IVF graduates due Summer 2021

[SpyroC]

A place for those of us finally moving on from the infertility boards to share feelings, questions, tmi and to generally support each other.

@ChicaXS re the elective c section and then private room. Yes, I’ve a couple of friends who have had an elective on the nhs then “upgraded” to a private room after baby was born. It needs to be with a hospital that has private care there too so you can switch over - not entirely sure how you get that booked in but a friend said to speak to a midwife about it and they can advise how. I think Queen Charlotte have this - but not sure on other London hospitals - there will be some. Definitely cheaper to do that than have the whole procedure private though a different friend commented that if you go probate all the way there’s no discussion about the elective c section, whereas in the nhs they’ll try to persuade you otherwise.
Personally I feel as though I understand all of the different options and pros/ cons and am equipped to make that decision so if we get that far, we will be looking at this and both DH and I feel strongly on it. Appreciate this isn’t everyone’s cup of tea but that’s ok too!!

@SpyroC @tikha (and anyone I’ve missed) thanks for the good luck wishes for tomorrow 🙏☺️ Really appreciate them.

@SpyroC sorry to hear you had a bad night last night and are concerned about an ectopic again - the only thing to say is that at least there’s only one more night to get through before seeing what’s going on in there - and if there is anything untoward then you know about it and can deal with it. I sincerely hope that everything is as it should be and have my fingers crossed for you!! Am wondering too with your morning sickness so vivid if that’s a sign that both are there rather than one!!! Eek!!!

Am trying to think positively about tomorrow too but have put my self preservation head on too (a bit). I just really want everything to be ok with a strong heartbeat and to be able to look to the next stage. I guess we don’t have long to wait now - and have done well to get to this point. I’m further now than I’ve ever been before so a triumph of sorts!!!

💪💪💪🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 for tomorrow’s scan and hope everyone is doing ok this eve x

Good luck @TheGlitterFairy and @SpyroC 🤞🤞🤞. Do let us know how you get on. Will be thinking of you xx

Back to work today after a long weekend. I feel okay in the mornings but have felt much more tired in the evenings than I would normally. Not sure if that's just psychological! Anyway, busy day ahead so will see how I am tonight! My only other 'symptoms' seem to be some bloating and my boobs are pretty full and nipples quite sensitive. I've also got the snotty nose, and actually a bit of bleeding from it in the mornings @TheGlitterFairy. Weird!

Hope you all have a good Monday 😊

Wrote the last message before I got up. Now realised my nipples are less sore this morning and I'm having some pink brown spotting 😩 I know it might be nothing and it might be fine, but this process is so damned stressful! I'm feeling really anxious which is so not like me. Hoping things settle down over the course of the morning 🤞

@MGee123 stay strong 💪 hopefully it’ll settle down this morning. Think the nipples/ boob soreness can come and go as hormones fluctuate. I agree - it’s very stressful. I do wonder whether I’ll be able to enjoy any of it or will just be wishing my life away til next July 😂

Hey ladies
Sorry I’ve been quiet. I had a horrible weekend with more bleeding- it was quite heavy on Saturday and now I have light brown spotting. Ended up at the EPU and they scanned me today and they see a sac and yolk sac but no fetal pole. They said I’m still early at 5+5 so some women are late and the fetal pole should be seen really over 6 weeks. So they dismissed me (they never found the source of the bleeding) and told me to go for my scan at my clinic in 10 days. I’m feeling more enabled to know this may not end well but I still have some hope. I transferred a PGS tested, chromosomal normal embryo so it’s odd to me not to see the fetal pole as it was a normal embryo (fetal poles that not show at early scan is an indication of miscarriage or the embryo stopped growing) so I’m lost. The bleeding has thrown me completely but now I just want this over with results in 10 weeks so I can move on. If this is a miscarriage I will question the clinic as to why as PGS tested embryos should have a high success rate.

@MGee123 I’m sorry about your bleeding, I hope it subsides, based on your dates that must be implantation?

@SpyroC @TheGlitterFairy I think your scans were today? I was thinking of you and I hope you are ok and saw your beautiful babies! Xx

@ChicaXS sorry to hear about the bleeding. Its really tough. At 5 week 5 days the embryo could be behind a few days and it could go either way but I guess its better to be forewarned :( Its good that the EPU saw you so quickly.

@MGee123 how are you doing? hope the spotting has settled. I am not feeling much symptoms either apart from some nausea after eating.

Just overwhelming. I forget every time how BFPs are only the first part of this process. Hugs all around ladies.

@TheGlitterFairy my nausea s definitely worse when I start to feel hungry. I also have a runny nose that isn't a cold, I thought it was because I've re-introduced some foods post bfp but if you have it too perhaps it is pregnancy related 🤷🏻‍♀️ I hope everything went well today xx

@MGee123 I am absolutely exhausted. I'm struggling to function at work. 🙈 ahh the runny nose must defo be a pg thing...who knew! Mine bleeds too. My skin has also gone really dry. My boobs have barely been sore at all, it is literally my right boob at night and some nights it's gone. I wish the boob pain would trade with the nausea! Try not to worry (impossible I know) but it seems normal for stuff to come and go.

