August 2021 - Scans and booking in!

[BertieBotts]

Continuation of August 2021 thread :)

Currently waiting for my booking in appointment that was supposed to be at 1pm I’m absolutely busting for a wee and my mask is making my nausea worse. Urghhhh. Sorry just venting! how do they always run so spectacularly behind!

@LBunz I was waiting for my 9 week scan for over an hour! You can do this, keep that bladder near full for a better view, it will all be worth it in the end 🌺

Thank you @MrsB2019x and @Alittlexmasmagic interesting to hear other perspectives. I did wonder if had been dramatised a bit but there seemed to be a consistent theme- I suppose people with bad experiences might feel more compelled to tell others? But yes ringing a buzzer to turn a light off when you can do it yourself seems a bit extreme. Tbh I feel even thinking about birth I’m getting ahead of myself, but I just can’t picture myself being able to have a vaginal birth. I never thought I’d have children so I never thought I’d need to think about it!

@Champson don’t sound mad at all! The whole point of meditating is be calm and relaxed so it wouldn’t surprise me if you could feel something- I mean you’ve got all these extra ones!!!! I’d be tempted to meditate again to see if I get the same feeling!

@LBunz oh no, hope you’re seen soon and that you can do the pee test as soon as you can! Keep your legs crossed until then 😬

Oooh @Champson that sounds so strange and wonderful, you must have felt so in tune with your body. I think every so often I feel a little something which I can't describe, just an odd feeling, but I can't imagine it's real yet! (Especially as I've only got one in there 😂)

Has anyone else been wildly emotional recently (and those of you who have done it before - does it go away? I so hope it's just a first trimester thing!!). We were watching Derry Girls in bed last night, and the end of the episode was unexpectedly poignant, I just burst into full on sobs and couldn't stop. I'd felt nauseous all day which really didn't help as I kept throwing up in my mouth a bit between crying! I feel like I'm losing myself a bit, I've always been fairly emotional but nothing like it has been, and it's quite uncomfortable feeling like my personality is changing and I'm just not in control of it

Hi everyone, can I join?
My 3rd baby due 21st August by my dates, no date for scan as yet but have booking appointment tomorrow.

I have been feeling very anxious and like it's all sort of surreal with the pandemic. Barely had chance to focus on it with home schooling and working from home.
My nausea is definitely fading now, I've only got it here and there if I'm hungry and a bad taste in my mouth at times. Hope everyone's scans and appointments go well x

@PurplePansy05 grrrr so annoying for you on a number fronts. Really hope the pictures show up and your move happens soon! Surely you can at least pay for a copy. I feel your frustration.

@MrsB2019x also feeling really yuk the last couple of days. Strong nausea and real lack of motivation at work. Horrible feeling so sick all day. Also hats off to those really suffering. It feels never ending!

@ame88 I’ve been on the countdown for the 12 weeks scan since I found out at 4 weeks! It’s taking forever! Have now booked a private scan for 10 weeks to help with the impatience. Just hope everything is ok!

@WolfMother326 wowee great scan picture, congratulations you must be over the moon that all is well. Fingers crossed for the other test results.

@lucyrp doesn’t sound nice at all, hope you get what you need to feel better soon.

Thanks @MrsB2019x and @Miniheart x feels nice to share something positive.

@biscuitcat I have been incredibly emotional! up and down, crying over the littlest thing (happy and sad) - can't speak from personal experience, but everything I've read says 2nd trimester is a bit better. Good luck x

@Jchina welcome and hope your booking appt goes well, and that you get the scan booked soon too. It's such a strange time right now and a hard time of year normally, I think everyone is feeling pretty weird. I hope spring will help a bit.

Thanks @WolfMother326! and you're right January is bad enough without a pandemic!

[quote Miniheart]@PurplePansy05 grrrr so annoying for you on a number fronts. Really hope the pictures show up and your move happens soon! Surely you can at least pay for a copy. I feel your frustration.

@MrsB2019x also feeling really yuk the last couple of days. Strong nausea and real lack of motivation at work. Horrible feeling so sick all day. Also hats off to those really suffering. It feels never ending!

@ame88 I’ve been on the countdown for the 12 weeks scan since I found out at 4 weeks! It’s taking forever! Have now booked a private scan for 10 weeks to help with the impatience. Just hope everything is ok!

@WolfMother326 wowee great scan picture, congratulations you must be over the moon that all is well. Fingers crossed for the other test results.

@lucyrp doesn’t sound nice at all, hope you get what you need to feel better soon.[/quote]
It's so long isn't it when you find out you're preggars to early!! I had a private at 8+1 and 12 weeks scan is n 18th Feb. So tempted to get another private but feel a bit silly having 2!

Thank you @miniheart 😊 I've pulled myself together, emailed the RMC, spoke to our solicitor re house and my back feels a bit better today. I still feel a bit shit but I think the main reason is that I'm freaking out about my 12 week scan next week already, I just feat it will be bad news again and after all the positive scans I don't know how I'd take that. I know the chances are very small, but I've been so unlucky already. I wish I could hibernate for a week, my post-loss anxiety has really taken over now 😔

Yes @ame88 so long! I’ve now known for 6 weeks which just boyfriend thinks has gone quickly whereas I feel the total opposite. I think if another scan helps reassure as what you want to do then it’s not silly. Only we really know how we feel!

@PurplePansy05 I can’t pretend to know how you must be feeling but I’m sending you lots of positive vibes. I try to tell myself that worrying won’t actually help or change the outcome. We just have to try and hope for the best and know that we have an amazingly supportive group here, whatever happens. For me, as none of my family or friends know yet, I find it so reassuring to be able to talk about how I am feeling with you all, even though we are total strangers!

