IVF graduates due Summer 2021

[SpyroC]

A place for those of us finally moving on from the infertility boards to share feelings, questions, tmi and to generally support each other.

@TheGlitterFairy @ChicaXS Hi ladies I'm definitely still attached to our IVF thread as I've found the support there to be great however, I don't want to go on about pregnancy anxiety too much whilst they are still going through it so I thought I'd make a graduates thread to continue the support. I hope you are both ok, I have definitely entered a period of anxiety and my scan cannot come soon enough!

Graduates of other threads or from no thread at all are of course welcome too 🙂

@SpyroC thanks for inviting! I’ll be so pleased to join! I hope we get more recruits aswell, praying for the other ladies! 🤞

Did your clinic give you a due date? I tell my clinic tomorrow of my BFP!

@ChicaXS I have everything crossed for the other ladies too. I really do feel joy for every bfp and genuine sadness for the bfns. I guess you only understand if you've been there and so few people we know (if any) IRL have been there.

No they didn't, however if you Google "ivf due date calculator" you'll get your answer 😍. I actually only intended to find out how far along I was as I did the due date one for my ectopic pregnancy and that due date will now be a bad day (I'm trying to forget it!). However my due date came up along with my how far along answer 🙈 but hey, for now I'm excited, 27th July 🤞🏻🤞🏻. Hopefully you'll get your scan date tomorrow! 🙌🏻😃.

I had a spare clear blue weeks indicator test so I saved it for today thinking it would give me some reassurance mid way through the wait for the scan but the stupid thing was invalid! I was not happy! I was prepared for it not to move to 3+ (they are known for this) but not no result at all 😬😬. Ah well!

Hi @SpyroC great idea for the new thread - I was feeling a bit conscious also about complaining on the wait for the scan next week when others are in their tww and waiting for the ET etc! Good call! Will of course cheering them on in the meantime too!

@ChicaXS nice to be able to give the clinic some good news too! When I went in for my bloods after notifying them, they were all cheering and were very excited!! Guess it's why they're there, to make it work!! Hope you get your scan date all booked in and then can work towards that!

@SpyroC my due date according to the calculator is 25th July! Seems very surreal. And this scan next monday can't come soon enough - feeling very anxious about it having never suffered with anxiety before and just looking forward to seeing what/ if anything is going on in there!! I was wondering about doing another digital test to see if it moves to 3+ but don't know if that's more torture if it stays where it is on 2-3 weeks given all i've read about them not moving!!

One more week to go!

@TheGlitterFairy that makes sense as I remember your transfer was 2 days before mine. I know what you mean about the cb tests, my DH said it was probably for the best it was invalid. I just know seeing a 3+ would have made me feel better. I'm excited for Monday but also scared, I think it will be the highest stake probing to date!

It is nice telling the clinic the good news! A but different to my last 2 otd calls! @ChicaXS I hope you got your scan date.

This morning I woke up hungry which was followed by nausea. I've never been happy to feel sick before 😂

Hello there. I'm a 'light' poster but the ivf threads for November have been a lifeline for me. I really wanted to share my bfp but felt uncomfortable after hearing about bfns from other ladies who had similar transfer dates to me .

It seems insensitive to say that I'm worried about the miscarriage rate with pcos and whether I'll make it to the viability scan when others haven't made it to otd.

Hi @EasterBunny7 I didn't think I'd seen you post your bfp- congratulations! 🥳🥳🥳 when was your otd and how far gone are you? So far there's been no bfns on the November thread so you would make 4/4. Here's hoping more of them can join us soon too 🤞🏻🙏🏻. Do you have a scan date? I think we're all a bit nervous about the 7w scan, only natural given what we've been through.

Thanks for the welcome @SpyroC. There a few November ivf threads I'm on and I can't keep track which one had some bfn's.

Today was my otd, a part of me was just waiting for this day before saying it out loud. I had been testing early unfortunately having felt encouraged by others early positive test results.

My scan is in three weeks time, which feels like a lifetime away. Can't believe I'm growing a baby for the first time ever!

