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SpyroC · 29/11/2020 09:00

A place for those of us finally moving on from the infertility boards to share feelings, questions, tmi and to generally support each other.

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SpyroC · 12/03/2021 19:21

@spyroC 20 weeks 💗
@TheGlitterFairy 20 weeks ?
@ChicaXS 19 weeks
@SamoyedFan123 22 weeks 💙
@BonTon 16 weeks ?
@ivfjourney5 💗
@MGee123 18 weeks ?
@ekam 20 weeks 💚
@MF1981 9 weeks ??
@tikha
@sazzt

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SpyroC · 12/03/2021 19:27

Updated 🙂

@ChicaXS I felt so nervous before mine too. The movements did reassure me that baby was at least still going if you know what I mean. The first time I felt movement I was 100% sure but as it progressed it became clearer and then you have some digestive discomfort and think yea it's definitely different. My placenta turned out to be anterior and I've heard it's not uncommon to not feel movement until 24weeks. I asked him if it meant the movement was in my head and he said probably not just, that it can sometimes cushion it. My placenta is low lying too so perhaps that's why. Baby was ramming her head against it towards the end of my scan 😂 so I figured in that sort of position her feet would be above the placenta IYSWIM. I reckon it is movement you've been feeling-ultimately we all know what has feels like. It's just that pesky pregnancy paranoia! X

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MGee123 · 12/03/2021 19:27

Hello everyone 👋 loving hearing all these positive scan outcomes! Congrats to everyone who has had theirs! Over half way for you ladies now!

Welcome @MF1981 - so glad you're joining! I remember you from other threads. Sorry you've got the hideous all day nausea too. Mine was horrendous and I really felt on some days I just couldn't take it anymore. It does pass though and amazingly the memory does subside quite quickly! Even now I wonder if I was just being a drama queen (I really wasn't) 😂

Good idea with the list @SpyroC and yes I'm 18 weeks - well done! Scan in two weeks time and we're going to find out the sex. I'm excited! Will be totally happy with whatever the outcome but something in me thinks it's a girl 🤷‍♀️

I started feeling he/she move 2 weeks ago which felt really early. Very definite kicks and rolling now, mostly after I've eaten! Possibly TMI but have anyone else's boobs started leaking a bit?! Mine started earlier this week which seems really early although looking online it can happen. Hoping it maybe goes away for a bit before starting again when needed!

Also, can I stop taking folic acid now? I forgot to ask my midwife last week. Don't suppose anyone else has asked theirs?

Hope you're all keeping well 😃

MGee123 · 12/03/2021 19:29

@ChicaXS the week before I was certain it was the baby I had these odd feelings which I wasn't sure about and my husband kept saying he thought it was just gas 😂. Give it a week and I reckon you'll have your suspicions confirmed!

SpyroC · 12/03/2021 19:29

That should say wasn't 100% sure
And we all know what gas feels like.

See....baby brain 😂🙈

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ivfjourney5 · 12/03/2021 19:47

Sorry I didn't end up going back and looking at what's happened! But fabulous little list @SpyroC very useful!

@SpyroC congrats on the girl as well! I'm also a huge planner which is why I found out privately at 16 weeks 😂

@BonTon sorry you've been having a hard times with things but the scans sound reassuring. Hopefully the spotting stops for you soon!

@MF1981 welcome and congratulations! Twins how exciting!!

Ooh @ekam take care of yourself, how scary! Glad baby is all alright despite being a little uncooperative

@ChicaXS I'm the same with movements, I feel like things could be baby but not confident enough to know what I should be feeling, or if it's me just digesting food 🤣

@MGee123 how amazing you felt baby so early, I bet it's so special! I believe folic acid is only needed to 12 weeks, but I'm continuing with my Pregnacare as I know the iron is good for me and I suppose all the vitamins can't do any harm

I'm 17+5 based on nhs dates which I've decided I'm going by as it puts me further along:

@spyroC 20 weeks 💗
@TheGlitterFairy 20 weeks ?
@ChicaXS 19 weeks
@SamoyedFan123 22 weeks 💙
@BonTon 16 weeks ?
@ivfjourney5 17 weeks 💗
@MGee123 18 weeks ?
@ekam 20 weeks 💚
@MF1981 9 weeks ??
@tikha
@sazzt

ChicaXS · 12/03/2021 19:49

Thanks @MGee123 and @SpyroC ! It’s reassuring the movement is the baby! It does feel weird I admit, like tiny knocks. At this stage I don’t feel any rolling lol. Just like someone in side my belly quickly poking me and it’s quite low lol!