Lurking for a while but popping on just to say @PurplePansy05 I totally get the post loss anxiety.. when is your scan??
I have my '12' week scan on Monday but I should hopefully be 13w 4days .. I had a scan at 10 weeks which all seemed good but I'm still a nervous wreck just thinking about it ..

Its a very long wait to 12 week scan. I feel very lucky to have had one at 3 weeks and 6 weeks, it was almost worth a stay in hospital on xmas eve and xmas day for the privilege.

Ive just had my booking appointment over the phone, Im officially going to stop googling as it's just gives rubbish advice and makes me worry, compared to the accuracy of advice from a trained MW.

My est due date is now 1st Sept as I under estimated how long my cycles actually are. Ive just also bought some maternity leggings from M & S!!

Thank you @Miniheart & @Smurf123 💐

Mine is on Tuesday, so the day after you, Smurf, at 12+4. I too had good scans at 6+2, 9+2 and 10+6 but I just can't shake this anxiety off now. It's like the visions of the horrible scans from across my three previous miscarriages are haunting me now.

There's nothing I can do, I'll take each day as it comes and try to breathe. Will be thinking of you on Monday 💐 xx

@PurplePansy05 that sounds so hard. Try to focus on the good recent scans if you can. I hope you have as calm as a week as possible. Sending you good thoughts x

@Jchina welcome! Really don’t know how you’re managing home schooling as well!

@LyraShaeLilly ooh please report back on the leggings!

Reading this thread makes me feel so much better, you all write what I’m thinking and it makes me feel more normal 😂

Thinking of everyone with scan anxiety, I have everything crossed for us all that we all get positive news!! Just hate feeling so out of control...!

@Thisisbananas3 yeah I have thought about ringing the MW but haven't yet. I need to speak to her regarding my scan in the next couple of days too so I'll probably say something then.

@Miniheart thank you ! My general feeling is of exhaustion which I'm sure all is of us are feeling 🤣

@Thisisbananas3 For me the first movements feel like a kind of ripple, have you ever put your hand in a fish tank and felt the fish swimming around near your fingers? A bit like that. In a more specific place to the windy bubble feelings (which probably are wind!), and often repeated in the same place a few times and then it goes away.

Yes, not too sick any more thankfully, but exhaustion is coming on strong.

My milk supply has suddenly tanked as well. So DS2 with the suction of an industrial vacuum is causing me great pain when he wants to drink all night! Must make more effort with the night weaning!

I am definitely feeling the exhaustion @BertieBotts. It has been really noticeable this week. I am working full time (from home) and I'm usually ok until about 1pm, then the tiredness sets in. By 4pm my eyes are drooping and I am in bed, either sleeping or just resting.

@lucyrp hope she can help!

@BertieBotts that’s really interesting and such a good description, thank you! Sorry to hear about the exhaustion though, must be so tiring with other kids to look after too, don’t know to manage it.

I’ve had a little panic today. I called maternity helpline to get the midwives to call me about my blood tests- apparently I’ve been transferred to a different midwife because the one I’m dealing with doesn’t have the expertise to deal with me? She asked me about first child- I have no children. Then told me I’ve tested positive for antibodies “which might be ok but might be a bad thing, I don’t know”- told me to write something in my notes but then told me she didn’t know what it meant but I would need frequent blood tests. Safe to say I’m confused and a bit concerned? Anyone tested positive for antibodies... I’m assuming she doesn’t mean covid?!!! Sorry for the word vomit!

@Thisisbananas3 antibodies aren't necessarily something to worry about. If she's referring to Anti-D then you may need a couple of injections, are you blood type -ve? They're usually in response to a previous pregnancy hence why she thought you had a child already.
I've tested positive for Anti-E but only trace amounts, they're only a problem in really high concentrations at birth.
I got a letter and pamphlet in the post to explain mine (last time) so you should hopefully receive something soon x

@Alittlexmasmagic thank you so much, really appreciate it, that’s really calmed me. She didn’t say which antibody, just I’ve tested for antibodies. I think I’m a negative blood type so will have to check. It’s just how she phrased it- not knowing what it meant, asking about my first child, saying she doesn’t have the experience made me think oh no! Hopefully the new midwife will call me and shed some light on it, in the meantime I’ll resist the urge to google E and D antibodies! Thanks so much again xx

@Thisisbananas3 This is an unhelpful language, no wonder it got you worried. But from previous experience with 4 midwives at this stage, when it comes to more detailed queries they often tend to be very factual especially if they aren't actually sure what the answer is and this may come across as if there was something to worry about whereas in reality everything is fine, they simply need to check or they'll tell you to check and with whom. I had a similar scenario now in respect of my progesterone and baby aspirin, my MW told me "oh you're on it, oh I'm not sure if you should continue or for how long, you'll need to check at your 12 week scan, the nurse will need to speak with the consultant about what to do with this". Only later she said she never dealt with anyone with my history. Otherwise the way she said it could have caused a slight worry. I don't think you have anything to worry about 💐

@PurplePansy05 thank you ❤️ I called my parents straight after and my dad so she called you to say there might be something wrong, but there might not be, but she doesn’t know- which summed it up! I think I’m a real stress head atm, I’ve been feeling really crap, im not sleeping much and the sleep I do get is littered with ridiculous dreams, I’m getting behind in work, the midwife only called because I chased, it’s all getting a bit much. Think I need to just chill this evening, if only I was allowed a gin!! Thanks for the support, I do appreciate it! X