@ChicaXS I'm sorry you've had more uncertainty and I'm glad epu have seen you. I googled this to death in my last cycle and the absence of a pole isn't game over just yet as they say. Did they repeat your hcg? The doubling would be telling. I don't t know much about pgs (never enough embryos to ever consider) does a pgs tested chromosome normal embryo 100% not have any chromosomal issues that cause miscarriage?

My scan went well, nice strong heart beat and measuring spot on 💗. Just the one @TheGlitterFairy my exhaustion had me considering 2 too. Thanks for all the good wishes 😊 c

Thank you @TheGlitterFairy 🙏 how did your scan go today?

So sorry you're still having episodes of bleeding @ChicaXS 😢 that said, it's good you were seen at the EPU. From what I've read they often don't see a fetal pole that early - all may be well in 10 days 🤞🤞🤞 it's all so disconcerting and stressful isn't it. Not knowing whether everything is okay.

Thank you @tikha 🙏 hugs to you too

@SpyroC glad all was okay on the scan 🥰 and glad I'm not the only weird snotty one with blood coming out their nose 😂

I've had a little bit of pink/brown discharge on and off through the day but pretty small amounts (mostly just on wiping really). Some cramping on and off too. It's definitely not getting any worse and the boob pain has been back! Hard to know what to make of it. Hoping it's just one of those things. The fact it doesn't seem to be progressing is reassuring me a bit. I think I might do another pregnancy test at the weekend, just for reassurance. It's all so up and down and I felt like I had just started to relax a bit after the discharge on Thursday, then this happens! Just going to try and have a quiet evening and hope for the best 😊

Thanks @ChicaXS @MGee123 @tikha and @SpyroC for your thoughts today. Pleased to report that everything went well! They’re happy with the heartbeat and measurements (7+1 today) and all looking good. We had a bit of a disappointment in that the clinic changed their rules last week on partners attending so poor DH wasn’t allowed in with me and had to wait outside in the cold. Frustrating. They printed some pictures though so that was great!

No more ass injections now and will have 2 Lubions a day. They offered 1 Lubion and 4 pessaries or an injection in the AM/ PM so I chose that. So I guess I need to sort out next steps and keep praying!

@SpyroC so pleased to hear your scan went well today too!! Great news that you’ve got a strong one there; I hope that you’re feeling ok with there being one rather than the two? I hope you were able to have your DH there for the scan?

@ChicaXS sorry that you’re having such a time of it with the bleeding - j really hope it settles for you. A good call to go to for a scan - as others have said, it sounds as though it’s maybe a bit too early to see so have my fingers crossed for you for 10 days time 🤞 try to keep thinking positively - you’re doing all you can right now and no one could ask any more of you.

@MGee123 I hope the discharge/ spotting subsides- seems positive that it’s not progressing and just on wiping. I was in a huge tizz last week when I had similar - rest up this eve and see how it is tomorrow. When is your scan? I’m sorry I’ve forgotten the date!!

@SpyroC we have similar symptoms!! I described the weird hunger/ sicky feeling to a friend earlier and she had the same with hers so although unpleasant, a good sign!! My lips are really dry now - not sure if that’s anything to do with anything or I just need some lip salve 😂

So glad things are well @TheGlitterFairy! I will be 7 weeks on the dot at our scan on 23rd (🤞).

I had a bit more pink discharge yesterday evening but only the tiniest bit this morning, so think it is settling. I emailed the consultant to ask if I should increase my progesterone, as it seems to start 1-2 hours before the next pessary is due. But who knows, might be coincidence! Boob pain definitely back this morning!

I thought yesterday I just felt queasy because I was worried about the bleeding, but I have it again today so am wondering if it is morning sickness. The only way I can describe it is like the sickness I feel when I'm nervous eg waiting for an interview? And I feel a bit shaky with it. Does this sound right? Or am I just being a really anxious Annie?! 😂😂😂 I definitely feel a bit off late afternoons too, have though that the past few days.

Gosh this is all so up and down. I have no idea how I'm going to make it through the next few weeks! And I thought I was so rational and pragmatic (someone tell me it's the hormones doing this to me)!!

Ps dry lips here too, but I thought I just needed more lip salve!!

