Due April 2008 - new thread for October

[lemonaid]

Old thread here.

Did you not hear it at your 1st scan?

Mine started like the bubbles a few weeks ago, and now feels like it's doing roly polys.

I didnt bf with Dd, she was 8 weeks prem and I found it really hard to express, by the time they let me try her to the boob my milk had all gone
With DS I was determined to BF and I made sure it was on ym birth plan etc, they tried to tell me to let them give him a bottle when he was first born, I had had an el cs and they said it would let me rest but I said I wanted him on me and to go straight to breast so they did, eventually.

I loved breastfeeding and will always reccommend it to anyone. It's so much easier (once youve got the hang of it) no bottles or sterilising etc, and the bond is out of this world.

I also partially co-slept. I used to put DS to bed but when he woke up in the night he came to bed with me. As I didnt smoke/drink/drugs and we used blankets rather than a quilt it was fine.

We are looking at getting a proper co-sleeper cot this time.

I didnt hear the heartbeat at my scna either, and tbh, I was watching dp and his mum (her first grandchild/his first child) to try and catch their reactions rather than thinking much about it myself. As soon as they said 'theres the heartbeat' I was fine. Then when I left I remembered I hadnt heard it. But I have the midwife on the 22nd so hopefully should hear it then.

I BF last time until 7 months, but can't say I enjoyed it. I was wondering this time whether it would be OK to BF, but give some formula for those times you need someone else to feed the baby, instead of expressing (which I hated as it was so time consuming, you started to wonder why you were bothering at all...) What do you all think> If you can BF easily, is it wrong to use a little formula?

i don't know sagitta, i have only ever bottlefed, and after thinking alot about it this year whilst ttc, am going to bottlefeed again. it has worked for me fine before, and want to stick with what i know. I am happy with this decision

If your breast feeding is established and you wish to use top up feeds (ie formula) then it shouldnt be a problem, but you ahve to leave it the first few weeks because otherwise your milk supply wont get into its routine iyswim.

Soph, I wish I could persuade you to breast feed, but this isnt the thread for it, so I wont try

Sorry, I meant scorpio not soph, too many of you have 's' names!!!!

do you mean me Lorayn? I will not be persuaded! I am very aware of the benefits and have even taught women about BF as part of my degree training, also worked in Breastfeeding clubs, etc. So i know i am making an informed educated decision that is best for me and my family. I am fully aware of the issues surrounding this, but ultimately feel its an individual decision.I think its fab people can and do BF and do it brilliantly, but not for me, thankyou!

Like I said, I wont try

it does hurt when your milk comes in though [ouch]

I remember havign to hand express in toilets in a club because mine were so full once

it must be hard at times, i have a friend who bf her two, and at times i thought she had the patience of a saint

Ha, whereas I'd say those bottle feeding are so much less lazy than me

its not too much work making bottles, sorta used to it now! plus dp usually does them . . .

I would love to BF but can´t. I did express with DS but there was hardly anything there so only got a few feeds worth. I thought I´d spontaneously combusted when the milk came in

i thought i was Jordan

oooooooh breast feeding, one of my fave subjects . I am def def hoping to again, I did with ds1. felt v bullied into it and didn't want to then he came and i LOVED it!!!! did it for 11 months and couldn't recommend it highly enough. prob won't do it for so long this time tho...

God, I'd forgotten all about the milk coming in. And that you have to express anyway to get rid of it all...
Anyway, who knows if I'll be able to do it this time.

Thats the problem with breastfeeding though paranoidmummy, too many people do end up feeling bullied into it
I wish I could make everyone try it, just for a few weeks with every child, because I know some of the peopel that wouldnt norally try would be won over.
But it isnt my choice, it's theirs so I try not to go on aout it, well, not here anyway, I'll save that for the breast v bottle threads

i have left my milk 'in there' both times before, because if i expresed then it would make more, IYSWIM? i had to sleep sitting up last time it hurt so much, it stops about a week after the birth. The worst bit about having a baby is that, IMO!

sorry to divert but... soph73, yes i feel exactly the same about scans even tho have had two that are fine. i can't wait for next one. I keep thinking i'm feeling baby to and have for a week or so but I don't know if its wishful thinking!

I wanted to breastfeed dd but couldn't, this time I would like to but I'm not going to get too hung up on it as it was a source of much stress and distress last time and really spoiled what should have been a joyous time.

For those of you who have decided to bf, what is dh/dp's opinion on it? I quite like the idea of using the bottle and dh being as involved as me during feeding times.

Lemonaid, thanks for the information on the rhesus negative issue. I am o neg., but so far nobody has told me anything about the implications or any additional things that I have to consider. Being a first pregnancy, I was not aware that it had any consequences until the birth.

Piccallilli, you're right not to get too hung up on it, I think a little bit of determination helps get over the hard first few days/weeks, but stress, is not good for you or your baby.
Good Luck

Mathair-my dp likes doing the feeding too, says it allows bonding time and he can also get up in the night too, meaning I can have some sleep too.