Congrats @EasterBunny7!! 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 Wonderful news! The early testing worked in this case so well done!!
Ha!! I have the same thought too - seems completely surreal there’s something going on in there. Here’s hoping the next wait til the scan goes as fast as it can do (without wishing our life away!!) 💪💪💪💪💪💪

I decided to purchase a book or two last week in the hope to educate myself on everything. Feel as though I’m (sadly) an expert on IVF matters but have literally no clue about growing a baby or what to expect now. I’d never allowed myself to think about this stage of things so feel there is a lot to learn!!

Have a trip to the clinic again this morning as need some more estradiol tablets. Annoyingly have enough til Saturday but appt / scan isn’t til Monday......I’d rather go than rely on a prescription arriving in the mail!!

@SpyroC forgot to add - good news on the nausea!! I had a couple of waves last Wednesday and Thursday but haven’t felt it again since then. Woke up starving this morning though 😂 Other symptoms - boobs are still hurting, I’m bloated and tired and have felt like bursting into tears a few times over the last few weeks which is very unlike me. Wondering if the nausea will come back or if I’ll escape it?!

@EasterBunny7 congratulations 🎉🥳🤪 I’m happy for you! You should never be afraid to announce your BFP, I find it reassuring as we know IVF stands a good chance. I know on the flipside it can be depressing as it can be viewed as a lesser chance of your indovidual success but damn these clinics and their statistics! We’re just rational and logical people so it’s hard to disintegrate and wish for hope instead. Regardless I’m so happy for you and glad you have joined the club!

@TheGlitterFairy @SpyroC I still have minor symptoms, just some cramping but I find nausea reassuring lol. Not an ounce of it yet but I’m not even 5 weeks!

My scan is on the 17th which seems like next Halloween, and I’m trying to think of things to pass the time! My clinic won’t allow my partner for the scan but I think closer to the time I might argue for him as he was not allowed but any appointments in this journey !

I feel the same to. I don't think I'll properly feel pregnant until I see something on the scan. Just 🤞🏻🙏🏻 everything goes well for us all

I know what you mean @TheGlitterFairy I've not been able to think about pregnancy or really engage with friends pregnancies. I'm pretty clueless! I am a massive researcher but I'm scared to think past Monday. I've got a couple of apps that are quite good. What book did you order?

I've not had much In the way of symptoms and I worry it could just be progesterone. This is why I was happily nauseous yesterday 😂My boobs hurt much more in the evening post lubion injection. It makes me think it's unlikely to be twins 🤔

Great news on the scan date @ChicaXS it does seem like an eternity...the 7th still seems aggges away 🙈. I arranged my booking in appointment with the midwife today for the 17th too.

Thank you everyone for the well wishes , it's lovely to hear. It feels great to know we are all going through pregnancy together!

I also thought I'd escaped the usual symptoms described (so far) but my pelvic pain has escalated on one side and I've had to reduce my movements today. I read online that you normally get this second trimester onwards, so I'm a bit confused.

I faced the same issues with prescription medication running out. I don't understand why they couldn't just supply enough to last us to viability scan.

I'm also sad that my husband will miss out on the scan.

Isn't it so true about the stats! Before I got my bfp, I started counting how many bfp's had been confirmed within the month and subconsciously concluded that my success rate had gone down.

@ChicaXS waaaaahhhhh to the 17th!!!! I'm so over the waiting for things and feeling SUPER impatient now with it. Need to have a word with myself!! Sorry your DH won't be able to attend the scan; mine have said that if it's "pregnancy" related then they allow partners in - so hopefully they will keep their word on that next week!

@SpyroC I know what you mean about not being able to think past Monday. I did wonder whether ordering a couple of books was ridiculous or would jinx it in some way and decided to plough on anyway!
They are: How to grow a baby (and push it out) by Clemmie Hooper and The Day by Day Pregnancy book by Dr Maggie Blot. They seemed to both have good reviews and I thought would be a good starting point.