How many times a day do you feel your baby?

@MF1981 I forgot to welcome you! So good to hear from you! Congratulations 🥳

MGee123 · 12/03/2021 20:11

@ChicaXS yes that sounds similar to what I was feeling to start with. Every few days it gets more noticeable once you've started feeling it.

Thank you @ivfjourney5 - it is a nice feeling although is a bit weird 😂 I take iron, vit B complex and vit D separately at the moment. The pregnancare weirdly made my sickness so much worse and I can't face trying it again! I like your logic of going with the nhs dates 👍😂

MGee123 · 12/03/2021 20:16

Sorry @ChicaXS, didn't answer your question. I feel the baby move on/off quite regularly through the day, just short sporadic episodes. Eating definitely triggers it and I notice the movement most in the evening, but think that's partly just because I'm sat down more. Tend to be running around most of the day!

My midwife said they don't usually settle into a pattern until 24 ish weeks (I think). She said not to worry too much if the frequency/timings change a lot at this stage, so I'm just trying to enjoy it when I notice it. That said I'm definitely feeling it every day so if that changed I might give her a call.

SamoyedFan123 · 12/03/2021 22:42

Thanks for making the list @SpyroC 😊
Congrats on all the positive scans!
22+5 today with anterior placenta and finally had my first definite movements tonight 😊

BonTon · 13/03/2021 08:07

Thanks @SpyroC! I’ve had so many scans due to the spotting that we've been told baby is 85/90% a girl ... but keep me as a question mark for the mo! No movement here yet I don’t think, but the baby is always v active on the scans and my placenta is posterior so I’m hopeful I’ll feel something soon... so exciting for those of you who have 🥰

tikha · 13/03/2021 10:12

Hey I am just at 18 weeks (tomorrow)so my scan is on 31st March. My dating 12 week scan was the same as the transfer due date.. Pretty anxious about the upcoming scan. Pleased to hear about all great scan news and the fact the some of you are feeling the baby move.
Apart from having plus plus gas in the evening I haven't felt anything yet.
Welcome @MF1981. Thanks @SpyroC for making the list. Am having a girl as well

SpyroC · 13/03/2021 12:00

@ivfjourney5 see I've stuck with the ivf date on all my apps as it gives me one day longer if I don't want to be induced! 😂 I am also continuing with pregnacare as my diet still isn't great.

@ChicaXS I don't get the rolling thing either. Felt more like gentle bubbles popping at first and then more recently like, as you say, mild pokes and prods. I even felt it whilst working the day after the scan. I'm not sure how many times a day as it's been erratic, most days just a few times and there's been a few days where she's been really active and a few less active. She's probably equally as active everyday but I guess at this stage it depends how and where she's lying. As I understand it we don't need to worry about patterns until 24weeks-somebody please correct me if I'm wrong!

Yay for movement @SamoyedFan123 😊 is your placenta higher up? Mines in the low side so I'm guessing that's why I've still been able to feel movement.

@spyroC 20 weeks 💗
@TheGlitterFairy 20 weeks ?
@ChicaXS 19 weeks
@SamoyedFan123 22 weeks 💙
@BonTon 16 weeks ?
@ivfjourney5 17 weeks 💗
@MGee123 18 weeks ?
@ekam 20 weeks 💚
@MF1981 9 weeks ??
@tikha 18 weeks 💗
@sazzt*

I'll add a week on at the weekend to try and keep it roughly up to date. Nearer the time we can change to due dates! Starting to feel so much more real now 🥰 eek! X

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SamoyedFan123 · 13/03/2021 14:58

@SpyroC yes apparently they said it was fundal anterior which means right at the top and front.

