
Then change nappy and bring her in our bed-she usually tries to play so I then put her back in her bed after 10-15 mins and she usually goes to sleep. If I think its teeth or other illness I'll throw in a teething powder and/or medised at some point. It would be so much easier to just give her the milk but I'm scared she'll start waking earlier and earlier for it again!

Hi ladies

Ambi - enjoy the cinema! What are you going to see?

Skidaddle, you've reminded me it IS possible to have sex at this stage! My poor DH has got used to the drought but I think I need to make a bit more of an effort.

I really fee like I had a growth spurt overnight, my sides are really fat now and my pelvis ached this morning where I felt it was the weight of lying on my side.

Amani/Clairey/Skid/MM - think we all have toddlers round about the same age, my DD will be 2 at the beginning of Feb.