Hi ladies, I'm tentatively joining you over here as I've had another faint positive this morning! OTD isn't until Saturday so I'm on the watch for the line to start getting darker.
@MGee123 and @TheGlitterFairy I also have very dry lips but I thought it was just the weather getting colder 😂

@SpyroC @TheGlitterFairy thank you for your comforting words! You are correct it is very early (it’s actually rare to see the fetal pole before 6 weeks) so I’m holding on to some hope. I had a late transfer as well so am technically around 5+5 today though officially 5+6. Anyway who knows. Bleeding has subsided so I’m praying this little one grows and make it! Regarding the PGS, yes so they test each embryo and ensure it’s chromosomal normal. Most miscarriages occur as nature’s way of getting rid of abnormal embryos. So unless my lining is wrong (which it isn’t) and hormone levels are wrong) which seem fine, there shouldn’t be an overwhelming reason for miscarriage. No show of the fetal pole is usually due to abnormal fertilisation or it failed to pass blastocyst stage which again is not what happened here. I’m no doctor though but have been googling incessantly!
@MGee123 please don’t worry about the spotting - it’s happened to almost all of us on this thread. 40% of women spot in IVF pregnancies. Call your clinic - though you might get fobbed off like the rest of us. Would be good to check your hormone levels to reassure you.

I’m another one with dry lips but I think it’s the weather lol.

Welcome @ivfjourney5 I’m so glad your on this thread lovely! Major congratulations 🥳

@ChicaXS hoping that next week goes ok.. and glad the bleeding has subsided
@TheGlitterFairy @SpyroC glad the scans went ok. Onto the next milestone
@ivfjourney5 welcome. I am in the same boat as you. Started testing early for an FET. My actual OTD (12th day) is tomorrow
@MGee123 hormones can play tricks and make us emotional but also it is such a momentous thing to happen to us, quiet rightly we are observing every little symptom. I feel nauseous after eating or if I am hungry but not much else. Also this all pervasive fatigue. I feel that the progesterone supplementation is what is makign me sleepy.
Have to blame the progestrone for bad skin and dry skin and eyes as well.

That's sounds like a good approach @MGee123 . I do think we will all be rather anxious until any scans post 10w. I thought I'd feel better after the scan yesterday but the relief was short lived. My MS nausea has has just been a really sickly feeling and is most prominent when I'm hungry or smell/see many foods. When it's been really bad I've had the gross extra saliva or bile (not sure) you get in your mouth before throwing up, lovely! I reckon it varies massively though. I don't get anxious tummy ache to compare (more of an anxious bladder 🙈😂)

Welcome @ivfjourney5 🙌🏻🙌🏻 lovely to see you over here ☺️ in my last cycle I did daily testing and the change in line was much more noticeable every 2 days.

@ChicaXS the PGS testing sounds very reassuring! Though I totally get why you are still worrying. Bleeding is just a disconcerting.

@tikha I'm absolutely exhausted it's clearly hard work growing another human 💪🏻 I'm not sure why we are considered the fairer sex! We are clearly very strong!😂

The progesterone definitely effects skin. My skin has been awful the whole time I've been of the pill (progesterone) and it's now much calmer, I'll take dry skin over acne! My lips are also dry 😂 but this does happen to me every winter.

So my nausea has reduced throughout the day. I've even managed a cup decaf tea! It's obviously causing me to worry despite seeing everything was perfect t yesterday 🙄🤪 why couldn't it fade yesterday! It's nice not to feel so sick but at the same time I'm like "are you ok bean?"🙈🙈 it's going to be a looong 1st trimester (well hopefully!)

Hi @ivfjourney5 good to see you over here!

@SpyroC how's your nausea? Hope you're ok - mine was the same again yesterday - sort of a low level but manageable so hoping it doesn't get worse! Finding it hard to concentrate at work though mainly as so tired!! But trying to plough through. I've a good break coming up which will be welcome 🙏

I've switched over to the 2x Lubion now - had forgotten that it's a bit hurty isn't it!!! Less of a faff than the alternative though!! 💪

Had a great conversation with my consultant yesterday who has recommended I get booked in with his colleagues at St Mary's so will do that today and let the GP know. He's also going to give me another scan on the 22nd as a little bonus as it's been so hard to get here which is fantastic! So that's 9+2 so will then have a couple of weeks to the 12 week scan. He's such a sweetheart!! We'll review the blood thinner on the 22nd and he's asked me to persevere with the Lubion til week 12 rather than week 10 and the estradiol tablets the same too. So a few more weeks of the needles!

You mentioned decaf tea - I've been on the same and allowing myself a PROPER tea in the morning after my meds as a reward 😂

Good luck with your babies everyone. The stats got to me in the end. I am no longer pregnant. Keep me in your prayers.

@MGee123 @ChicaXS hope the spotting has subsided now and settled a bit for you.

@tikha how're you doing? Thanks for that well wishes - I have a feeling it'll be a case of working towards the next milestone each time!!!

Sorry if I've missed anyone - hope everyone is ok! 😘

@EasterBunny7 oh no, I'm so sorry to hear this. Hope you're able to take time to regroup and work a way forward. Sending hugs x

I'm so sorry EasterBunny. Sending you lots of love.