sazzt · 13/03/2021 16:30

@SpyroC I'm currently 16 weeks...looking forward to the 20 week scan letter arriving, and hoping we will be able to find out then if it's a boy or girl :)

SpyroC · 13/03/2021 18:35

Ah that probably backs my theory as to why I can feel movement. I thought I was going crazy when he said anterior. 😂

@spyroC 20 weeks 💗
@TheGlitterFairy 20 weeks ?
@ChicaXS 19 weeks
@SamoyedFan123 22 weeks 💙
@BonTon 16 weeks ?
@ivfjourney5 17 weeks 💗
@MGee123 18 weeks ?
@ekam 20 weeks 💚
@MF1981 9 weeks ??
@tikha 18 weeks 💗
@sazzt** 16 weeks

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ivfjourney5 · 14/03/2021 07:46

Happy Mother's Day ladies. What a difference it is this year compared to last year when it hurt so much. And how different it will be next year when our babies are here ❤️

SpyroC · 14/03/2021 12:39

@ivfjourney5 a very different feeling this year indeed 🥰 xx

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TheGlitterFairy · 15/03/2021 12:30

Hi everyone - great to hear of so many positive scans and thanks @SpyroC for the list too - hope you're doing ok? Exciting about your baby girl!! I've updated/ added myself to it:

@spyroC 20 weeks 💗
@TheGlitterFairy 21 weeks 💚
@ChicaXS 19 weeks
@SamoyedFan123 22 weeks 💙
@BonTon 16 weeks ?
@ivfjourney5 17 weeks 💗
@MGee123 18 weeks ?
@ekam 20 weeks 💚
@MF1981 9 weeks ??
@tikha 18 weeks 💗
@sazzt*

I think you'd added a green heart where the sex was unknown/ a surprise which we decided to have!

All went well at the scan last week - such a relief that all is as it should be at this stage with the baby!

Couple of things that flagged for me (nothing is straightforward!) - i've a low lying placenta fully covering the cervix currently. Given I'm planning on a c section anyway this in itself is fine though various horror stories of low lying placentas not moving/ migrating round as the uterus grows and lots of bleeding/ hospital visits (nights in for observation in the 3rd trimester), so REALLY hoping that it sorts itself out and behaves!

Secondly - it seems I have a second or "accessory" placenta which I'd never heard of before. They didn't seem particularly concerned by it, other than to note it'll need to also be removed in the c section. I don't think it's attached to the baby - just me/ the main placenta - she thought it might have started off as a twin or a part could have broken off. trying not to stress (as ever) and at least they know about it now so can do something about it! Seems it's rare but more prevalent in over 40s with IVF.

@MF1981 welcome to the group and congratulations on the twins! Exciting news!!

TheGlitterFairy · 15/03/2021 12:32

@BonTon so pleased your work responded well to your news too! Agree - I look back and wonder why I thought they wouldn't do but great they have! Hope the bleeding has settled down a bit for you now?

Re feeling baby - I think that I did this morning/ last night for the first time! Felt like bubbles and/ or popping which is very exciting! Trying to tune myself into it a bit more now to see if I can spot it again!!

Hope everyone is doing ok and feeling well!

SpyroC · 16/03/2021 19:35

@TheGlitterFairy 💚 surprise indeed! Very exciting for you. We couldn't resist finding out 😂. My placenta is low but not covering my cervix (he said td 2-3cm away). Did they say it was likely to move? I read somewhere that 9/10 move but I'm not sure if that's still the case if it fully covers the cervix. Hopefully yours will move 🤞🏻 I've never heard of the extra placenta! Did you have 2 embryos put back? Baby is all good and that's the main thing 😊

I had a scare yesterday as I hadn't felt her move all day. I called the MAU thinking they'd just reassure me and say not to worry this early on but instead they asked me to go in within 30 mins. Everything was fine but it did scare me 😬. They said they ask you to still go in before 24w more to stop us from worrying about it. Then today we had our first student testing positive for Covid which has shaken me. I wish I could just sleep until July! 🙈😂

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ekam · 17/03/2021 12:37

I love the little list :). Did anyone receive a Happy Mother's Day message? I did from DH's grandma and auntie which was very sweet but also very SURREAL!