Bit of a nightmare yesterday though with a panic on finding a bit of brown blood when I went to the loo - not a lot but that coupled with a few sharp twinges yesterday had me thinking it was all over. I've not had any thus far so was a bit of a surprise. Have read lots and it seems brown is old blood do shouldn't be a concern - if it's heavy or red then probably that's not great. Whatever it was seems to have stopped this morning thank god so hoping we can just get to Monday unscathed and all will be ok. I did email my consultant last night while I was in a fit of panic too (waiting his response) but imagine he'll tell me to just keep an eye and let him know if things get worse. Waaaahhhhhhh again!!!!

ps boobs are still hurting so I'm viewing this as a good sign!!!

@SpyroC well done on getting your booking appt sorted out! That's VERY exciting! Did you know already where you would go? Did you self refer or speak to the GP? I'm so clueless!! Queen Charlotte in London is next to the clinic I've been treated at so was planning to ask my consultant if he has a recommendation for someone there as he's in that team so should be able to! If we manage to actually get to next July, I think we'll be looking at an elective c section and then perhaps a private room afterwards, rather than the whole thing being private but to be decided. I feel that after all we've been through in getting to this point, I just want the baby to be delivered safely with no chaos or potential for chaos and just to have some control over the whole thing. So many people I know have tried to give birth, have been left for ages, then the baby is in distress and the end up with an emergency section anyway and it's all super stressful. Feel as though I've had my fill of stress and really don't want any more!!

So I am having a horrible day. Last night I had some pink spotting and had a red clot come out :(. I thought it’s the starts of a miscarriage so cried all night but the bleeding has stopped. Didn’t bleed at all so far today and have had no cramps. I called my clinic and am still waiting to hear from them as they were busy. I’m beside myself, I really pray it’s not a miscarriage:(

My embryo was tested and it was normal so I’m unsure what this issue is :(

@ChicaXS hold tight - hopefully your clinic will call back soon and can offer some reassurance. Surely it has to be good that it's stopped and you've no cramps now too. Perhaps it's just your uterus moving around a bit to accommodate the embryo.

I have my fingers crossed x

@ChicaXS

That sounds very traumatising but I agree that it's good that it's stopped! How far along are you, if you don't mind me asking?

I'm sorry to hear that @ChicaXS Did your clinic come back to you? I had a full period, bfp and rising hcg in my last cycle. As a result I spent an eternity reading up on bleeding in early pregnancy. It isn't always a bad thing and bleeding appears to be common particularly with IVF pregnancies (like we haven't been through enough already 🙄) I had to keep pressing my clinic to take my ectopic concerns seriously as they were clearly very used to hearing women phone up worried about bleeding. They could offer you a hcg beta blood test and if that comes back at 1500 or above they may be able to scan you (double check the 1500 part it could be 2000). My hcg never got high enough. I really hope everything is ok for you and I agree that it sounds positive that the bleeding has stoppedXx

@TheGlitterFairy I'm sorry you've had some spotting too. I think you are right about the brown blood being old so hopefully everything is fine. Thank you for the book ideas, I may as well wait until Monday now before I invest. I rang the gp last week and they said their booking system didn't go far enough ahead 🙄 but managed to sort it a week later. By me they wouldn't see me until 8weeks but my friend said that by her you couldn't even book until 8 weeks which caused her 12w scan and testing to be late! How annoying.

I still don't have much going on symptom wise. A few twinges here and there, boob pain seems to be a direct reaction to my lubion injection and I have become strongly adverse to raw veg! So essentially it could all be the progesterone and the aversion could even be in my head. I'm just hoping and praying everything is ok. I feel for you both, I literally feel relief every time I go to the toilet and there's no blood.

@TheGlitterFairy you know more than me 😂 I haven't thought much about birth. I briefly had a look at options in my naive ttc days. If Monday goes well I will look in to it before I see the midwife. I don't know London hospitals to comment. I don't think I'll be looking at any private care with the exception of perhaps another scan and possibly nipt/harmony testing. It's such a minefield and it's very hard to get in to it with the anxiety hanging over me like a threat not to jinx it!