After the first easy 5 months, I now have suffered what feels like severe blood sugar level dropping everytime I'm out for a walk. It's so very strange because I was quite fit before and could hike up to 23 miles a day without any issue. Now i can't even go to the shop without stopping.... not sure what's happening.

Re: movements, I definitely felt rolling since w16, and since the beginning of w20 it turned into very light bubble popping. Now it's full on kicks and thumps that even hubby can feel them when he puts his hand on my belly.

Updated the list xx

@spyroC 20 weeks 💗
@TheGlitterFairy 21 weeks 💚
@ChicaXS 19 weeks
@SamoyedFan123 22 weeks 💙
@BonTon 16 weeks ?
@ivfjourney5 17 weeks 💗
@MGee123 18 weeks ?
@ekam 21 weeks 💚
@MF1981 9 weeks ??
@tikha 18 weeks 💗
@sazzt*

TheGlitterFairy · 17/03/2021 13:34

@SpyroC I usually hate surprises so am being very sanguine about this one!!!
Interesting you have a low placenta too - seems it's more prevalent in those who've had IBF/ treatment though I'm not sure why. All they've said so far is as you mention, that 9/10 move away but they'll scan again at 32 and 36 weeks to see what's what with it. Given we're planning a c section anyway, that's fine in itself, to not have a VB but I'd rather it moved as then less chance of heavy bleeding, complications and an EMCS!! Will just have to keep hoping for the best and trying to get through each day again til we reach July. Agree on wanting to go to sleep and waking up in July - it seems a long time away yet.

I'd not heard of the accessory placenta either and no, we just had one embryo put back. They said it could be that a part of it broke off (?) and didn't pass so is basically attached to the main placenta. I think it can be pretty dangerous post delivery is they DON'T know about it and there's also a risk of more blood loss with the removal of it too so we'll have that to contend with I guess but the main thing is they DO know about it and can remove it at the same time during the CS. I've an appt with the consultant and midwife in a couple of weeks so have decided to sit tight until then and save up my list of questions about it all as easier face to face - albeit with a mask - than over the phone - and there's nothing that can be done about any of it right now anyway, other than try not to stress about it!!

As you say - the main thing is that baby is ok so as long as they're ok in there despite the additional placenta (!) taking up their space, then that's ok. Everything else can be dealt with.

Sorry to hear you had a scare yesterday with not feeling her moving - that sounds very scary indeed. Totally the right thing to do to call and go in and be checked. It's what they're used to and they're here to help. Very pleased to hear that everything was ok with her! I think I felt baby again this morning with a couple of pops but not really sure if I'm making it up?! It's hard to tell - though think as I feel more, I'll feel more confident with what it is I am feeling. Looking forward to feeling more as time progresses as it's a bit of reassurance isn't it. I still can't believe there is a baby there most of the time tbh!!!

@ekam I also received a couple from a friend and cousin and DH bought me a "Baby on Board" badge (London - though not traveling on the tube at the mo!!) which was super sweet of him! Agree it was surreal though!!

Is it worth mentioning the blood sugar level drop to your midwife in case they want to do a set of bloods to check all is ok? I feel myself getting a bit breathless from time to time now which never used to happen and was a bit of a surprise! And having to walk at a slightly slower pace than normal.

It sounds as though you've a v active baby in there if you can feel kicking already!!! I might have a gentle poke of mine and see if it gets them moving a bit more!!!

@SpyroC forgot to say - argh on the covid student!!! Are you back in classes now or have you been in all the time? Have they put anything in place for you or is it a case of PPE and keeping your fingers crossed?

tikha · 17/03/2021 14:53

@SpyroC this covid thing is very stressful. If you are worried you can take sick leave. Its a shame you have to wait till 28 weeks. I got the covid vaccine. Figures second trimester is a good time to get it.
@SpyroC @TheGlitterFairy think placental have the ability to be pulled up as baby grows. Does that mean you get more scans in your third trimester?

tikha · 17/03/2021 14:54

@ekam worth checking the blood sugar to midwife