A small but if good news DH is allowed at the scan 🙌🏻

@SpyroC I wasn't aware that bleeding was more prevalent in IVF pregnancies than others - wonder why that is?! And yes - agree that we've been through so much already that does seem to be an unnecessary addition to it all.
Thanks re the spotting - pleased to report that nothing further has appeared since tues eve and I'm also v v relieved when I go to the loo and there's nothing there. Knicker watch is most definitely a thing. The consultant still hasn't been in contact so taking that as a good thing too. I guess I could call the nurse but given everything seems to have settled, I'll try and make it to Monday when we can see whats what.
Feeling irrationally terrified that there isn't going to be anything there when they look or they'll be a problem. Need to keep thinking positively!! Whatever the weather, I only have 4 ass injections left which will be a very welcome relief!!

Frustrating for your friend who ended up with her 12 week scan being delayed - it's a shambles on occasion isn't it!
Yep - I've been getting way ahead of myself with things!! If all goes well on Monday I think I may boko another scan at the 10 week mark so there's a buffer between now and the 12 week one.

Great news that your DH is allowed to the scan too! Fantastic!!!

@ChicaXS hope you're ok and the clinic got back to you x

@TheGlitterFairy @SpyroC @EasterBunny7 thank you ladies for thinking of me!

So since the bleed thankngod I have no other bleeding or cramps. Symptoms are consistent but I called my clinic yesterday to let them know. Nurse called me back and told me not to worry if the bleeding has stopped as bleeding (just as @SpyroC mentioned) during IVF is common and an oddity that no one knows why it occurs so much. She didn’t seem at all bothered by it which panicked me and she suggested to see what my results would be on my scheduled blood test which I completed this morning for progesterone and HCG. If the levels seem abnormal they will change my prescription and potentially up my dose of progesterone. She did mention women with low progesterone tend to bleed more but carry a normal pregnancy. I’m on two pessaries and one shot of lubion a day, she suggested one pessary and 2 lubion of my results are low but it’s the doctors call.

I’m feeling much better anyway namely but I stopped bleeding, but am still super paranoid and frantic. All of a sudden my scan on the 17th seems so far away! I just want it done ASAP . In fact I want to be 39 weeks today :) the psychological burden on this was tougher then I thought!
I get my results today so finger crossed everything looks healthy and I can try and relax and believe I’m out of the woods! I’m only 5 weeks!

Hi all wondering if I can join the group. I underwent an FET last Friday and from 4dp5dt had a squinter and clear lines on 5dp5dt and 6dp5dt. Feels like it's too late to join the November bus since I already have a bfp. Feeling anxious as had a miscarriage from a July transfer, previous failed IVF cycles, cervical ectopic and chemicals. Its anxiety mixed with cynicism since have been going through the works since 2018. This is actually my second DE transfer so hoping it goes better but not feeling so excited about it given past history and haven't told DH yet. Probably I should tell him today. My OTD is next week Wednesday so anything could happen till then.
@ChicaXS I agree this whole process is mentally and physically exhausting

Welcome @tikha and congratulations 🥳 I had a PUL in August (almost certainly an ectopic they just couldn't formalise as it never showed on a scan however, my hcg was rising and my lining was gone. ) so I know how you feel! Here's hoping we get a break this time around! It's very early to have a bfp do hopefully it's a strong embie!

I'm so glad the bleeding has stayed away @ChicaXS it's good that they have tested. I don't understand why they don't check progesterone as standard! Will they test again in 2 days to check your hcg is rising as it should? I hope you've received some reassurance by now too. X

@TheGlitterFairy I wonder if it's just us ivf ladies have "problems" and that's why we are more likely to bleed-that's my logic anyway 🤷🏻‍♀️. I'm glad to hear there's been no further bleeding 🙌🏻. The gunk doesn't help with the knicker check as it sometimes feels like the start of af 😬🤦🏻‍♀️ if you're clinic is anything like mine and @ChicaXS they would t be too worried, I get the impression they hear it all the time. That's good about the ass jabs! Why do they stop? I have to continue my lubion until 10 weeks 😬

I literally cannot wait until Monday!(I'm scared too though) I have tomorrow off so it should go faster at least. I was thinking the same about the 10 week scan, I read if you see a hear beat then the risk drops almost as much as it does at 12 weeks. I'll look in to this more if Monday goes well.